The Session - Mothers’ Day
 

Proverbs 31:28–29: "Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: 'Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.'"

 

Mothers often feel:

·  Not important

·  Examples

Would someone please let the dog

in?

Dinner time and no one comes

Please put your coat away

Leaving clothes all around your room

 

 

·  Mothers Need Respectful Appreciation

When their needs are respected

(Done) they feel appreciated

Leviticus 19:3: “Every one of you shall revere his mother and his father. I am the LORD your God” (ESV).

 

·  Fathers Should Model Respect

Dad’s should teach their children to respect what mom says and needs. This happens when Dad demonstrates respecting what mom says and needs.

If dad ignores mom, so will the children

 

·  Dad’s should create an atmosphere that celebrates mom and her sacrificial efforts.

Examples

Cooking

Laundry

Taxi Service

·  Husbands speak highly of your wives to the children

 

·  Husbands demonstrate love to your wives in front of the children

 

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Psalm 4:8 “I will both lay me down in peace, and sleep: for you, LORD, only make me dwell in safety."

 

Rule Out Physical Causes

·  see your family doctor

·  High blood pressure

·  Stomach problems - hunger

 Anxiety Produced Insomnia

·  very common

·  Anxiety is an energy that is another name for feelings

 Depression Produced Insomnia

·  Early morning awakening

·  Like anxiety depression is an energy that we refer to as feelings

 Helps

·  Determine if you are either anxious, depressed or experiencing a physical cause like hunger or too hot or cold

·  Muscle Flexing Strategy

start with your calves and flex them

work your wasp until you are flexing

your abs and arms.

Hold for a 3 count and slowly release

the muscle groups one at a time

·  If you are worried it is important to change your thoughts.
•music

• list

• make an appointment with yourself

 

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James 5:7-8 “Be patient, therefore, brothers, until the coming of the Lord. See how the farmer waits for the precious fruit of the earth, being patient about it, until it receives the early and the late rains. You also, be patient. Establish your hearts, for the coming of the Lord is at hand.

Impatience is the tendency to be impatient; irritability or restlessness.  "she crumpled up the pages in a burst of impatience"

The primary cause of impatience seems to be the dislike or fear of certain feelings, and the effort to escape those feelings through action.

3 Tips to Relieve Impatience - Christianity Today

1. Rejoice in Affliction Just as You Would in Pleasure

as Romans 12:12 tells us, "Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer."  As Christians, our joy and peace is not determined by our circumstance of waiting but on the Person of Christ.

2. Depend on God's Faithfulness, Not Yours.

If we had to rely only on our own abilities and faithfulness, we would be pretty much hopeless. Our destiny and

provision, however do not depend on our faithfulness but on God's.  the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. Galatians 5:22

3. We Should Rely on the Holy Spirit

But the good news is that God does not leave us ill-equipped. When we experience His in-filling through The Holy Spirit, He works in our hearts and imputes attitudes that make us more like Christ—one of which will include patience.

Health Research, from Huff Post

Those with short fuses, take notice. A new study suggests that impatient people may be at risk of aging faster than those who are more patient.  Impatience is linked to cognitive and social incompetence, inability to cope with life frustration and risk of mental disorders

Tom Russell 

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Living In The Victory Of The Cross

1.    Because of Jesus We Have Victory Over Sin

·  Deuteronomy 20:4

For the LORD your God is the one who goes with you to fight for you against your enemies to give you victory.”

·  I John 1:9

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.

 

2.    Because of Jesus Victory on the Cross We Have Victory Over Temptation

·  I Corinthians 10:13

No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind.  And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear.  But when you are tempted, he will also

provide a way out so that you can endure it.

1.    Living in Victory Means We Can Be Delivered From Our Addictions and Former Lifestyle

2.    Psalm 3:8

From the LORD comes deliverance.

May your blessing be on your people.

1.    I John 5:4

3.    Because of Jesus Victory on The Cross We Have Faith in Him And We can Live In Victory for everyone born of God overcomes the world. This is the victory that has overcome the world, even our faith.Because Of Jesus

1.    Victory On The Cross We Have Evidence That God Loves Us.

·  Romans 8:31-32

What, then, shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all—how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things?

