The Mom Psychologist Show

Here's your easy to follow 3-step plan for when your kids get aggressive! // Don’t forget to check out my free anger eBook - "Your 3-Step Plan When Your Child Gets Angry or Aggressive” www.themompsychologist.com/ebook

When our kids get aggressive, it's sooo tempting to respond reactively and:
- Yelling & getting aggressive back.
- Asking questions ("Why are you doing this??")
- Trying to reason with them when they're in an emotional state (e.g., "Well you know we don't have dessert before dinner.")
- Lecturing them or telling them to "Stop!" - Ignoring them and pretending it's not happening.

But I'm here to be your voice of reason and help you with this!

Don’t forget to check out my free anger eBook - "Your 3-Step Plan When Your Child Gets Angry or Aggressive” www.themompsychologist.com/ebook

I don’t know about y’all but as a mom of 3, I have a no tolerance policy for demanding behavior.

If we don't lovingly intervene *in the moment,* children learn quick that making demands is how they get their needs.

In this week's episode, I share my easy 3-step process to curbing demanding and impatient behaviors so our children can learn how to respectfully ask for what they need.

Don’t forget to check out my free anger eBook - "Your 3-Step Plan When Your Child Gets Angry or Aggressive” www.themompsychologist.com/ebook // It's super common for kids to see problematic behaviors at school and want to try them out at home.

Whether they're aware of it or not, they're trying to process what they observed and learn more about the behavior by testing out how we will respond to it.

When done correctly, these conversations have the ability to:
Increase our child's social awareness
Foster connection and trust between parent-child
Help them re-think their self-concept and position themselves as "leaders" rather than "followers

In this week's episode, I share how I address negative behaviors picked up from school using my clear 4-step process.

"Rude" is a subjective term, but any time you interpret your child's language as "unfriendly", "rude", or "unkind," here's what to say to help them learn better communication.

I don't know about y'all, but I'm a positive parent with a no tolerance attitude around disrespectful language & behavior. 

It's my cue to step in and teach because I know the more I allow this behavior, the more it spreads. 

Yes, let's get your needs met, but let's do this respectfully. 

In this episode, I share my 5-step process to curbing "rude" behavior so that we can intentionally raise self-aware kids who know how to communicate their wants and needs to others in respectful ways.

Don’t forget to check out my free anger eBook - "Your 3-Step Plan When Your Child Gets Angry or Aggressive” www.themompsychologist.com/ebook

Teaching kids how to manage their anger comes down to helping them shift their mindset so they can change their choices. 

Rather than anger being viewed as a “bad” feeling, let’s come to see it as a messenger here to help us. Then we can channel the anger towards effective communication, expression, and self-care. 

In this episode, I share 3 crucial skills you must teach your kids when it comes to anger & tips to help you get started.

Don’t forget to check out my free anger eBook - "Your 3-Step Plan When Your Child Gets Angry or Aggressive” www.themompsychologist.com/ebook

Yes, spending intentional 1:1 time with our kids every day *is* sooo important, namely for preventing behavioral issues and enhancing connection. But as our children age, connection is about sooo much more. 

In this episode, I'm going to break down 5+ ways to connect with your child in muchhhhhh deeper ways. When done consistently, these things lead to secure attachment because they build trust and intimacy in the parent-child relationship.

 If you need more help with positive discipline, I have a FREE workshop, How to Get Your Kids to Listen Without Yelling, where we work through discipline and setting consequences with intention and respect. I provide you with the tools you need to create a happy home where cooperation happens without the struggle.

I know it's easy to feel overwhelmed, embarrassed and upset at your child when their teacher approaches you about their misbehavior. 

There’s so many potential reasons why your child is misbehaving so it's important to first focus on gathering more information from their teacher before discussing solutions.

Remember: behavior is just a symptom to a larger problem.

Think of it as the smoke to a blazing fire.

Yes, it's what gets our attention and what we tend to notice first but there's so much else we need to be paying attention to if we want to help our child thrive in school.

In this week's episode, I breakdown the top 6 questions to ask daycare staff or school teachers if they approach you about your child's misbehavior in the classroom.

These questions will not only help you understand the behavior on a deeper level but also inform how you both can intervene to help your child get back on track.

PS: Tune into the 3-part podcast miniseries hosted by ME with The Skimm X Whirlpool called Breaking the Cycle - https://bit.ly/skimm-this-podcast - all on the hidden educational crisis of chronic absenteeism.

So lately, I’ve noticed that my 5-year old has been doing a lot of “testy” behaviors like:

Not respecting her sister’s body boundaries. 

Competing with her sister (e.g., “Mommy let me get this first.”) 

Moving really slowwww (or not at all) when I give directions. 

Getting “stuck” in whining/sulking when upset. Lowww frustration tolerance. 

There are sooo many different ways to approach this behavior so in this week's episode I want to share some "behind the scenes" of how I've been approaching her behaviors lately.

Don’t forget to check out my free discipline workshop, “How to Get Your Child to Listen Without Yelling” - www.themompsychologist.com/workshop

When tension runs high, it's tempting to match our children's emotions and meet their anger with anger but it rarely works.

All we're left with is disconnection and lots of guilt. 

Instead, we are best served by focusing on de-escalation.

In this episode, I give you a roadmap to refer back to again and again when navigating your child's intense emotions.

Instead of avoiding screens, teach your kids how to have a healthy relationship with them! Focus on building a foundation of open communication, digital safety & healthy screen habits. 

And the earlier we start teaching these things, the better! 

To help you get started, here are 4 practical ways to teach your kids about healthy digital habits!