The Jar Podcast | Marriage Counseling, Healthy Communication, Conflict Resolution, Rebuild Trust

Oh man, it’s Thanksgiving next week– and just the thought of multiple get-togethers, feasts, cooking for large groups, seeing extended family, the hustle and bustle, the extra busy season, expectations on showing up or getting gifts, can really cause anxiety to be at an all-time high. And that means you’re primed and ready for the smallest thing to trigger big feelings and arguments.

Are you traveling this year? Or hosting at your home? Do you have a good relationship with your inlaws or is it strained? Already rolling your eyes at how conversations will go and dreading the anxiety and moment of frustration?

Today we’re going to talk bout 2 ways to improve your communication with your husband over the holidays and lessen the tension between you so you can navigate high-stress or busy seasons well!

Loads of Love, Lydia

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Raise your hand if you’re sittin' in your car right now in your driveway, not wanting to go back inside because you know another fight with your husband is inevitably going to happen the second you walk in.

Maybe you’re at work and the way you left your husband and your home this morning was NOT pretty and you regret fighting with him before leaving the house.

Or girl, you’re standing at your kitchen sink with your earbuds in while he’s playing with the kids and everything looks normal on the outside but inside you’re screaming about how defeated you feel from all the arguments.

Well, hold on, before you go inside or before you take your earbuds out or turn the volume down, listen, Linda, I KNOW you’re tired of fighting! Worn out from the disagreements, the ugly words, the accusations being flung, and the bitterness creeping in.

What if I told you there was a way to stop fighting against your husband, but against the right thing? What if you knew what to fight FOR instead?

Come on, go grab your coffee and sit with me.

Loads of Love,

Lydia

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“That's just who I am!” or “I’m willing to work on that.”  Which one leads to growth and which one keeps you stuck? The answer is obvious. But why do we care? 

When my marriage crumbled, and we were causing a lot of pain then began to reconcile, we worried about our boys. Did we scar them forever? Will they have tendencies and habits that stem from this time? Are there traits and things in our boys that will cause them to say in the future “that’s just how I am” not realizing that it's rooted from in their childhood? 

Are YOU stuck in a generational sin pattern? Do YOU claim “That’s just how I am?” when you can’t seem to function any other way? 

Listen in today for my #1 tip to breaking the cycle of sin in your family and find healing to make a generational impact. 

Loads of Love, Lydia 

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I know you’ve been there before. Exhaustion. Pure exhaustion. A sudden awareness of how empty you are. The clutter in your home, conflict in your marriage, and chaos in motherhood come out as angry overstimulation, overwhelming emotions, and then… just… fumes. The fiery panic turns to apathy, going about the motions, glazed-over looks, almost numb, and you wonder how much longer this can on until you just can’t. One more disagreement might be the end.

But in our exhaustion, we push through. We keep picking things up. We keep wiping toddler butts. We keep correcting, redirecting, explaining, cautioning, staying on high alert, knowing where every remote is in the house, answering countless questions, cooking dinner, doing all.the.things. 

WHY?

Listen in today for the #1 reason you're running on fumes and how you can begin to F.U.E.L your soul!

Loads of Love,

Lydia

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Are you flying under the radar?

Is your sin going undetected?

Does it come out only inside the four walls of your home, but others outside see a smiling face and someone well put together?

Do you scream and rage OR keep information to yourself and hide, and feel like it’s eating you alive?

What if the way to uncover your sin, expose your darkest struggles, and actually start healing, finding wholeness, and LIVING is actually found in something we all were told growing up is something to run from? Something to fight?  Temptation. (dun dun dun)

Uncomfortable yet? Who just started squirming in their seats? 🙋‍♀️GOOD. 

Lean in cuz guess what: Today we’re gonna flip the script on temptation and learn to USE it.

Loads of Love,

Lydia

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Tears fill your eyes, a fire is burning in your chest, and you’re reeling with confusion and you don’t know how to respond. Your husband’s just confessed a sin struggle or you’ve just discovered hurtful things he’s done. You’re instantly thrown into this very physical reaction, a surreal feeling, where senses are heightened, feelings are BIG, and your every sense of security and peace and normalcy are uprooted.

What do you do? How do you walk through this? It’s new territory (or maybe it’s not, and this time is the last straw!). The more important question is: how do we respond biblically? In a way that is actually productive, keeps our sanity intact, and keeps us anchored in this confusing, painful storm?

Today I have a super simple, 3-step action plan to help you process the pain and determine a biblically-based response so that you can begin to heal.

Loads of Love,

Lydia

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It’s like an elephant suddenly sat on your chest.

Instant physical and emotional reactions begin brewing and brimming as your mind starts spinning with the news your husband is confessing, the sin you’ve just found out about: his infidelity, porn addiction, gambling habit, lustful thoughts, dishonesty, etc.

Fight or flight mode begins instinctively to kick in, and you either want to punch and scream or grab your keys and drive far far away.

How do we process such hurtful information, such destructive choices from our most loved person? Does our reaction have to be impulsive and explosive? Or is there another way?

There is, friend, and we’re going to talk about 3 steps to take so you can respond instead of reacting to this pain.

Loads of Love,

Lydia

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Does your marriage feel dull, lifeless, and empty? Are you feeling neglected, forgotten, left behind, and unimportant? Maybe you want to change that, to reignite a spark, and to bring some LIFE back into your dying marriage by reviving your OWN heart toward your husband. You're sick of feeling so hardened toward him, angry, and bitter. But you just don’t see how it’s possible. You feel so numb and hopeless that it’s easier to just leave things as they are.

Maybe you’re sitting there and things in your heart are looking pretty dried up. Kinda like the single plant I received as a gift... it’s crispy dead. Like you even get close to it and a dry, crispy leaf just falls right off. No coming back. Maybe that’s where you are.

Let’s talk today, Friend. About the one thing that starts to move you in the direction of revival, of signs of life in your heart again toward your husband.

Loads of Love,

Lydia

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Why do we wives lean into control or feel the need to fix? What is that actually about?? 

Did you know the root cause is often..... shame?

So what do we do with that? How are we supposed to unravel the curse of shame in our marriages? Can we really find wholeness?

Tune in to Part 2 of my conversation with guest Jules Morlet today and hear how she and her husband worked through shame and how you can, too.

Loads of Love,

Lydia

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Has your marriage turned out nothing like you expected? You’ve faced some pretty tough and dark moments and feel pretty hopeless about it.

Maybe you’ve walked through some difficult things like infidelity, deception, porn addiction, or worse and you’re wondering if it’s too late to recover. You just want to know that it’s possible!

My guest today, Jules Morlet, helps us understand the curse of shame, its effect on us, and the war the enemy rages on our marriages, since the beginning of time… and the healing hope and path to recovery we can find in letting go of control. It's time to unravel the curse of shame in your marriage and find wholeness.

Grab your coffee and come join us for our conversation, here we go!

Get in touch with Jules Morlet & learn more about Wed into War.

Loads of Love,

Lydia

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