The Relationship Circle

Welcome back, in this episode I sit down with Davina Hehn, a former therapist turned mental health coach, to explore the recurring patterns that often disrupt our relationships. From self-sabotage to the fear of conflict and emotional unavailability, we deep-dive into how these behaviors show up in both personal and romantic connections. Davina opens up about her own journey with her husband, sharing how their relationship transformed through emotional work and sobriety.

This week, we explore:

• The hidden patterns in relationships that often lead to self-sabotage, and how to identify them before they take control
• How fear of conflict and emotional unavailability can create distance and disconnection, even in the healthiest of partnerships
• Davina’s personal story of relationship struggles and transformation, offering real-world examples of growth
• Practical tools for singles and couples alike to better understand their emotional patterns and engage in proactive relationship maintenance
• The importance of building emotional literacy and conflict tolerance for a more fulfilling, resilient relationship

✨ If you’ve ever felt stuck in recurring relationship patterns or are struggling with fear of conflict or emotional blocks, this episode is your chance to break free and create more meaningful connections.

Connect with Davina

• https://www.instagram.com/asteadyspace 
• https://www.threads.net/@asteadyspace 
• https://www.tiktok.com/@asteadyspace 
• https://www.youtube.com/@asteadyspace 
• https://www.asteadyspace.com 

I'd love to connect with you and of course if you have any insights or questions from the show, please reach out to me on Insta!

To access my free relationship e-books or to book a coaching call with me, head to my website.

Breakups hurt, but what if they’re also one of the most powerful portals to self-discovery and growth?

This week, we explore your breakup through a new lens: not as a failure, but as an opportunity. Let's unpack the hidden wisdom that heartbreak can reveal about your boundaries, your needs, and the relationship patterns you may be ready to break.

Rather than rushing into the next thing, consider slowing down, journaling, and reflecting on what your past relationships have been trying to teach you.

On this episode we go through

• Why breakups can hold the key to deeper self-trust and conscious connection
• The most important questions to ask yourself before getting into a new relationship
• How to recognize and rewrite recurring patterns in love
• What it looks like to express your needs without guilt or fear
• Why reflection is the real path to healing and emotional maturity

This isn’t just about moving on, it’s about moving forward intentionally.

✨ If you’re ready to stop repeating the same story in relationships, and start building a more authentic connection with yourself and others, this episode is your invitation.

🎧 Press play and begin the journey back to you.

I'd love to connect with you and of course if you have any insights or questions from the show, please reach out to me on Insta!

To access my free relationship e-books or to book a coaching call with me, head to my website.

Ever wondered why you keep reacting the way you do in relationships—even when you know it’s not helping?

In this episode, I’m joined by Flora Ong, certified life coach and integrated attachment specialist, to explore how our early attachment patterns silently shape our adult relationships—and how to finally break free from the ones that no longer serve us.

Flora opens up about her own post-divorce healing journey, and we unpack the deep, subconscious forces that fuel self-sabotage, emotional reactivity, and insecure attachment.

Inside this episode, we dive into:

• The difference between anxious and avoidant attachment styles—and how they show up in love
• Why your “window of tolerance” matters more than you think
• The sneaky ways self-sabotage shows up in dating and relationships
• How childhood conditioning wires your nervous system for disconnection
• Why curiosity, not judgment, is the secret weapon in personal growth
• What it really takes to feel safe in intimacy and connection

Whether you feel stuck in anxious loops, shut down emotionally, or keep replaying painful patterns—you’re not broken. You’re just repeating what once kept you safe.

This conversation is your invitation to slow down, get curious, and start building the emotional resilience that leads to secure, satisfying love.

🎧 Press play now—healing starts here.

Connect with Flora:
https://www.instagram.com/redo.love
https://www.tiktok.com/@redo_love
https://www.youtube.com/@RedoLove/shorts

I'd love to connect with you and of course if you have any insights or questions from the show, please reach out to me on Insta!

To access my free relationship e-books or to book a coaching call with me, head to my website.

Why You Keep Falling for Emotionally Unavailable People (Even When You Know Better)

Ever find yourself falling again for someone who can’t seem to meet you emotionally—no matter how badly you want it to work?

Today we're diving headfirst into one of the most common patterns I see in my clients: attracting emotionally unavailable partners.

We’re unpacking the deeper why behind these frustrating relationship loops—and spoiler alert: it’s not about you being “too much” or “not enough.”

