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Ever wondered how a person's life could pivot on a single moment or 2?
That's what happened to Darius Wallace, a one-time gang-involved teen whose life took a dramatic turn toward the footlights thanks to a teacher's timely intervention. My guest this week is the extraordinary Darius himself, whose powerful one-man shows breathe life into historical giants like Frederick Douglass and Malcolm X.
He doesn't just portray these icons; he embodies their spirit, sharing a journey that reminds us of the transformative power of storytelling!

This heart-to-heart isn't just a walk through Darius's personal narrative; it's a treasure trove of wisdom for anyone with a dream of the stage or film. He opens up about the grit required to weather the storm of industry rejections, the proactive pursuit of opportunities, and the incredible serendipity that can strike in places as mundane as a Starbucks.
Darius gives us a peek into his toolkit for mental and emotional balance, with practices ranging from Tai Chi to absorbing inspiring media.
For those mapping out their own creative path or seeking a spark of motivation, this episode is a compelling blend of life lessons, professional insights, and the kandid truth of one artist's journey.
Keep your eye open for 2 upcoming  films that feature Darius as lead or Director: Queens Rising-October 2024 and Damaged Goods- 2024.

Connect with Darius:
https://dariuswallace.com/
https://www.instagram.com/dariusactor
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100063985202882
https://www.youtube.com/@Darius3579
https://vimeo.com/user37286051
https://www.imdb.com/name/nm2341308
[email protected]
901-262-0126

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Have you ever thought the timeless tradition of card games could reveal profound cultural stories?  
Well, today's episode was nothing short of a treat as I sit down with the insightful and engaging Lamont Jones, a boxing business attorney and the Author of  the critically acclaimed book, "The Gist of Bid Whist: The Culturally-Rich Card Game from Black America."

Lamont's passion for Bid Whist shone through as he recounted his own introduction to the game during law school, a time when he was blissfully unaware of its rich cultural roots and strategic complexity. We laughed about the game's reputation as an "old folks game," but as Lamont peeled back the layers, it became clear that Bid Whist is a game that transcends age and time, offering a blend of strategy, social interaction, and cultural heritage.

Throughout our conversation, we delved into the nuances of Bid Whist, comparing and contrasting it with the more commonly known game of Spades. Lamont expertly explained the "knockout factor" of Bid Whist, where, much like in boxing, any hand could dramatically turn the tables and secure a win, regardless of the score. This element of unpredictability and excitement is just one of the many reasons Lamont champions Bid Whist as a superior card game.

The historical significance of the Pullman Porters was a focal point of our discussion, as Lamont detailed how these respected figures in the African-American community helped spread Bid Whist across the nation. The game became a cultural connector, a source of joy, and a competitive pastime that resonated deeply within black communities, from coast to coast.

Lamont's mission with "The Gist of Bidwist" is to breathe new life into the game, ensuring it doesn't disappear with the passing generations. He envisions a future where Bid Whist is not only a nod to the past but also a vibrant part of our present, with plotlines in movies, television, and perhaps even the next great American novel.

We even got into some celebrity gossip, discussing notable Bid Whist players like Magic Johnson, Thurgood Marshall and Michael Jordan, and Lamont shared his ongoing investigation into whether former President Barack Obama is a secret Bid Whist aficionado.

Before we wrapped up, Lamont emphasized the importance of his book for both seasoned players and those who feel they lack the "card-playing gene." He's determined to make Bid Whist accessible and enjoyable for everyone, using his book as a comprehensive guide to learning and loving the game.

To all my listeners, if you're intrigued by the strategic and social depths of Bid Whist, or if you're simply a card game enthusiast looking for your next challenge, this episode is a must-listen.

For more information on Bid Whist, to grab a copy of Lamont's book, or just to connect with the man himself, head over to Amazon or visit www.gistofbidwist.com. You can also reach out to Lamont on Twitter @Lamontsixnolow.

Stay tuned for more kandid conversations here on The Kandid Shop, where we keep it real, raw, and utterly kandid. 
Until next time, keep playing those cards, no matter what hand you're dealt!

Connect with Lamont:
https://gistofbidwhist.com/
https://twitter.com/LamontSixNoLow

Get the Book:
https://www.amazon.com/Gist-Bid-Whist-Culturally-Rich-America/dp/B0CN319X34

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Embark on a historical odyssey with our beacon of knowledge on Los Angeles suburbia's evolution, Becky Nicolaides, Historian and Author of, "The New Suburbia." Discover a past where fair housing laws and the crumbling of racial covenants ushered in a vibrant era of multiculturalism across once-segregated neighborhoods. Through Becky's narrative in "The New Suburbia," we cast a lens on the suburban landscapes that now mirror the national mosaic, challenging the stereotypes of homogenous white enclaves and heralding an era where diversity is the very fabric of community life.

