The Missing Peace Presents : The Thought Trap

In today episode, I want to talk about what was probably my biggest coping mechanism for many years: reassurance. But while reassurance happened to be mine, this episode isn't really about reassurance. It's about coping mechanisms in general. The things we reach for when we don't feel okay. The things that seem to help, at least for a while. The things that promise relief, comfort, certainty, or distraction. Because whether it's reassurance, Googling, scrolling, keeping busy, planning, checking, avoiding, eating, drinking, or endlessly trying to work something out, most of us have something we turn to when life feels uncomfortable. And understanding what was really happening beneath my coping mechanism changed everything for me and those that I work with.

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"The Thought Trap — a space for quieting the busy brain, turning down the noisy chatter, and stepping more fully into life"

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As a Certified Change Coach trained by Dr. Amy Johnson, PhD, and a member of the Association of Coaching, I approach wellbeing from a holistic perspective. Coaching can be incredibly powerful and life-changing, but it is not a substitute for counselling, therapy, or medical treatment. I am not a licensed medical professional, and the information shared in this podcast is based on my coaching training, lived experience, and work in my private practice, The Missing Peace. Nothing shared is intended as advice or a replacement for professional care. Please take what resonates, leave the rest, and always seek support from a licensed medical or mental health professional for any psychological or physical health concerns

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What if the thing we're searching for isn't more structure, but something we've known all along? In this solo episode, I explore the difference between routine and rhythm, and what happens when we start paying attention to own rhythms :)

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"The Thought Trap — a space for quieting the busy brain, turning down the noisy chatter, and stepping more fully into life"

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As a Certified Change Coach trained by Dr. Amy Johnson, PhD, and a member of the Association of Coaching, I approach wellbeing from a holistic perspective. Coaching can be incredibly powerful and life-changing, but it is not a substitute for counselling, therapy, or medical treatment. I am not a licensed medical professional, and the information shared in this podcast is based on my coaching training, lived experience, and work in my private practice, The Missing Peace. Nothing shared is intended as advice or a replacement for professional care. Please take what resonates, leave the rest, and always seek support from a licensed medical or mental health professional for any psychological or physical health concerns

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It's the monthly segment "Trap Talk".......where I get to speak to your questions.

"I’ve realised I spend so much of my life worrying about what other people think of me. I replay conversations, second guess myself afterwards, and sometimes stop myself doing things because I’m so caught up in how I might come across. I honestly think it’s holding me back".

In this episode, we explore the stories the mind creates about how we’re seen by others, the separate little “bubbles” we all live in as humans, and why so much of the feeling of being judged is actually being created through our own internal experience in the moment.

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"The Thought Trap — a space for quieting the busy brain, turning down the noisy chatter, and stepping more fully into life"

Disclaimer:

As a Certified Change Coach trained by Dr. Amy Johnson, PhD, and a member of the Association of Coaching, I approach wellbeing from a holistic perspective. Coaching can be incredibly powerful and life-changing, but it is not a substitute for counselling, therapy, or medical treatment. I am not a licensed medical professional, and the information shared in this podcast is based on my coaching training, lived experience, and work in my private practice, The Missing Peace. Nothing shared is intended as advice or a replacement for professional care. Please take what resonates, leave the rest, and always seek support from a licensed medical or mental health professional for any psychological or physical health concerns

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As a society we are always on, always available. Phones pinging. Messages arriving. Attention constantly being pulled somewhere else.

In this episode of The Thought Trap, I explore the exhaustion that can come from never really switching off and the pace so many of us have quietly become used to living at. A conversation about busyness, constant availability, comparison, running on fumes, and what happens when we finally allow ourselves to pause. Because maybe we don’t need to keep filling every gap.

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"The Thought Trap — a space for quieting the busy brain, turning down the noisy chatter, and stepping more fully into life"

Disclaimer:

As a Certified Change Coach trained by Dr. Amy Johnson, PhD, and a member of the Association of Coaching, I approach wellbeing from a holistic perspective. Coaching can be incredibly powerful and life-changing, but it is not a substitute for counselling, therapy, or medical treatment. I am not a licensed medical professional, and the information shared in this podcast is based on my coaching training, lived experience, and work in my private practice, The Missing Peace. Nothing shared is intended as advice or a replacement for professional care. Please take what resonates, leave the rest, and always seek support from a licensed medical or mental health professional for any psychological or physical health concerns

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This week on The Thought Trap, we explore how quickly the mind makes life personal. Why can two people experience the exact same moment so differently? Why do neutral situations suddenly feel loaded? And what happens when we begin to notice the stories the mind automatically creates about “me”? A warm, funny, reflective episode about the personalising mind, survival wiring, and seeing life with a little more ease.

