The Self Love Yogi Podcast

Thank you so much for being here! It took me a couple years but I made it to episode 50 :) I wanted to celebrate with a guided meditation.

The podcast is going to be changing a bit! So stay tuned for high vibes and intuitive changes. So much love for you all. Namaste.

Going with the flow and getting out of the hustle, and why self love is a CRUCIAL part of reaching your goals and getting the things you desire. 

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Last Monday, I decided to take a couple of weeks off from social media and the constant posting. I listened to an Abraham Hicks podcast about putting time between the asking of the question and the answer, and it really shifted how I see things.

The episode talked about that as humans we go around all day and ask questions and expect an immediate answer. But things need to line up for us to understand the answer and items need to be put in place so the answer we receive makes sense.

I’ve been working on this online business for a long time and I’ve learned SO much and come so far, but because I tend to look forward (and let’s be honest, constantly compare myself to people who are “more successful” than me), my vibration isn’t lined up with what I want and I stay stuck.

I also had a psychic reading with my friend Tana, and she told me my guides are basically asking me to pause and settle for a bit. They said that if I can rest in where I can be of service RIGHT NOW, the answers that are eluding me will come. And also that I need to calm my vibration and get into the receiving mode.

After listening to this podcast and the reading I had with Tana, I decided to go with the flow and chill for a little while.

And already answers have been showing themselves to me. I don’t know what to do with them just yet, but I know if I relax into them it will start to make sense. I also decided to sit tight and revel in all of the amazing things I have RIGHT now, and the ways I am able to serve. So while it’s not my dream business yet… it is on its way and I have a lot of amazing blessings in my current physical reality. I am also already serving and helping a lot of people.

I have been so focused on creating content consistently (as in, daily… sometimes even multiple times a day) the magic of my particular message gets lost and sacrificed for content output. And while it may feel like that’s how we hack the algorithm, I think it’s actually super counter productive for soul aligned businesses.

Because your soul clients can feel what’s missing, even if they can’t quite name it. 

And now a life changing book that brought me to do this episode... "It's Not Your Money" by Tosha Silver on here, but I AM OBSESSED. I am also really becoming “anti manifestation” culture (although maybe I don’t need to be anti anything). I know vision boards and writing down exactly what you want works for a lot of people, and maybe there’s a place and energy type for it. But for me, it feels exhausting, and like I’m constantly telling the universe exactly what I want (but let’s be real, I’m not entirely sure exactly what I want), not receiving it, stressing about it... and the universe is over here like" DUDE maybe that’s not what you’re meant to have."

INYM is all about surrendering to the divine flow so God can use you however he sees fit, and how to become a conduit for source. Let go of the tunnel vision and open yourself up to the divine flow.

This was a huge "aha" moment that's helped me recognize the need to go with the flow.

How to handle your spiritual development when people around you don't understand.

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Growing and other's around you are triggered? Keep reading.

Hello, loves! A lot of my client’s come to me and say “I’m growing, and it feels really good. But then I have someone in my life who kinda pulls me down, or they struggle with the newer version of myself, and it drags me back down into previous habits.”

So the question is…

How do I grow when people I love and care about around me aren’t growing? (Or at least, aren’t growing at a similar pace)

You’ve probably heard that everyone is a mirror. Everyone you encounter in your life is an opportunity to see something inside yourself that you still need to heal. And while I believe this to be absolutely true…

I also believe that people (especially stagnant people… and there’s no shame in that it’s just their journey) hold us up to the version of us they know best. So if you have a lot of people in your life that met you a while back before you began to grow, (I believe) they have that version of you burned subconsciously in their heads.

When you start to do things differently, it triggers them.

And sometimes, their response triggers YOU. This may make you want to fall back into that old version of you to keep them happy or keep the peace. I’m here to tell you… DON’T.

I’m working through a really powerful book right now, called It's Not Your Money by Tosha Silver. And while it’s about letting go of money hangups, I think this part is very relevant here. There’s a prayer I say every day, and part of it is “let everything that needs to go, go. Let everything that needs to come, come.”

And this applies to growth alongside people as well.

People are in our lives, almost as a contract. When you meet someone, they might stay for 5 minutes or 50 years, but I believe there was a predetermined contract of how long and what lessons would be exchanged. But as humans, we tend to cling to people for numerous reasons… self identification, ego, fear, worthiness… and sometimes we hold on far longer than we need to.

What I’m saying is… grow anyway.

The people that are meant for you will stick around. Those who aren’t will fall away. It is all for your highest good, so don’t you dare censor your growth one bit. 

Now you might be thinking, ”That’s great Jen. But what about my mom? What about my husband?” This can be far more challenging. This often requires tools (and probably more contracted lessons) rather than letting these people fall away. (Although I will say, no one DESERVES access to you just because they’re blood.)

Let's talk growing around family and partners.

So let’s say you’ve cleaned house… let go of old friends who no longer serve you, invited new ones in who are more aligned… and you’re left with a husband who thinks your nuts and a mom who wishes you could “just be the way you used to be.”

Da da da DAAAA! Enter: TOOLS.

Here’s 5 things to stop drop and do in the face of your growth challenging someone you love:

* Practice compassion. Remember that they love you, from where they are and in the capacity they know. The more compassionate you are,

Join me and Andi as we talk about our sobriety journeys, sober curiosity, and tips on how to improve your relationship with alcohol, addictions, and substances.

You can find Andi on Instagram, and on her website. Jump to the bottom to get all the show notes and links!

Blog Version of the Podcast where we discuss sobriety.