Journey with us to San Marino, where the narrative of a sundown town is rewritten by the arrival of a diverse populace, spearheading a cultural renaissance in the suburban heartlands. Schools and churches transform from battlegrounds to bridges, fostering inclusivity and community spirit. Becky's 'Suburb Toolkit' emerges as a powerful instrument for change, advocating for dinners, discussions, and the kind of neighborly connection that sows empathy and understanding.

The suburbs have become a microcosm of America's shifting demographics, and as Becky challenges outdated perceptions, we recognize their burgeoning role in shaping the nation's destiny. From the classroom to the ballot box, the "new" suburban vote embodies a diverse, complex electorate set to influence this presidential election season. To connect with the world of Becky Nicolaides and delve further into "The New Suburbia," tune in and join the dialogue on reshaping our neighborhoods into inclusive spaces for all.

Connect With Becky:
https://www.beckynicolaides.com/
https://twitter.com/BeckyNic7
https://www.facebook.com/becky.nicolaides
https://www.linkedin.com/in/becky-nicolaides-975a9461/
Get The Book:
https://www.amazon.com/New-Suburbia-Diversity-Suburban-Angeles/dp/0197578306
https://global.oup.com/academic/product/the-new-suburbia-9780197578308?cc=us&lang=en&

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Uncover the transformative power of worms and laughter in my enlightening conversation with Cathy Nesbitt, the visionary behind Cathy's Crawley's Composters, Sprouters, and Laughter Club. As we navigate the fertile grounds of sustainability, Cathy shares her expertise on the revolution beneath our feet—vermicomposting—and the sprouts that add vigor to our meals and our planet. Her laughter yoga journey intertwines with tales of red wigglers, offering a blend of wisdom and joy that promises to inspire your lifestyle and tickle your funny bone.

The world of sprouting unfolds in a symphony of health benefits and Cathy's guidance on how to turn tiny seeds into nutritional powerhouses is nothing short of revelatory. We delve into the stark realities of North American agriculture, examining the urgent need for soil revival and a return to nature's rhythms. Kathy's passion for sprouting is infectious; it's not just about the enzymes, but a deeper connection to the earth that nourishes both body and spirit.

Finally, we wrap up with laughter—its uplifting force a universal remedy in challenging times as Kathy shares her initiatives with laughter yoga among the Down syndrome community. The crescendo of our chat leads to a playful series of 10 Kandid Questions, revealing quirks and global concerns, all while reinforcing the message of sprouting as a gateway to wellness. Remember, to join Kathy's cause and continue the conversation, head to https://www.cathysclub.com, https://www.cathyscomposters.com or
https://www.cathyssprouters.com —where green living and hearty laughter are always in season.
Contact Cathy:
https://twitter.com/Squirm
https://www.youtube.com/user/rhgn2112
https://www.linkedin.com/in/cathynesbitt/

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On this episode, I embark on a healing journey with Kim Carpenter, a mindset coach with an intuitive legacy. This episode is a powerful exploration of the transformation from the depths of narcissistic abuse to the heights of self-empowerment. Kim opens up about her triumph over toxic relationships, gifting listeners with the tools to recognize and recover from the manipulation of a narcissist. Her profound insights into self-worth reclamation and the strategies she shares are not merely lifelines for the trapped but guiding lights for anyone on the path to healing.

The enchanting tale behind Bimberland Soulworks unfolds as Kim weaves her three-generational intuitive thread into a tapestry of emotional energy and chakra work.
We spotlight the life-altering practice of shadow work, as Kim emphasizes the necessity of confronting one's hidden fears to break free from harmful life patterns. Through her captivating anecdotes, Kim demonstrates how embracing abundance and prosperity mindsets can cultivate successful relationships and a fulfilling life.

In my closing moments with Kim, we reflect on the individual journey each person embarks on toward spirituality and self-development. We acknowledge the unique paths that lead seekers to their divine connection, beyond the constraints of traditional religious doctrines. As Kim and I exchange gratitude and good wishes, we extend an invitation to our listeners: to continue on their own paths of personal growth, armed with the wisdom and strategies shared by our inspirational guest.