Inside this episode, I’m breaking down:

• The real reason you keep attracting emotionally unavailable people
• How unresolved childhood wounds shape your adult relationships
• Why those roller-coaster highs and lows feel like love (but aren’t)
• How to stop mistaking anxiety for chemistry
• Steps to start healing your attachment patterns with self-compassion and support
• And the truth: you are not broken—you’ve just been wired for survival, not connection

If you’re exhausted by the chase, stuck in on-again-off-again dynamics, or constantly wondering, “Why does this keep happening?”—this episode is a must-listen.

It’s time to break the cycle, reclaim your power, and start attracting the kind of love that actually feels safe and sustainable.

🎧 Tune in now, and let’s do this healing work—together.

I'd love to connect with you and of course if you have any insights or questions from the show, please reach out to me on Insta!

To access my free relationship e-books or to book a coaching call with me, head to my website.

Ever wondered what really goes on in the mind of a man when he’s swiping through dating apps?
Now imagine if that man decided to go undercover as a woman for nearly a year—just to find out what women truly need in today’s dating world. 👀

In this episode I’m joined by Mark Rosenfeld, one of Australia’s most sought-after dating and relationship coaches, for a conversation that’s equal parts eye-opening and empowering.

Mark spent 350 days dating online as a woman—yep, you read that right—and what he discovered in that time became the foundation for a system that’s helped thousands of women date smarter, not harder.

We’re diving deep into:

• What dating undercover taught him about what women really face online
• How to set boundaries without building walls
• Why your dating profile might be repelling the exact people you want to attract
• The art of giving (and receiving) feedback in relationships
• And the underrated power of being patient, consistent, and yourself

Whether you’re navigating your first few dates or untangling past relationship patterns, this episode is packed with insights to help you approach love with more clarity, confidence, and compassion—for both others and yourself.

Connect with Mark
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/markrosenfeldMHY/
Queens Club: https://www.skool.com/qclub/
Programs and Coaching: https://www.makehimyours.com.au/
Mark's Amazon #1 Bestseller Book: https://www.makehimyoursbook.com/ 

I'd love to connect with you and of course if you have any insights or questions from the show, please reach out to me on Insta!

To access my free relationship e-books or to book a coaching call with me, head to my website.

Hands up if you’ve ever caught yourself twisting into a version of you that you think someone will like more... 🙋‍♀️ 

A real talk—dating can feel like a performance sometimes.

You meet someone you really like, and suddenly you're showing up as the shinier, filtered version of yourself. You’re polite, you’re easygoing, you’re agreeable... and before you know it, you’ve gone a few dates in and think:
“Wait—do they even know the real me?”

I’ve been there. I’ve watched clients go through it. I know how tempting it is to hide your quirks, your needs, your boundaries—especially when you just want things to go well. But here’s the truth: when we trade authenticity for approval, we lose the very connection we’re trying to build.

In this episode, I’m unpacking:

• Why it’s so normal to lose yourself a little at the start of something new (and how to catch it early)
• What being authentically YOU actually looks like in dating
• The small but powerful ways to ground yourself without pushing love away
• How to check in with yourself after a date and ask the right questions: “Did I show up as me? Or was I shape-shifting a little?”
• Plus, why boundaries are sexy (yes, seriously!) and how expressing your needs is actually the key to deeper connection

And if you’re already in a relationship and thinking, “Oh god, I’ve already lost myself”—don’t panic. I’ve got you. It’s never too late to bring the real you back into the room. In fact, a healthy partner will welcome her with open arms.

So grab your tea, pop in your headphones, and let’s talk about how to date with your whole heart—without dimming who you are.

You don’t need to be perfect.
 You don’t need to be chill, or cool, or low-maintenance.
 You just need to be YOU.

And that’s more than enough.

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✨ If you loved this episode, let me know what landed for you—I always love hearing from you.

I'd love to connect with you and of course if you have any insights or questions from the show, please reach out to me on Insta!

To access my free relationship e-books or to book a coaching call with me, head to my website.

Buckle up, everyone! This episode of The Relationship Circle Podcast is one you DO NOT want to miss. Today I’ve got something extra special for you. I’m bringing on the brilliant Lauren Fondriest, a women's dating coach who’s flipping the dating script and helping women find real, lasting love—without all the games and frustration.

And here’s the kicker—Lauren’s been exactly where so many of you are right now. She spent six years stuck in the endless dating loop—swiping, going on countless dates, and falling into the same patterns that led nowhere. But instead of giving up, she made a game-changing decision to approach dating differently. And guess what? Not long after, she met her husband.

Now, Lauren is using her own experience (and hard-earned wisdom) to help women get clear, date with confidence, and finally break free from the dating rut. And she’s sharing all of her golden insights with us today!

