June 1st- #152 Thoughtful Thursday

I will bear my real self to the world today.

I don’t have to hide, I don’t have to wear a mask…because who I am is pretty freaking amazing. This might sound conceded but you are a treasure to know… and it’s one of the best gifts you can give people.  The chance to know the real you, the vulnerable you, the strongest you, the deepest you, the best you.

We do the world a disservice by hiding our authentic self. However, we must be unapologetic for bearing our souls.  Why should we feel shame for disturbing the waters of normality? People want us to stay in line so they can keep us in their boxes of understanding. They feel safer knowing the concept of you, but you and I will tear away that box and allow people to get to know the most amazing real authentic people that we are.

So today, if you feel an uneasiness in the center of your chest, ask yourself is it coming from holding back a portion of your soul? Is it coming from dulling your light so you don’t stand out as much, is it the fear and anxiety of people seeing the best parts of you and maybe not living up to their expectations?

You are meant to shine, NOT FOR ANYONE ELSE, but for you. And when you do this…you shine automatically for everyone else. You become the example of who they want to be most like. When you STOP focusing on the lies that you have told yourself such as being found out for being a fraud, weird, too sensitive, or any other fear you’re holding onto because you might be judged for it….well, when you let go and focus on the real you, you will begin freeing yourself from the chains you’ve put on yourself.

No one else has put the chains on you, and when you pivot from your fear and work on bearing the real you unapologetically…you will release your anxiety and you will begin to live in alignment with the ease of life, and you will bear the realest most natural you with ease instead of forcing to fit in or trying to figure out what others expect of you.  And when you shine the real you, you will connect more with others, and you will make your life matter in the greatest sense you could ever imagine.

I know it may sound hard to let people see who you truly are, but it isn’t hard. It’s just shedding the skin of the person you thought you had to be, and allowing the most beautiful you to be seen. The people who are meant to see your best self—will, and you will be glad you made the choice to be real.

I will bear my real self to the world today.

Thanks for listening.  I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn

Contact info- email: [email protected]  phone:865-219-3247

Music by: Basematic-Zest
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide

May 31-#151 Wisdom Wednesdays

Home isn’t some far off land, it’s always where I stand.

Searching for treasures in far off lands have always had great appeal to us.  Look at all the movies that focus on finding all that plunder in an exotic search upon a map where X marks the spot. We’ve spent years being told that to gain the treasures we want in this life…that we need to go somewhere else.

I’ve spent years living in one place, and the luster of traveling to see something different is a calming and saving thought towards our monotonous lives. And so I moved away in hopes to find what I was looking for, and while I had great adventures it didn’t make it better, it just made it different.  The greatest treasures we can ever own have never been far off, but right within ourselves or our own backyards.  The successful aren’t people who are lucky, but they are people who think differently about the same things… that people see as ordinary. 

The most beautiful things have been at home, and home has never been a place, but it’s always been where I stand.  The people I loved, even when they were far away, were really close as I held them within my heart. I will find a way to love where I am, not because I settle, but because I see the beauty in what is within me and in front of me consistently.

Home isn’t some far off land, it’s always where I stand.

Thanks for listening.  I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn

Contact info- email: [email protected]  phone:865-219-3247

Music by: Basematic-Zest
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide

May 30-#150 Tag Me Tuesdays

We build each other up, so let’s help each other.

I’ve been torn down by many people in my life. It probably wasn’t purposefully directed towards me, but rather people just trying to survive in this world…and unsure how.  Self-preservation is a natural instinct for us humans.  We will do what it takes to survive, but there’s a better way than self-preservation.  We can focus on inter-preservation, the idea that we survive better together—helping each other.

No person is an island. We think that to be a successful person you have to be self made, but that’s an outdated concept as everything we touch has been thought of, tooled, and made available through the minds and hands of many. 

Think about it like this: you could build a whole house with your own hands.  The thing is, someone had to cut the trees to make the boards for you, someone had to manufacture and melt the metal to create the nails for you, someone had to build the tools you used to hammer in those boards and nails, and if we look at the biggest picture…is that someone, something, or even some energy had to create this world in order for you to be able to have the plot of land you are building upon.

We build each other up, and when we realize that we aren’t self-made but connected—we create better things and ideas. I was listening to a radio program on technology, and it was asking the question of if machines would make humans obsolete.  The presenter said that in chess matches that when computers and humans worked together that it could beat any human or any computer in the world.  We work better together, so let us build each other up and help each other to where we all need and want to go.

We build each other up, so let’s help each other.

Thanks for listening.  I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn

Contact info- email: [email protected]  phone:865-219-3247

Music by: Basematic-Zest
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide

May 29-#149 Mindful Mondays

This too shall pass.

I know this is a famous reference that’s used in many religious communities, and I can see why—it’s such a calming and truthful statement.  It’s such a wonderful sentence as it helps to take the burdens off our shoulders by reminding us that the issues won’t be here forever.  Whatever you are going through it’s nice to be reminded of truth that you will get through the burdens you bear.