Contact Kim:
https://www.bimberlynnsoulworks.com
https://www.instagram.com/iamintuitive_kim
https://www.facebook.com/kim.carpenter.946
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https://www.linkedin.com/in/iamintuitivekim

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Have you ever found yourself helplessly watching a loved one struggle with addiction or mental health issues? You're not alone, and this episode is a gentle yet potent reminder of the hope and support available. Join me as I sit down with Dr. Brian Licuanan, a Psychologist who has dedicated his life to navigating the choppy waters of mental health and addiction treatment. We peel back the layers of his professional journey, discussing his upcoming book, "How To Get Your Resisting Loved One Into Treatment: A Step-By-Step Plan for Mental Health and/or Addiction Crisis",  that promises to be a beacon for families in turmoil, and redefining what it means to provide 'tough love' without abandoning those we care for.

As we wrestle with the stigma that clings to mental health like a stubborn shadow, Dr. Brian and I dissect the invisible barriers of guilt, fear, and shame that often hinder the road to recovery. Our conversation highlights the transformation in perceptions within the United States and underscores the necessity of maintaining connections with those battling against their own minds and dependencies. Dr. Brian's approach to empowering families is enlightening, offering actionable insights on how to be the rock someone can lean on without losing yourself in the process.

To cap off our talk, we turn our focus to the collective healing that occurs in fellowship, breaking down the myths that fuel the stigma around mental health and substance abuse. We share personal anecdotes, hoping to inspire openness and understanding. Just before we wrap up, I present a lighter side of Dr. Brian through a series of kandid questions, giving you an intimate glimpse into the man behind the mission. And as always, we leave you equipped with resources and the encouragement to reach out, affirming that in the shared experience of humanity, we find our greatest strength.

Contact Dr. Brian:
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https://www.tiktok.com/@drlicuanan

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When the stakes are high and tensions run higher, it's the voice of calm that can make all the difference.  I sat down with Sean DeMarco Garcia, Founder of Astrochemistry Consulting LLC & Author of an upcoming e-book, "It's Not About You: Lessons, Memories and Techniques in Crisis Communication," and we get real about the art of de-escalation and crisis intervention. Sean's winding path from police officer to pioneer in conflict resolution mirrors the complexity of the high-stress encounters he defuses. His stories are a potent mix of the personal and the professional, offering strategies for front-line workers of all kinds and anyone looking to navigate crises with grace and efficiency.

Sean and I peel back the layers of law enforcement life to reveal the essential role of cultural understanding and the non-negotiable necessity of self-care. We talked about the life-changing power therapy can wield, even for those who stand as pillars of strength in our communities. Sean's insights into personal well-being underscore the importance of not just training the mind for crisis scenarios but nurturing the heart to withstand the aftershocks.

Leadership isn't an easy mantle to wear, especially when managing the fine line between guidance and authority. In our heartfelt conversation, Sean illuminates the leadership philosophy that inspires growth and the transformative impact of acknowledgment in the workplace. His upcoming book teases a treasure trove of narratives and coping mechanisms for when words aren't enough. We wrap up with a volley of rapid-fire questions, each one offering a window into the life lessons that shape this advocate for peace and protector of the peacekeepers.
Join us for a conversation that's not just about the message—it's about making a positive mark on the world, one de-escalated crisis at a time and be sure to check back for the date of the e-book release!!
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Contact Sean:
https://www.actc11.com
https://twitter.com/ActcColorado
https://www.instagram.com/actc11_consulting/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwpltDf9sQAcyb_ei0oU6zg
https://www.tiktok.com/@astrochemistry.co

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Discover the intricacies of sustainability with John Pabon, a trailblazer in the field and Author of “Sustainability for the Rest of Us: Your No-Bullshit, Five-Point Plan for Saving the Planet” and “The Great Greenwashing: How Brands, Governments, and Influencers are Lying to You," as we unravel how to make tangible impacts on the planet. Our conversation is not only an exploration of environmental protection but an inclusive discussion about human welfare and corporate governance. John's transition from public affairs to a sustainability consultant brings a unique perspective, emphasizing the importance of corporate accountability and practical, achievable steps toward a sustainable future.

Barriers to sustainability can seem insurmountable, but they don't have to be. We tackle issues like cost, awareness, and convenience, and how they affect our ability to adopt sustainable practices. This episode emphasizes the role of intersectionality within environmentalism and introduces the concept of 'pragmatic altruism,' a strategic yet realistic approach to making a positive impact. We also look ahead, encouraging you to carve your own path in sustainability, tailored to your circumstances and resources.

