Therapized

In this episode I sit down with Dan Main, LMFT to discuss EMDR and Trauma.

Dan Main, LMFT became licensed in 2015 and EMDR Trained in 2016. In addition to running a part time private practice in Walnut Creek (now via Telehealth in CA), he is a Program Supervisor at Community Options for Families and Youth in the Educationally Related Mental Health Services (ERMHS) department. He is currently pursuing his certification in EMDR and participates in ongoing consultation with an EMDRIA Certified Trainer. In his private practice he provides individual psychotherapy for ages 14 and up who are looking for help with symptoms of trauma, depression, and anxiety. 

You can find more information on Dan Main LMFT @ http://www.danmaincounseling.com/

I should clarify that the book I talked about, "High on Arrival" is not as much a book that explains EMDR, but a narrative of one individual's journey and how her childhood trauma has affected her. I think it would be helpful for those who want more understanding of that form of trauma.

Here is the link to find an EMDR therapist: https://www.emdria.org/about-emdr-therapy/find-an-emdr-therapist/

Here is a video by EMDRIA that could be useful for those just learning about EMDR for the first time: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pkfln-ZtWeY&feature=youtu.be

Nadine Burk Harris (First ever Surgeon General of CA)  has a great Ted Talk on Childhood trauma that might be cool to in notes:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=95ovIJ3dsNk&list=PLDYaByOmmF513Issx2ne3_w0iwyg-Ifor&index=939\

Recommended Books;

High on Arrival

Awakening the Tiger-Peter Levine

Mindsight: Daniel Siegel

Intro Song: Someone up there likes you-Brett Chance

Break Song: There is no childhood as such-Brett Chance

Outro Song: Fresh Air-by Charmer and Klay

Welcome to 2020! Have you ever felt that things in your life would be alright once you got "there?" Whatever that "there" might be: paying off debt, graduating from school, getting another job, your children moving out, retirement, etc. Today's episode is about balancing the goals we are striving for and also recognizing and having gratitude for what is right in front of us. Goals are great, but are we stopping to smell the roses? The "there" may never exist, we may reach it and overlook it, and we may miss the joys right of us. Enjoy! 

Special thanks to Charmer and Klay for providing the excellent music! You can find them on Spotify, Apple Music, Google Music and more! Find their music at links provided below!

Intro Song: Someone up there likes you-By Brett Chance

Intermission Song: Campfire-By Charmer and Klay

Outro Song: Orange Blossom-By Charmer and Klay

https://soundcloud.com/charmerandklay

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKcg0Iv93YVYhl7dOt0Fl9g?reload=9

Is the idea of failure a barrier that leads to avoidance? Or do you view it as a necessity to personal growth and development? In this episode I reflect upon the idea of failure to explore how may remove our ability to grow, adapt, and succeed simply by attempting to avoid failure. We also explore reframing failure from a negative experience to a necessary experience to personal growth. Enjoy!

Ever feel badly for turning down offers, invites, requests or favors? Does saying "yes" often result in feeling resentful, overwhelmed, and overall distressed? Do you feel selfish or like a bad friend/sibling/coworker for saying "no?" Well today we explore the guilt of saying "no" and how the meaning we create around setting personal boundaries can impact our mental health and relationships. With the holidays quickly approaching and more invites and social/family expectations, take a moment to reflect upon your own needs and when saying "no" will actually help to improve your overall wellness. Enjoy!

Special thanks as always to Brett Chance for providing the original music. You can also check out Brett's new music under "Charmer and Klay" no playing on Spotify. 

In this episode we have two very special guests, friends, and fellow therapists, Sandy Kong and Stephanie Kaufman! Sandy has worked with clients struggling with substance abuse, addiction, and more recently provided grief work for families that have lost a family member to homicide. Stephanie has worked extensively with families by supporting them through past traumas; specifically how it has impacted their children's behaviors and mental health. More recently, Stephanie has written a children's book, "What a Feeling," that aims to help parents and children identify situations that trigger particular feelings in the mind and body. Stephanie also produces videos that provide parents with parenting tips and strategies in Spanish at www.padrespracticos.com. Thank you for listening and enjoy!

In this episode we explore a basic concept: trusting the process. Why is that important? Well, the process is the part that we control, and the outcome we may be hoping for can be elusive or even disappointing leading to further frustration, anxiety, and even helplessness. Therefore, attach to the process! 

In this episode, we wrap things up for my 5 Keys to Effective Communication with "Nothings Personal, but Love." In this episode, we tie all keys to together. It's easy to take things personally and end up in conflict with our loved ones, colleagues, and sometimes even strangers. In this episode, we explore taking a step back realizing that other people's behaviors aren't necessarily about us unless its love, appreciation, adoration, etc. Please subscribe and share! Also, the 1000 listen giveaway is ending this month, so please share on Facebook and Instagram!

Being honest when communicating is more than telling the truth; it's about being honest with ourselves, recognizing our vulnerabilities, admitting our reactions to insecurities, and reflecting upon why we said what we said or did what we did. I break it down in this episode in 3 basic parts. 

Also, this episode will get us to 1,000 listens! Which means its giveaway time! Listen to details of the giveaway at the end of the episode. 

In this episode, we look at "assuming ignorance over intent" in our relationships with others. Why is this important? So that we don't react to situations that trigger us, but explore conflicts and tension with curiosity to find more effective ways of interacting with others. Listen to this brief episode for 3 easy steps to practicing my 3rd key to effective communication.

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