Most of us have a picture in our head of what we want our lives to be, and we judge our reality (good or bad) according to that picture. We want the universe—or someone or something—to fix what we consider “bad,” not realizing it’s our perception that makes it so. When life doesn’t match our picture, we feel crappy and unfulfilled, so we implore the universe to give us what we want. That’s the law of attraction, right? Perhaps you want to be married, but get angry when none of your online matches check your boxes. Being so fixated on how you think that person will look or where they will show up may result in you looking right past them.

If you want the law of attraction to work, stop asking for what you need exactly how you need it, and try surrendering. Toss out the picture you’ve used to compare and judge yourself. It doesn’t serve you. Instead of blaming the universe for not delivering what you ask for, trust that it will bring you what you need. It may not come the way you expect, but you’ll end up with more of what you TRULY want. Go all in and start by surrendering to love. Ditch the checklist and you’ll find that your life and your happiness are readily available to you. Just trust and let go…