October 13, 2025

The Performance Of Masculinity (feat. The Public Offender)

1 hour 51 minutes

In this week’s episode of The Audaci-Tea Podcast, hosts Lisa and Sovereign welcome back special guest The Public Offender to unpack what it really means to perform masculinity, and how this performance shapes men’s behavior, women’s safety, and the structure of society itself. Together, they explore how cultural scripts of “manhood” are reinforced by patriarchy, peer pressure, and media, and how redefining masculinity could free everyone from toxic expectations.

But first, in Tea Time, the hosts cover Trump’s attempt at a military takeover of Portland, Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban’s divorce, Janae’s viral diss track aimed at Nicki Minaj, a listener comment asking whether decentering men actually centers them, and a Tea VIP voicemail seeking advice about her son’s father. Later, in the Mailbag segment, they tackle a listener question about handling a brother-in-law’s inappropriate text messages.

🎧 This episode pulls back the curtain on the performance of masculinity — how men perform toughness for other men, the social cost of emotional repression, and how redefining manhood benefits everyone.

🎙️ Topics Discussed:

The cultural performance of masculinity and its social consequences

Male identity, emotional repression, and societal expectations

Patriarchy’s influence on relationships and gender dynamics

How peer groups reinforce toxic masculine norms

Feminism, empathy, and the path to redefining manhood

Navigating harassment, boundaries, and accountability

✨ Links and Resources Mentioned:

Trump Slams Federal Judge, Whom He Appointed, for Blocking National Guard Deployment in Portland

https://tinyurl.com/mvw3p7vh

Keith Urban’s ‘Cocaine Clause’ Set to Land Him Millions as Nicole Kidman Files for Divorce

https://www.standard.co.uk/showbiz/keith-urban-cocaine-clause-prenup-nicole-kidman-divorce-b1250581.html

Janae Releases Nicki Minaj Diss Track

https://www.tiktok.com/@janae.alea/video/7557571706492161310

📚 This Week’s Recommendation:

The Performance of Masculinity: Beyond Postures and Gestures

https://davidnjohnson.com/men/the-performance-of-masculinity-beyond-postures-and-gestures/

Follow The Public Offender

https://linktr.ee/publicoffender

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🕰️ Episode Chapters

00:00 Welcome and Tea Time!

03:15 Trump Attempts Portland Military Takeover

05:55 Nicole Kidman & Keith Urban Divorce

11:50 Janae Releases Nicki Minaj Diss Track

12:28 Is It Impossible To Decenter Men?

18:56 Tea VIP Voicemail: Anger Towards Men

26:07 Welcome Back, The Public Offender!

31:03 Race, Class, And Masculinity

36:14 Scripts of Manhood and Societal Expectations

41:18 Men Hate Femininity

52:21 The Influence of Male Peer Groups

01:03:05 The Patriarchy's Grip on Society

01:13:24 Cultural Differences in Women's Solidarity

01:21:56 Escaping the Patriarchy

01:33:44 Mailbag: Sexual Harassment From Brother-In-Law

01:50:00 Poll Results: Decoding 'Manspeak'

🎙️ The Audaci-Tea is a production of Siren Sound, executively produced by Lisa Carr and The Sovereign Woman.

Music, audio production, and show production by Ryan Marth and Siren Sound.

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💡 Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the hosts and guests and do not necessarily reflect the views of Siren Sound or its affiliates. This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only and should not be considered professional advice.

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