The Jerry Banfield Show

We do not exist separately without relationships which is why asking questions like "What would make me happy?" and "What would I like to do today?" consistently bring unhappiness. Instead, if we ask "What would I do today that will benefit others the most?" or "How may I best serve the world today?" or "What would I love to do today that would be most helpful for all other human beings?" Asking better questions gives us better answers which then make being happy a consistently daily habit instead of a fleeting moment of pleasure that we always must chance. Most of the times of my life filled with depression, fear, anxiety, hate, sadness, and frustration included me relentlessly asking "How can I feel better?" and "Why do I feel like this?" and "What would make me happy today?" and "When will I have a better life?" and "Who can I get to make me happy today and give me what I want?" and "Where can I go to feel good?" and so many more selfish questions like this. These questions often produced answers such as getting a new girlfriend, going out to the bar, playing video games all day, and other behaviors which kept me stuck feeling the same way I had originally tried to escape. Today I ask better questions not because I am wise or enlightened but because my life depends on it. When I wake up today, I think about what the rest of the world needs me to do today starting with what do my wife, daughter, family, friends, YouTube subscribers, Facebook followers, and fellow human beings on Earth need me to do today? This often guides me here into another day of Happier People podcast where I share the thoughts, habits, and behaviors that give me the ability to enjoy my life here with you today instead of feeling like I am in a prison and simply waiting for my sentence to be up so I can leave this place and return home. Thank you for reading about day 121 of Happier People podcast here with me, Jerry Banfield! My exercise today is to keep asking questions aimed at being of maximum service to you and each other person today while working to notice if I ask a selfish question today and witnessing what answers I receive immediately afterwards. I appreciate you joining me in this journey of life and hope you have a wonderful day today!

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What has given me the ability to stop asking "how are you" when I see people and start simply looking at them to see how they are? How does hearing this help with being more insightful and loving when approaching people? Where can you look to see how someone is doing and truly help them when they need it? Why is asking how are you really more about getting attention and showing you care than actually hearing the story of how the person answering really is? Who really cares about the actual details of the story itself that we tell when asked how are you? When did I start seeing that asking how is it going is pointless because if a person really wants me to know, they will tell me without asking! Would you join me in considering these questions today on our quest to become happier people during day 120 of the vlog and podcast? Thank you for reading this! My exercise is to notice so completely how people are around me and love them so unconditionally that asking how they are becomes irrelevant!

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Will trying a 16 hour fast daily give me health benefits like detoxification, weight loss, improved brain functionality, promoting longevity, speeding up metabolism, managing hunger, focusing eating patterns, immunity boost, relief for skin conditions like acne, and even support with self-enlightenment? After reading the health section of Tools of Titans by Tim Ferriss, I noticed consistently recommendations and testing with avoiding eating for a period of time which is called fasting. Religions such as Judaism, Christianity, and Islam all emphasize fasting in different ways along with Bahá'í Faith, Buddhism, Hinduism, and several others! Tim Ferriss also mentions a great consistency among the hundreds of people he interviewed was a tendency to avoid eating in the morning which my grandfather also did. Today I am giving this a try despite a lot of skepticism from my stomach with planning to begin eating at 11:30 am instead of 8 am after having had my last food at around 7:30 pm the night before. The purpose of testing this is to see how my body reacts and to continue to learn to be uncomfortable with discomfort. My exercise today is to follow through with this fasting test which I never would have done without being accountable here to you! Thank you for reading about day 119 of Happier People podcast here with me and I hope you have a wonderful day!

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Is each of us really an employee of all of our fellow human beings on this planet? Hear me explore a new way to think about working with freedom from defining everything in money earned and financial terms during day 118 of Happier People podcast!

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Hear what I loved about reading A Dog's Purpose: A Novel for Humans at

http://amzn.to/2my3gpa! The most amazing part of the book was hearing how the author W. Bruce Cameron explains the experience of creating this book by first narrating it to this girlfriend to help her feel better during a car ride in California. She recorded his entire telling of the book directly after the first time he told it and he says in the afterward that the book we are reading is infinitesimally different! I am grateful my sister gave this to me as a gift for Christmas and I took time to read it to help me learn how to better be a dog owner today of two rescue labradors. My exercise for today is to practice what I learned about unconditional love in this book. Thank you for reading and learning about day 117 of Happier People podcast! Would like to buy the book and give me a few cents as a tip for telling you about it using my link at http://amzn.to/2my3gpa which shows the book on Amazon?

