The Irreplaceable Man Podcast

Phillip Shepherd is a regular on the show and he's got a new book, his third, called Deep Fitness, about presence in working out. It’s not at all what we imagine it to be. However there is no room for doubt in Philip, he is one of the leaders in the global embodiment movement. One of his first two books is about radical wholeness, which puts you in a transformation that is really present. His other book is New Self, New World, about global embodiment and wholeness, like he is. So really, when Philip talks anything about fitness and improvement, we always listen.

It turns out there’s more to exercising than simply strength, endurance, and muscle growth. Studies have shown that athletes who make a conscious effort to be present during their workout report feeling more relaxed, happier, and physically fit than those who don’t.

Training to failure, the most misunderstood way to work out, while it can be really challenging, will actually make your body more resilient and will help you perform better. It's not about pushing through the pain, but rather becoming conscious of discomfort or effort during exercise. Being present will not only bring mindfulness to your workouts, but also to other areas of life too.

You don’t even need to leave the house or gym to discover everything you need to reach your goals and achieve the best body you’ve ever had. The Men in Purpose community is filled with men like Philip, who seek a deeper purpose and meaning in all aspects of their life, check out similar episodes like 173 and 209

In this episode, you will learn about

12:20 - Slow mindful workout

Book Reference:

https://deepfitness.life/

https://www.newelementtraining.com/

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The system doesn’t work. And even worse, we are seeing the symptoms of an educational system that has failed us and fractured our children and society. It’s ugly out there. When the education system is treated as an industry, profit is put above the growth of every student. This is why mentorship and community involvement has become more valuable today than it has ever been. There are paths today that put dreams and wellbeing above all else.

AJ is a passionate educator. As a student, he did everything right, qualifying for a college football scholarship by way of a stellar academic record. Graduated with a Master’s degree and took every suggested path the system gave him. You couldn’t ask for a more shining prospect than AJ but in the end, he came out of university with a large debt. It was baffling. Almost immediately AJ began tutoring to eke by but just as fast as he started, he quickly realized the deeper value his passion can offer in mentorship. Enter the EPIC foundation, his concept that the current education system isn’t the only path. That today, there are dozens of options that allow individuals to follow their dreams without being burdened by debt. The best part of it all, it no longer has to be at the expense of mental health.

It’s a game-changing concept but one that isn’t new. In fact, it’s the very concept that challenges the system today. A call to step up and change the old ways. “It takes a village to raise a child” is perhaps society’s most important and most forgotten guiding principle. The system is set up so we can’t afford to mold and transform children into the best they can be but instead turn them into how they can make the best money for a society that has forgotten them. Today, AJ (along with other men of purpose) looks to change the flawed system and reach out and pull up the less privileged and pay it all forward. Because everyone deserves a quality education, better yet, everyone deserves great mentorship because we are all great.

The enthusiasm in this episode is contagious. We are losing passionate educators every day at a time when we need them most. Fortunately, we have communities like ours that have mentors who share a similar purpose of uplifting each other through episodes like 173 and 209

In this episode, you will learn about

00:02:00 You’re not alone

00:05:29 Growing up without a father

00:07:29 Breaking resentment

00:11:39 College football and the systematic agenda

00:18:08 The dangers of isolation

00:21:56 Seeking out mentors

00:26:35 We need to build our men

00:29:32 Mentors not tutors

00:34:02 Educators that make an impact

00:36:15 The start of AJ’s mentor/tutor company

00:42:47 Over romanticized educational system

00:45:05 The greatest teachers care

00:47:44 The EPIC Foundation

00:50:03 Stepping up and being part of the solution

00:51:48 Multiple options outside of school

00:54:49 The rejected products in the assembly line

00:59:41 Reach back, pull up, pay it forward

01:01:09 The unbiased truth

Connect with AJ Donaldson on: 

Websites: https://www.epicsouthflorida.org/

Instagram: @epicsouthflorida

Facebook: EPIC SFL

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/unitedmentors/

It’s not trauma, it’s a programming experience! So the question becomes how do you reprogram yourself? Where we go wrong with personal development is that we address our traumas with the objective to eliminate them. But in reality, this doesn’t work. We are programmed by our painful childhood experiences and unless we work on re-programming ourselves, we make the same mistakes for decades, even for a lifetime.

