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Kim DePaola—best known to millions of Bravo fans as Kim D from The Real Housewives of New Jersey—first made waves with her unapologetic personality and sharp wit. A New Jersey native with deep roots in family and community, Kim built her career as a successful entrepreneur and fashion boutique owner. Her store, Posche Boutique, became a hub not just for style, but for the fiery drama that often spilled onto the small screen.

On The Real Housewives of New Jersey, Kim appeared across multiple seasons, quickly becoming one of the show’s most talked-about figures. She embraced the role of truth-teller and occasional provocateur, never shying away from saying what others only thought. That candor—sometimes controversial, always entertaining—cemented her as a memorable force in the Housewives universe.

But Kim D is more than reality TV. She’s a mother, a survivor of personal loss, an author of My Life With the Big Boys, and now a podcaster herself, hosting Get Real with Kim D. Through her platform, she shares unfiltered conversations on life, relationships, and resilience, proving she’s just as captivating off-screen as she was on camera.

Whether you know her for her signature sass, her love of fashion, or her fierce loyalty to those she cares about, one thing is certain: Kim DePaola is a woman who continues to reinvent herself—and she always keeps it real.

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Heidi Ramsey retired after 23 years with the Ohio State Highway Patrol, serving in various operational and administrative capacities during her tenure.  During this time, she was responsible for creating SIGNAL, a preparation course for troopers seeking promotion to sergeant; the Public Safety Leadership Academy, a 10-week leadership course for mid-level police supervisors; and Ohio ASSIST, a three-day post critical incident seminar for first responders dealing with the aftermath of traumatic events.  She also held assignments at the Academy, Labor Relations, Legal Services, and Human Resources prior to her retirement in 2018. 

Currently, Mrs. Ramsey serves as an instructor at the FBI National Academy, a 10-week leadership course for law enforcement executives from around the world.  Her primary course of instruction is Leading At-Risk Employees, which provides resources and strategies for managers to deal with employees who are suffering from substance use disorders, post-traumatic stress, suicide, and depression.  She also teaches Navigating Internal Leadership Crises, which deals with strategies for managing crisis situations considering tactics, policy, communication, and wellness issues. 

Mrs. Ramsey graduated from the FBI National Academy in December 2016 and has a Bachelor of Arts degree from Cleveland State University, a Master of Business Administration degree from Capital University, and a Juris Doctorate degree with a concentration in Employment Law from Capital University Law School.  She is a certified attorney in the State of Ohio and resides in Manassas, Virginia with her husband, Mike, and their two dogs, Dutchess and Star.

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Part 2 is even Crazier!

The Boys are all here!! Bobby Crudele, Mike Depalma, and Tom Flynn all come into the studio for the first time and practice their Chops on a variety of random topics to see who has the sharpest tongue.  Wait until you hear the wit that comes from these four friends because in all honesty you never know who is going to say what and god knows what they are going to say.

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The Boys are all here!! Bobby Crudele, Mike Depalma, and Tom Flynn all come into the studio for the first time and practice their Chops on a variety of random topics to see who has the sharpest tongue.  Wait until you hear the wit that comes from these four friends because in all honesty you never know who is going to say what and god knows what they are going to say.

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Amy Grace, 50, is an accomplished professional and devoted mother, known for her resilience, integrity, and empathetic nature. She earned her master’s degree from Gwynedd Mercy University in 2022 and currently serves as an Assistant Vice President of Patient Access, where she applies her leadership skills to ensure patients receive the care and support they need. A single mother of two sons, she has balanced a demanding career with a deep commitment to her family. Her oldest son, Mark, will turn 30 in December, and her youngest, Grady, is 12.

In August 2023, Amy’s family faced a profound challenge when her son Mark, then serving as a police officer, was charged following a police-involved shooting. After a lengthy legal process, he was found guilty of voluntary manslaughter. Despite the emotional toll of this experience, Amy and her family have remained steadfast in their values and she is raising her children to be honest, compassionate, and willing to help others in need. She draws strength from her family, which includes her three sisters, and honors the memory of her late parents by living a life rooted in love and empathy.

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Bill Styskal started his career in law enforcement with the Montclair Police Department in July of 1982 as a Deputy Police Officer. Bill served with the Montclair Police Department for 8 years. In 1990 Bill was hired by the Essex Fells Police Department and attended the Morris County Police Academy where he graduated from the 40th Basic Police Officers Class. Bill served 15 years with Essex Fells rising to the rank of Detective. Bill was assigned as a task force officer with the Federal Bureau of Investigation’s Fugitive Task Force out of Newark NJ while serving with Essex Fells. Bill later transferred to the West Caldwell Police Department where he finished his career in 2015. While with West Caldwell Police, Bill was assigned to the Essex County Bureau of Narcotics in Newark NJ. 

