Tony shares more examples of how being in a relationship with a narcissist can feel like "death by a thousand cuts." It can be extremely difficult to explain what it's like to be in a relationship with someone who exhibits narcissistic traits and tendencies, is highly emotionally immature, or has a full-blown narcissistic personality disorder. When taken individually, incidents may seem petty, or to someone who has never been in a similar relationship, they may feel like you're being unfair. But to those in relationships with a narcissist/emotionally immature, the examples can feel like one small cut after another until you finally have so many small cuts that you feel your energy completely drained from your body.

Tony mentioned his presentation in Monica Tanner's "Secrets of Happily Ever After," summit which brings 32 marriage therapists and life/relationship coaches together to provide a wealth of tips to strengthen your marriage. You can sign up for the summit for free using the following link: https://tonyoverbay--onthebrighterside.thrivecart.com/shea-summit-accelerator/

If you are interested in being coached in Tony's upcoming "Magnetic Marriage Podcast," please email him for more information. You will receive free marriage coaching and remain anonymous when the episode airs. 

Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. 

You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts.

Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ

Tony talks about the challenges of parenting modern-day youth who have grown up with technology at their fingertips from birth. He discusses the information he learned from a consulting opportunity at a large tech company looking to retain people under 25 years old. He then shares the outline of his favorite parenting model, The Nurtured Heart Approach. Finally, Tony previews how his "4 Pillars of a Connected Conversation" can apply to parenting. He answers a listener's parenting question using the Nurtured Heart approach and his 4 Pillars.

If you have parenting questions you would like answered on an upcoming episode, please email them to Tony using the contact form on his website http://tonyoverbay.com

If you are interested in being coached in Tony's upcoming "Magnetic Marriage Podcast," please email him for more information. You will receive free marriage coaching and remain anonymous when the episode airs. 

Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. 

You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts.

Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ

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Hey, everybody. Welcome to episode 342 of the Virtual couch. I am your host, Tony Overbay. I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist, a certified mindful habit coach, writer, speaker, husband, father of four. And buckle up. Today we're going to talk about parenting. And I'm going to put so many pieces of the puzzle together. I hope that I think that we're going to cover a lot of ground today. We're going to talk about a parenting framework or technique called the nurture heart approach that I haven't talked about in a while. I'm going to work some four pillar magic into how you parent today's teen. And I have a lot of questions that I've got from people, a couple of clients that I've been working with. I also put this message out there at a recent speaking event and had some people send me questions about how to parent today's teen. And I'm going to speak from a position of I only know what I know. I have to realize that. So of course there are things that I'm sure I don't do well or things that I don't know. Let's let's begin. I was going to say let's let's call the way back to the womb, shall we? But I'm not going to go all the way down to that part of parenting. But before I even get started in that, let me really quickly say that if you are still interested in being coached as a couple, just reach out to info at Tony over and we have a dozen or more episodes in the can and that is going to be the basis of the magnetic marriage, the podcast, and it is just so fun and exciting and moving and touching and powerful and funny to be able to work with these anonymous couples, couples that I don't know that I haven't worked with before, and being able to just get right in to the nitty gritty of what they bring into the situation.

And most of them are people that have not gone to counseling or been coached before. And I realize the more that I'm recording these and I can't wait to get them out, that I think it's going to be a lot of people that have always wondered what does marriage therapy or what does couple's coaching even look like? And I think it's going to give people a lot of hope that it's okay to go get help because again, you don't know what you don't know. And I love just beating this drum over and over again that I don't really ...

Tony answers a listener's question about the difference between "throwing the narcissist under the bus" and listening, validating, and empathizing with a frustrated child of a narcissistic parent. He also answers questions about why narcissists often employ the silent treatment, as well as can a narcissist get along well with another narcissist?