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At least 10 people have told me over the last year or two that I should try stand up comedy. Would you share your opinion with me to help me decide if it is worth doing? I have had the feeling that I should also now for months and last night I just received a complete system for delivering it using Amazon to host the videos which would be explicit and then putting edited videos on YouTube and Facebook. Today I have learned that the best way to be happy is to walk the fine line between trying new ideas that have proven valuable and asking for feedback prior to taking action! After an overwhelming desire last night and this morning to get started, I remembered what I learned in Siddhartha which Tim Ferriss reminded me of in the beginning of his newest book Tools of Titans. First, be willing to think things through. Second, wait for the right time to act. Third, be willing to fast by facing the minor discomfort today that comes from planning the best long term solution without demanding life provide the food first. I ask for your help today in giving me the courage to create what I hope in stand up comedy might be helpful for people in laughing with me, being vulnerable, and reducing the burden of shame in keeping secrets we swear we will never tell! My exercise for today is to embrace the discomfort of the uncertainty in not knowing what to do next and practice asking for help from you today. If you comment on the video on YouTube, this is one of the best ways to help me see what you have to say! Thank you for reading about day 116 of Happier People podcast and I hope you enjoy it!

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Listen to day 115 of Happier People podcast to hear my latest idea for working more effectively with partners by collaborating on new videos using my mastermind group hosted on Facebook available as a reward on Patreon!

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How would we all feel if being employed was not so challenging? Would you like me to make a class on how I have employment I love today and how you can achieve the same thing? Thank you for being my employer today by hiring me to make this for you. Even though you did not do it by posting a job and interviewing me, you are effectively giving me a job to make this for you where I get to do work I love everyday that is useful for you in your life. What would the world look like if it was this simple for all of us? I am hoping to make a class where I explain how you can also do work you love and never “work a day in your life again” at a job you use just to make money. Would you tell me what I should include and talk about in this class? It will be published first for Skillshare premium members at https://www.skillshare.com/r/jerrybanfield.

Thank you for reading this and I hope you enjoy day 114 of Happier People podcast! My exercise for today is to start working on my new class you are hiring me to make and to teach you everything I know about escaping the cycle of job hunting, being employed, and then quitting or getting laid off back into unemployment.

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How fast will you notice the difference in what is new with day 113 of Happier People podcast compared with the last 112 days? I hope the change is a huge positive one and yet I realize you might not even notice it! Life is so relative that often what seems like a big deal to me is not something worth noticing to you! Would you give me some feedback on the change? If you are still reading, I will go ahead and spoil it for you! This morning I just changed microphones and added a preamp and also an audio interface. Before I was using the iRig HD microphone with no preamp or audio interface because it was a USB mic. This new dynamic microphone is supposed to be amazing and I hope what you hear reflects that! After a few hours of me setting this up, how do you think it sounds? If you would like to see exactly what I ordered, here are the links to Amazon including the microphone, pre-amp, USB audio interface, and cables.

Electro Voice RE-20 Cardioid Microphone http://amzn.to/2m4fXGh

dbx 286s Microphone Preamp Processor with 1 Year Free Extended Warranty. http://amzn.to/2m44Uwy

Focusrite Scarlett 2i2 (2nd Gen) USB Audio Interface with Pro Tools | First http://amzn.to/2m4THxl

Microphone Cable, VANDESAIL® 3 Pin XLR connectors Male to Female Mic and Audio cable with Low Noise Gold Plated (0.9m-3ft) http://amzn.to/2lEzlYq

UGREEN Gold Plated Premium 6.35mm Mono Jack 1/4" TS Cable Unbalanced Guitar Patch Cords/Instrument Cable Male to Male with Zinc Alloy Housing and Nylon braid (6ft) http://amzn.to/2m4drzs

When you click these and make an immediate purchase, Amazon gives me anywhere from 2% to 10% as their way of saying thank you to me for directing you to their website without making any change for a cost and allowing you to effectively give a tip in exchange for sharing what I have learned with you! In placing my order, my friend provided me with his affiliate links and I hope he gets a good commission on the around $800 in audio equipment! My exercise for day 113 of Happier People podcast is to notice areas where I am avoiding the discomfort that comes with making an upgrade like this and to be grateful that so many times in the past I have faced it which gives me the life I have today. In just describing the exercise, I realize my next task is to finish off my taxes. How exciting! Thank you for reading this and I hope you enjoy the podcast today!

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What is a pain body attack and how does understanding it help me today? Eckhart Tolle describes the pain body in The Power Of Now as the collection of all past pain and human suffering. For most people, the pain body is dormant or not active most of the time. When certain triggering events happen, the pain body then activates which could be called a pain body attack. When the pain body is active, it seeks to feed by encouraging other pain bodies to join it and creating even more pain. In relationships, especially with a partner, this tends to be where insane arguments happen. At work or school this can be seen as acting out, a need for attention, a desire to control, and efforts to dominate others. In the human body, the pain often is expressed with physical pain including aches, sickness, and chronic diseases. Consciously experiencing the pain body attack allows it to pass quickly with minimal damage and to then occur less often. Hear how I today work through a pain body attack where I experience the pain of my reaction, cry through it, and then am quickly restored to sanity instead of having to go through all of the other ways it can happen! Thank you for reading about day 112 of Happier People podcast and I hope you enjoy it! My exercise for today is to watch for any new attack that begins!

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