Thoughts May Vary

Welp, looks like we may have been practicing gratitude wrong (according to the research). Today, we adjust our coping strategies in light of the holiday season. We chatted about the emotional baggage the holidays hold for us, how we've been doing gratitude wrong, and the research behind how to practice gratitude. Then, you shared with us what you’re grateful for! 

0:00 Intro

04:20 We’ve been practicing gratitude wrong our entire lives

01:28 Thoughts on Thanksgiving

04:23 Thoughts on Christmas

07:25 Christmas time traditions

10:28 Experiencing gratitude

16:31 Some research-based evidence

19:20 What we've been doing wrong

31:43 What y’all are grateful for

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Within every expression of gender, we each dance with a balance of masculine and feminine energies. Today, Amy Natalie joined us to walks us through how masculine lives in our mind, feminine in our bodies, and how we need each of them to create more harmony. 

Amy Natalie is a feminine embodiment coach, podcast host, and new author of “The Feminine Way”. She’s all about awakening our authentic selves, embodying feminine leadership, and helping us understand how masculine and feminine energies live within all of us.

0:00 Intro

6:21 Amy’s Unpacking

17:13 What is masculine vs feminine energy?

20:16 Where and how to begin

25:44 Connecting these energies to mental health

28:56 Toxic masculinity

31:35 How does this impact the collective?

34:42 Identity, setting, & relationships

41:44 Resources for finding archetypes 

42:59 Egoic or authentic?

46:01 The “dance” in romantic relationships

ALL THINGS AMY

https://amynatalieco.com/

https://amynatalieco.com/thefeminineway/

https://www.instagram.com/amynatalieco/

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How do you let go of anger and disappointment from childhood? When do you know it’s time to pivot? How do you trust a career change? From organizing your coping strategies on your notes app to obtaining strategic internships; you asked and we answered. 

0:00 Intro

4:08 Q&A 

04:19 Q1: What are some healthy coping mechanisms for stress and overwhelm?

11:48 Q2: How do you let go of anger and disappointment from childhood?

19:37 Q3: How do you stop being crazy even though you're self-aware about being crazy?

20:51 Q4: Gaby, how did you cope with your bf going long-distance for work?

25:11 Q5: Any career advice for recent grads / how to trust career change?

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Is trauma a necessary tool? Could something easy be productive? What’s your current mental health fixation? We’ve been waiting two years to get all four of us in a room to philosophize with our fellow mental health sisters—the Okay Sis x TMV crossover is finally here! We welcomed Scout Sobel and Mady Maio to the show with one giant unpacking, touching on everything from self-optimization, hustle culture, the benefits of trauma, and so much more. 

0:00 Intro

6:44 Mady’s unpacking

14:55 How could something easy be productive?

17:54 Stress just to be stressed

22:22 Is trauma a necessary tool? 

30:02 Trauma makes us who we are

33:32 Scout’s unpacking

38:16 Allegory for suicide

42:05 Mady’s mental health fixation

45:16 Scout’s mental health fixation 

Don’t forget to listen to us on Okay Sis! Find the episode here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/okay-sis/id1434353917?i=1000630670055

ALL THINGS SCOUT + MADY:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/okay-sis/id1434353917?ign-itscg=30200&ign-itsct=lt_p

https://www.instagram.com/okaysispodcast/

https://www.instagram.com/scoutsobel/

https://www.instagram.com/madymaio/

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Jade Iovine, writer and host of the Live From Bed podcast, made her way out of bed today to chat with us about many TMV heavy-hitters. We’re talking: no connection in perfection, getting out of negative self-talk, co-creating your future, how to be a supportive partner to someone struggling with their mental health, the cat/dog theory, reframing cringe, and so much more. Jade is clearly aligned to the TMV familia, ready to unpack everything from moving through depression to why croissants are the superior baked good. 

0:00 Intro

2:05 Jade’s Unpacking

23:41 Communication, comfortability, & conflict

31:42 Getting out of negative self-talk

36:18 Co-creating your future

42:21 How to be a supportive partner to someone struggling with mental health challenges

46:48 Intimacy + antidepressants

53:15 The cat/dog theory

55:18 Reframing cringe 

ALL THINGS JADE:

https://www.instagram.com/jadeiovine/

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/live-from-bed-with-jade-iovine/id1546892640

https://jadeiovine.substack.com/welcome

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How to be vulnerable while feeling safe, how to find “your people” without putting yourself in a bubble, and the art of being interpreted… Today, we’re continuing our conversation on Expansive Friendships. If you haven’t already, go ahead and listen to Part 1 of Unpacking Expansive Friendships feat. Sam Abrahart. 

