Daniel Kahneman says, "The long-term success of a relationship depends far more on avoiding the negative than on seeking the positive."

It's like that in so many areas of life. 

Most people know what they're good at, or at least they think they do. Flaws, though, tend to be nuanced, and we're often blind to them. 

This episode shares dozens of little flaws I often think about -- ones that are easy to ignore, but can compound into disasters over time. 

Measuring wealth is easy. You just count it up. Measuring some of the downsides of wealth is so much harder and more nuanced. They can be so nuanced and hard to measure that many people won’t even believe they exist. A downside to wealth? How could that possibly be? 

Let me propose that the absurdity of talking about the downside of wealth is part of why wealth doesn’t tend to make people as happy as they thought it would. 

When the benefits of money are so obvious but the downsides are so subtle, the downsides you didn’t anticipate can be more jarring than the benefits you expected. 

I want more money, of course. Almost everyone does, albeit for different reasons. 

This is not an anti-wealth list -- just a collection of subtle downsides that are easy to ignore, and so common you may as well call them the only true laws of getting rich.

My new book, Same As Ever, comes out in a month. 

It's about things that never change -- what's always happened in the world, and will keep repeating again and again?

This episode shares five examples. 

Just after my son was born I wrote a few things I thought he’d find helpful as an adult. One of them was:

"You might think you want an expensive car, a fancy watch, and a huge house. But I’m telling you, you don’t. What you want is respect and admiration from other people, and you think having expensive stuff will bring it. It almost never does – especially from the people you want to respect and admire you."

Eight years later I still believe this to be true, and I might even double down.

A truth that applies to almost every field is that it’s possible to try too hard, and when doing so you can get worse results than those who knew less, cared less, and put in less effort than you did.

There are mistakes that only an expert can make. Errors – often catastrophic – that novices aren’t smart enough to make because they lack the information and experience needed to try to exploit an opportunity that doesn’t exist.

All greed starts with an innocent idea: that you are right, deserve to be right, and are owed something for the efforts you put into establishing your beliefs and opinions. 

It’s a reasonable feeling. But it sets off a chain reaction that leads to an inevitable boom-and-bust cycle. 

This episode explores one of the most important topics in investing: the lifecycle of greed and fear, and why it cannot, and will not, ever go away. 

This episode is about the difference between intelligence and smarts, and why one is valued more than the other despite being less useful in the world.

The core here is realizing that people are not spreadsheets. They are emotional, hormonal, misinformed, status-seeking, insecure creatures trying their best to make it through the day. So if you have to choose between understanding how the world should work in theory vs. how it actually works in practice, lean towards the latter. It’s like historian Will Durant once said: “Logic is an invention of man and may be ignored by the universe.” That is so smart. 

This is a short personal story about a fluke event 16 years ago that changed everything in my life. You probably have a similar story, and there is so much to learn about how everything can change from an event you never saw coming.

You spend years trying to learn tons of new stuff, but then look back and realize that just a few big ideas truly changed how you think and influenced most of what you believe.

Let me share a couple that had a big impact on me. 

I think there’s an “ideal” net worth for everyone, when money not only stops bringing pleasure but becomes a social liability. And that number is probably lower than most people think.

A subtle problem with money is that assets are easy to measure but liabilities can be hidden. Measuring assets is simple. But how do you measure losing your privacy? Or the nagging doubt that some friends only like you for your money? That’s way harder.

My theory is that the more money people have, the more social debt they tend to be burdened with.