The Wounds That Do Not Heal

TWTDNH is a truth-telling podcast on domestic violence, trauma, and systemic injustice. If you’ve survived abuse, loss, or institutional neglect—or work in these spaces—we’re seeking collaborators and experts to help amplify unheard voices. 📧 [email protected]

Last episode, we mourned the consequences of untreated PTSD. This time, we confront something far more calculated: a story of entitlement, control, and the deadly cost of leaving.

Sergeant Amy Colbert had done the unimaginable—survived war zones, brought daughters into the world, and chosen freedom after years of abuse. Days after returning from deployment, she packed up her life.

What followed was a chilling truth: for some, being left isn't just rejection—it’s justification for violence. 

This episode unpacks the story of a devoted mother, soldier, and woman who was finally ready to walk away. It explores what happens when power, ego, and entitlement collide.

Sources: 

📰 News Coverage & Initial Reports

• NBC News
• Great Basin Sun
• Austin American-Statesman

🪦 Memorial & Obituary 

• Find a Grave Memorial
• https://greatbasinsun.com/news/2019/apr/12/obituary-amy-contreras/

If you’re experiencing DV—please explore the resources below using a device that your abuser cannot monitor. 

U.S. Resources

• National Domestic Violence Hotline
  24/7 confidential support via phone (800-799-7233), text (“START” to 88788), and online chat. Offers safety planning, & more.
• DomesticShelters.org
  Searchable database of over 3,000 shelters and programs across the U.S. & Canada. 
• National Resource Center on Domestic Violence (NRCDV)
  Offers training, technical assistance, and policy advocacy. 
• Office on Violence Against Women (OVW)
  U.S. Department of Justice site with links to state coalitions, tribal programs, & national hotlines.
• State-by-State Resource Directory
  From the Office on Women’s Health—clickable map of DV coalitions & services in every U.S. state/territory.

Global Resources

• NO MORE Global Directory
  A comprehensive international directory of DV services in nearly every UN-recognized country.
• Hot Peach Pages
  Offers DV information & hotline listings in over 110 languages. 
• Global Network of Women’s Shelters
  Connects shelters worldwide for advocates/survivors globally.
• Pathways to Safety International
  Tailored support for Americans experiencing abuse while abroad

If you’re a service member struggling with mental health:
 • Call 988, then press 1

TWTDNH is a truth-telling podcast on domestic violence, trauma, and systemic injustice. If you’ve survived abuse, loss, or institutional neglect—or work in these spaces—we’re seeking collaborators and experts to help amplify unheard voices. 📧 [email protected]

In this deeply personal and unflinchingly honest episode, Tressa will unravel the tragedy at the heart of a Canadian family’s devastation... and the sprawling system failures behind it. From ignored cries for help to institutional silence, and the high cost of unchecked trauma, we examine the forces that failed Lionel Desmond—and the loved ones who paid the price.

This is not just a story about one man. It's about the machinery that protects itself, the cracks in our support systems, the emotional warfare military families face, and the generational cost of doing nothing.

If you’ve ever wondered what trauma looks like when it isn’t treated—or what silence sounds like when it's systemic—this episode is for you. Listen with care.

🔗 Primary Sources on the Lionel Desmond Inquiry and Travis Decker

• Desmond Fatality Inquiry – Official Website: Includes the full final report, recommendations, witness list, and background on the inquiry.
• CBC News: The System Failed Lionel Desmond and His Family: In-depth reporting on the inquiry’s findings and systemic failures.
• Global News: Final Report of the Desmond Inquiry Released: Overview of the inquiry’s timeline, delays, and key conclusions.
• 📰 Travis Decker Sought Mental Health Counseling 2 Weeks Before Daughter Murders – This piece provides additional context on Decker’s visit to Bates Counseling and includes powerful commentary from both providers about the systemic gaps that left him—and many others—without adequate support.