Coach Andi Petty is a holistic nutrition coach who specializes in helping her clients work on their relationship with alcohol. Andi and I found each other on Instagram, and we have very aligned journeys. Her content is so helpful for anyone who is struggling with their relationship with alcohol and other substances, which is why I wanted to interview her!

Do you need to be sober to have a good relationship with alcohol?

Andi and I are both in agreement on this... no you do not. But the main think you need to be doing some self inquiry about is WHY you drink.

Does drinking genuinely enhance your experiences? Or are you (like I was) using it to check out from your feelings and struggles. The WHY is a very important part of embarking on a journey with your alcohol relationship.

Does sobriety/sober curiosity mean you're an alcoholic?

Absolutely not! I think alcohol is a problem for far more people than we think, but because it is so widely accepted in society talking about your personal issues can be very stigmatized.

I think it's healing and helpful to let go of all labels and just remind yourself you're cultivating awareness around a complicated subject.

Are you going to lose friends when you sober up?

If a lot of your social life revolves around alcohol (going out for drinks, brunch, etc)... probably. I know I did, and Andi did too. But know that for every friend your lose, another more aligned friend will come along.

Also know that it takes time, and it can be a painful process. But if you're feeling called towards sobriety there's a bright new life on the other side of it.

What is "sober curiosity"?

"Unlike sobriety, which is often a lifestyle chosen as a result of alcoholism or alcohol use disorder, sober curiosity is often defined as having the option to choose, to question, or to change your drinking habits for health-focused reasons (mental and/or physical). The sober curious movement has encouraged individuals to recognize the often-unhealthy habits that are associated with alcohol." Source - VeryWellMind.com

I feel that this is a very healthy practice because you don't berate yourself whenever you "fall off the wagon" and go haywire. You just continue to practice self discovery and awareness.

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What are chakras? Learn about what chakras are, and the different 7 main energy centers.

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What IS a chakra?

In short, chakras are “each of the centers of spiritual power in the human body, usually considered to be seven in number.” So basically, we have 7 main energy centers in the body (there are much more, but typically we work with the main 7). 

And in order to have peace and alignment in our lives, we can actually focus on balancing these energy centers.

The 7 chakras and signs they may be out of alignment:

Root Chakra (muladhara in sanskrit)

The root chakra sits at the base of the spine and it is represented by the color red. It dictates our ability to feel grounded and safe. 5 signs the root chakra may be out of alignment are:

* Increased anxiety and/or depression* Lack of self confidence* Money troubles* Lower back pain* Feeling unsafe/ungrounded

Sacral Chakra (svadisthana in sanskrit)

The sacral chakra sits in the pelvic bowl and it is represented by the color orange. It dictates our ability to experience pleasure and create. 5 signs the sacral chakra may be out of alignment are:

* Fear of pleasure* Lack of creativity * Fatigue or low libido* Detachment/checking out* Pelvic pain

Solar Plexus Chakra (

What are emotional triggers, and how can we heal and better respond to them?

Respond to triggers: emotional triggers are something everyone deals with but we rarely talk about.

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Today, I want to talk about five different ways that you can heal and respond to your triggers.

And in order to illustrate this, I'm going to talk a little bit about some of my own triggers, which is what inspired me to blog about this today.

Let's start with what a trigger is.

What is a trigger?

A trigger is a word, person, event or experience that brings up an immediate emotional reaction. And I think it's important to say the word reaction because often when we are reacting, we are not observing, and we are not able to be objective.

So we're usually acting from a place of impulse or deeply rooted patterns. We all have these. Every single one of us has some kind of trigger. And no matter how much you work on your triggers, you're always going to have new ones come up that are going to show you things within you that you can heal, and it's going to just keep going deeper and deeper until the day that we die.

I think it's really important to make peace with that. So rather than thinking that there is a destination or "somewhere that we are going to get to" once we love ourselves enough (and that all of this stuff goes away and everything is magical), we accept that this is part of the journey.

I personally just do not believe that is what happens because I think that we chose to be here. We chose to have this human experience, we chose to go through the duality of life, and that includes the ups and downs. And if we can embrace those, life is a lot more fun.

Next, I wanted to share a couple of my own personal triggers that happened this week.

The first one began with me posting an ad for private yoga sessions on Craigslist. Which, I know it's Craigslist... obviously I'm going to get my fair share of creepers and weirdos. But I have found good clients on Craigslist before and I've had a hard time finding local yoga and personal training clients lately, so I figured "what the hell". I got a few responses that were super gross. Such as "I would pay to see you do yoga in your underwear" (barf)... and I just ignored them.I get a couple of possible leads and so I stick with it for a minute. And then I get this email from somebody that says, "Yeah, you must have been dropped on your head. You need to move away from the dinner table early and do some more cardio to get rid of some of that extra weight."

TRIGGERED.

I know this person is obviously trolling. They are probably miserable and could be a 400 pound person in their underwear in their mom's basement for all I know. But it triggered me harder than I wanted to admit. It really got to me for a few days.

I continued to think about it incessantly for a few days, and finally I'm like "what the fuck is this all about?" Many of you guys know my history with eating disorders and being a heavy kid, and I was teased like crazy in elementary and middle school. This whole experience made me feel like that little girl getting moo'd at when she got off the bus.

This was a chance to respond to triggers differently and div...

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This episode is a little different! This is a beautiful recording by Swamini Saraswati sharing her experience with Hinduism, a bit about her teachings and her beautiful story. It is very enlightening!

Learn more about her here: https://discoveratma.com/swamini-brahmaprajnananda-saraswati/

She is also running a course on living our purpose or rather 'Living our svadharma..' in the winter quarter for the Hindu University of America.

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