The School of Self-Mastery: Business, Money, Life

When your audience is small it can feel like no one is watching.

You're spending countless hours trying to get your message out into the world only to be rewarded with a few 'likes', comments from your long lost high school best friend, and your dad's your only live viewer on your FB live stream...how did I know?

It happens to me too.

And my dad is definitely my biggest livestream fan.

Which is super sweet, but it can also feel defeating at times...am I right?!

Here's the thing though...it's not about you. It's not about who's watching you. It's not for you to decide.

And truly, you NEVER KNOW who's watching. A potential client, a PR agent, a podcast host who needs new guests, a listener who NEEDED that message today.

So, worry less about how many humans are clicking 'like' and worry more about getting your message out into the world every single day!

You also don't get to decide what part of your message they needed to hear. I often find that the parts I thought would be most transformational aren't that way at all, and the parts that I don't even remember saying are the things that people hold onto and needed that day.

Your job? Just show up.

Switching things around today and letting some woman flip the script and interview ME!

This was a super fun interview and we got super deep into things like:

• my morning routine and why it works
• the one thing I have been a bit fearful to talk about and why
• what entrepreneurial skills my parents imparted onto me
• what's my bigger vision and why don't I ever talk about it?!

I definitely spilled it all here like I've never done before on an interview, so hopefully it's helpful in some way to all of you.

If you want MORE of these kinds of interviews, send in your questions! I'm happy to do this again!

Check out the video version here.

Julie Parker has almost 20 years experience in the world of personal development and coaching. Impressive.

And as you can imagine, she's seen lots of changes over those 2 decades of this relatively new industry, and on this episode, Julie shares the good the bad and the ugly with us.

Several takeaways from this conversation with Julie:

• substance WILL win over style in the coaching world, but it takes time
• niching is an evolution that she thinks is serving us all well
• how she attracts people to her work and why she doesn't see the need to use podcasts to promote her business

Julie was truly one of my favorite guests for so many reasons; great conversation, huge heart of service, and direct honesty.

Julie Parker is one of Australia's foremost life and business coaches and trainers with more than a decade's experience inspiring hundreds of clients and thousands of people to create beautiful lives and businesses. The CEO and Founder of The Beautiful You Coaching Academy, Julie passionately trains and supports heart centered and gifted people to bring their talents and love of giving into the world as life coaches.

Julie is a published author and Tedx speaker and has shared a speaking stage with Clare Bowditch, Christina Re, Gretel Killeen, Carolyn Cresswell and Gala Darling. She is the recipient of numerous awards including the Australia Day Citizenship Award and Business and Professional Women's Woman of Achievement Award. Julie appears regularly in the media including Today Tonight, A Current Affair, Sunrise and The Morning Show, as well as publications such as Grazia, Cleo, Cosmopolitan, Fitness and Health and national newspapers. She is also the Editor in Chief of inspired COACH Magazine.

Julie lives in Melbourne with her husband, stepdaughter and two much loved adopted cats.

You can connect with Julie Parker here on her website.

You need to keep the main thing, the main thing.

So often I see entrepreneurs getting fancy with their style, before they focus on their substance.

We often use style to distract others from the main thing {our substance} or get distracted by others sharing fancy websites, photoshoots in Paris, and mouth watering copy selling their latest shiny thing.

But what if you focused on the main thing first? The substance. The real valuable content and expertise that you have. What if you sharpened that skill set a bit more each day instead of fiddling with your canva images?

What if you qualified the humans you hire based on THEIR substance instead of their new car or beautiful dress...seen with Eiffel Tower in background of course? What if you judged their goods based on the value and not *just* the shiny website?

Wouldn't we all be better off?

What are you focused on? Style or Substance?

I want you to commit to substance, and in this episode, I'll share 4 ways you can start sharpening that substance skill set right now.

Don't get me wrong, style is still important. But, your style should SERVE your substance, not distract from it.

Too much to do and not enough hours in the day to get the big results you want? What if I told you you were focused on doing the WRONG things?