🧠 Mental Health Treatment Resources

• Stella Center – Official Website
  Offers cutting-edge treatments for PTSD, anxiety, depression, and traumatic brain injury, including Stellate Ganglion Block (SGB), ketamine infusion therapy, TMS, and more. Over 20 locations across the U.S.

📚 Books by Dr. Shauna “Doc” Springer

📘 WARRIOR: How to Support Those Who Protect Us
A powerful exploration of the emotional and psychological challenges faced by military personnel and first responders. It offers insights into how we can better support those who serve.
📗 BEYOND THE MILITARY: A Leader’s Handbook for Warrior Reintegration (co-authored with Jason Roncoroni)
This comprehensive guide addresses the psychological, cultural, and relational aspects of transitioning from military to civilian life.
📕 RELENTLESS COURAGE: Winning the Battle Against Frontline Trauma (co-authored with Sgt. Michael Sugrue)
A deep dive into the trauma experienced by law enforcement officers, offering a path to healing and resilience.

TWTDNH is a truth-telling podcast on domestic violence, trauma, and systemic injustice. If you’ve survived abuse, loss, or institutional neglect—or work in these spaces—we’re seeking collaborators and experts to help amplify unheard voices. 📧 [email protected]

**NSFW**

In this episode, Tressa delves into the trial of Jordan Henning, exposing the ways Ashley Henning was failed by the system.

We’ve dissected the crime, unraveled the investigation, and now, we step into the heart of the courtroom drama—examining the testimonies, the verdict, its repercussions, and the lasting impact of this tragedy. What was happening behind the scenes with the prosecution and jury? What secrets was Jordan Henning hiding? And how did Tressa become entangled in this case in the hopes of exposing Jordan? As we reflect on what the prosecution overlooked, we’re left questioning whether justice was intentionally disregarded—or how things could have taken a different turn.

John Williams victim impact video exposing Jordan Henning: 

'You Are A Disgrace': Ashley Henning's Cousin Addresses Jordan | Court TV Video

TWTDNH is a truth-telling podcast on domestic violence, trauma, and systemic injustice. If you’ve survived abuse, loss, or institutional neglect—or work in these spaces—we’re seeking collaborators and experts to help amplify unheard voices. 📧 [email protected]

In part one of this gripping episode, we unravel the shocking case of Jordan Henning, who murdered his wife, Ashley Henning. Tressa uncovers how an anonymous source handed her explosive evidence that the trial and media did not expose—revealing Jordan’s dark secrets and double life.

Ashley, a devoted mother and beloved woman, endured years of deception and abuse at the hands of her husband. But on June 26, 2023—her 37th birthday celebration—everything came to a devastating end. As Jordan’s aggression escalated, Ashley desperately tried to calm him and protect her children. Instead, his need for control led to her brutal murder, captured on the family's Nest camera system.

Jordan fled the scene, weaving a web of lies to conceal the truth. At trial, his defense team pushed outrageous claims while the prosecution struggled, failing to secure the justice Ashley deserved. This raises a troubling question: Was this merely a failure of the Commonwealth of Kentucky, or was something more insidious—like an underlying bias—at play?

Sources for today's episode: 

• Court TV – Covers the trial, sentencing, and key evidence, including Nest camera footage and witness testimony.
• Daily Mail – Details Jordan’s defense, his claims of abuse, and the shocking security footage capturing the murder.

Book discussed:

 Bancroft, L. (2002). Why does he do that? Inside the minds of angry and controlling men. Berkley Books. Available on platforms like Amazon and Goodreads. 

TWTDNH is a truth-telling podcast on domestic violence, trauma, and systemic injustice. If you’ve survived abuse, loss, or institutional neglect—or work in these spaces—we’re seeking collaborators and experts to help amplify unheard voices. 📧 [email protected]

In this deeply emotional and thought-provoking episode, Tressa returns after an unplanned hiatus to tackle an array of systemic issues. From navigating the complexities of domestic violence, military accountability, and the enduring trauma of war, this episode serves as a powerful blend of storytelling, advocacy, and education.

