How does your desire to arrive get in the way of your life? I share my missteps with anti-racism work and how that applies to our pursuit of perfection. We also discuss how self diagnosing can actually be helpful in therapy!

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A relationship-themed ramble. Our deep dive goes into the topic of ending relationship, and even more our expectation of relationships. Are friendship break ups necessary? I also answer a question related to finding social safety when in a toxic relationship.

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It's time to unstuck yourself. We chat about boundaries in relationships and how to defuse ourselves from unhelpful thoughts. Mindfulness is more than being calm, I offer practical tips you can start to manage your thoughts. Have a notebook ready to take some notes! Techniques described come from RO-DBT and Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT). 

Physical touch is a way that human communicates to others that they belong and are safe. We discuss the impact of shelter in place and social distancing. As we approach the long game of social distancing, how can we meet the need of social safety when touch is discouraged. We also chat about how doing our way out of a funk is the best move and how to balance distraction with facing fears.

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Is there a chance that focusing on the negative actually helps you avoid discomfort? On this episode, I offer a brief overview of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Radically Open DBT (RO-DBT). I also break down how our pursuit of safety can actually cause us more time focusing on the negative. You will get tips on how to shift to taking inventory of what works to increase comfort with discomfort.

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Learning is an aspect of life that many of us rush through. However, if we never learn how to learn it can contribute to depression and anxiety. Here's the thing...we need to get more comfortable with the process of not knowing, myself included. In this episode we talk about what to do and how to do it well.

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Connection is essential for psychological health. In a time of loneliness, how do we get real about what we want out of relationships? We discuss expectations, intimacy levels, and questions to ask ourselves in order to get an idea of what type of tribe we want to build.

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We chat about the problems of calling the hard times in our lives the "new normal" and why we must grieve our crappy coping. We all have that behavior that keeps us from moving forward in life. Instead of keeping it in the dark, grieving can bring it to light and help us move towards change.

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We take a look at ENVY and how investigating it instead of ignoring it can prevent bitterness.

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