Take this quiz to find out exactly what you need to be doing in your business to profit more in the next 30 days.

Let's talk EMAILS!

Not the boring kind though...the ones that you love seeing land in your inbox.

Does your list LOVE getting emails from you? Are they even opening them? Are your emails converting into actual sales?

Have no fear...Lisa-May Huby is here and we're talking all about how to write an email that gets opened and converts in this Summer Friday episode!

We're talking everything from how to write 'em, to subject lines, all the way to CTA's -- not sure what that even means? Listen in!

Watch the video version here.

Get Lisa-May's best email tips here.

10 Tips for Open-Worthy Subject Lines

4 Irresistible Subject Lines that Guarantee Opens Lisa-May Huby's website. Words + Money Mastery, 3 Tips for Powerfully Irresistible Copy that Sounds Like YOU

What is it that all successful leaders have? Do they know something that we don't? Do they have a secret that we can learn from...

Today's guest, Mo Fathelbab, believes they do...and he believes it's a little thing called FORUMS.

Mo is author of Forum: The Secret Advantage of Successful Leaders and founder of Forum Resources Network, LLC (FRN) and Alumni Forum Services (AFS). FRN has provided Retreat facilitation and Forum training since 1997 through a network for experienced facilitators and its clients include the Young Presidents' Organization, World Presidents' Organization, Entrepreneurs' Organization, CEO Resource Alliance, the Virginia Council of CEOs and numerous corporate clients. AFS was founded in 2010 to provide Alumni Forums to business school alumni. AFS clients include several Harvard Business School clubs and UC Berkeley. With over 1900 programs in 32 countries under his belt, Mo has conducted more Forum programs than anyone and is a leading authority on the subject. He has educated trainers around the world to conduct Forum training and retreats. Prior to starting FRN, Mo served as Executive Director of Entrepreneurs' Organization (EO) for 7 years. Mo and/or Forum Resources Network have appeared on The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal online, CNBC, NPR, Investor's Business Daily, The Montreal Gazette and monthly on CNN fn. Mo loves cooking, yoga, and stand-up paddle boarding and triathlons. He completed the Switzerland Iron Man in just over 14 hours. He holds a bachelor's degree in Finance from the University of Maryland and lives in Alexandria, VA with his life partner Sally and their son Eli. Today Mo and I chat about Forums and masterminds and how to make them work, specifically how to ensure there is trust, vulnerability, and avoidance of conflict. Connect with Mo over at Forum Resources Network and grab a copy of his book, Forum: The Secret Advantage of Successful Leaders here!

An argument for 'work hours' We like the idea of freedom, but does freedom really mean working all day every day? I don't think so. But that's what typically ends up happening when we become an entrepreneur -- we let the work creep into everything, because that's easy when you love it. But what if you're actually being wayyyy less productive because of it? The typical 9-5 makes us cringe because we sit there for hours doing shit we don't care about, or sitting for hours doing nothing but need to be in our chairs to save face around the office. But not anymore...yet we end up working 6am-11pm instead, and most of the time don't have much to show for it. What if you implemented work hours? They don't have to be super rigid like a 9-5 per say -- but even just limits on how many hours you're working ON your business each week and mapping them on to the calendar? How much more productive are you when you know you only have 45 minutes to get something done? WAYYYY MORE PRODUCTIVE. This is called Parkinson's law -- we've talked about this in previous episodes too -- check out episode 67 here --http://adriennedorison.com/67-parkinsons-law-voodoo-how-to-use-it-to-your-advantage/ The more time you give yourself to do something, the more time it will take...so if your work hours now are ALL THE TIME -- then you'll fill that time. I even hear people say {self-included} that oh I will have more free time when I outsource this stuff -- or when I quit my job -- or when I … when I … etc. It's just not true -- and that's not to say you shouldn't start outsourcing, you should, but you are an entrepreneur, so you'll end up filling that time with other THINGS to do, because that's your default {it's mine too...no judgement zone} -- just be conscious of it. Here's some things that you might want to do so that you can work less but still get the same, if not BETTER results: 1. Set real work hours {and stick to them} 2. If work hours aren't your thing, set a cutoff time {and stick to it} 3. Decide HOW MANY hours per week you're working on your business -- and then map it out on a calendar vs the stricter work hours idea 4. Do the reverse --- plan your off / rest time so that you actually do it ! 5. Deadlines + Rewards 6. Work in 90 minute increments {One of the things most of us easily forget is that as humans, we are distinctly different from machines. At the core, this means that machines move linearly and humans move cyclically. For an efficient work day, that truly respects our human nature, the first thing to focus on are ultradian cycles. The basic understanding is that our human minds can focus on any given task for 90-120 minutes. Afterwards, a 20-30 minute break is required for us to get the renewal to achieve high performance for our next task again. 7. Stop multi-tasking -- working on too many things is keeping you from actually being PRODUCTIVE. multitasking may seem efficient on the surface but may actually take more time in the end and involve more error. Meyer has said that even brief mental blocks created by shifting between tasks can cost as much as 40 percent of someone's productive time.