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"The Thought Trap — a space for quieting the busy brain, turning down the noisy chatter, and stepping more fully into life"

Disclaimer:

As a Certified Change Coach trained by Dr. Amy Johnson, PhD, and a member of the Association of Coaching, I approach wellbeing from a holistic perspective. Coaching can be incredibly powerful and life-changing, but it is not a substitute for counselling, therapy, or medical treatment. I am not a licensed medical professional, and the information shared in this podcast is based on my coaching training, lived experience, and work in my private practice, The Missing Peace. Nothing shared is intended as advice or a replacement for professional care. Please take what resonates, leave the rest, and always seek support from a licensed medical or mental health professional for any psychological or physical health concerns

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This week on The Thought Trap, I’m joined by a special guest, Vicki Montague, a wellbeing and possibility coach. We explore parenting, societal pressures, and all the ways we can get pulled into thinking we need to figure everything out… or get it right. But underneath all of that, there’s something much simpler. A quiet knowing that’s always there, even when the mind gets loud. This conversation isn’t about answers or strategies, it’s a gentle pointing back to what "you already know".

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"The Thought Trap — a space for quieting the busy brain, turning down the noisy chatter, and stepping more fully into life"

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As a Certified Change Coach trained by Dr. Amy Johnson, PhD, and a member of the Association of Coaching, I approach wellbeing from a holistic perspective. Coaching can be incredibly powerful and life-changing, but it is not a substitute for counselling, therapy, or medical treatment. I am not a licensed medical professional, and the information shared in this podcast is based on my coaching training, lived experience, and work in my private practice, The Missing Peace. Nothing shared is intended as advice or a replacement for professional care. Please take what resonates, leave the rest, and always seek support from a licensed medical or mental health professional for any psychological or physical health concerns

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This months trap talk speaks to a very relatable question

Becca, I will often feel really clear about doing something… like it’s a yes… and then I end up talking myself out of it. I usually take that as a sign that I shouldn’t do it, but then I just feel stuck. How do I know what to listen to?

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"The Thought Trap — a space for quieting the busy brain, turning down the noisy chatter, and stepping more fully into life"

Disclaimer:

As a Certified Change Coach trained by Dr. Amy Johnson, PhD, and a member of the Association of Coaching, I approach wellbeing from a holistic perspective. Coaching can be incredibly powerful and life-changing, but it is not a substitute for counselling, therapy, or medical treatment. I am not a licensed medical professional, and the information shared in this podcast is based on my coaching training, lived experience, and work in my private practice, The Missing Peace. Nothing shared is intended as advice or a replacement for professional care. Please take what resonates, leave the rest, and always seek support from a licensed medical or mental health professional for any psychological or physical health concerns

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What if the feeling that something is missing… is just something we’ve learned? In this episode, I share a moment from my own journey of trying to fix myself, and how that led me to see something very different. Through children, emotions, and the way we’re conditioned to relate to our experience, we explore what happens when we stop trying to fix… and start to see

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"The Thought Trap — a space for quieting the busy brain, turning down the noisy chatter, and stepping more fully into life"

Disclaimer:

As a Certified Change Coach trained by Dr. Amy Johnson, PhD, and a member of the Association of Coaching, I approach wellbeing from a holistic perspective. Coaching can be incredibly powerful and life-changing, but it is not a substitute for counselling, therapy, or medical treatment. I am not a licensed medical professional, and the information shared in this podcast is based on my coaching training, lived experience, and work in my private practice, The Missing Peace. Nothing shared is intended as advice or a replacement for professional care. Please take what resonates, leave the rest, and always seek support from a licensed medical or mental health professional for any psychological or physical health concerns

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Do you remember when sleep was just… sleep? I do. And then somewhere along the way it became something to be tracking, analysed and talked about.

In this episode I get honest about my own experience of the sleep spiral and what I started to notice on the other side of it. What I share isn't a sleep hack or a bedtime routine. It's something quieter — and when you see it, it changes far more than just your nights.

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"The Thought Trap — a space for quieting the busy brain, turning down the noisy chatter, and stepping more fully into life"

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As a Certified Change Coach trained by Dr. Amy Johnson, PhD, and a member of the Association of Coaching, I approach wellbeing from a holistic perspective. Coaching can be incredibly powerful and life-changing, but it is not a substitute for counselling, therapy, or medical treatment. I am not a licensed medical professional, and the information shared in this podcast is based on my coaching training, lived experience, and work in my private practice, The Missing Peace. Nothing shared is intended as advice or a replacement for professional care. Please take what resonates, leave the rest, and always seek support from a licensed medical or mental health professional for any psychological or physical health concerns

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One year into the podcast, and I’ve been reflecting on consistency…and the idea that we should always finish what we start. For a long time, I believed I wasn’t a finisher — and that meant something about me. But what I see now is something much simpler… and much more freeing. This episode is an invitation to look at what’s really going on when we start, stop, change direction… and what we make that mean about who we are.

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"The Thought Trap — a space for quieting the busy brain, turning down the noisy chatter, and stepping more fully into life"

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As a Certified Change Coach trained by Dr. Amy Johnson, PhD, and a member of the Association of Coaching, I approach wellbeing from a holistic perspective. Coaching can be incredibly powerful and life-changing, but it is not a substitute for counselling, therapy, or medical treatment. I am not a licensed medical professional, and the information shared in this podcast is based on my coaching training, lived experience, and work in my private practice, The Missing Peace. Nothing shared is intended as advice or a replacement for professional care. Please take what resonates, leave the rest, and always seek support from a licensed medical or mental health professional for any psychological or physical health concerns

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