Paul teaches us how to cope. There’s something lurking in the background of your life, destroying your self-worth, undermining your feelings of happiness, and sapping away at your fulfillment. In the vast majority of cases, the culprit is trauma. Some of the greatest revelations that occurred in people’s lives weren’t brought on by painting over the surface. In the episode, Paul says, we need to go to the dark place, our dark place, because that’s what we need to address. The crucial part is, it’s entirely up to us, we have to choose to do so.

We each have to be the programmer of ourselves and turn what we learned into who we are today. By doing this we become a byproduct of our own experiential programming. We can look at all of the traumas in our life as an opportunity for growth and change.

In this episode, you will learn about:

00:06:11 Paul’s Story

00:12:23 Suicidal tendencies

00:14:09 Breaking point

00:20:59 Context of t rauma for children

00:22:31 Perfectionist trauma story

00:23:13 Unpacking it all

00:27:46 Eliminate what doesn’t serve you

00:24:24 Generations of trauma

00:25:19 Lifestyle change

00:35:15 People who changed their lives

00:36:11 Programming experience

00:37:30 Failure of traditional personal development

00:38:37 It’s simple but not easy

00:42:25 Change is a choice

00:52:11 Ian’s turning points

01:07:57 Spider in hand example

01:08:39 It’s just a story from the past

01:12:13 The airport story

01:16:43 Different stories and trauma recap

Connect with Paul Cope on:

Websites: www.paul7cope.com/freechapters

Instagram: @paul7cope

Facebook: Paul7Cope

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#programming

#development

If we could all write our own love story. Would it have a happy ending? Probably not. Because often we only remember the pain. But, there are people out there who are fighting for a happy ending, who continue to write and now use their stories to help others. You're about to hear more from one of those folks. Ryan Hartley knows the heartache and scars that come from abandonment.

In this episode, we learn to Lead FOR LOVE and not from Love. There are no shortcuts to success, some days we have to let our story write itself out but it doesn’t have to be all about pain. Pain can give us clarity if we listen to our hearts but not everyone has to go through it. Find out why Ryan believes this.

We must fill our cups first in order to share from a place of abundance. As long as we are taught to LEAD with LOVE, there really is no such thing as failure.

We write our own life stories. As men on purpose, we do not shy away from Love, we embrace them. Join and learn with us how to lead with Love from these other episodes 173 and 209

In this episode, you will learn about

02:12 - Ryan’s pain of abandonment

Book Reference (Books mentioned):

Connect with Ryan Hartley on:

Websites: ryanhartley.co.uk

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Email: [email protected]

#leadwithlove

Life is seasonal, so is our mind. Just when you are in the best mood, life changes can take place. The state of our mind also goes through transitions. These can bring about some drastic changes to our behavior, cravings, and urges. That when unaddressed, can have detrimental effects on our overall mental health. Luckily, we have the resonant doctor himself, Dr. AB to teach us how to navigate these changes. So the next time seasons come, be it business, mentally, or emotionally, we can weather any transition. 

Life is inherently cyclical. Some people are very good at acknowledging this fact, others are not, the former is likely to enjoy greater success in life. But beyond factual patterns of life which recur in predictable ways, our minds are also cyclical in nature.

Ever wonder how to easily prevent these climate changes in your mind? Well luckily, in this particular mental climate, we have you covered! More specifically, Dr. AB covers all the modern essentials of maintaining a healthy mind. He starts with a baseline of three life essentials, founded in neurochemistry and factual observations that influence our lives. We all have direct control over this. He goes on to supplement this with nootropics, sexual energy, and rebalancing all of this to shape a more fulfilling life with focus and discipline.

More importantly, this all starts with self-awareness. The ability to know that something is off, be it sleep, nutrition, or even sex. The next step becomes about determining what needs changes.

Seasons come and go but self-work is perpetual. The good news is you have all the tools and help you could possibly need, join other men on purpose, and check out these other Episodes 194 and 201

In this episode, you will learn about

08:52 - The second to look at: nutrition

Book Reference (Books mentioned):

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#neurochemistry

We haven’t had a guest like Gregory. A beauty and wellness expert and known for authoring numerous books and hosting TV shows. He took his experience and expertise in bio-health and wellness and took that into the realm of self-love and self-care. This is one of the most powerful episodes you can listen to, Gregory guides us with his calm voice into a world that anything can be overcome with self-love.

