The Things We Carry

As leaders it can be scary to admit a change is necessary. You set out to do something new, announce it publicly, and then feel pressure to stick with it, despite knowing it's not right. But in life, in business, and in relationships, change is expected. In this week's episode, I'm pulling from my own life and the recent changes I've had to make and I'm letting you in on the details. It's not easy, but if you set out to stay aligned with your integrity, you just might find that making those hard decisions and having those hard conversations can change your life for the better. It's all about alignment and change this week. It can be sticky, but it can be so good! So, let's dive in!

I'm exploring:

• How I decided a change in my recent program was necessary and what about the program felt misaligned with my integrity
• The positive outcomes I've experienced since making this uncomfortable decision
• If, as a leader, you're allowed to change direction and what it means if you do
• How the fear of judgment can keep you misaligned in your business and life
• Questions to ask yourself about your alignment
• What to do after you've accepted that a change is required

And so much more!

Find out more about my work and dive in at https://emotionaldominatrix.com/ or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/the_emotional_dominatrix

The pressure can add up can't it? The different roles we fill and the various people we care for can be a lot. So what can we do when it feels like it's too much to carry, too much to hold? Join me today for a coaching session with Heather. She's a certified holistic health coach working with others on their transformational journey, she's well on her way to earning her master's degree in acupuncture later this year, and as if that wasn't enough, she's a new mom. We're getting into the demands of motherhood, the reality that comes with starting and owning a business, and the ongoing pressure to do it ALL. If you've ever felt like it's just too much, it is! So let's lighten that load!

We're exploring:

• What it can look like when you only trust yourself
• Children as a reflection of you; what parenthood teaches us about ourselves
• Flight and fight: Why the "all or nothing" pattern can be a symptom of both
• Heather's journey with motherhood, her ups and downs
• Holding space for others v. holding others and why that distinction can lighten your load
• When others rely on us and how that pressure can add up to be too much at times
• An easy exercise in removing the pressures and allowing trust to come in
• And so much more!

Connect with Heather @ https://heathermcquiston.podia.com/

Find out more about my work and dive in at https://emotionaldominatrix.com/ or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/the_emotional_dominatrix

Have you given thought to what the main components are in successful leadership? What do you really need to bring to the table to be an effective leader? There are a lot of different ideas on what skills you should master, and today I am sharing what I see as the four main things you need to thrive. In this solo episode, I offer a lot to think about and some questions you can ask yourself about how you can grow your own leadership skills!

We're Exploring:

• The one component you need to be successful at the other three
• How therapy models can differ from coaching models and what that key difference accomplishes
• What it really takes to make someone a great teacher, and how you can incorporate these traits into your teaching
• The ways in which ALL leaders are really coaches and why coaching skills are so important
• How facilitation can be used in many areas of both our professional and personal lives
• Using your understanding of trauma responses and others' emotions to be a better leader
• Why it is so important to always be growing and learning

And so much more!!

Find out more about Ashley at www.embracingtheuncertain.com / www.instagram.com/embracingtheuncertain

Find out more about my work and dive in at https://emotionaldominatrix.com/ or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/the_emotional_dominatrix

Are you stuck wondering what will make you stand out in the coaching world? Do you want a peek inside a success story? To witness the timeline, the ups and downs and hear about someone else's journey of overcoming visibility fears just like your own? You're in luck! Today I'm giving you a peek behind the scenes into a conversation around visibility and what it means to take up space to be your FULL shining self with Ashley, one of my clients and support coaches for Emotional Leadership. She believes successful businesses are only as successful as the nervous system they are built on and I couldn't agree more. Inside this episode, we will break IT ALL down for you to understand, implement and transform right alongside us.

We're exploring:

• The 'enoughness' conversation that A LOT of us are having
• The path to determining what sets you apart from others doing similar work as you
• Why building safety online made MORE of a difference than consistency
• The missing piece in Ashley's business and how this can help YOU right now
• How being confident in HOLDING what you want can transform everything
• A new path to success other than hustle and grind that's available to you
• And SO much more!

Find out more about Ashley at www.embracingtheuncertain.com / www.instagram.com/embracingtheuncertain

Find out more about my work and dive in at https://emotionaldominatrix.com/ or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/the_emotional_dominatrix

Do you take time to really enjoy the happiness you have earned? Do you find yourself savoring it or do you feel yourself denying that truth? Today I am coaching Maximillian Webster, authentic leadership coach and personal branding strategist. Max works with visionaries, rockstars, and sovereign leaders to diversify their income, uplevel their personal brand and create lives based on freedom. He is an emotional leadership student of mine, so while we have been working together, this is the first time we go into a full coaching session, and we are going DEEP! Join us today while I chat with Max, walking him through some of his inner feelings about happiness, being misunderstood, and learning to stand tall.

Today we are focusing on:

• Breathing through that freeze response in your body, and working through your triggers
• Taking time to find presence with your body, and paying attention to what your body feels
• Making peace with the feeling of need to always "get it right"
• How to use visualization exercises to change how you approach being misunderstood
• Staying out of your inner saboteur patterns and allowing yourself to let yourself enjoy the ease
• The fear of being surrounded by people, yet not really being seen
• Embracing a level of self-trust and devotion and allowing yourself to relish in it

And so much more!

Learn more about Max at Linktr.ee/maximilianwebster

Find out more about my work and dive in at https://emotionaldominatrix.com/ or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/the_emotional_dominatrix

What would you do to find love and acceptance for yourself? How would you dive in fully to closing the gap between how you see yourself and how others see you? We all "walk" through our lives, sometimes walking for ourselves and sometimes for others. Today I am chatting with my dear friend Varun Penamatsa, who is doing it literally, as he undertakes walking the entire Pacific Crest Trail (PCT). Varun is working on finding love for himself one mile at a time (for 2700 miles!), and learning to offer himself the same compassion he offers to others. Sometimes all you can do is take that next step. Join us as we get into the why and how of this adventure and how he stays true to himself along the way.