There’s a lesson in every situation, and the problems that are happening are not to weaken you or break you. And I can promise you one thing…that whatever your issue or problem is….this too shall pass. So, why not become stronger during this time of challenge instead of submitting and giving up and giving in?  Why not learn the lesson, why not become better, why not earn your stripes instead of having them handed to you?  No matter how long you’ve been struggling, have faith in knowing that this too shall pass, and with just a little strength and consistency you will become better because of this hardship at the moment.

Change doesn’t happen instantly; it happens every day, every moment, in every choice that we make to step just a little closer to that bigger goal we wish to be at. The battle’s not in winning the whole war…in one blow, but the victories happen by focusing to win every day with consistent actions towards believing and knowing that this too shall pass . 

Be deliberate with positive actions, words, and thoughts towards who you want to be.  Win every day, not just a day here or there trying to win the whole war with minimal effort.

This too shall pass.

Thanks for listening.  I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn

Contact info- email: [email protected]  phone:865-219-3247

Music by: Basematic-Zest
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide

May 28-#148 Smiling Sunday

I will always have more money than I need

One of my clients would say this all the time. And the funny thing is, he never struggled for money. Money always found a way to him, and he felt more than comfortable with his settings.  When we focus on lack we get more of it, when we focus on abundance we become more plentiful.

It’s such a simple life lesson, but it’s so much easier to focus more on what you don’t have.  We are physical beings so it’s easier to look at what is happening right now in our lives rather than having a crystal-clear vision of what we want and seeing how we can create it later with that focus.  

Focusing on what we don’t want also gives us the excuse that if we don’t have what we want it’s because we weren’t meant to have it, it wasn’t in the cards. Which gives us an out to not work, and it also gives us an out to put the blame elsewhere of why we don’t have what we want.

But it’s not about putting the blame anywhere, it’s about looking at the truth of how the universe works. What we put our focus on…we create. So, if you focus on what you don’t have more often you will get more of that, but if you focus on what you want and take the necessary physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, and environmental steps…then you create AND attract what you want. It seems almost like magic, but it’s not, it purposeful and deliberate focus to know that thoughts create things. 

Let’s get a little scientific here… everything in this world is a vibration. Our thoughts are vibrations, and the phone in your hand while it seems physical is actually the atoms vibrating in such a manner that it creates that exact physical thing.  Everything is a vibration and when you understand that your thoughts are real things you will begin to understand you are the architect of your life…literally.

We think that life just happens to us, but life is reacting to us.  The universe is bringing into our lives what we focus on.  So, what are you focusing on? Are you focusing on how you can’t, how it won’t, or how you never have had it before; or are you focusing on how you can, how it will, and how it always works out with a better focus?

I will always have more money than I need because I work with the universe and not against it. I focus on abundance and receiving.

Thanks for listening.  I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn

Contact info- email: [email protected]  phone:865-219-3247

Music by: Basematic-Zest
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide

May 27-#147 Synergy Saturday

I’m not a manager; I don’t manage. I’m a leader, as I lead by example.

They say there’s a difference between a manager and a leader. A manger, manages, but a leader leads.  A manager forces people to do things while a leader encourages. A manager comes into their job, a leader lives and embodies their job with their life.

Leaders are the example and they make others want to be a part of what they’re selling.  That’s the secret though, leaders aren’t selling anything except the ideas of living a better life by embodying better principles every moment.  Management is a job that you force yourself to go to, leadership is a lifestyle that you become.  So, let us become the examples we wish to be instead of filling in the places we don’t want to be.

I’m not a manager; I don’t manage. I’m a leader, as I lead by example.

Thanks for listening.  I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn

Contact info- email: [email protected]  phone:865-219-3247

Music by: Basematic-Zest
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide

May 26-#146 Fantastic Fridays

I have a birthday every day. God has given me one more day of birth.

Birthdays have never been a big deal for me because every day has been another birth, another chance, another way for me to make my life amazing. As each moment I’m granted, is another present from the Creator—I accept it thankfully.  Like a little child I unwrap each moment with a fury, trying to get the wrapping paper off of my gift with such excitement. So I want to thank you, the Creator, for another year, I want to thank you for the friends who have turned into family, I want to thank you for those you took out of my life who weren’t right for me, I want to thank you for making my life a beautiful movie, and I want to thank you for giving me one more day to live my beautiful life.  I am in appreciation of all you have done for me, and I don’t take my life lightly as every day is one more day of birth for me. Thank you.

I have a birthday every day. God has given me one more day of birth.

Thanks for listening.  I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn

Contact info- email: [email protected]  phone:865-219-3247

Music by: Basematic-Zest
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide

May 25-#145 Thoughtful Thursdays

The world is a beautiful place.

There is war, there is famine, there is hatred, greed, and jealousy. There is death and murder, there is decay and suffering, there is dirty, cold, and extreme blistering heat…and among all of that… the world still is a beautiful place. 