In this episode, you will learn about

45:01 You are deserving and the messages we receive as children

Connect with Gregory Landsman on: 

Website: gregorylandsman.com 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gregorylandsman/

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#healing #self-love #beauty

This episode is all about suffering. What is our relationship with suffering? Society’s most common way to deal with suffering is a distraction, but this is merely a way to delay the inevitable: that there are dark days ahead. Denying this only renders us unprepared. This is why so many succumb to suffering that becomes anguish and results in untimely deaths that we have all witnessed so many times. Akshay helps us navigate through this and find meaning in suffering.

It’s almost like saying he holds our hands through suffering, but really we take this journey on our own. Our suffering is ours to overcome but even more than that, how much we suffer is entirely up to us. There is incredible courage to involuntarily put yourself in danger and even more to take that and condition yourself to embrace suffering. Because no suffering is too much to bear, no. Fortunately, we can condition ourselves to overcome all this death, suffering, and disease.

Every suffering has meaning but understandably, it is so hard to grasp that especially when we are in the thick of it. And Akshay has been in the thick of it all, from his PTSD to a near suicide and taking that suffering to now preparing for the first solo expedition in Antarctica. But even that preparation requires suffering. Akshay teaches us how to get to that point of developing a healthy relationship with your suffering and ultimately yourself.

Build a new better life with us. Join other men on purpose that move past their fear and create the life they desire. Check out these other episodes and find meaning in suffering, Everything Happens for a Reason and Make Fear Your Tailwind Instead of a Headwind.

In this episode, you will learn about

09:49 - Moving around a lot as a kid

10:48 - Adaptable and impressionable

12:58 - Voluntarily placing yourself in heavy danger

22:05 - Failure means death. Build yourself up to that point and beyond

27:16 - Embracing the fear of death, it transforms how you experience death

28:13 - Death is the means to awaken true life.

28:56 - Suicide - How to transverse from that place to a place of light

32:22 - Step 1: Recognize and start training the disassociation and disidentify myself from the thoughts, feelings and experiences.

37:19 - You are going to have to suffer

37:27 - Develop a positive relationship with suffering

44:35 - The greatest growth comes from suffering

51:36 - The brain, the mind, and its wiring

55:07 - The power of language

01:00:26 - The lenses we see the world through - beliefs, patterns, etc

01:01:27 - “I’m the dreamer in this reality” — You aren’t engaging with reality, it’s your construct

01:09:37 - Building an amazing relationship with yourself.

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#suffering

#failure

#growth

Leonard Perlmutter has one of the deepest guest bio and achievements we have ever had. He is an Ayurvedic Medicine Expert with 25 years of experience in the benefits of meditation and Yoga science practices. A diverse practice that ranges from the New England Institute of Ayurvedic Medicine in Boston to a direct disciple of Swami Rama of the Himalayas. His work has contributed to major cornerstones of the mind/body global movement and research. He founded the American Meditation Institute in 1996, which offers continuing education credits for medical practitioners around North America. In 2014, Leonard released a core curriculum on Heart & Science of Yoga with a goal to understand and make more common deep mindful practices.

In this episode, you will learn about

00:05:41 - What exactly is conscience?

00:06:40 - The Power of Thought

00:07:28 - The ego, the conscious & unconscious mind

00:09:07 - The Game Changer

00:10:23 - When the situation is ideal, the conscience acts as a mirror

00:13:43 - Why don’t people follow their conscience

00:14:22 - 4 functions of the mind: Ego, Senses, Unconscious mind, Conscience

00:16:34 - Fear takes 2 forms

00:17:00 - Ego defined

00:19:55 - How does conscience know or get its wisdom?

00:20:52 - What is God?

