Laura has been known to "sleep-swipe" a time or two on dating apps. For the uninitiated, sleep-swiping is when Laura dozes off and her fingers do the swiping for her. This summer, she sleep-swiped right on Taking Chances Tyler, a man who was only visiting Chicago for a few days. He lived a full plane ride and several states away, so Laura was surprised when she discovered that their connection was more than text deep. A series of romantic weekends and big feelings followed, until one day, Tyler pulled the rug out without warning. However, after a little crying, a little no-contact, and a lot of heart-to-heart conversations, this love story wasn't over. Today we're talking about hope, connection, and when to give love a second chance.

Today, Heather and Laura are debriefing this past year, then talking about real strategies for self-growth in 2023 — with a sense of humor, as always. They're covering the rollercoaster that was 2022, including international adventures, reflections on connection, and why Laura is determined to carry assorted enormous furniture by herself. Thirsty is also sharing why New Year's resolutions fail where intention wins, exploring why we have so much trouble asking others for help, and proposing that accountability should make you feel supported rather than scolded. New revelations include the fact that while Laura is ready to share a big love update, she also paints like a monster and Heather isn't allowed in her office — ever. Lastly, they've got Thirsty's very first digital tool kit: "Thirsty for More", a 31-page strategic framework for putting words to what's going on in your heart and helping you find the momentum to move forward thoughtfully. Buckle up, 2023 is going to be the best year yet, for all of us.

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Thirsty for More: a digital toolkit for self-growth

The Thirsty Shop

Attachment Theory is a field of study coined in the 1950s by psychoanalyst John Bowlby. This phrase describes how the behaviors we learn as a child make a big impact on our romantic relationships as adults. We call them “attachment styles,” and there are four: secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful-avoidant. Laura and Heather wonder whether your attachment style can change over time? Is your style a permanent label, or something you can shift? Are they doomed to be anxious attachers for life? Today, Thirsty is talking about how identifying your style can help you understand yourself better, the big lessons Laura learned from her very first boyfriend, and why “barfable moments” are A Thing. They’re also covering why you should bring your bananas to the group chat, how octopus arms help you hang on to your problems, and why anxious avoiders would rather take breadcrumbs than nothing at all.

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The Thirsty shop

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love, by  Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel SF Heller (book)

The Attached style quizzes