Things We Say in Therapy

By Tash

The Things We Say in Therapy Podcast explores the everyday patterns, triggers, and quiet truths that shape our mental health. Each episode blends psychology with real-life reflection; unpacking top

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January 18, 2026Why you let yourself down but fear letting others down (the psychology of people pleasing)
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In Episode 18 of Things We Say in Therapy, we dive into why so many of us tolerate disappointing ourselves but panic at the thought of letting others down. Discover the psychological roots of people pleasing, the impact of childhood conditioning, and why your fear of disappointing others may be sabotaging your self-worth. Learn practical steps to set boundaries, validate yourself, and break free from self-neglect and self-abandonment. If you’ve ever felt torn between your own needs and others’ expectations, this episode is a must-listen for your mental health journey.
Key topics covered:
The differences between disappointing yourself vs. others
How fear of abandonment and rejection shapes your decisions
The emotional costs of people pleasing
Steps to build self-awareness and healthy boundaries
Why self-validation is crucial for lasting growth
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January 14, 2026Why you feel safer imagining than in reality (maladaptive daydreaming) | avoidance, escapism
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Why does imagining life feel safer than actually living it?
In Snack Size Deep Dive 5, we explore maladaptive daydreaming: the habit of retreating into imagined scenarios, worst-case outcomes, or fantasy worlds as a way to cope with discomfort, anxiety, or trauma.
If real life feels unsafe, overwhelming, or unpredictable, your mind may have learned to escape inward. While imagination can feel protective, relying on it too heavily can quietly keep you stuck, disconnected, and avoiding growth.
If you struggle with:
Avoidance and escapism
Living in your head instead of the present
Social anxiety or fear of embarrassment
Feeling safer imagining life than participating in it
Wanting to heal but feeling stuck
This episode is for you.
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January 11, 2026 How to make the right decisions when you don’t trust yourself || self-trust, confidence, intuition
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Struggling to make decisions? Episode 17 of Things We Say in Therapy breaks down how to choose the right path even when self-doubt, overthinking, and fear of getting it wrong feel overwhelming. We explore the psychology behind decision-making, how to separate intuition from anxiety, and practical strategies to build confidence in your judgment. You’ll learn how to create clarity, reduce mental noise, and make choices you can stand behind. If you’re navigating uncertainty or constantly second-guessing yourself, this episode offers grounded guidance for self-reflection and self-compassion as well as mindset tools to help you move forward with more trust, confidence, and self-awareness.
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December 31, 2025How to stop comparing yourself to others (and what it's costing you)
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Do you find yourself constantly comparing your life to others? In Episode 5 of Things We Say in Therapy: Snack Size Deep Dives, we explore the hidden cost of comparison and how it quietly affects your confidence, focus, and mental health.
This is what you will learn in today's episode:
why we compare
the impact it has on your self-worth
practical strategies to shift focus to your own growth
This episode is perfect for anyone looking to boost confidence, reduce anxiety, and to learn how comparison affects us psychologically, without us even knowing.
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December 28, 2025Looking good vs. being good: Why needing to appear kind causes harm || accountability, self-Image, people-pleasing
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Some people seem kind, caring, and thoughtful...but are they truly good, or just trying to look good? In Episode 16 ofThings We Say In Therapy, we dive into the difference between authentic goodness and performing kindness for appearances.
Learn about psychological concepts like moral licensing, cognitive dissonance, and shame avoidance, and discover how these behaviors show up in everyday life and relationships. I'll share some personal experiences, practical advice, and self-reflective questions to help you spot patterns in yourself and others, and move toward authentic growth and integrity.
Other key concepts you'll learn in this episode:
Why some people become defensive and blame-shift when they’re held accountable, and what that reveals psychologically
How moral licensing allows people to justify harmful behaviour while still seeing themselves as “good”
How focusing on image can damage relationships