The host shares updates on the tragic cases of Dana Alotaibi, Mischa Johnson, Ruby Alcantar, and Madalyn Coulter—stories that expose systemic failures in protecting female individuals within military communities. Through these narratives, the host highlights the resilience of victims' families and the legislative progress inspired by their efforts, including the introduction of "Mischa’s Law." Special attention is given to the heartbreaking story of Madalyn Coulter, a veteran and mother whose life was cut short by an act of premeditated violence. Her legacy is honored, and her story is a call to action against the enabling of abusive behavior and the glorification of perpetrators under the guise of mental health struggles.

The episode also delves into the hidden costs of war, challenging the glorification of military service and exposing the long-lasting impact of war on service members and their families. 

Whether you are a true crime enthusiast, an advocate for domestic violence awareness, or someone seeking a deeper understanding of military culture and its ripple effects, this episode offers a compelling mix of education, advocacy, and inspiration. Tune in to honor the victims, challenge societal norms, and join the fight for justice and systemic change.

Sources for this episode: 

https://www.savannahnow.com/story/news/crime/2022/07/19/former-nine-line-apparel-employees-dead-apparent-murder-suicide-savannah-georgia/10096188002/

https://www.wjcl.com/article/nine-line-savannah-murder-suicide/40654716

Interview excerpt with fiancé Blake taken from: Joe Pags Show 

Interview excerpt of close friend/brother Josh discussing Zachary Scalf video taken from an interview with WTF NATION RADIO

TWTDNH is a truth-telling podcast on domestic violence, trauma, and systemic injustice. If you’ve survived abuse, loss, or institutional neglect—or work in these spaces—we’re seeking collaborators and experts to help amplify unheard voices. 📧 [email protected]

Dive into the haunting story of Dana Alotaibi, an OnlyFans model and influencer, whose life was cut tragically short. In this episode, Tressa explores the systemic failures, societal attitudes, and lack of empathy that left Dana vulnerable despite her desperate pleas for help. Her story sheds light on the broader issues of victim-blaming and domestic violence within the military community.

Don't miss this eye-opening episode that emphasizes the need for a more compassionate and understanding society. Tune in to hear Dana's story and be part of the conversation on fostering empathy and support for victims everywhere.

 Join Tressa next week as she dives into the concept of DARVO and discusses its relevance in pop culture, including in a major current event that is hijacking every storyline, involving actor Justin Baldoni and actress Blake Lively. Stay tuned for some personal anecdotes about Justin Baldoni, Tressa's childhood next door neighbor, and a deeper understanding of this abuse tactic Justin is being accused of.

Resources for today's show:

Marine charged with 2nd degree murder following ex-wife’s stabbing death

GRAPHIC: Military spouse fatally stabbed in Hawaii sought help for repeated abuse, mother says

Marine accused of stabbing pregnant ex-wife to death after fight on busy Hawaii highway | Stars and Stripes

Dana's video conversation with domestic violence advocate found in this article: Dana Alotaibi Video: Victim Was OnlyFans, Instagram Model

TWTDNH is a truth-telling podcast on domestic violence, trauma, and systemic injustice. If you’ve survived abuse, loss, or institutional neglect—or work in these spaces—we’re seeking collaborators and experts to help amplify unheard voices. 📧 [email protected]

In this gripping episode, we explore the tragic stories of two Army veterans, Matthew Livelsberger and Shamsud-Din Jabbar, who committed shocking acts on New Year's Day. Both men, plagued by mental health struggles, spiraled into radicalization and violence, leading to devastating consequences.

We delve into the commonalities and differences in their backgrounds, shedding light on the systemic failures that left them vulnerable. This episode raises crucial questions about the support systems for veterans, the impact of PTSD, and the threat of radicalization.

