The Things We Carry

Do you constantly feel like you're bracing for impact? Maybe you feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulders? Does it ever just get too damn HARD? I get it! In today's episode, I'm bringing back one of the first episodes I recorded for the podcast where I'm faced these feelings head on with the help of my business coach, Julia Wells, a.k.a. The Pussy Based Business Coach. There was no plan. No script. Just honesty. Listen in to hear Julia guide me through facing some of my biggest fears when it comes to my business. Will I be able to break through that safety wall or not?

We're digging into:

• If I'm on track to hitting my Million Dollar Year milestone
• The fear of others' opinions and how that affects business (or does it?)
• How we get stuck in that vicious cycle of overworking and burnout
• If suffering is required for success or if it can be easy
• The difference between something being hard v. heavy and why that's a breakthrough for me
• How our success makes others feel (should we care?)
• Why we play down our own success and how to stop
• And so much more!

Join Julia in her FREE private Facebook group, Visible AF: https://www.facebook.com/groups/VisibleAF/

Send Julia a DM on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/juliamotherfuckingwells/

Find out more about my work and dive in at https://jenunderwoodleadership.com/ or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/jenunderwoodleadership/

Do you ever experience moments or seasons of anxiety or depression? Are you familiar with being overwhelmed with overthinking or overfeeling? I get it. I've been there and I know what it's like. It's heavy. It's exhausting. And at times it feels like it won't ever change. Anxiety and depression are hot button topics, but I'm not shying away.

On today's episode, I'm honored to welcome Habekkah, a Somatic and Soul Coach, a Kundalini Yoga Teacher, Writer, and an Emotional Leadership student. She's here to share her story of living with severe anxiety and what has most helped her in moving through it. It's a beautiful and important conversation, so I hope you'll listen in.

We're exploring:

• How Habekkah's experience with anxiety has shaped her leadership & her mission
• My personal views on anxiety & depression: How would I define them? Are they genetic conditions? Are they life-long? (You may not agree!)
• How anxiety impacts creativity: Does it hinder or help? And why?
• Habekkah's biggest takeaways from Emotional Leadership & her message to anyone considering joining
• The physical toll of anxiety and depression & where in the body it's held
• What's next for Habekkah & how you can join in
• Plus much more!

You can connect with Habekkah on Instagram: @habekkah | https://www.instagram.com/habekkah

Sign up the Emotional Leadership program here: https://jenunderwoodleadership.com/the-emotional-leadership-certification

Find out more about my work and dive in at https://jenunderwoodleadership.com/ or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/jenunderwoodleadership/

Are you afraid of causing harm in your practice or relationships? Are you hesitant to have conflict? Can you really ever hold everyone and never bring about pain?

Yah, I'm going there today, and I'm bringing someone with me.

Today, I welcome Jenevie Shoykhet of Mama Bear Medicine to join me in this discussion on harm in leadership. She's an Emotional Leadership student, a Reiki Master, and a Spirit Medicine Practitioner with over 20 years of experience helping her clients get on board with their anger and learn how to experience it in a healthy way. We're ruffling the feathers today. We're diving deep into that gray area. We're going where not many people ever want to go and I hope you'll listen in because there's so much to unpack, and it's ALL good!

We're exploring:

• How the fear of hurting people can hold you back as a leader
• Why anger deserves a seat at the table
• What your responsibility is in someone else's hurt
• If you can ever be fully ready to hold everyone and never harm
• What to do when your events or programs become triggering
• If safety can be guaranteed in every space & how it's different from comfort
• When hurt becomes the medicine
• Why mentorship can help in ANY industry

And so much more!

Find out more about Jenevie on her website: https://www.mamabearmeds.com/work-with-me

Sign up the Emotional Leadership program here: https://jenunderwoodleadership.com/the-emotional-leadership-certification

Find out more about my work and dive in at https://jenunderwoodleadership.com/ or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/jenunderwoodleadership/

How can you be more emotionally available to those you lead? What does it mean to lead from the front of the room? On this episode I'm bringing back this fantastic interview with Tim DeSutter, fellow coach and mentor in the field of wellness and personal development, and we discuss how it might not mean what you think. What happens when we say "I will go first"? Offering a bit of yourself to those you lead, could help you both see exponential growth. Dive in with us to hear how!