In Part 2, we cover: 

0:00 – Intro

05:39 – Q&A begins

06:19 – Q1: What are your thoughts on friend groups?

14:20 – Q2: What to do when you're struggling with friendships that you thought were aligned and expansive but are not?

21:06 – Q3: How do we share parts of ourselves, our stories, and find vulnerability around others while maintaining a safe distance?

26:41 – Q4: How do you know if it's time to let go of a friendship?

32:54 – Q5: How do you navigate the balance between finding "your people" and not putting yourself in a bubble?

36:34 – Q6: The art of being accurately interpreted... humor, taste, etc.

39:03 – Q7: What's your favorite friendship quality time activity for fall?

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What are expansive friendships? There’s no better person to chat with regarding authentic, aligned, and perspective-shifting friendships than friend-of-the-pod Sam Abrahart. Sam is one of our co-hosts dearest friends, a mental health advocate, and the founder & CEO of The Mayfair Group. Her brand is ubiquitous amongst cool girls (Bella Hadid, Hailey Bieber, Sophie Turner + more) and is known for their advocacy for mental wellness. 

Today, Sam joined us to answer your questions in Part 1 of Unpacking Expansive Friendships. From “soft-girl” eras, tips for slowing down, navigating friendship boundaries, how to make friends in a new city… today, we’re getting into it all. We cover: 

0:00 – Intro

3:30 – Sam’s Unpacking

12:16 – How Sam is slowing down

16:40 – Q&A: Expansive friendships

17:40 – Q1: What is expansive friendship? As basic as that may be, can you guys explain that?

24:27 – Q2: How have your friendships shifted over time as you've been living more in alignment with your authentic selves?

36:02 – Q3: How do you navigate setting boundaries in friendships when you aren't mentally or emotionally able to be supportive?

40:43 – A brief shadow work interlude

43:58 – Q4: How do I actively seek out expansive friendships in the right places while working remotely in a new city?

53:46 – Q5: How do you navigate a friendship where you feel like the other one can't understand you without making that person feel judged or not enough?

59:05 – Q6: What are some ways you foster platonic intimacy with your friends?

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MORE SAM: 

https://www.instagram.com/samabrahart/

https://themayfairgroupllc.com/

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“Ni de aquí, ni de allá…” Today’s unpacking largely revolves around the intersectionality of a mixed identity and how those living at the intersection of any two or more cultures can often feel society’s push to conform — leaving them floating in the in between. 

The co-hosts begin to unpack this complex and nuanced lived experience through their own lenses, fully acknowledging that this unpacking is just scratching the surface.

0:00 – Warm up

7:09 – M’s Unpacking: organization vs. intuition

17:31 – G’s Unpacking: not from here, not from there

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How to explain your partner’s mental health to your family, what it feels like to be a witness to signs and synchronicities, and more of your brilliant questions, answered. 

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0:00 – A skincare lesson

3:18 – Q1: How do you wind down after a long day?

14:32 – Q2: Tips or resources when you feel directionless

17:11 – Q3: What does it feel like in your body to be tuned in, present, and witnessing synchronicities?

22:23 – Q4: How do you explain your significant other's mental health struggles to your own family?

25:13 – Q5: Can you share some of your favorite expanders that you followed in order to see yourself conquering your version of the 5-minute mile?

30:06 – Q6: Thoughts on being over-sensitive?

36:37 – Q7: What are some of your favorite nostalgic candies or sweet treats?

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The @lexie Podcast x TMV collab you’ve all been asking for! Our dear friend and podcast host, Lexie Lombard, joins us today to dive deep into grief’s never-ending story, being upset with her therapist, the nuances of art, and of course, Rick Rubin. We ask the hard-hitting questions like, “what if aliens are hot?” and get into the art and money connection. Make sure to check out her incredible, one-woman show the @lexie podcast anywhere you get your podcasts!

0:00 Intro 

3:24 M & Lexie’s grief related meet-cute 

7:34 Lexie's story about Sandy in the airport 

12:04 What if the aliens are hot? And is “alien” a slur? 

14:40 Lexie’s mad at her therapist

19:23 The art of storytelling 

24:36 Art, inspiration, and collecting experiences 

34:41 Money isn't the motivation 

46:46 Of course, Rick Rubin 

50:19 Lexie’s self-care routine

ALL THINGS LEXIE:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lexie/id1540856979

https://www.youtube.com/@LexieLombard

http://instagram.com/lexie

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