Tony mentioned his presentation in Monica Tanner's "Secrets of Happily Ever After," summit which brings 32 marriage therapists and life/relationship coaches together to provide a wealth of tips to strengthen your marriage. You can sign up for the summit for free using the following link: https://tonyoverbay--onthebrighterside.thrivecart.com/shea-summit-accelerator/

If you are interested in being coached in Tony's upcoming "Magnetic Marriage Podcast," please email him for more information. You will receive free marriage coaching and remain anonymous when the episode airs. 

Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. 

You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts.

Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ

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[00:00:07] Hey everybody. Welcome to Waking Up to Narcissism Episode 45 I'm your host, Tony Overbay. I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist, host of the Virtual Couch podcast. And the quickest amount of business you can still go to Tony over Macomb Workshop, $19 workshop that talks all about the way a couples relationship could be. I was going to say should, but no one likes to be shut on and then you can still go to if you go to my Instagram account at Virtual Couch and then look in the bio, there's a link to Monica Tanner's Happily Ever After Summit. And I really am hearing from people now that have started to get the courses, take the workshops, the courses that are there, and it's over 30 marriage therapist coaches, professionals talking about the secrets to the happily ever after in marriage or their advice. So even if you're not in a marriage where you feel like there is potential for happily [00:01:00] ever after, I've had a couple of people respond and say that there's so much content there that it does really help them now that they've popped their head up from this world of emotional immaturity or narcissism and starting to understand. It's almost that thing where confirmation bias. So when you are just aware of how maybe not healthy your relationship is, then you either see other people talk about their relationship and you think, okay, that that can't be true, or look how bad mine is.

[00:01:28] And when I talk about we don't know what we don't know about what a relationship can look like, I'm starting to hear more feedback that when people start to feel like, Oh, I'm okay and I deserve to be heard and understood and it's okay for me to find my own sense of self and purpose, that now you go through and you listen to somebody give a marriage summit or seminar or talk, and instead of thinking, man, look at all the things I don't have. You think, man, look at all the things I deserve. And that is possible in a relationship, and I deserve that. So you can go there. There's [00:02:00] a lot of free content. And then if I think you can get access to a bunch of bonus content for I think it's $80 or something like that to bonus content on all 30 people. And the reason I mentioned that is I think it's going away soon.

Tony explains what it means to be anxiously attached and how emotionally draining it is to be in a relationship with someone who has an anxious attachment style. Symptoms of an anxious attachment style in adults can be (from https://www.verywellmind.com/attachment-anxiety-4692761)

Behaviors that smother or drive their partner awayConstant need for contact and support from othersFear of being under appreciatedFeeling unsure if a partner can be counted onHypersensitivity to rejection and abandonmentNeed to increase feelings of securityNegative self-view or self-worthPositive view of one's partnerVigilance to signs that a partner is pulling awayWorry over losing a partnerYearning to feel closer and more secure with others

Tony refers to the articles "What is an Anxious Attachment Style" https://www.verywellhealth.com/anxious-attachment-5204408 and "How Anxious Attachment Style Affects Relationships," https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/compassion-matters/201904/how-anxious-attachment-style-affects-relationships

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Get access to Tony's presentation from Monica Tanner's "Secrets of Happily Ever After" summit, which brings 32 marriage therapists and life/relationship coaches together to provide a wealth of tips to strengthen your marriage. You can sign up for the summit for free using the following link: https://tonyoverbay--onthebrighterside.thrivecart.com/shea-summit-accelerator/

If you are interested in being coached in Tony's upcoming "Magnetic Marriage Podcast," please email him for more information. You will receive free marriage coaching and remain anonymous when the episode airs. 

Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. 

You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts.

Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ

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[00:00:01] A week or so ago, I was rooting through the fridge and I was looking for an avocado because my go to meal is a packaged lentil mix over some rice with half an avocado cut up on top with some sea salt sprinkled. So let's go a little bit psychology nerd on that last sentence. I have often wondered that at the end of a day of listening to people share a variety of problems and challenges, some of them marriage threatening, some of them honestly life threatening, that if my brain doesn't just love to spend literally zero emotional calories or energy on wondering what's for dinner, so it's lentils and rice and half an avocado to the point where if I'm missing an avocado, my brain will say, Sorry, we're going to go all or nothing on this bad boy and we cannot have it all now. So I'm going to need you to go back and forth between the refrigerator and the pantry and just stare blankly while there really isn't much happening in your brain until you finally impulsively choose cereal. Because it's sugary, it's sweet. It will give you that little dopamine bump. And don't forget [00:01:00] your childhood issues. You guys didn't have the fancy name brand sugary cereals very often. So what have you done as an adult?

