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Sometimes the best conversations don’t start with a plan—they start with a question.

In this episode, we play a game to test how well we really know each other. But what starts as a lighthearted back-and-forth turns into something deeper. We ended up talking about how much we’ve changed, what we still love, and the quiet ways we’ve grown up beside one another.

We reflected on who we thought we’d be in marriage, who we’ve actually become, and the things we still don’t say out loud until someone asks directly. There’s laughter, vulnerability, and a whole lot of “Wait… you still feel that way?”

This isn’t a deep dive into conflict—it’s a check-in from the middle. The part where love still lives, but assumptions need adjusting. The part where you realize you’re not loving a memory, you’re loving a person who keeps evolving.

If you’ve ever looked at your partner and wondered, “Do I still really know you?”—this one’s for you.

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Sometimes disconnection doesn’t come from conflict—it comes from the quiet buildup of life.

In this episode, we’re unpacking what it looks like to feel distant in a relationship, even when there’s still love, laughter, and good intentions. We’re talking through the emotional weight of parenting, partnership, and ambition—and how all of it can cloud your ability to really see each other.

This isn’t a dramatic breakdown or a picture-perfect breakthrough. It’s a slow, honest conversation about what happens when the connection fades a bit, and how we’re learning to advocate for our individual needs while protecting the “us” in the process.

We’re naming the guilt, the blame, the burnout, and the grace. We’re talking about what it means to want more—not because something is broken, but because we’re still growing.

This one’s real, reflective, and tender. If you’ve ever felt yourself drifting from the person you love most, we hope it helps you feel less alone.

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Sometimes the most necessary conversations are the ones we’re still figuring out in real time.

In this episode, we’re sitting down for an honest check-in on what support looks like in our marriage right now—not what it should look like, or what it looks like on paper, but what it feels like to give and receive care when both people are doing their best… and still falling short sometimes.

We’re talking about the tension between good intentions and missed marks, why it’s hard to name your needs, and how perfectionism, parenting, and past experiences can get in the way of asking for help. We share real, in-the-moment reflections on where we’re showing up well—and where we still have work to do.

This one’s vulnerable, practical, and full of grace. It’s not a polished lesson. It’s a conversation we needed to have—and we’re grateful to share it with you.

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Sometimes the most unexpected conversations are the ones that leave the biggest impact.

In this special episode, Kier sits down with our daughter Emery for her first-ever appearance on the podcast. What starts as a fun father-daughter moment turns into a sweet and meaningful conversation about identity, growth, love, and what it really means to feel seen and supported.

From navigating nerves and school struggles to reflecting on perseverance, therapy, and family connection—this episode is full of humor, heart, and tiny wisdoms that hit home in the most unexpected ways.

We’re talking about everything from YouTube milestones and bedtime routines to big dreams, bravery, and the power of simply showing up for one another—again and again.

This one’s light, deep, and full of love. We’re so proud to share it with you.

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We’re continuing the conversation on something every couple navigates: conflict—and what it really means to fight fair without losing yourself or your connection.

How do you communicate through frustration without spiraling into blame? What does healthy conflict actually look like in real life—not just in theory? And how do you reconnect after things get tense?

This episode dives deeper into how we’ve learned to handle disagreements with more care, more clarity, and more emotional safety. From invisible loads and resentment to tone, timing, repair, and setting boundaries—we’re sharing the tools that have helped us shift the way we navigate conflict as a couple.

We’re talking about what it took to move from avoidance to repair, from shutdowns to check-ins, and from resentment to real understanding. This one’s honest, vulnerable, and full of practical reflections you can take into your own relationship.

We’re still growing—but now we know how to do it together.

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We’re back, and this week we’re diving into a conversation about something that shows up in every long-term relationship: conflict—and why it can feel so threatening, even in a healthy partnership.

Why does disagreement feel like danger sometimes? Why do old fears show up in new arguments? And how do you stay connected to your partner when you don’t see things the same way?

This episode explores how our individual stories shape how we handle tension, how conflict shifts as life gets more complex, and what it really looks like to repair—especially when emotions are high and the stakes feel personal. From parenting decisions to conversations about moving and space, we’re getting honest about what conflict really looks like behind the scenes of a long-term relationship.

We’re not afraid of disagreement anymore—but we are learning how to move through it with care.

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We’re back, and we’re diving into a conversation that every couple—and honestly, every person—needs to think about.

Why is it so hard to answer the question: What do you need from me right now? Why do we struggle to name what we need, even with the people closest to us? And how can we learn to ask for support in a way that strengthens, not strains, our relationships?

This episode gets real about why asking for help feels so vulnerable, how different seasons of life shift our needs, and what it looks like to show up for each other in a way that actually makes a difference.

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We’re back, and we’re diving into a conversation that I think every couple needs to hear.

Why is it so hard to acknowledge the little things our partners do? Why do we assume they should just do it, no thanks necessary? And how does a lack of gratitude quietly chip away at relationships?

This episode gets real about the unspoken pressures, why saying “thank you” matters more than you think, and how small changes can prevent resentment from creeping into your relationship.

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The invisible load is one of the biggest relationship struggles, but most couples don’t talk about it. It’s the never-ending mental checklist, the constant unseen labor—especially for women—and it’s exhausting. In this episode, we break down what’s really going on, how it affects relationships, and what we do to share the load in our marriage.

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In this episode, we dive into the intricate dance of interactions that shape the emotional intelligence of our kids, confront the tough realities of motherhood and fatherhood, and tackle the societal pressures that influence our family decisions. From debating discipline methods to considering the addition of a third child, this episode is a candid and heartfelt journey into the chaos and beauty of our family life. Grab a snack and join us as we navigate these challenges together, sharing insights and experiences that promise to resonate deeply. It's a conversation that you won't want to miss. So let’s dive into this beautiful mess of raising a family together!

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