Tune in for an eye-opening discussion that not only recounts these harrowing events but also offers insights into the broader issues facing our veterans today. Discover the warning signs to look out for and how we can better support those who have served our country.

Episode Sources:

New Orleans attack: Shamsud-Din Jabbar went apartment hunting before terror attack, FBI says

Military releases service record of New Orleans attack suspect

Soldier who died by suicide in Las Vegas told ex-girlfriend of pain, exhaustion after Afghanistan | AP News

ISIS: What does it really want? | CNN

TWTDNH is a truth-telling podcast on domestic violence, trauma, and systemic injustice. If you’ve survived abuse, loss, or institutional neglect—or work in these spaces—we’re seeking collaborators and experts to help amplify unheard voices. 📧 [email protected]

Rest in peace Ruby. I promise I will not let them sweep this under the rug. 

Ruby Tenorio Obituary and Online Memorial (2024)

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“Tressa the Truthsayer”

TWTDNH is a truth-telling podcast on domestic violence, trauma, and systemic injustice. If you’ve survived abuse, loss, or institutional neglect—or work in these spaces—we’re seeking collaborators and experts to help amplify unheard voices. 📧 [email protected]

This podcast episode delves into the tragic events surrounding Matthew Livelsberger, a 37-year-old active-duty Special Operations Soldier, who committed suicide and detonated a vehicle-born improvised explosive device (VBIED) outside Trump Tower on New Year's Day. The episode addresses Livelsberger's struggle with PTSD and perhaps traumatic brain injuries (TBI) and explores the military's handling of mental health issues among its service members. Tressa discusses Livelsberger's background, the conspiracy theories that have emerged following his death, and the psychological toll of war on veterans.

Tressa also examines the broader issue of veterans' vulnerability to radicalization and extremist groups. She highlights the challenges veterans face in transitioning to civilian life, their susceptibility to moral injuries, and the role of social media in fostering extremist ideologies. The episode emphasizes the need for mandatory mental health treatment for service members and calls for a reevaluation of the military's approach to mental health care to prevent further tragedies. The discussion is both a poignant reflection on the human cost of war and a call to action for better support for veterans and their families.

Sources from this episode:
 
UN Report find alleged drug facilities were not lawful targets - airtrikes caused significant civilian casualties | OHCHR

Matthew Livelsberger—More Messages Allegedly From Cybertruck Suspect Shared

Vegas cybertruck explosion outside Trump Tower. What we know so far.

TWTDNH is a truth-telling podcast on domestic violence, trauma, and systemic injustice. If you’ve survived abuse, loss, or institutional neglect—or work in these spaces—we’re seeking collaborators and experts to help amplify unheard voices. 📧 [email protected]

In this episode, Tressa explores the dichotomy of Hawaii as both a paradise and a challenging station for military personnel, highlighting the high cost of living and unique dynamics that can create stress, especially for lower-ranking service members with families. The discussion then shifts to a broader trend of young men, including teenagers, resorting to extreme violence and murder when faced with rejection, emphasizing the alarming rise in teen violence since the 90s and the impact of access to firearms and lack of emotional control.

The episode underscores the importance of teaching young people about healthy boundaries and coercive control to prevent teen dating violence. The host shares personal insights and expert opinions on instilling these values in children from a young age.

Tragic stories of two women, Ms. Kayla Holder and Ms. Laau Jordan Laulusa, who lost their lives to young service members, are shared to highlight the devastating impact of emotional abuse and lack of self-regulation in relationships.

The episode concludes with a call to action, urging listeners to rate and review the show to help reach more people in similar situations and offering safety tips for those considering leaving abusive relationships.

Sources for today's episode:

Intimate Partner Homicide of Adolescents | Adolescent Medicine | JAMA Pediatrics | JAMA Network

Family mourns victims of Ewa Beach double-homicide; suspect charged, bail set at $2M

Ex-gf of Mililani murder suspect speaks out | KHON2