00:21:38 - Heaven or Hell

00:24:39 - Eliminating conflict in the mind

00:25:43 - Functions of the mind

00:30:37 - Listen to the whispers, not the noise

00:32:34 - Being your own parent and talking to the 4 functions

00:38:27 - Reconditioning the mind hardware and software

00:43:01 - Mantras: Love, fearlessness, and strength

00:44:50 - David vs Goliath

00:51:46 - Why do more people not do this for themselves

00:53:05 - If you desire to be free from the pain

00:55:11 - The Language Experiment: Using creative synonyms to be me

00:59:48 - When we change our perception we change our experience

01:01:29 - Karma

01:07:52 - How does one find their mantra?

Book Reference (Books mentioned):

Your Conscience https://americanmeditation.org/your-conscience/

Connect with Leonard Perlmutter on:

Websites:  https://americanmeditation.org/

Free Sunday Meditation: https://americanmeditation.org/event/sunday-meditation/2021-11-07/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AmericanMeditationInstitute/

Email: [email protected]

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#conscience #meditation #deepwork

This episode is all about breaking the cycle of parental childhood trauma. Many parents suffer catastrophic losses, traumas or even abuse at a very young age and subsequently go on to raise their own kids the same way, often with dire consequences. Mark speaks from personal experience and we can all relate to some degree, that even when we’ve forgiven the abuse, it is difficult to escape the cycle and it takes most men an entire lifetime to truly figure it all out.

This is a very strong attempt at making sense of emotional damage. Damage that caused many men to battle it out with their identity. Struggling with our masculine identity as a result of childhood trauma is something we all experience in some form. How we deal with it, and how it manifests into adulthood is something we are ultimately responsible for. But there is a lack of education on the topic. Ian and Mark go through it all, from the internal tools, to vulnerability, gender roles, and allowing yourself to feel.

The only thing more terrifying than living with emotional childhood wounds is allowing those experiences to negatively impact your future relationships. It’s time to talk about childhood trauma and how the impacts are not being addressed. Mark talks about how men should be more vulnerable, the ultimate message is for us to understand ourselves and be honest. When we make choices to be honest, we take control of our lives. The more self-aware we become, the stronger our decisions and actions can be. Only then can we begin to move forward.

In this episode, you will learn about

00:07:14 - Emotionally Damaged Parents

00:07:51 - Turning to work and alcohol

00:09:23 - How I developed my identity

00:10:23 - Seeking Approval

00:14:06 - Primary Caregivers’ Failure

00:14:26 - Your value doesn't come from exterior things

00:21:14 - When I stopped living for others & started living for me

00:21:43 - It takes a supportive partner

00:23:22 - Forgiveness

00:25:18 - EMDR Trauma Therapy

00:27:31 - Breaking the cycle and letting go

00:29:38 - Swapping traditional gender roles

00:33:26 - Cultural Excuses and breaking the cycle

00:36:20 - Be at peace when you become aware

00:38:07 - Mob mentality

00:39:50 - Toxic Masculinity

00:43:15 - Comparing your insides to others outsides

00:48:32 - Revealing your most authentic self

00:50:28 - Vulnerability

00:55:45 - Freeing yourself from distraction

01:05:50 - Communication challenges - 1:02:25

Connect with Justin Long on:

Websites: 

www.jboydlong.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JBoydLong/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jboydlong/

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#trauma

#masculinity

#authenticity

Men need each other. And it’s perhaps more important now than ever before. Today we have the tools and resources to feel and understand deeper. Tools that our forefathers did not have that have caused trauma and pain to be passed down. Angus joins us in this episode, as we seek purpose in incredible pain and changing for the better.

In this episode, you will learn about

09:14 - Men need each other

12:28 - Men get messed up in divorce

18:35 - Getting married for the wrong reasons

20:35 - My identity was my performance

23:46 - Resetting identity, trauma, and your authentic self

30:00 - Giving ourselves permission to recognize our own greatness

32:34 - New truths about myself

36:59 - Cheating is a result of something not being present

46:05 - The suicide thought process and resetting life

50:56 - The damages of Hustle Culture

1:01:12 - Self-love Action Steps!

1:05:38 - Morning Manifest, Affirmations and Principals

Connect with Angus Nelson on:

Website: https://angusnelson.com/

Email: [email protected]

Instagram: @angusnelson

Connect with Ian Lobas & the Men on Purpose podcast:

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#selflove

#change