American Psychological Association Article. Which one are you going to try? I would love to hear from you over in my FREE FB community -> www.adriennedorison.com/community

Want to become a better speaker?

Truth is...sometimes people are just plain boring...monotone...uninteresting.

Why is that?

And can it be a learned skill that you actually improve?

YES!

Today's guest, Manny Wolfe, is going to share exactly how to improve your vocal tonality and become a better speaker, so that YOU can impact more people.

Born in a hippy commune in Berkeley, California, during the notorious 'Summer of Love', Emmanuel Wolfe's childhood, was marked by violence, brainwashing, drug abuse, and worst of all, no guidance. Drifting from place to place and job to job, unable to settle, living a life steadily becoming utterly out of control, he ended up a hopeless, homeless deadbeat, addicted to drink and drugs, on a dizzying downward spiral, smashing down to rock bottom. Emmanuel Wolfe was able to turn his life around. Now he works with people all over the world who want to transform their lives through communication mastery, mindset mastery and internal transformation. His story is nothing less than a testament to what we can achieve when we never give up belief in ourselves and our ability to create our reality.

You can get Manny's new book, The Tao of the Unbreakable Man, here on amazon now.

Boundaries are hard for me...I'm seriously not great at them.

I want to say yes to everything, to everyone, all the time.

Can you relate?

I don't want people to be upset or think I don't care about them.

But, as your business grows it will be absolutely CRUCIAL that you get some boundaries in place. Otherwise, YOU are the one who will end up crushed.

You'll disappoint people without trying, you'll resent people, you'll lash out at people that don't deserve it and you'll run yourself dry trying to keep up with it all.

Today I want to share with you something that my mentor, Kendrick Shope, imparted on me and now I use my own twist on it for my own programs and clients.

It's the quota, boundaries and expectations that I set for each program/product/relationship so that we're all set up better for success.

If you don't have clear expectations and boundaries in your business {or your life} you'll exhaust yourself trying to keep up with all the unspoken ones anyway.

We're talking about SEX today!

Plus the 3 relationships to most likely to screw with your businesses (parents, significant others, and kids). These are the relationships where we make ourselves most vulnerable (so if we had negative experiences, those voices tend to replay in our heads) and also are the ones we tend to care about losing the most (so anything that we think could jeopardize a positive relationship, like business, can be a serious block to what we say we want).

Jessica and I dive into: - How to detach from parents' opinions (their criticism OR praise) - How to pursue independent goals while being coupled to someone - How to stop making business decisions based on "mom/parent guilt"

But even more specifically we'll talk about all the personal shit I never thought I'd share on the podcast...

like why my dad is still on my bank account, and the sex lives of women who make more than their men, and other taboo topics!

You can check out Jessica's boundaries & commitments assistant here for FREE!

And if you'd rather watch us on video -- do that here.