The Soul Horizon

This episode is part of the Conscious Partnership series. In it, we explore the importance of emotional attunement and containment—two key elements to building and sustaining safety, connection, and trust in relationships.

Sources

Episodes
Ep. 111: How to Be Fully Present with Your Pain

Books
How to Love Better* by Yung Pueblo

Articles
Understanding Containment and Attunement: Creating Safe Spaces for Growth
Containment Psychology: Exploring the Power of Emotional Boundaries
Therapeutic Containment: A Powerful Approach to Mental Health Treatment
10 Tips for Practicing Emotional Attunement in Relationships
The Art of Emotional Self-Containment: A Path to Inner Peace
Why Emotional Attunement Is So Important, and So Healing
Gaslighting and Attachment Theory
The Art of Providing Containment
3 Real-World Examples of How to Listen to Your Feelings

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This episode is a repost of an interview I did on Samantha Mandell's and Melissa Matthew's podcast Skirts Up! In the episode, we talk spiritual awakenings, RTT, the power of the subconscious mind, food blogging, quantum physics, and more. Happy listening!

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Resources + Links

Books

The Seat of the Soul* by Gary Zukav

The Tao of Spiritual Partnership* by Gabriella Kortsch, PhD

I Need Your Love—Is That True? How to Stop Seeking Love, Approval, and Appreciation and Start Finding Them Instead* by Byron Katie

How to Be Loving* by Danielle LaPorte

How to Love Better* by Yung Pueblo

It Begins with You* by Jillian Turecki

How to Do the Work* by Dr. Nicole LePera

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Related Episodes

Loving Ourselves the Way We Want to Be Loved

Unifying the 'Good/Bad Split' of Separation Consciousness

Unconditional Love vs. Unconditional Tolerance

Living Beyond Childhood Wounds: Reparenting ourselves and becoming self-led

Beyond Victimhood: Reclaiming and revealing your inner hero

The Freedom Found in Letting Go: Living authentically beyond the limitations of our attachments

Articles

Enmeshment vs. Intimacy in Relationships

Understanding How Attunement & Containment Help Form Attachments by Lindsay Braman (her site has a lot of great illustrations for emotional processing—especially useful for visual learners and also for explaining complex topics to kids)

Masculine Containment by Teal Swan

Your Relationship Can't Survive without Boundaries—Here's How to Set Them (It's the secret to having a long-lasting relationship)

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This is an intuitive companion episode to the previous episode. I recommend listening to the previous episode first and then coming back and giving this one a listen!

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In this episode, we're going to explore the power of being fully present with the painful emotions we experience and how, exactly, to do this (as well as how not to do it). This topic might seem like an oddly placed one in the midst of a season of episodes that's intended to be geared towards conscious relationships. And yet, the truth is that emotional opposites are intimately entangled. Painful emotions and pleasurable emotions are, in essence, two sides of the same dualistic coin. And that's why this episode is included here in the midst of a season about conscious relationships, love, connection, etc. Because to love more consciously we must bring more consciousness to all of our feeling experiences—the painful ones included.

Resources
Focusing Resources
Focusing Therapy: The Classic Six Steps
Focusing-Oriented Therapy Instructions (PDF guide)
Focusing-Oriented Therapy One: Learning How the Body Speaks and Listening so it Heals (workshop)

Podcast Episodes

Ep. 92: Beyond Victimhood—Reclaiming and revealing your own inner Hero

Ep. 88: Healing Beyond Shame: How shame sustains shadow repression + how to disintegrate ’Shamewalls’

Ep. 32: Spiritual Bypassing and the Fragmented Self

Ep. 10: Triggered: Using emotional triggers as a roadmap to healing

Reclamation Radio by Dr. Kelly Brogan: Ep. 100—How to Stop Repeating Toxic Relationship Patterns

Books
How to Be Loving* by Daniella LaPorte
How to Do the Work* by Dr. Nicole LePera
The Surrender Experiment* by Michael A. Singer
Focusing* by Eugene T. Gendlin, PhD
No Bad Parts* by Dr. Richard C. Schwartz
Beyond Anxiety* by Martha Beck

Articles
What is Parts Work?
What is Internal Family Systems Therapy?
Soul Work & Internal Family Systems (IFS) Beginner's Guide
Crying as a Powerful Stress Reliever: The Surprising Truth
9 Ways Crying May Benefit Your Health

Signs You're Intellectualizing Instead of Feeling Your Feelings

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In this episode, we're going to explore the concept of emotional addiction. Season 4 is all about conscious relationships—with loved ones, partners, family members, friends, colleagues, and perhaps most importantly, with ourselves. The better we know ourselves and the more we understand how this human body computer system that we inhabit works, the more consciously we're able to show up in all aspects of our lives, relationships included. 

Sources + Resources List (it was too long to include in the show notes, so I dropped the list in a google doc for you)

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This is an intuitive companion episode to the previous episode (episode 108). I recommend you listen to that episode first and then coming back to listen to this one.

Resources

Soulful Prayer of Surrender

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Welcome to season 4 of The Soul Horizon podcast! We're kicking this season off with an episode that lays the foundation for many if not all of the episodes to come this season. We're exploring the concept of spiritual choice and free will. Specifically, the idea of choosing between what's known as the vertical path and the horizontal path. Simply put, walking the vertical path is a soul-led or heart-guided process, whereas walking the horizontal path is a personality or ego-led process. 

In the words of Zukav (The Seat of the Soul p. 227):

And this is exactly why committing to the vertical path is so profoundly empowering, enlivening, and expansive. 

Podcast Episodes

The Ego Is an Instagram Filter

Books
The Seat of the Soul* by Gary Zukav

Articles
The Seat of the Soul: How to Harness Your Authentic Power
The Two Wolves Story (Here's its Deeper Meaning) by Loner Wolf

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Loving the people the mind deems "loveable" is an easy task. Loving those who rub the mind the wrong way is difficult. And yet doing so is the truest testament to the meaning of love. To love someone who isn’t easily “lovable” by the mind’s standards is to access the depths of love from the space of the heart. In this episode, we'll explore the differences between these two types of love and examine the power of heart-based love and its potential to heal the planet.

Sources
Childre, D. L., Rozman, D., Martin, H., & McCraty, R. (2022). *Heart intelligence: Connecting with the heart's intuitive guidance for effective choices and solutions. Waterside Productions.

McCraty, R. (2004). The energetic heart: Bioelectromagnetic communication within and between people. Bioelectromagnetic Medicine, 531–552. https://doi.org/10.3109/9780203021651-42

Ruiz, D. M. (1999). *The Mastery of Love. Amber-Allen Publishing.

Continued Reading + Resources

Global Coherence Initiative
Relationship Based on Ego vs. Heart
The Heart's Electromagnetic Field is Your Superpower
The Energetic Heart is Unfolding
Electricity of Touch Experiment
The Energetic Heart: Bioelectromagnetic Communication Within and Between People
Heart Lock-In Technique for fostering heart coherence

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Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for entertainment and informational purposes only and does not substitute individual psychological advice.

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 In this episode, we'll explore why welcoming emotional triggers is a necessary step in the process of deep healing. And how the things and people that trigger us serve as messengers and as tour guides, leading us to the areas that need to be healed.


EPISODE LINKS
Blog post: The Ego's Greatest Lie + The Pain Body
Article: Calming Your Brain During Conflict

EPISODE SOURCES
Goleman, D. (2020). *Emotional intelligence. Bantam Books.

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