In this episode, Alix & Kayla dive into the internet discourse that blew up:
Are lesbians allowed to have dating preferences—specifically around bi women or trans women—without being labeled discriminatory or TERFs? Check out the post that started the comments war HERE!

This conversation isn’t about exclusion—it's about autonomy, nuance, and consent in queer dating.

🎙️ Whether you agree or disagree, you’ll want to be in the comments for this one.

02:00 – Why real conversations matter
02:32 – Gay This or That (gay brunch vs. gay rave, U-Haul vs. slow burn, etc.)
06:10 – Episode topic reveal: The TERF Talk
07:40 – The viral reel that started everything
10:39 – When “preferences” go viral
12:15 – What TERF actually means
16:44 – “Are we TERFs?”
22:28 – Sexual preference vs. discrimination
30:02 – Should we question our preferences?
38:30 – “Why say it out loud?”
43:26 – Preferences in queer culture (femme for femme, masc, etc.)
51:06 – Why gay men don’t get this backlash
56:21 – My body, my choice—also applies to dating
01:02:17 – Who’s the problem? (Queer Ultimatum being cancelled)

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