Today we are focusing on:

• The mental and physical work involved before you ever get to the trailhead, whether literal or figurative
• Accepting all your parts, and give them all space and permission to exist
• How consistencies can be important to hold onto when taking on something monumental, for both the difficult times and the celebrations
• Why limiting distractions is necessary even when spending time alone
• Learning what motivates us and why that can be more important than the action
• The love letter V wrote himself and how that has become an important daily touchstone
• Letting go of holding onto anxiety and learning to recognize and acknowledge it to move forward
• Varun's favorite moments of the trip so far and what he looks forward to

And so much more!

Varun is a passionate student, teacher, and advocate of all things health and the human condition. A marketer by trade, he's oriented his life around the practice of observation and self progression. Aside from deep diving into everything from yoga and meditation to western medical practices and everything in between, you can generally find him doing something outdoors. He's currently hiking 2700 miles on the Pacific Crest Trail in a practice of self love (follow his journey on Instagram @varuney).

Find out more about my work and dive in at https://emotionaldominatrix.com/ or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/the_emotional_dominatrix

What does it mean to soften into work and let it be easy? When is it ok to let yourself rest? Today I sit down with Kimberly Pendleton. Kimberly is the CEO & Founder of UNCOVER, an organization helping women to uncover lives of pleasure, power, and purpose so that they can make the impact they were born to make. With a M.A. from Yale, a PhD, in-depth coaching training and years of experience, I am so honored to have her here coaching me! Join us as we sit down together and talk about our collective need to continually prove ourselves, and the importance of letting ourselves rest in our success.

Today we are focusing on:

• Finding the strength to slow down and accept that you don't have to have it all together
• The true cost of feeling like you always have to handle it all, constantly being tense and braced for impact
• Uncoupling worthiness from productivity, and how that doesn't mean you are no longer productive
• Honoring the hard work of your past self with your current actions
• How to move away from feeling the responsibility of holding others to the responsibility of holding yourself
• What it means to let go of the fallacy of "fairness"
• Allowing yourself to enjoy a place of rest and abundance without guilt

And so much more!

Get to know Kimberly at www.kimberlyrosependleton.com

Find out more about my work and dive in at https://emotionaldominatrix.com/ or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/the_emotional_dominatrix

We've all heard the phrase about putting on our own oxygen mask before we help others do so or giving from a full cup rather than an empty one, but have you stopped to think why that concept exists? Have you paused to reflect on if that's a practice you're actually taking the time to do? As leaders, we can struggle to take care of ourselves. There's always more to do and more people to help, leaving you empty, burnt out, and stuck in a pattern that isn't serving you. Today, I'm exploring this topic of putting ourselves first. I'm diving into why this practice is so hard, yet so important. If you've ever felt like you're running on empty with nothing left to give (but then still giving more), listen up! This one's for you!

I'm discussing:

• Maintaining energy reserves: is it selfish or just plain smart?
• Why the practice of self-care is SO hard to do for those in helping professions and how our society isn't helping us
• My experiences with burnout and what I'm still learning
• Connecting our energy to the concept of breath
• A practical visualization exercise for managing your energy levels
• Where generosity might flow from and what that has to do with a centered self
• Plus more!

Find out more about my work and dive in at https://emotionaldominatrix.com/ or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/the_emotional_dominatrix

How can you be more emotionally available to those you lead? What does it mean to lead from the front of the room? Today I sit down with Tim DeSutter, fellow coach and mentor in the field of wellness and personal development, and we discuss how it might not mean what you think. What happens when we say "I will go first"? Offering a bit of yourself to those you lead, could help you both see exponential growth. Dive in with us to hear how!

I'm exploring:

• The difference between leading FROM the front and being IN the front of the room
• What it means to be a vulnerable leader and model the work for others
• How showing up in and for our community as an equal makes us better leaders - get rid of the "teacher chair"
• Where leading in the corporate world differs from the personal one and where it can be the same
• The "old" vs "new concepts of leadership and how your own humanity plays a huge part
• Learning to let go of the shame block from our cultural and religious environments before we can help others do the same
• How YOU can snag a spot to work with Tim this summer!

And so much more!

Check out Tim DeSutter at www.timdesutter.com/ and on instagram at https://www.instagram.com/timdesutter

Find out more about my work and dive in at https://emotionaldominatrix.com/ or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/the_emotional_dominatrix

Tim is a master level coach, teacher, and facilitator, and has been studying trauma and vibrational wellness for over 25 years. Tim specializes in working with people who coach and lead others, helping them expand the impact and quality of their work by clearing trauma patterns, expanding emotional capacity, holding energetic boundaries, and helping them uncover their unique magic and leadership gifts while staying in the power of their integrity and personal sovereignty. He lives in Vermont with his partner, Cory, and loves to garden, hike, drum, sing, and read in his downtime.

Learn more about Tim and his work at www.timdesutter.com

Today we are focusing on:

• What do you need to feel like you are contributing and included
• Finding the difference between our neurodivergence and simple mindset issues
• Compassion fatigue - how it affects the way others respond to your needs
• How to handle others lack of capacity to grant you the accommodation you need
• Using breath to stay in the moment
• A simple tool to help you find inclusion inside yourself in moments of struggle
• Focusing on awareness of those around you, bringing them into the conversation

And so much more!

Get to know Kate at http://playbigqueen.com/

Find out more about my work and dive in at https://emotionaldominatrix.com/ or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/the_emotional_dominatrix