The Soft Shoulder Podcast

It’s not as simple as Mean Girls in the cafeteria. If you’ve had frenemies in real life, you know the strange sensation of home and harm intertwined. What if the worst things being said about you are coming from the inside? Why should you bother noticing your self-talk? Who are you harming? What does it […]

What do you think of when you hear the word Desire? Did you grow up thinking this was a bad word, or at least “unspiritual”? Do you allow yourself room to cultivate your desires? Danette explores why is it important to get to know your desires and pay attention to them even before our body […]

The series exploring each of the 7 Houses of Heartbreak comes to a close with the final Heartbreak House Seven: Surrender Do broken hearts heal stronger than they were before? How do you know when your breakup healing is done? Do you have to be perfectly healed? Where do you keep your toothbrush? In this […]

The series exploring each of the 7 Houses of Heartbreak continues with Heartbreak House Six: Surging + Staging. This house is where you finally get to breathe after a LOT of messy, deep heartbreak recovery. The emergencies are over and you can chill on the porch. It’s comfy in many ways – so much so […]

We interrupt our series on the 7 Houses of Heartbreak to bring you this: the Soft Shoulder is a whole year old! Danette celebrated 18 years of self marriage! The Raptors won the NBA finals! There is much to celebrate and be grateful for. In this episode, Danette talks about healing, receiving, how to navigate […]

In this series exploring each of the 7 Houses of Heartbreak, Danette introduces Heartbreak House Five: Self Takes the Wheel. This is everyone’s favourite House of Heartbreak – the one with the breakup haircut. The one where you quit your job, sign up for axe throwing and ask big questions like, what pattern am I […]

In this series exploring each of the 7 Houses of Heartbreak, Danette introduces Heartbreak House Four: Sob, Stitch + Sling. This house is all the crying, the mending, the mud slinging and bad behavior. It’s throwing their belongings over the balcony. Bawling in public. Embracing the mess and making space for things to get as […]

So what the hell happened? Have you ever asked yourself this about a relationship that ended? When did the end begin? In this series exploring each of the 7 Houses of Heartbreak, Danette introduces Heartbreak House Three: Surfacing + Story. This house is about allowing the multiple truths to come into light, at their own […]

Seeking Sanctuary is something we might do at any time – not just when we are heartbroken. And, you might be going through the 7 Houses of Heartbreak for something other than a romantic breakup! Your heart has more nuanced settings than “broken” or “healed”. There are spaces we occupy as we move through the […]

Your heart has more nuanced settings than “broken” or “healed”. There are spaces we occupy as we move through the fascinating and beneficial experience of heartbreak recovery. In this series exploring each of the 7 Houses of Heartbreak, Danette introduces Heartbreak House One: Shatter + Shock.