Throughout Bill’s career of over forty-three years, his work productivity has earned him numerous acknowledgments on his performance including awards and commendations.  He served on the West Essex Policemen's Benevolent Association Local 81 executive board for 12 years. Bill served and chaired on many committees including the scholarship committee and the golf committee. He served two terms as Recording Secretary, one term as Vice President and one term as President. He received the States highest recognition for his service, awarding him the Gold Life Membership award in 2001.

After Bill retired in 2015, he took on a new career with the Stevens Institute of Technology in Hoboken as a campus police officer. He rose to the ranks of Detective, Sergeant and Detective Sergeant. Bill has always had the passion for helping others but more so his fellow officers. He got involved in officer resiliency and serves not only the officers of Hudson County but the State of New Jersey.  

Bill understands the importance of the role of a Resiliency Officer within law enforcement. In today’s profession, officers are not only tasked with upholding the law and protecting communities, but they are also facing increasingly complex challenges, both externally and internally. The emotional, psychological, and physical demands placed on officers can be overwhelming, and that’s why the position of Resiliency Officer is more critical now than ever. 

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Sheri raised in South Jersey by a single mom. Her father left the family when she was 3 and was in her life sporadically until she severed the relationship with him when she was 28. Her family has deep roots in a blue collar, Irish Catholic neighborhood in Southwest Philadelphia. Sheri’s first introduction to trauma was through a relationship she had in her 20’s. She met this man within a year of his return from the first Gulf War where he served on the ground in the Army during Desert Storm. At the time he was suffering from undiagnosed PTSD and was putting himself through art school in Philadelphia. This relationship continued for about 16 years. She was his unconditional support and he was her greatest cheerleader. The experience with him set her on the path to the work she does now. At the age of 27 Sheri enrolled in Rutgers University in Camden where she acquired a BA in Psychology with a minor in Philosophy. During her time at Rutgers she worked as a direct support professional at a Neuro Behavioral Stabilization unit with kids with Autism and other intellectual disabilities who were

exhibited severe crisis behavior. Within a year of graduating, the events of September 11 th occurred and as a result Sheri enrolled at Chestnut Hill College where she received a Master of Science in Counseling and Human Services with a concentration in Psychological Trauma. 

While completing graduate school Sheri did an internship at the sexual assault crisis center in Camden NJ and provided in home counseling to kids in crisis due to abuse, grief and sometimes a combination of both. She also worked for Children’s Mobile Response team in Camden County. In 2009 Sheri started a job as a Behavior Specialist at a school which served students who could not be were not able to be educated in their home districts. The students displayed moderate to severe behavior problems as well as a variety of intellectual, learning and mental health disabilities. While she worked there she became certified as a Board Certified Behavior Analyst and remained in the position for 14 years. Sheri worked individually with students and teachers and provided professional development related to compassionate behavior management and trauma informed care. After short tenures at 2 other public schools in the same role she is taking her career in a new direction and is entering into the realm of consulting.

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Alexis Abate is a Licensed Professional Counselor, National Board-Certified Counselor, Psychiatric Clinician in the Emergency Department, and Adjunct Professor of Psychology.

Following a profound spiritual awakening and a healing journey through autoimmune illness and mold toxicity, Alexis developed a powerful, integrative approach that blends evidence-based science with spiritual wisdom.

Her work centers on helping others uncover the root causes of suffering and reconnect with the deeper intelligence of the soul through mind-body healing. Drawing from ancient wisdom and modern knowledge, Alexis guides people to reclaim their authenticity, purpose, and inner strength.

With a strong in symbolism, soul psychology, and the deeper layers of spiritual experiences, she offers a unique perspective that bridges emotion and logic. Alexis goes beyond traditional healing by revealing hidden patterns behind life’s challenges and supporting others through the mental and spiritual shifts that lead to true renewal.

Her research on generational trauma and the link between birth control and female depression has been accepted at conferences nationwide. She has also been featured in Fox News articles for her expertise in mental health.

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Lets talk about the origin of true Suffering and have a honest and open discussion about Jesus Christ.  If we think back to the genesis of the show, who would you pick to show what true Suffering embodies and the overcoming of that to be reborn.  There are none other that can be thought of other than Jesus Christ. 

On this episode we talk about what it took for this man to become divine and enter into Legendary status by enduring the ultimate suffering.  

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Brian Sizemore is a long-time employee of AT&T and is the founder of Law Enforcements United Crusade Against Suicide-The LUCAS Foundation. The foundation was formed in honor and memory of his son Lucas (an Atlanta Police Officer) who took his own life last year. The LUCAS Foundation works to eradicate law enforcement suicide and Brian currently serves as the foundation’s President/CEO.

Brian lives in the suburbs south of Detroit with his wife of 33 years, Marie, and his son Evan. When not working, he spends time with his family, his dogs and loves the outdoors. You can find Brian and The LUCAS Foundation on LinkedIn and all the social media sites.

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