Our world becomes what we focus on, so I focus on what I want to see so I can create it that way.  There is no right or wrong within my mind, there only is what is.

There have been people who have had tortured childhoods, and unimaginable circumstances happen to them over and over again, and yet…they still found a way to make it through.  They even found ways to laugh and thrive again.  They have found ways to become successful despite all their hardships and pain. 

So if others can do it, I can overcome my hardships and pains too.  I’m not comparing my situations to theirs’s as a way of trying to make it a contest to see who suffered more, but I will know we all deal with our own different hells.  It’s just whether we choose to find heaven in the situations we’re in.  I choose to find the beauty in the world, and when I do this I find that the world becomes more beautiful.

The world is a beautiful place.

Thanks for listening.  I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn

Contact info- email: [email protected]  phone:865-219-3247

Music by: Basematic-Zest
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide

May 24-#144 Wisdom Wednesdays

People focus on being cool, I focus on being kind.

People who focus on being cool all the time are actually being fake.  It’s exhausting trying to make sure that you don’t look silly to everyone. We think that being looked at as different, silly, or weird is a bad thing when in fact coolness doesn’t connect us to the right people anyways.  I would rather be kind than cool, and I would rather be called the weirdo for being overly kind.

I have been called weird all my life. My brother would laugh at me when I would be at the grocery store and I would be striking up a conversation with the cashier making sure they had a good day. I have had clients call me weird for silly things I did in greeting when I was excited for the first time in meeting them.  The thing is I am sure those people weren’t trying to be mean to me, but it kind hurt me deeply inside when I was called weird by them.

I tried to get a perspective on it, so I got to thinking about it, and their definition of weird just means I am not of the norm. 

So let us be not of the norm, let us be above what people think you need to be in this world to fit in, let us be so extraordinary, so weird, so amazing, so kind…that the world will never be the same because we decided to share our kindness instead of trying to project our fake coolness.

People will call you names, and most of them probably won’t mean to hurt you when they do it. Just know that you are a beautiful weirdo; I am a beautiful weirdo. We aren’t strange, we just are not of the norm, and that is an amazing thing my friend.

I’m looking forward to focusing on things that matter with you as we share our kindness and help build up as many people as we can within this world.

People focus on being cool, I focus on being kind.

Thanks for listening.  I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn

Contact info- email: [email protected]  phone:865-219-3247

Music by: Basematic-Zest
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide

May 23-#143 Tag Me Tuesdays

The cocoon is not the ending, it is the beginning of my transition.

We try to compare our chapter 1 with someone’s chapter 15.  I was talking with a student of mine who recently went through a divorce, and her fear was of starting over and not being able to make it on her own.  I listened to each story she was telling as we were walking.  I wanted to make sure she had let out each story that was keeping her hostage , and after she finished, we worked on changing the physical first. 

Everything we think manifests into the physical, so when we focus on negative thoughts or situations we feel stuck in we slump down and get as close to the fetal position as we possible can.  I asked her to stand up straight, to elongate her spine, to raise her head and eyes forward, and to roll her shoulders down and back. After she stood up straight I asked her how she felt, she said, “better.” I said good, now I want you to begin taking nice slow natural deep breaths.  I waited a minute while she did that and then I asked her how she felt, and she said “much better.”

When we focus on fear we get in fight or flight mode and our breathing shallows.  When we breathe deeper through our diaphragm it gives our body what it needs, it helps us time to stop and think more logically…it gives us a pause from the emotional thinking that isn’t true, and it helps us to step back and think things through. That pause becomes a trigger or placeholder in the future for helping us to pivot from our anxiety and fears to calm and creative thoughts  that helps us change our perspective and work through our problems.

After we got her physically feeling better, we looked more closely at the stories she was continually telling.  She said things like, “I am moving backwards instead of forwards, I depended on this person financially for my livelihood I can’t do this on my own, I’ve been out of the workforce too long I’ll never be able to get back in, or who would want an old woman like me,” and other stories she was telling that weren’t true.

I reminded her that she hadn’t moved backwards but was entering a new story.  She was creating a whole new book, and was not going back in chapters of her old life.  She was the new and improved 2.0 version of herself free to choose any direction she wanted to go.  While it felt like a blow to where she was, it actually was the cocooning process helping to get her ready to become the new butterfly of her life.

What stories have you been telling that have been keeping you from cocooning into the butterfly you are meant to be?

When you are moving forward in your life, know that with each transition and every struggle, the opening of your wings didn’t just happen, you had to go through a cocooning process to prepare you to be able to hold such great and magnificent wings. 

What story do you have to tell to help you prepare for your new transition?  Change doesn’t just happen to us, change happens in the world and we decide to embrace it and choose our direction, or we decide to freeze up and be a victim of that change.  I hope you decide to choose your path, and not let your path be chosen for you.

The cocoon is not the ending, it is the beginning of my transition.

Thanks for listening.  I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn

Contact info- email: [email protected]  phone:865-219-3247

Music by: Basematic-Zest
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide