This Is Too Much

Welcome to Episode2! 
Today we are dismantling and lifting the veil off perfectionism with the amazing Dr. Jen! Dr. Jen and Andrea both grew up self-identifying as perfectionists. The two bond quickly over their shared emotional experience and all that entails ! 
 
In this Episode we talk about:

• What is perfectionism?
• Can we pinpoint where perfectionism comes from? 
• Intra-personal trauma and its impact
• High functioning anxiety   
• Why it's "easy" to internalizing low self worth
• Trauma as an experience that ruptures a just-world belief
• The pressures "children of immigrant's" face
• Integrating “perfectionism as an identity” 
• Perfectionism as a coping mechanism. 
•  Maladaptive coping mechanisms
• Why showing up as "too much" is not always our fault 
• Self image obsession as a desire for connection 
• Perfectionism getting in the way of connection 
• Behavioral experiments that help you get better with your perfectionism 
• Guilt and perfectionism 
• Self-forgiveness 
• Values based living 

Dr. Jen Douglas is a psychologist, coach and speaker on perfectionism in women. She helps individuals and organizations around the world break free from unhelpful personal narratives and societal expectations. Dr. Jen lives in the San Francisco Bay Area where she teaches and supervises fellows at Stanford University School of Medicine. Her online course Freedom from Perfectionism: How to Take Back Your Time and Live a More Authentic Life, can be found here:

drjenniferdouglas.com/courses

Find us on Instagram: 
@DrJenOfficial
@AndreaMLondo

Book excerpt is from "The Creative Act: A Way of Being" by Rick Rubin

In this episode, Andrea and her first guest,  therapist Anna Hollaender-Bird, dive head first into what it means to be "too much".  Like listening in on a conversation between two friends, we get insight into their experience as Latina women navigating their respective industries, families, and environments. 

In this Episode we talk about:

• What does feeling like “too much" mean from a psychological point of view
• The association between doing "too much" and what Anna calls being a “high achiever" 
• The dichotomy of being perceived as successful and simultaneously feeling shame or embarrassment around everything you are 
• The link b/w identifying as “to much” and being a perfectionist 
• Assumptions we make around others based on their looks 
• The psychological imprint you operate from as the children of immigrants 
• Overcompensating for insecurities through social media 
• “Fantasy Selves”
• The correlation between self-imposed pressure and societal expectation 
• Is there such a thing as a middle ground? AKA “just enough” versus “too much” 
• The pro’s and con’s of perceived external beauty 
• What your internal dialogue and self talk says about you 
• Confronting our shadows and insecurities through healthy mature conversation 
• Extremes in movie representation 
• The struggles of any self-imposed career title 
• Authentic Self 
• What does embracing and acting authentically look like? 

People mentioned in this Podcast:

YouTuber Christina Mychas 
Actress Barbara Mori 
Speaker and Author Brené Brown

More about Anna and how to contact her:

Anna is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) specializing in working with women, creatives, high-achievers, and people with difficult romantic relationships and/or difficult relationships with their parents.  Anna aims to make coming to therapy a safe and warm experience. She’s integrative in her therapeutic approach using traditional  “talk therapy,” EMDR therapy, and performance psychology techniques to help people heal and achieve peak performance. Her education includes the University of Southern California (USC) and Antioch University.

Anna’s career highlights include being a public speaker on the topic of mental health at universities such as UCLA and & UC Berkeley and her clinical work at the renowned Reconnect Trauma Treatment Center in the Pacific Palisades.

Currently, Anna is seeing adults based in California online for therapy. She also runs a group for adults about dealing with your difficult parent. Check out her website for more information at talkwithanna.com/entertainment-industry

Anna has rolling client openings.
You can always reach out to her for a free 15-minute consultation consultation at: www.talkwithanna.com/schedule/