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As an eldest daughter it's not uncommon to show up for everyone and do it all.

Somehow you manage to find a way even when you don't know if you have enough energy, money, or resources to show up for someone else.

This was my life, until I learned exactly how to use boundaries.

In this episode, I discuss the last family situation that lit a fire under me to learn how to use boundaries to gain back my time, money, and peace of mind.

If you aren't convinced to create boundaries for yourself, you will be after this episode.

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As the first/second-generation eldest daughter, early on, it's expected that you'll "be the example."

Your path is laid out for you based on your family's cultural expectations.

Whether that's the type of education you pursue, when you get married, who you marry, and when you have kids.

But what if you don't want to follow the exact cultural expectations that have been expected of you?

How do you pursue creating the life you want in the way you want to do it without offending your parents, ruffling family feathers, or being perceived as a failed example to your siblings?

In this episode, we talk with holistic health coach and founder Illie, who is also a first-generation eldest daughter.

She shares the exact steps she took to forge her own path opposite of her cultural expectations, how she overcame the challenges she faced on the journey , and how it all impacted her relationship with her family. 

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As a first gen eldest daughter you achieve many firsts on your own.

But one that is very new to you and your parents are feeling your feelings.

This either feels very familiar or very scary.

However, feeling your feelings is learning to navigate them in ways that are safe so that you can show up for yourself in the ways that you need.
In this episode we're joined my licensed marriage and family therapist, Victoria Cortez.

In this episode we’ll cover:

-The tension of honoring our family culture and tradition but also accepting there’s parts of it we don’t want to pass down to our future children.

-What to do if your family isn’t presently supportive of you going on a healing journey via therapy.

-What to do knowing you can’t control or change your family.

-One simple tool you can use right now to start feeling your feelings if you don’t know where to start.

-What to look for and what to ask when searching for a therapist who’s a right fit for you.

As Victoria encourages, be a cycle breaker.

Victoria Cortez (she/her/ella), is a licensed marriage and family therapist and the creator of First Gen Feeler—an empowering online space committed to shattering unhealthy generational patterns and affirming shared experiences.

With a focus on boundary-setting, inner child healing, and fostering self-trust, she's passionate about helping others on their journeys of growth. Join the community on Instagram @firstgenfeeler to stay the loop!

She is licensed to practice in the state of California.
Find out about her therapy services here

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Every first-gen eldest daughter wants to hear from their parents “I’m so proud of you”.

But what happens when the pursuit of this praise and acknowledgment from our parents ends up compromising our health, relationships, and work/life balance?
You want to make your parents proud but also feel happy with the life you're creating.

In this episode, I share two things you can begin doing in order to start living life on your terms without guilt, instead of making decisions from a place of hoping it's enough to make your parents proud. 

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As a first gen eldest daughter you can be apprehensive about taking a step toward a new path or toward a dream you've only kept to yourself.
Like changing careers from one that is lucrative to one that feeds your passion, from deciding to travel full time for a year instead of allowing the pressure to marry to keep you going on endless dates, or from wanting to train for your first 5K instead of believing you'll only be the girl who binge's Netflix on the couch after work. 
You're afraid to pursue these hidden dreams because you have fear of failure, fear of being wrong, fear of people's judgements, or fear of disappointment.
In today's episode we have guest, Soul Connection Coach, Claudia-Sam on to discuss 3 steps to take in order to trust yourself to do things your way and pursue your dreams even when it's scary to move forward with so much uncertainty and fear.
As your Soul Connection Coach, Claudia-Sam helps you to get back on track and in alignment with who you really are.
The times of people-pleasing, not knowing what you want, getting sick over and over again, being stuck in overwhelm and overthinking, and pushing down your emotions are OVER!
Claudia-Sam helps you to recognize the difference between the voice of the Ego self and the one of your Soul Self so that, as a passionate Leader and trailblazer, you can finally make the impact in the world that you are here for (with confidence). 
Using her Tune-In method and the teachings of A Course In Miracles, she works with individuals one-on-one, in groups, and also through businesses to help them slow down while still being productive. This includes ditching the self-care guilt, creating a deeper connection with their Higher Self and flexing their soul connection muscle so that they can be their own inner guides to fulfillment and happiness now. 
Claudia-Sam worked in Media for over 10 years in Montreal, Canada, and after burning-out, she dove into making her life better so that others’ can also thrive without fear, self-doubt, worry or stress.
She taught yoga all over the world and has thousands of students on Insight Timer.
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Listen to The Be Happy Now Show anywhere you find your podcasts here: http://thebehappynowshow.com and take advantage of resources to help you get out of your head and into your heart by going here: https://claudiasamsoulcoaching.com/resources
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Sign up for Claudia-Sam's free training THIS MONTH: How to believe in your goals so that they can finally come true. 
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In this episode we have the pleasure of hearing from Viv, founder of Over Gen Poverty.  

We explore:

Viviana Vazquez is the founder of OverGenPoverty, an online community for people overcoming generational poverty and building generational wealth. Viviana teaches financial literacy lessons through the lens of a first-gen grad, promotes transparency, and shares free resources for her community. 

You can learn more about Viv and her mission on Instagram, Over Gen Poverty, where she educates on financial literacy, and provides free resources on building financial wealth.

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The first-generation eldest daughter receives all the responsibility, high expectations from everyone, and constant requests for help or advice. 
But what each eldest daughter truly wants is for someone to show up for her the way she shows up for everyone else. 
As the first gen eldest daughter you're praised for what you do, and it can lead you to wonder if you're loved for who you are and not for what you do for others. 
In this episdoe I share the one thing I did after battling this very thought, and completely changed the world around me which led to a promotion, traveling as a digital nomad full-time, and entering my first exclusive relationship. 
Tune in if you are a first-gen eldest daughter ready to live life on your terms without guilt for showing up for yourself.

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Learn how my client, was able to go from putting pressure on her partner to hearing him say "I love you" organically without her prompting.

After joining 1:1 coaching with me:

In this episode, I talk about how she got here and the biggest lessons and shifts she made along the way. 

If her story spoke to you and reflects what you want in your life as a first-generation eldest daughter, schedule a consultation call via the link below to learn more about The Intermission. 

The Intermission is my 4-month program where you learn how to create a lifestyle that leaves your mental and physical health thriving, improves the quality of your relationships, and provides work/life balance. 

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In this episode we have the honor of having psychotherapist, coach, educator, and social worker TJ Matton on to share her expertise around play.
We explore:

TJ’s business, The Playful Revolution, is focused on helping people understand the neuroscience of play and reconnect with the power and joy of play. TJ helps adults learn how to liberate their mind and bodies through play.Play is a primal need to the human body and is the neglected side of mindfulness. TJ helps people find enjoyment in the everyday, playful ways to manage stress, and empowering ways to greater fulfillment.
Find TJ on Instagram or find out more about her services via her website.

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In this episode I wrap up the 2023 year on the podcast, and share some changes coming to the podcast in 2024. 

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