The Peter & Tekky Show

In today’s vlog:

• Peter notices his energy dropping early — one of the biggest changes since getting his diagnosis
• Why I’m learning to take over the chores and look after him instead of getting frustrated
• Trying a Modern Family-style skit format for Santai State and finally understanding creative “flow”
• Reflecting on luxury fashion, status symbols and why different things bring different people joy

In today's vlog:

• We break down the surprisingly high cost of making a high-quality T-shirt for our clothing brand
• ChatGPT finally starts being useful for helping us turn our clothing problems into skits
• We show Chai’s new little house and continue planning our living room redesign
• We talk about relationships, communication, work, mood and learning to be a little kinder to yourself

In today’s vlog:

• Practicing speaking more naturally after noticing how choppy I sound in short-form videos
• Why I’m setting myself a “moonshot” goal I genuinely don’t know how to achieve
• Realising the real goal might be who I have to become along the way, not the money itself
• Peter and I talk about relationship advice — and why what works for one couple may not work for another

In today’s vlog:

• A late night completely throwing off our routine and energy
• Trying Setlog for the first time and making the house feel a little cozier
• Getting distracted by work when I was supposed to be resting
• Realising how often I go all or nothing — and learning to find a healthier balance

In today’s vlog:

• Realising we still aren't clear enough on who Santai State is actually for
• Why that uncertainty is making it harder for everyone to confidently make creative decisions
• Learning when to stop obsessing over tiny details and trust the people we've hired
• Peter continues turning the house into a smart home — while we attempt some very DIY renovations ourselves

In today’s vlog:

• Finally revealing Santai State — the name, meaning, logo, tags and reusable packaging
• Why I’m building the entire brand around physical and mental comfort
• Realising our first collection could cost way more than expected — and may need to be scaled back
• Why our LGBTQ+ content seems to mean more to people in conservative countries, plus a check-in on Peter’s mood

In today’s vlog:

• Peter and I get styled and attend our first proper fashion event together
• Why I think comfort is both physical and mental — feeling good and knowing you look good
• How I want my clothing brand to make getting dressed and matching outfits almost effortless
• Dealing with the social anxiety of a crowded event and reflecting on whether I’d actually do it again

In today’s vlog:

• Why Peter feels differently about certain labels now that he has an official diagnosis
• Testing our clothing designs with AI before spending thousands making them
• The useful—and slightly terrifying—side of giving AI too much autonomy
• Learning that giving Peter warning and a sense of control works much better than simply telling him what to do

In today’s vlog:

• Figuring out how I can support Peter during his lower moods — including our new “code yellow” system
• Why simply being more aware of our ADHD and mood patterns can give us more control over them
• Why I want to resolve arguments immediately while Peter needs time to process before talking
• Testing new ways to break the argument cycle — from physical closeness to our surprisingly serious ice-cream strategy

In today’s vlog:

• Catching myself in an ADHD spiral over something that really wasn’t that important
• Why simply noticing when you’re catastrophizing can help pull you out of it
• Peter joins me to talk about seeing a psychiatrist and finally getting some answers
• Why diagnoses can explain behaviour, but shouldn’t become an excuse to stop working on it