Signs that someone prioritises reputation over emotional repair
How to reflect on your own patterns without self-shaming
Practical ways to move from image-management to integrity and emotional maturity
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December 24, 2025Why you can’t stop thinking about someone you hate || rumination, negativity bias & letting go
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Why do some people stay stuck in our minds long after they’ve hurt us? In Snack-Size Deep Dive 4 on the Things We Say in Therapy Podcast, we break down the psychology behind rumination, negativity bias, and why hate can feel impossible to let go of.
This episode explores:
Why your brain obsesses over people you dislike
The role of anxiety, control, and perceived threats
Why rumination feels protective but actually keeps you stuck
How to stop replaying the same thoughts without forcing them away
Practical ways to redirect anger and reclaim your mental space
You don’t need closure, forgiveness, or justice to move on. You need awareness, acceptance, and new mental habits.
This is perfect for anyone struggling with intrusive thoughts, overthinking, resentment, or emotional burnout.
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December 21, 2025Self-sacrifice isn’t noble: Why people-pleasing destroys self-respect || Self-abandonment, self-worth, validation-seeking
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Many of us were taught that being “selfless” makes us loveable, but when self-sacrifice replaces self-respect, it slowly destroys your mental health.
In Episode 5 of Things We Say in Therapy, we explore the psychology behind chronic self-sacrifice, people-pleasing, and the need for validation. We unpack how childhood conditioning, attachment styles, and emotional neglect can wire you to over-give, abandon your needs, and tie your worth to how useful you are to others.
This episode is for anyone who:
Feels responsible for everyone else’s emotions
Struggles to set boundaries
Feels guilty prioritising their own needs
Is exhausted from always being “the strong one”
Self-sacrifice is not noble when it costs you your self-respect.
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December 17, 2025 Why crying feels unsafe: The psychology of emotional suppression || Fear of vulnerability, Childhood conditioning
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In this Snack Size Deep Dive, we explore why crying feels dangerous for so many of us. From childhood conditioning and nervous-system responses to identity, shame, and emotional armour, this episode breaks down the real psychology behind why we resist tears.
You’ll also learn three practical self-reflection tools to help you stop disconnecting from your emotions and start understanding what’s really underneath the urge to cry. Links below to support the show:
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December 14, 2025How to recognise normalised dysfunction: Signs you're accepting toxic behaviour without realising it
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Have you ever left a social gathering feeling drained, anxious, or doubting yourself, and assumed it was normal?
In this episode of Things We Say in Therapy, we explore normalised dysfunction: the toxic behaviours we learn to tolerate in friendships, families, and workplaces without even realising it.
You’ll learn:
What normalised dysfunction is and why it happens
The psychological concepts behind it (hedonic adaptation, normalcy bias, attachment patterns)
Signs your friends, family, or workplace may be harming your self-esteem
How to listen to your body’s signals instead of your self-doubt
How to set boundaries, recognise patterns, and rebuild self-trust
Journal prompts and self-reflection questions to help you identify toxic environments in your own life
This episode will help you uncover toxic patterns in your relationships, and what to do next.
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December 10, 2025 How to stop overanalysing everything: Why you spiral & how to stop || overthinking, rumination, anxiety, hypervigilence
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In this Snack Size Deep Dive, we break down why you overanalyse everything, from replaying conversations to predicting every possible scenario. Overthinking is not a personality flaw; it's a form of hypervigilance rooted in past experiences, anxiety, and the need to feel safe in uncertainty.
This episode covers:
• the psychology behind rumination and mental spiraling
• how hypervigilance forms when you grow up in unpredictability
• the hidden fear beneath every overthinking loop
• the 3-step method to stop overanalysis
• why your brain mistakes anxiety for preparation
• how to build emotional safety and trust in yourself
Perfect for anyone who struggles with overthinking, rumination, anxiety, embarrassment, perfectionism, or fear of making mistakes.
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FAQs about Things We Say in Therapy:

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