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https://www.allprodad.com/things-dads-do-no-one-notices/

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3 Fuels of Anger

1. Hurt Feelings. Unmet Needs value, importance

* Share your feelings with a trusted

relationship

* Write a letter to the person who hurt

you

* safe place picture
I Peter 5:7

Cast all your anxiety on him

because he cares for you.

• If Jesus talk to you about Your hurt what would He say?
• If you could picture Him holding you what would that feel like?

2. Frustration

Examples include any of the northeastern Ohio professional sports teams.

The “self check out” machines at Kroger’s or Sam’s Club with 8 people in line behind you

Often times associated with high expectations
Lowering the bar puts a person in position to be successful and celebrating them when they are.

John 16:33 “I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world."

3. Fear

• The third fuel of anger is fear.
• Those things that create fear in us typically create anger too
• And example is intense rage is an intense fear
• And unhealthy fear becomes and unhealthy power
• It indicates a power shortage of healthy power
• Isaiah 41:10 So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God I will strengthen you and help you I will uphold you with my righteous right hand they will walk and not be faint.
• Fear File

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https://www.familylife.com/articles/topics/parenting/parenting-challenges/single-parenting/how-can-the-single-mom-do-it/

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https://www.familylife.com/articles/topics/marriage/staying-married/10-ideas-to-give-your-marriage-a-fresh-start/

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10 Ideas for a fresh start

1. First Things First 

        * what are you problem exists real lying yourself with how God loves you.  

        * Paul David Tripp stated relationships are first fixed vertically before they are fixed horizontally

         * Love ones neighbor as oneself Mark 12:28-34

 

2.    Ruthlessly Hunt Gratitude          

 * Studies of brain scans show gratitude has been linked closely to happiness

      3.  Figure Out What’s  Eating Your Grapes

            *Song of Solomon speaks of chasing out the foxes in your vineyard (2:15)

            * lack of rest, no calendar space, or lack of resolution

       4. Set guard rails on your thoughts

            * when thinking about your spouse embrace II Cor. 10:5 take every thought captive  and 

               Philippians 4:8 “Finally, brothers & sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is

               right . . . . . THINK ON THESE THINGS

        5. Go against the grain

 * create the romance you want to see, even though your feelings are in it just yet. Devise a                                              creative romantic evening write a love note.  Take a shower together

        6. Own Up

            * Psalm 129:23-24 search me oh God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts        and see if there’s any grievous way in me, and leave me in the way everlasting

        7. Spend what’s precious on your mate

            * if that means time, energy, cash or attention make it a top priority

        8. For a fresh start being intentional or proactive

            * use Softening which speaks to how are you feel when a positive need is met

        9. Study hard

            * it’s been said to get your PhD in your spouse.  Know and understand their 

              stress, desires, grieving or joys 

        10.  Get down (on your knees)

               Beg God for oneness, passion, enduring love 

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The Session 9 Lies That Destroy Marriage

https://twitter.com/DalyFocus/status/1336663364097871873 

Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh"? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate' (Matthew 19:4-6, ESV)

 

Top 9 lies that destroy marriage

1. Happiness is the primary goal

·  compared to joy happiness is temporary fleeting feeling

2. Marriage is all about unity, not individuality

·  It is possible to smother our marriage partner. 2 whole people become one

3. The only thing couples need is love

·  commitment, personal relationship with Jesus, the top 4/respect The five cylinder intimacy engine

4. You must sacrifice who you are for the sake of your marriage

·  The I and we circle.

5. You must meet each other’s needs.

·  If you do you will have a dependent marriage. There is a difference in wellness and marriage wellness

6. Your differences are irreconcilable

·  Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. / Honoring

7. You must work hard to earn your spouse’s love.

·  Marriage isn’t work. It is prioritized

8. You must “fix” your spouse.

·  70% of couples want counseling to fix their spouse

9. To compromise is to lose the argument.

·  Is the goal to win the argument? An argument is like a major auto accident that both marriage partners are in. Wouldn’t you care about is your wife / husband ok?

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