I'm exploring:

• The difference between leading FROM the front and being IN the front of the room
• What it means to be a vulnerable leader and model the work for others
• How showing up in and for our community as an equal makes us better leaders - get rid of the "teacher chair"
• Where leading in the corporate world differs from the personal one and where it can be the same
• The "old" vs "new concepts of leadership and how your own humanity plays a huge part
• Learning to let go of the shame block from our cultural and religious environments before we can help others do the same
• How YOU can snag a spot to work with Tim this summer!

And so much more!

The next cohort of Emotional Leadership is enrolling now! Find out more and sign up at https://jenunderwoodleadership.com/the-emotional-leadership-certification

Check out Tim DeSutter at www.timdesutter.com/ and on instagram at https://www.instagram.com/timdesutter

Find out more about my work and dive in at https://jenunderwoodleadership.com or come shoot me a message on IG! https://instagram.com/jenunderwoodleadership

What is your automatic, go-to response? Are you prone to reacting rather than pausing to check in to see what's real for you? And what is it that you truly want? What is it that your heart is calling for? Do you know?

These can be difficult questions for some to answer and that's OK. Join me today as I welcome Julie Pulido into this conversation on finding your truth and finding what feels good and right for you in a world that tells us all to fit in and go with the flow. Julie's a long-time client of mine. She's a mentor and a teacher helping people bring themselves back home, to themselves, on their journey to finding peace and alignment. So often we find ourselves not really in the driver seat of our own life, being pushed this way and that, reacting and never checking in. So, what can you do about it? What did Julie do about it? Come, find out!

We're exploring:

• How we, as humans, all react at times, but is it OK? And what should come after?
• What it looked like for Julie to be disconnected to self, when it ALL began to change, and what sped up the connecting process for her
• The misconception of understanding trauma (even for those well educated in psychology!)
• Julie's experience shoving it all down as a high-functioning codependent (sound familiar?) & where she is NOW!
• Experiencing joyful moments v. intentionally accessing joy: what's the difference?
• Why making business changes when they're right for you can make all the difference!
• How the Emotional Leadership program impacted Julie & the magic of community that's waiting for you
• Plus much more!

You can connect with Julie at www.manifestyoucoaching.com

Sign up the Emotional Leadership program here: https://jenunderwoodleadership.com/the-emotional-leadership-certification

Find out more about my work and dive in at https://jenunderwoodleadership.com/ or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/jenunderwoodleadership/

You can be stirred. You can be activated. You can have things you need to work on and still stay in the process, still stay in your life, AND lead it. This work is deep. It's potent. It can even be painful at times, but is it worth it?

As we wrap up the year in the Emotional Leadership program, I'm excited to welcome students to share about their experiences in this container and in themselves on their leadership journeys. Today, I'm joined by Inger Brown. As a somatic practitioner, Inger is dedicated to helping clients find spaciousness with greater connection to self, and do the work of self-remembering. As we often find, so much of what we teach is what we're learning ourselves. So, join us today for this gentle exploration of all that Inger has learned and experienced within this program. Does she consider herself a leader now? Was the program worth it for her in the end? Does this program work for those that prefer a slower approach? And what does it have to offer YOU? Listen in to find out!

We're exploring:

• One of Inger's most challenging moments within the container: how she worked through it and how the group dynamic impacted that moment
• How this program can help you refine your intuition
• A BIG misconception surrounding what readiness is and what it requires
• What feels lighter for Inger as the program wraps up: what has she let go of? What are you carrying within you?
• The richness in differences: what you can learn from the coed group experience
• And much more!

You can connect with Inger on:www.apothecaryoftherose.com

IG: @ingergaybrown

FB: inger.brown.96

Find out more about my work and Emotional Leadership at https://jenunderwoodleadership.com/ or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/jenunderwoodleadership/

Inger works with her clients to create the spaciousness within that allows them to be connected with themselves, their intuition, creativity, and desires. She walks with them on the journey of self-remembering, a reclamation of all that allows them to call their lives sacred.