Tony explains the “amygdala hijack,” or why it feels like you quickly lose control of your emotions when trying to communicate, or sometimes be around, the narcissist in your life. Is there anything that you can do in the moment, or do you need to simply give yourself grace that it happened, review the “game film” afterward, and make a plan…or c) all of the above? Tony references the article “All About Amygdala Hijack,” by Traci Pedersen, medically reviewed by Bethany Juby, PsyD https://psychcentral.com/health/amygdala-hijack#takeaway

Tony mentioned his presentation in Monica Tanner's "Secrets of Happily Ever After," summit which brings 32 marriage therapists and life/relationship coaches together to provide a wealth of tips to strengthen your marriage. You can sign up for the summit for free using the following link: https://tonyoverbay--onthebrighterside.thrivecart.com/shea-summit-accelerator/

If you are interested in being coached in Tony's upcoming "Magnetic Marriage Podcast," please email him for more information. You will receive free marriage coaching and remain anonymous when the episode airs. 

Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. 

You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts.

Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ

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[00:00:07] Hey, everybody. Welcome to episode 44 of Waking Up to Narcissism. I'm your host, Tony Overbay. I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist, also host of the Virtual Couch podcast. And go take a look in the show notes. Maybe I'll just say that's where we'll take care of business today. But I would like to point you to the secrets of Happily Ever After. It's a summit workshop, a summit where there were 30 something of US marriage and family therapists or psychologists or marriage coaches or all sorts of people that gave a lot of tips to a healthier marriage. And again, I know that on this podcast there are a lot of people that are really struggling with their marriage. But something I think I mentioned this in last week's episode, something pretty phenomenal happened where the interviewer, Monica Tanner, who does an amazing job, asks me in the middle of a of an interview in this summit to talk about how do you work narcissism into your happily ever after? And I made a dramatic, I think, pause or joke and said you could hear the record scratch or the cue, the ominous music. [00:01:00] But the interview became really fascinating. So that interview is part of the happily ever after Summit, where I was talking about four pillars of a connected conversation and all of these wonderful things or things that I feel every couple should know about marriage. And then when she asked that question, I wasn't really prepared for that.

[00:01:16] I didn't know that was going to be part of the where she was heading in the interview. And so then I just feel like it's a great interview standing in my healthy ego there, because we start with here's all of these wonderful things that can help your marriage improve. But then here is what narcissism or narcissistic tendencies or emotional immaturity looks like in a relationship. And if people aren't familiar with that, they're the people that are not going to be very empathetic and or even sympathetic to those that are coming and saying, Hey, I'm struggling in my marriage.

Tony shares his thoughts on how to think better about how you think. You think the thoughts you do because you're the only version of you ever to walk the planet...so you think thoughts and feel feelings because, well, you do! You also need to stop telling yourself to stop thinking...don't think about a green giraffe wearing yellow rain boots right now! And finally, he reveals why it can be detrimental to believe that when you think A, you just need to think B.

Get access to Tony's presentation from Monica Tanner's "Secrets of Happily Ever After" summit, which brings 32 marriage therapists and life/relationship coaches together to provide a wealth of tips to strengthen your marriage. You can sign up for the summit for free using the following link: https://tonyoverbay--onthebrighterside.thrivecart.com/shea-summit-accelerator/

If you are interested in being coached in Tony's upcoming "Magnetic Marriage Podcast," please email him for more information. You will receive free marriage coaching and remain anonymous when the episode airs. 

Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. 

You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts.

Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ

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Hey, everybody. Welcome to episode 340 of the Virtual Couch. I'm your host, Tony Overbay. I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist, and I am going to speed through the business side of this podcast and get right to the topic because I'm kind of excited just to go on a little bit of a ramble today. I was going to call it a rant, but it's not a rant. It has a negative connotation and this is just something I'm really fascinated by of what we do with thoughts and some of the things that I think that we do that are maybe not the most helpful when it comes to dealing with the thoughts that we have because we have so many thoughts all day long. So from a business standpoint, I would love if you would go to the show notes and last week I had Monica Tanner on and we talked about [00:01:00] a summit called Secrets of Happily Ever After, where there's me, there's Jennifer Finlayson Fife, there's about 30 other marriage therapists and coaches, and we are providing a lot of information and it is free and go to the link that is in my go to the link that's in the show notes are on my Instagram at Virtual Couch or on Facebook at Tony Overbay, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and just click on that link and you can sign up and get all of this wonderful data and information free and go to Tony over Macomb Workshop.

[00:01:31] There's a $19 an hour and a half marriage workshop that I am very happy with. I was going to say, very proud of, and for some reason that sounded very arrogant. But I'm going to stand in that healthy ego and say that I really do feel like there's a lot of good information there, and if you don't like the information, just shoot me a note and I'll refund that $19. And if you are interested in doing some couples coaching and it is completely anonymous, then you can reach out to info at Tony over Macomb and start to look at being on my Magnetic Marriage podcast, [00:02:00] which is going to be a paid subscription based podcast, which will be well under the cost of one therapy session for a full year's access. There are a lot of episodes I've already recorded and it is just going to be a phenomenal thing th...

Tony reads a letter from a listener who touches on several aspects of waking up to the narcissism in their relationship. Tony covers his five rules of interacting with a narcissist, gaslighting, emotional immaturity, what happens when someone begins working on themself in a relationship with a narcissist, and why it can be so challenging to break free from unhealthy relationships in general.

Tony mentioned his presentation in Monica Tanner's "Secrets of Happily Ever After," summit which brings 32 marriage therapists and life/relationship coaches together to provide a wealth of tips to strengthen your marriage. You can sign up for the summit for free using the following link: https://tonyoverbay--onthebrighterside.thrivecart.com/shea-summit-accelerator/

If you are interested in being coached in Tony's upcoming "Magnetic Marriage Podcast," please email him for more information. You will receive free marriage coaching and remain anonymous when the episode airs. 

Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. 

You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts.

Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ

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Hey, everybody, welcome to waking up to Narcissism. Episode number 43 I am your host, Tony Overbay. I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist and also host of the Virtual Couch podcast. And today we've got one of those episodes that is probably going to go longer than I anticipate. And I have a pretty incredible email. I get a lot of emails and I'm grateful for every one. The one today touches [00:01:00] on so many things around waking up to narcissism. The person asked the classic Am I the narcissist? Which again, in general terms, if you are even remotely asking yourself that question, I say the answer is no. And now I feel even more confident because it goes back to that. Are we talking about emotional immaturity? The way that maybe I react in situations, the things that I don't know, that I don't know. So maybe you're on this journey of self-discovery. You're the one that's asking the question because now you're looking deeply into data. You're trying to make sense of things, you're reading books, you're listening to podcast versus the person that just says, I don't know what you're talking about, and I'm not even willing to take a look at what narcissism is. So again, I'm going to start from a place of if you're even asking the question, the answer is most likely no. Maybe again, a little emotional immaturity.

[00:01:45] But honestly, we all are. I was going to say, aren't we all? And the answer is yes. So today we're going to talk about that. The first items of business, if you're interested in marriage coaching, I've got a lot of episodes now of an upcoming [00:02:00] Magnetic Marriage podcast recorded, and now we're starting to edit those and get those ready. And then I'm going to come out with an announcement about the Magnetic Marriage podcast that is going to be a subscription based podcast. It's going to be well less than the cost of one therapy session to have access. And you can find out more if you're interested in you and your spouse, maybe being coached by me, talking about using my four pillars of a connected conversation and so much more. Then reach out at info at Toni over Macomb and let us know. It will be completely anonymous if you are just somebody that's curious ab...