Our chat wraps up with a critical examination of greenwashing. We shed light on the deceptions some companies employ to appear environmentally friendly and discuss the potential overhaul of the automotive industry's business model in response to the electric vehicle revolution.
For those eager to continue the conversation, learn how to connect with John on TikTok and other platforms, and find resources mentioned in the episode in our show notes. Join us at www.thekandidshop.com/s4e94 for a journey into making a lasting difference.

Connect with John:
https://www.johnpabon.com
https://www.instagram.com/johnapabon
https://www.linkedin.com/in/johnpabon
https://www.tiktok.com/@johnapabon
https://www.amazon.com/stores/John-Pabon/author/B08F2M994X?ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_1&qid=17053

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Embark on a profound journey with Dr. Robert Eschmann, Educator, Filmmaker and Author of the critically acclaimed "When the Hood Comes Off: Racism and Resistance in the Digital Age."
Our conversation pierces through the veil of digital anonymity, revealing the entanglement of technology and racism. Dr. Eschmann's personal encounters with racism, both in the virtual world and within the halls of academia, serve as a beacon for understanding the modern struggle against racial injustice. Our dialogue traverses the terrain of online discourse, examining how the veil of anonymity amplifies racial tensions and the role of education reform in this battle.

Join us as we navigate the tumultuous currents of social media where voices from the margins echo louder than ever, challenging the silence of mainstream discussions on racism.
Dr. Eschmann illuminates the double-edged nature of these platforms, which, while elevating activism, also harbor racist ideologies. We delve into the psychological toll on people of color and affirm the unyielding necessity for resistance. We peel back the layers of Dr. Eschmanns' academic research, shifting from case studies to a comprehensive analysis that uncovers the digital resilience of students of color against racial adversity.

Lastly, experience the seamless blend of Dr. Eschmanns' passion for storytelling with his commitment to anti-racist action as he introduces us to "Choose Your Own Resistance," a virtual reality film that immerses viewers in the thick of racial microaggressions.
Hear how his personal life, infused with sports, movies, and family, fortifies his resolve in this ongoing crusade for equity.
Tune in wherever you get your podcasts or @  https://www.thekandidshop.com/s4e93

Connect with Dr. Rob:
https://www.robeschmann.com/
https://twitter.com/robeschmann
https://www.instagram.com/rob.eschmann/
https://www.amazon.com/When-Hood-Comes-Off-Resistance/dp/0520379748

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Ever wrestled with the shadows of your past, especially when it comes to love?
Licensed Mental Health Counselor and expert Certified Life, Love Trauma Recovery & Mindset Coach, Riana Milne sits down with me to dissect the origins of our adult relationship woes, tracing them back to the traumas of our childhoods. Together, we navigate the often overlooked but crucial top ten childhood traumas, and how to break free from their grip to find true happiness in love. Riana's own transformation from broadcaster to Licensed Mental Health Counselor and her dedicated mission to helping those affected by domestic violence and addiction set the stage for a deeply insightful conversation.

As we wade through the murky waters of trauma's lasting effects, you'll learn how these early experiences can ripple through our physical and emotional health, ultimately shaping our choices in partners and the patterns in our relationships.
From the red flags of rushed proposals to the cornerstone principles of an emotionally healthy relationship, we cover all bases. We equip you with the tools for healing past traumas and provide a blueprint for cultivating a relationship that is as joyful as it is conscious and aware.

The journey does not end with personal transformation; it's about rewriting the future. Riana shared the eight D's—desire, determination, dedication, and more—that have propelled her success, hoping to inspire the same resilience in you.
If Riana's story and methodologies resonate with you, be sure to tap into her expansive resources including her podcast, "Lessons in Life and Love," as we strive to keep the conversation real, safe, and healthy at the Kandid Shop.
Join us for this deep dive into the heart of what makes us tick in love and life, and how to mend it for a brighter, love-filled tomorrow.

Connect with Riana Milne:
https://LessonsinLifeandLove.com
https://twitter.com/rianamilne
https://www.instagram.com/coachrianamilne
https://www.facebook.com/CoachRianaMilne
https://www.linkedin.com/in/RianaMilne/
https://www.pinterest.com/rianamilne/
https://www.tiktok.com/@RianaMilne
http://bit.ly/RianasLOVEbook

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