Change is scary. And it's hard enough in your personal life, but I've often found there is even more fear and confusion when you feel called to change and grow in your business. You might be thinking, "Can you even DO that as a leader or business owner? Won't your audience get confused or think you're flaky?"

In today's episode I want to answer those questions for you as well as walk you behind the scenes of one of my upcoming big business changes.

So if you've also been feeling called forth into something new in your life or business or you just want an inside peek at the mindset behind someone else's big shift, you don't want to miss this one.

I'm diving into:

• What makes our fears around shifting and changing so difficult and crunchy
• The thing we actually need to do in order to uplevel as business owners and thought leaders
• Reflections on my last major rebrand and how a new upcoming rebrand for me feels so different
• Examples of fears you might have during a phase of releasing the old and stepping into the new, and sharing some of mine during my current rebrand

Find out more about my work and dive in at https://emotionaldominatrix.com/ or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/the_emotional_dominatrix

If you're anywhere on your own path of personal development, you've probably at one point or another had a thought like, "does this ever END?!" We've all been there, right? But on today's episode I want to invite you into a different way of looking at it that'll actually make you a better leader AND enjoy the process so much more.

I'm joined today by Tim DeSutter, my co-facilitator in Emotional Leadership, to share with you the answer to that question, a new definition of leadership to consider, and THIS shift we each made in our journeys that changed everything.

We're breaking down:

• The two ways you can look at personal growth work and the one required to take your leadership to the next level
• How to soothe your ego in the process of continued development and learning while also holding your genius
• One major contributor to more ease when walking a new path
• The molting, death, and rebirth cycles we undergo as we grow and evolve
• Some of our favorite moments in Emotional Leadership
• One of the most important things you can do on your growth and healing journey

Get on the waitlist for the 2023 cohort of Emotional Leadership: https://emotionaldominatrix.com/the-emotional-leadership-certification

Find out more about my work and dive in at https://emotionaldominatrix.com/ or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/the_emotional_dominatrix

How do we balance the side of ourselves that only finds worth in winning the one that understands the journey is the success? We can change how we define a "win"! Katie Kozel is challenging herself with this today. Katie is a sex, love & relationship coach who is dedicated to unshaming sexuality. She works with couples, helping them to talk about literally anything and everything in their relationship so that they can go from feeling like roommates back to lovers. Today Katie and I talk about how she can offer herself that same open communication and grace and learn to feel both fulfilled and more relaxed running her business. We can all relate to this one on some level, so join us in learning how to balance our inner conflict!

We're exploring:

• Balancing a total trust that it will work out with our own impatience
• What it means when there is no finish line
• Keeping focused and positive when the goalpost keeps moving
• Accepting you will never cross a finish line
• Learning to feel each step as you take it and enjoy the walk
• What success means for each part of yourself
• Identifying our own needs and offering assurance to ourselves
• Redefining your own success

You can find her at www.katiekozel.comFind out more about the Emotional Leadership Certification and join the waitlist at https://emotionaldominatrix.com/the-emotional-leadership-certification or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/the_emotional_dominatrix

Sometimes, it can be hard to get to the root of what is really holding us back. We may place our focus on one area and fail to see our true barriers. This is where a coach can come in and offer perspective we may not see ourselves. Today, I am so lucky to have Laura Foster on the show helping me find the source of my hesitations. Laura is an amazing coach who works with creative professionals who want to level up in their leadership - both inside and outside of the office. Join me today as she helps me recognize the limits I am putting on myself, and finally start to let them go!

We're exploring:

• Why I have shied away from 5-10 year plans and focus only on the near future
• Following through on the actions needed to commit to long-term goals
• Feeling stuck in the "in between"
• Overcoming our fears of roadblocks and disappointment
• Using responsibility and duty as an excuse to slow progress
• No longer allowing our vision of our future to be constrained by our past
• Letting something else hold some of the weight of responsibility
• And so much more!!

Find out more about Laura and her work at https://www.laurafostercoaching.com

Find out more about my work and dive in at https://emotionaldominatrix.com/ or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/the_emotional_dominatrix