Monica Tanner, the host of the Secrets of Happily Ever After podcast, joins Tony to talk about the secrets of achieving "happily ever after" in your marriage. They cover parenting, tension, physical and emotional intimacy, narcissism, and why being intentional with couples' date nights is a fun way to connect and model healthy relationships with your children.

They also discuss Tony's presentation in Monica's "Secrets of Happily Ever After," summit which brings 32 marriage therapists and life/relationship coaches together to provide a wealth of tips to strengthen your marriage. You can sign up for the summit for free using the following link: https://tonyoverbay--onthebrighterside.thrivecart.com/shea-summit-accelerator/

If you are interested in being coached in Tony's upcoming "Magnetic Marriage Podcast," please email him for more information. You will receive free marriage coaching and remain anonymous when the episode airs. 

Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. 

You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts.

Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ

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Hey, everybody, welcome to episode 339 of the Virtual Couch. I am your host, Tony Overbay. I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist, the certified Mindful Habit [00:01:00] coach, writer, speaker, husband, father of four, ultra marathon runner and creator of The Path Back, an online pornography recovery program that is helping people break free from unhealthy coping mechanisms like pornography and just live the life that they've always wanted to live. And there's an incredible group, a weekly group call that is a part of the path back. So go to Pathbackrecovery.com and you'll be able to download an e-book that talks about myths, mistakes that people make when trying to overcome pornography once and for all again. Pathbackrecovery.com And if you are a couple and you are interested in some coaching, some real life coaching that will be anonymous and will be part of the Magnetic Marriage podcast that is coming soon, then reach out at info at Tony over eBay.com or go through my website and let me know and we'll get you on board. I've got a lot of those episodes again in the can and it's just phenomenal. And if you've never been to couples therapy, I think you're going to gain a lot from even just hearing me do some four pillared couples coaching in real [00:02:00] time on this podcast. So reach out info at Tony over eBay.com, let us know that you would be interested or go through my website and a couple of quick things before I get started. With today's episode, there's something I just want to share.

[00:02:12] So many of you have been incredible, just kind, supportive, loving, empathetic, generous with your support of my daughter Alex, Alexa and her recovery from a near-fatal crash in February, where she posted an update on social media just a couple of days ago that I really want to read. And if you follow her, if you don't do, she's just she's truly an inspiration. Here's what she said. I'm going to read the post. She said It's been seven months since my car accident and I thought I would post an update again. Since it's been a while. I've made a lot of progress lately and can see improvements in my body. I have been off of my cane and walking independently for a little over a month now and ever since my second surgery I...

Tony Overbay, LMFT, was interviewed by Kurt Francom, executive director of LeadingSaints.org and the Leading Saints podcast host. They covered the topics of therapy, treating people struggling with turning to pornography as an unhealthy coping mechanism with love, not shame, working with people navigating faith journeys, and the difference between healthy ego and narcissism and what that looks like in church leadership positions. This episode is also available on the LeadingSaints podcast in 2 parts. Part 1 https://leadingsaints.org/part-1-therapy-narcissistic-leaders-and-healthy-ego-an-interview-with-tony-overbay/ and part 2 https://leadingsaints.org/part-2-therapy-narcissistic-leaders-and-healthy-ego-an-interview-with-tony-overbay/

If you are interested in being coached in Tony's upcoming "Magnetic Marriage Podcast," please email him for more information. You will receive free marriage coaching and remain anonymous when the episode airs. 

Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. 

You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts.

Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ

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[00:00:38] Hey, everybody, welcome to episode 338 of the Virtual Couch Podcast. I'm your host, Tony Overbay. I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist, also host of Waking Up to Narcissism, the podcast. I highly recommend you go check that one out and I am just going to really quickly jump right to a few items of business and I am going to use less words per business item than ever so we can get to today's content because today [00:01:00] is an amazing episode. First up, Tony, over Macomb Workshop $19. Learn what you didn't even know that you didn't know about your relationship after that we're let's go let's talk pathbackrecovery.com. It's my online pornography recovery program that is changing lives, literally. And I mentioned a little bit of that in today's episode, but go to Pathbackrecovery.com. You can find out more about that program or also email me at info at Tony over eBay.com or reach out through my contact form on my website at Tony over Macomb. If you are interested in being an anonymous couple, being coached by me using my four pillars of a connected conversation, and watch how having that framework to communicate can be a game changer in your relationship. So let me know if you and your spouse are interested. Again, it's completely anonymous and it will be part of the Magnetic Marriage podcast, which is coming very, very soon. And one more thing and then we're going to get to the content. Dear friend of mine, Rachael Nielsen.

[00:01:55] She's host of the three and 30 Takeaways for Mom's podcast, which is an amazing podcast and [00:02:00] which I was on early on before there were I think there had been one other guy that had been on there because it was all about moms. But she had me come on and how to communicate more effectively with teenagers. I talked about how to show up better in your relationship, all of those things on her three and 30 podcast for Moms. So I highly recommend you go find those episodes. But she has a really amazing time sensitive offer this week. So after you hear this, if you are a mom who sometimes feels burned out or lost or unseen, then pause the podcast and go sign up for a free class by Rachel. And she's amazing at the way she teach, but it's a free class.

Is it truly better to stay up until all hours of the morning while reaching the depths of sleep deprivation to "work things out" with your spouse, or should you just go to bed and talk in the morning? Is it always wise to save every penny? Tony looks at modern-day "proverbs" from both sides of the coin. Tony references the articles "100 Common Proverbs with Meaning and Examples" https://leverageedu.com/blog/common-proverbs/ Lack of sleep effects: why do we get more emotional when we’re tired? https://www.stylist.co.uk/health/sleep/sleep-deprivation-affects-emotional-health-sensitivity-stress-cycle/367278 and How Much Fruit is Too Much? https://www.webmd.com/diet/how-much-fruit-is-too-much

If you are interested in being coached in Tony's upcoming "Magnetic Marriage Podcast," please email him for more information. You will receive free marriage coaching and be kept entirely anonymous when the episode airs. 

Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. 

You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts.

Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ

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[00:00:52] Hey, Rudy, welcome to Episode 337 of the Virtual Couch. I am your host, Tony Overbay. I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist, certified, mindful habit coach, writer, speaker, [00:01:00] husband, father of four and host also of Waking Up the Narcissism, which is a podcast that is just growing by leaps and bounds. So if you haven't checked out an episode, I highly recommend you go look at the one I had my associate professional clinical counselor friend Nate Christensen on and we talked about self care. And self care is such a buzzword. So we go into literally what does that mean? And we're not just talking about getting your nails done, going to the gym, taking a bath, going on a run, petting a dog. We talk about all areas of what self care really looks like, even self care, the mind, and how even just the concept of starting to think about positive things can move the general landscape, internal landscape of what it feels like to be you. So go check that out. On waking up the narcissism. I highly recommend that. And while I have you here, I also would love to bring a little bit more awareness to The Path Back, which is an online pornography recovery program that I have. And you can go to Pathbackrecovery.com and learn more about that, but there is a lot of good happening there. [00:02:00] I specifically say online pornography recovery program because we're not talking about the heaviness or the weight of calling everything in addiction.

[00:02:08] I really believe it's an unhealthy coping mechanism. We have so many unhealthy coping mechanisms that we turn to when we don't feel connected and a few different areas of our lives. If we aren't feeling connected in our marriage or as a parent, or maybe in our faith or in our health and our career, that we tend to turn to unhealthy coping mechanisms. And then, of course, that's going to be the last time, the last time that someone ever looks at porn or eats junk food or wastes the day binging on Netflix or Hulu, because tomorrow it's going to be all different, right? Tomorrow is going to be different. So I have a lot of tools that can really help people be a better version themselves, as clichéd as that sounds, which then in turn allows you to not feel that sir...