The Worthiness Mindset Podcast

Hello from New Hampshire, if you haven't been to New England you are missing out! Being here I haven't really wanted to be plugged in, but my old programming continues to share its ugly head. That programming says I need to do more, wake up earlier, and work harder. I've got a case of the shoulds! Instead of falling back into that habit, I wrote about it. 'Beating yourself up is not a prerequisite for being human.' Stop being your own worst critic. 

I'm always reminded of my worthiness, and that there is no goal, no end point. As your capacity for worthiness grows, we are frustrated by stagnation, but our growth is not linear, life is not linear. There is no problem in slowing down, there is no problem. Part of the growth is finding the balance, and without a decent cup of worthiness, you will not find balance. Hard work does not mean hard accomplishment, instead, accomplishment is chalked up to practice and care. 

This week, for Upstate New York, I'm sharing with you something I realized while enjoying coffee by a waterfall this morning. Fish doing their best to swim upriver, trying again and again and refusing to give up, reminded me of people. Our thoughts are trying to jump out of societal norms and move along with our own thoughts. When the waterfall of beliefs continues to come down on us, doing the work feels more difficult. Instead of feeling like you need to be farther, continue to have grace and compassion for exactly where you are. 

Here's a monthly pep talk. While kayaking I was thinking over the idea of enoughness, noticing how the trees just existed. While it does, it changes our lives through the air and its existence. All it does is exist and it is enough. It's so significant that we are dependant on it, and it allows itself to be. Then I looked at the water, and realized the same thing, it just is enough. But, am I enough? That questioning dictates our actions trying to prove it so, in turn causing us to not live up to our truest potential. There is no such thing as not-enoughness, it's a lie. 

Join me for a pay what you can masterclass on being Enough next Tuesday, June 29th. The link is in my IG bio. 

Happy Thursday Worthiness Warriors! This topic has been in my awareness lately, this idea of being wrong, not enough, or the need to change. Coming from a space of needing to be something different to become a parent, have the dream business, or find the dream partner. This energy is living into our future selves. "One day I'll be x, y, z, enough." You are making yourself wrong in the present, and not accepting this version of yourself. You, right now, don't believe you are worthy as you are. 

Happy Thursday, coming to you from Westchester, PA on our trek up to Maine. I've been thinking a lot about the place we make decisions from, belief worthiness or unworthiness. Worthiness can sometimes feel so far and disconnected from us. Because everything stems from worthiness and self-worth our only solution is to break this belief. Regardless of it all, it is always true, you are worthy. Learning to see ourselves differently, and how to cultivate it in ourselves is urgent. Follow along with some examples of where we make decisions from enough, and not enough. 

I'm joined today with Alyssa Johnston from Simple Mind Coach, run by her and her husband Chuck. Alyssa and Chuck are responsible for helping Robbie and I understand how getting your mind right is crucial to getting your money right. She shares with us that wealthy people who decide, no matter where they start, can make the change in a single generation. When Robbie and I decided that there wasn't an option to stay in debt, Alyssa and Chuck worked with us after the decision. 

Find Alyssa and Chuck at www.simplemoneycoach.com

In a conversation with a client recently, this question was brought up. What is the decision I would make if I already was the person that I desire to become? If you already had the relationship, the job, the joy, and freedom you're craving. If you were already in love with your life, what decisions would you make? Instead of deciding based on your current life, decide your life based on where you want to be. You must do something different if you want to create something different in you life. What would that person choose if they already had everything they desired? 

When do you think you'll finally be enough? The truth is, you are enough on the days you don't show up your best, you are enough no matter what. We think that being enough needs to be earned and it is external. We forget that we are all human, and we tend to mix up perfection with being enough. Even when we are imperfect we are enough, even when you make mistakes. Guess what? You can be wrong and make mistakes and still be enough. When we realize that our enoughness cannot be taken away and that it just is, suddenly we can stop proving ourselves. 

This podcast comes to you from Illinois with us back on the road. Send any questions you have about van life so Robbie and I can answer them in an upcoming episode. We go into living your dream and doing you. The biggest portion of this, living authentically, is directly related to boundaries. Boundaries with others and with yourself. I consider boundaries one of my specialties, maybe because it has been one of my biggest lessons. I had no boundaries on what others thought before I started doing the work, not understanding that what people think is not important. Typically, boundary-setting starts with yourself and learning what to take on. When you set boundaries with someone, they will often not respond well to them because boundaries are set with people who tend to cross them. It is your job to uphold them.