The Soft Shoulder Podcast

“first comes love, then comes marriage” was a line from a WEIRD little rhyme I learned growing up. But is this true? And what about when it comes to self love? It seems to be a popular belief that self marriage is only for those who have reached some advanced level of self love. Not […]

Have you been longing to hear the words “you complete me.”? You’re so much closer than you think. Got a mirror? In today’s episode Danette talks about The List and asks some awkward questions you might want to consider when dreaming up your ideal partner. She calls out the not-so-sexy kind of Netflix and Chill, […]

You might feel self-conscious about being too focused on yourself, when actually you haven’t been focused enough. If you’re lucky, a snow bank will help you realize where you’ve gone astray. Come back. In this episode, Danette explores the two-part self love practice that has been a game changer for her : Focusing on what […]

Shonda Rhimes wrote an inspiring memoir about her Year of Yes – but what about those of you who have had too many Years of Yes? What if what you really need is a year of NO? Step aside Shonda, and enter Erika! Danette shares a fantastic self-love practice created by a fantastic woman from […]

If life is a freeway, which one would you rather ride – the one where the cars follow the rules and move effectively or the “swervy-derby” where everybody is trying to overcompensate and read your mind? When does being nice get in the way? In the first of likely many episodes about BOUNDARIES, Danette discusses […]

This is more than a hairbrush and a dream. How many of us rocked out in the mirror channeling our most beloved rock stars when we were younger? Or in the car, gripping the steering wheel singing unabashed love ballads to some unrequited crush? Seemingly unrelated, how many of us roll our eyes and feel […]

How broken is your heart? Can you still have a broken heart from a breakup that happened forever ago? Have you been living in sneaky Heartbreak House #6 without even realizing it? Danette introduces her 7 Houses of Heartbreak framework for navigating the spaces we occupy as we move through the stages of a broken […]

Is all this self-love stuff just you being an irresponsible navel gazer? Is your lack of personal growth work getting in the way of other people’s dreams? In this episode Danette shares her unpopular fitness goal to serve as yet another excellent metaphor for the importance of self-love from the inside out.

Journal writing. One of the most powerful self love practices you could cultivate. Find out why the morning might be the very best time to do it – no matter when your morning begins. In this episode Danette shares 3 of her favourite journal techniques: One to help you find your way back to the […]

Have you ever been lied to by a romantic partner? Danette has! (fist bump!). What does it take to rebuild trust when it is lost? What about if it was never there in the first place? And what do you do when you can’t trust YOU? Danette shares a story about what she trusted to […]