The Quiet ADHD Podcast

A fear of failure can take on different disguises including perfectionism and procrastination, it can stop us from doing what we want and realising our full potential, and knowing how to deal with it can be incredibly tricky.

In this episode we look at:

• Why being scared of failure feeling different to when we fail
• How it can show up for each of us
• My own fear of failure (this makes me feel pretty vulnerable!)
• The process we can work through to help ourselves

Resources:

• Feel confident, calm and capable, and live the life you want by working with me one-to-one, find out more here

My overthinking coaching clients often talk about their lack of confidence. It’s a big topic to cover so in this episode I focus on how our body language can help us to feel more confident.

In this episode we look at:

• How our posture affects how we feel
• Social psychologist Amy Cuddy’s research on the effects of dominance and stress hormones
• What you can try in two minutes to boost your confidence
• How finding your own musical anthem can bump up your confidence levels

Resources:

• Amy Cuddy’s TED Talk
• Feel confident, calm and capable and live the life you want by working with me one-to-one, find out more here

It can feel like you’re being bombarded with suggestions on how to make this your best year yet so what you can do to deal with the pressure of January-itis?

In this episode we look at:

• What you’re telling yourself about these new year new you messages
• The role of that pesky ‘should’ word
• The idea behind choosing a word for the year
• How to make it helpful and supportive, not a pressure or source of guilt

Resources:

• Goodbye 2018, Hello 2019 journal by Project Love
• Susannah Conway’s Find Your Word 
• Ali Edwards’ One Little Word 
• My review of 2018 and word for 2019 blog post 
• Ease into the new year with less pressure and stress and more calm and kindness for yourself with The Warm Embrace 7-day email series 

The festive season can be fun and joyous and it can also be messy and stressful. In this episode I suggest seven ideas for creating a calmer Christmas and New Year.

In this episode we look at:

• How your expectations impact your enjoyment of Christmas
• What small, practical actions you can take to ease the stress
• What to do if you don’t feel full of Christmas spirit
• How to make the most of the good stuff

Resources

• Ease into the new year with less pressure and stress and more calm and kindness for yourself with The Warm Embrace 7-day email series 
• Episode 14: The damaging word every overthinker uses
• Episode 18: How to deal with difficult emotions

Being away from home, however lovely a place you’re staying in or however lovely the people are, it can bring up feelings of vulnerability, stress and worry. Creating a sense of home from home can help you to feel more relaxed and comfortable.

In this episode we look at:

• Why we can struggle when we’re away from home
• Why this is not about where you’re staying or with whom
• The practical action we can take, whatever the circumstances, to help ourselves feel more calm, secure and present
• I share how I create my own sense of home away from home

 Resources

• Download your free Do you want a life of Less Worry & More Joy workbook here 

As Christmas is only a couple of weeks away, and it’s a time when we can be spending money more than usual, I look at the relationship between money and happiness.

In this episode we look at:

• How much money is enough to make you happy
• How we can spend it to increase the joy we feel
• Who and what we spend our money on will have a longer lasting impact on our happiness

Resources

• Download your free Do you want a life of Less Worry & More Joy workbook here 
• Episode 21: Why overthinkers are so good at striving (and why that’s not such a good thing)
• Watch Michael Norton’s TEDx talk How to Buy Happiness

The mindset with which we approach challenges or difficulties in life can make us feel stuck or like a failure, or it can open us up to possibilities. While some of us may begin life with a predominantly fixed mindset there is one little word that can help us move to a growth mindset.

In this episode we look at:

• What fixed and growth mindsets are from the leading authority on them
• How focusing on our ability or effort affects our mindset
• The one little word that can make all the difference and how to make use of it

Resources

• Mindset: Changing the way you think to fulfil your potentialby Carol Dweck
• Episode 34: How to cultivate optimism and boost your productivity in seven steps
• Discover how to be free of your overthinking and address your specific challenges by working with me one-to-one. The special introductory offer on my coaching services ends before Christmas, find out more here

How you feel about the expectations you have of life, yourself, other people, challenges, affects how positive or negative your reality is. Even if you feel you’re naturally pessimistic there are actions you can take to cultivate optimism and improve the reality of your day to day life.

In this episode we look at:

• A study that shows how your expectations impact how you feel and behave
• How your optimistic or pessimistic attitude changes how you see the world but not reality itself
• Seven actions you can take to cultivate optimism

Resources

• Episode 21: Why overthinkers are so good at striving (and why that’s not such a good thing)
• Episode 22: How to make your own mental health first aid kit
• Episode 14: The damaging word every overthinker uses
• The special introductory offer on my coaching services ends before Christmas, find out more here 

There’s one particular time of year when it feels like we’re not allowed to feel what we’re feeling, to take care of our own needs as well as everyone else’s, and to suggest that things could be done differently and break with tradition.

In this episode we look at:

• The lack of permission we can feel at Christmas
• How others could be feeling as we do but also think they’re not allowed to speak up
• Why your feelings, needs and opinions matter as much as anyone else’s
• How to start voicing your opinion and factoring in your own needs

Resources

• Join Coping with Christmas and navigate the festive season with less stress and more joy
• You can now work with me one-to-one on your overthinking, check out my coaching services here 

When you’re the overthinking, worrying kind the dark and cold months stretching ahead of us can feel challenging to our wellbeing. It’s harder to feel hopeful and positive and the world can feel a more unkind and scarier place.

In this episode we look at:

• Where we can find inspiration from those who deal well with the cold and dark
• How dropping ‘should’ will help
• The simple actions we can take to help ourselves embrace rather than fight the season

Resources

• Join Coping with Christmas and navigate the festive season with less stress and more joy 
• Find me on Instagram as @gabrielletreanor