In this episode, we dive into:

✅ How to STOP outsourcing your self-worth to people who aren’t choosing you
✅ Why dating with intention and clarity changes everything (and how to start doing it)
✅ The power of asking the right questions early on so you don’t waste your time or energy
✅ Why trusting your gut and listening to your body’s wisdom is your dating superpower
✅ What it actually looks like to date from a place of empowerment and high self-worth

Lauren’s approach is all about cutting through the noise, getting real about what you want, and having the courage to ask for it. And let me tell you—it’s like a breath of fresh air.

If you’re tired of spinning your wheels and you’re ready to finally date in a way that feels empowering, authentic, and actually leads to the relationship you deserve—this episode is for YOU.

✨ Connect with Lauren:
Instagram: https://instagram.com/laurenfondriest
Learn about dating coaching: https://laurenfondriest.com/coaching

Lauren's answering the #1 question she hears from single women in her free guide, "Where do I meet quality, single men?" 

Get your copy of the free guide here!  https://laurenfondriest.myflodesk.com/wheretomeetmen

🎧 Hit play now and get ready to transform the way you date—because your dream relationship is so much closer than you think.

I'd love to connect with you and of course if you have any insights or questions from the show, please reach out to me on Insta!

To access my free relationship e-books or to book a coaching call with me, head to my website.

Welcome back to The Relationship Circle.

Today, we're tackling something that most of us avoid—our triggers. Not because we’re lazy or not doing the work, but because it’s confronting, uncomfortable, and messy. But guess what? Those triggers you try to ignore? They’re actually the most powerful tools for your growth.

In this episode, I’m breaking down:

• How to recognize when you’re being triggered: What physical sensations, thoughts, and emotions show up when you’re triggered.
• How to trace it back to the root cause: Understanding where this trigger came from—whether it's a past experience, relationship, or belief you picked up along the way.
• How to work through it and actually heal: Practical steps for sitting with your triggers, acknowledging them, and moving past them rather than shoving them down or pretending they’re not there.

I share real-life examples from my own journey and from clients who’ve learned to stop avoiding their triggers and start using them as a roadmap for healing. This isn’t about getting rid of your triggers—it’s about understanding them, healing them, and transforming how you respond.

If you’re feeling stuck, frustrated, or like your emotions are running the show, this episode is for you. Listen in and let’s do the real work.

And I’d love to hear from you—what’s been triggering you lately? What feels like it keeps pulling you back into old patterns? Let me know because I’m here, rooting for you every step of the way. 💪💖

I'd love to connect with you and of course if you have any insights or questions from the show, please reach out to me on Insta!

To access my free relationship e-books or to book a coaching call with me, head to my website.

In today’s episode, I sit down with the incredible Kylie Dennis, a private investigator on a mission to protect people from the heartbreak and financial devastation of romance scams. This conversation is one you won’t want to miss—Kylie shares how a scam targeting her own mother set her on the path to this powerful work.

We talk about the tactics scammers use, why even the smartest people fall for them, and the emotional manipulation that goes beyond money. Kylie offers real-world examples, tips for spotting fake profiles, and practical advice if you or someone you love has been a victim.

This one hit close to home—and I’m so grateful for Kylie’s insight, humor, and honesty. Whether you’re dating online or just want to keep yourself and your loved ones safe, this episode is packed with eye-opening truths and actionable guidance.

💔 Trust your gut.
 📱 Watch for quick moves off the app.
 🚩 Learn the signs and stay safe.

I'd love to connect with you and of course if you have any insights or questions from the show, please reach out to me on Insta!

To access my free relationship e-books or to book a coaching call with me, head to my website.

Hey everyone! In this episode of The Relationship Circle, I'm diving into a topic that so many of my clients struggle with—situationships. If you’ve ever been stuck in that in-between space where you’re not really single, but you’re not in a committed relationship either, you know exactly how confusing and emotionally draining it can be.

I break down why situationships are so addictive—the emotional highs and lows, the fear of abandonment, and that frustrating push-pull dynamic that makes it so hard to walk away. I'll also explain how attachment styles (especially anxious attachment) play into this cycle and why it's so easy to mistake emotional intensity for genuine connection.

But here’s the good news—you don’t have to stay stuck. I’ll walk you through how to identify a situationship, how to stop accepting breadcrumbs, and how to reclaim your power by walking away with confidence. You deserve more than mixed signals and half-hearted effort—you deserve real love and consistency.

If you’ve been caught in a cycle of situationships, this episode is for you. Let’s break the pattern and create the love you truly deserve! ❤️

👉 Listen now and take back your power!

I'd love to connect with you and of course if you have any insights or questions from the show, please reach out to me on Insta!

To access my free relationship e-books or to book a coaching call with me, head to my website.