The Things We Carry

Can you be an imperfect leader without being a messy one? What does it mean to hold your humanity and your leadership at the same time? This is a sticky topic and one that my clients need to hear about often because, let's face it: we all mess up. In today's episode, I am diving into how our trauma responses affect our roles as leaders. We hear it all the time, "there's no such thing as perfection," but how do we accept that in our own leadership and still do our best work? Let's find out!

I'm exploring:

• The 3 steps you can take to come out of trauma and back into leadership
• How to notice your patterns when it comes to trauma responses
• Where we fall on the compassion and truth scale: internally vs. what we show others
• The 4 major trauma responses and how they manifest themselves in our leadership practices
• What to do when the "what-ifs" overwhelm you
• Getting back on track when our best self doesn't show up
• How to keep showing up as leaders, knowing there will be times we mess it up
• If we really need to take care of ourselves first before taking care of others

Find out more about my work and dive in at https://emotionaldominatrix.com/ or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/the_emotional_dominatrix

Do you constantly feel like you're bracing for impact? Maybe you feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulders? Does it ever just get too damn HARD? I get it! And for my first episode I'm facing these feelings head on with the help of my business coach, Julia Wells, a.k.a. The Pussy Based Business Coach. There's no plan today. There's no script. Just honesty. Listen in to hear Julia guide me through facing some of my biggest fears when it comes to my business. Will I be able to break through that safety wall or not?

We're digging into:

• If I'm on track to hitting my Million Dollar Year milestone
• The fear of others' opinions and how that affects business (or does it?)
• How we get stuck in that vicious cycle of overworking and burnout
• If suffering is required for success or if it can be easy
• The difference between something being hard v. heavy and why that's a breakthrough for me
• How our success makes others feel (should we care?)
• Why we play down our own success and how to stop
• And so much more!

Join Julia in her FREE private Facebook group, Visible AF: https://www.facebook.com/groups/VisibleAF/

Send Julia a DM on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/juliamothereffingwells/

Find out more about my work and dive in at https://emotionaldominatrix.com/ or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/the_emotional_dominatrix

Do you ever feel like you are not enough or maybe a bit TOO much? Have you felt both at the same time? We all fight against those inner and outer voices telling us to be something other than what we are and today I am chatting all about it with Ellie Barclay. Ellie is an amazing business coach for the radically fabulous and one of the most magnetizing people I have ever met. Join us as we unpack these feelings of not enough and too much and learn how to balance them so we can accept ourselves as we truly are! Ellie is great at modeling leadership through growth and showing us that it's OK to not have it "all together" all the time. Get ready to explore how we can get out of our own way and move through our uncertainties to be more successful in life and business!

Today we explore:

• How to stop wasting energy fighting who we are
• Recognizing and then unlearning behaviors that don't help us grow
• Letting go of that "one foot on the gas, one foot on the brake" approach that keeps us from moving forward
• Finding growth and success in our most vulnerable moments
• Fighting back against your inner saboteur
• Using laughter to help us work through our challenges
• And so much more!

Get to know Ellie Barclay: https://www.ellie-barclay.com/ and follow her at https://www.instagram.com/EllieVBarclay

Find out more about my work and dive in at https://emotionaldominatrix.com/ or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/the_emotional_dominatrix

How can we move forward after trauma, leaving our experience behind us yet allowing it to inform our decisions ahead? What are some indicators that it's time to conclude your container with a coach and move on? Today, I sit down with Moriah Rochelle; an artist, a teacher, and a coach. Moriah's work creating and facilitating the creation of personal aura portraits is both healing and inspirational. But, it hasn't been an easy road for her this past year. Join us as I help Moriah walk through her recent, unfulfilling experience with an expensive, high-level coach and guide her to find healing moving forward. It's raw. It's real. Let's get started.

Today we are focusing on:

• What Moriah hoped to gain from her investment in a coach but what she was left with instead
• When she thinks it started to change from her being "all in" to then feeling "off"
• Knowing what you want out of a container experience and knowing when to walk away
• Healing through role-play, having the conversations you never had a chance to have
• When projection interferes with trauma informed coaching and why that doesn't work
• An exercise that can help you drop the burdens that are not yours to hold
• Leadership failures: how to spot them, accept them, and move on
• And much more

Connect with Moriah Rochelle: https://moriahsolgan-187.myshopify.com/products/two-aura-portraits

Find out more about my work and dive in at https://emotionaldominatrix.com/ or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/the_emotional_dominatrix

Welcome to The Things We Carry, with Jen Underwood. I am so excited to share this first podcast episode with you, and for you to get to know me a little. I am a coach, mentor, facilitator, and leader in the field of emotional mastery and leadership with a Masters in Clinical Counseling. I've spent years learning how to be with my emotions AND how to release them. Once I started to realize how that connects to business and how our patterns hold us back, I knew coaching was where I belonged! Join me as I share the road that brought me here, how each work experience contributed to who I am today, and what that has to do with YOU!

Let's explore:

• Why we need to start teaching emotional regulation tools (especially to those in "caring" professions)
• How managing expectations in difficult work environments can affect your mental health
• What emotional leadership is and why it definitely belongs in business
• How we can have social and cultural impact as entrepreneurs, while still accepting the systems we can't personally change
• Recognizing our own trauma patterns and triggers, and how to use our personal coping tools in business
• What you can expect from this podcast: deep dives, live client coaching, and listen in as I get coached!
• Plus so much more!

Find out more about my work and dive in at https://emotionaldominatrix.com/ or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/the_emotional_dominatrix

This isn't your normal leadership podcast, this is leadership reimagined and uncovered! Are you ready for a full 360 degree view of what it means to walk the talk and step into a new way to lead? Listen in for what to expect from the podcast (new episodes coming May 13th!) and be sure to hit the follow button and be the first to get notified of new episodes as they drop and to dive deeper into your own leadership.