Thoughts May Vary

A chatty catch-up and unpacking, today, m+g unpack new approaches to self work, the limits of wellness practices, and drop too many hints on next week’s special manifestation expert. They touch on core wounds, the myriad of choices for mental health tools in your toolkit, the resistance felt right before jumping into deep self work, and so much more. Make sure to start Co-Create, TMV’s manifestation journal, in preparation for next week ;)

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Discount codes, extra unpackings, journal prompts, vlogging (+more!) all happening with our familia over on Patreon. Come hang out — https://www.patreon.com/thoughtsmayvary

Don’t forget to DM us on IG or submit a question on thoughtsmayvary.com to have your question or theme unpacked on a future episode! 

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DISCLAIMER: We are not licensed professionals. If you are seeking licensed and professional mental health support, please reach out to 741-741 (The Crisis Text Line) or The NAMI Helpline or The Trevor Project or reach out to us for more resources.

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It’s National Eating Disorder Awareness Week and today we are talking to one of our favorite people, Johanna Kandel. Johanna is the founder of The Alliance for Eating Disorders — the nation’s leading nonprofit providing referrals, education, and support to individuals experiencing eating disorders and their loved ones. After recovering from a long battle with various EDs (which we get into), she founded The Alliance, bringing so much of her personal insight into the incredible work that she does. This conversation was packed with vulnerability, wisdom, and resources. 

With Johanna, we discussed the genetic link to eating disorders and the power of understanding what is in our control, understanding when it’s time for treatment vs things you can do on your own, the power of a diagnosis (and dangers in self diagnosis), thoughts on dieting (don’t get her started on ozempic), and how to talk to someone you are concerned about. 

The Alliance offers comprehensive services, including:

Educational presentations and training days

Free, weekly, therapist-led support groups nationwide (virtual and in-person) for those experiencing eating disorders and for their loved ones

Support and referrals through both our free help-line and comprehensive referral website/app

Direct, low-cost, life-saving, outpatient treatment to underinsured and uninsured adults in the South Florida community.

Unique and empowering Southern Smash scale smashing events and SmashTALK panel discussions.

They also have an incredible Instagram as well as will be hosting virtual support groups all week long for National Eating Disorder Awareness Week Feb 27—March 5

BE SURE TO CHECK OUT THE ALLIANCE! 

https://www.allianceforeatingdisorders.com/

https://www.instagram.com/alliancefored/

Weekly support groups include Pro-Recovery ED Support, LGBTQ+ Support, Friends + Family Group, and more! 

SHOP “CO-CREATE” TMV’S MANIFESTATION JOURNAL: 

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Discount codes, extra unpackings, journal prompts, vlogging (+more!) all happening with our familia over on Patreon. Come hang out — https://www.patreon.com/thoughtsmayvary

Don’t forget to DM us on IG or submit a question on thoughtsmayvary.com to have your question or theme unpacked on a future episode! 

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DISCLAIMER: We are not licensed professionals. If you are seeking licensed and professional mental health support, please reach out to 741-741 (The Crisis Text Line) or The NAMI Helpline or The Trevor Project or reach out to us for more resources.

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Today’s episode is all about examining how root beliefs about ourselves can manifest as triggers in different ways. You’ve probably heard us say that life likes to present you with opportunities to learn a lesson or to heal a wound. Oftentimes, despite the breadth of experiences in which these opportunities show up, the lesson remains the same. Today, we share some of our core wounds and examples of how life likes to throw us scenarios in which to practice healing said wounds. 

Today, we cover:

0:00-7:32 smells, bonfires, & late nights out 

7:33-10:34 setting the scene 

10:35-14:25 m+g’s take on core wounds

14:26-22:38 g’s core wound unpacking

22:39-29:23 m’s core wound unpacking 

29:24-35:55 good enough to not need receipts

35:56-42:50 therapy then and now

SHOP “CO-CREATE” TMV’S MANIFESTATION JOURNAL: 

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Discount codes, extra unpackings, journal prompts, vlogging (+more!) all happening with our familia over on Patreon. Come hang out — https://www.patreon.com/thoughtsmayvary

Don’t forget to DM us on IG or submit a question on thoughtsmayvary.com to have your question or theme unpacked on a future episode! 

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Meadow: https://www.instagram.com/itsmeadowlark

Gaby: https://www.instagram.com/gabyulloa_

DISCLAIMER: We are not licensed professionals. If you are seeking licensed and professional mental health support, please reach out to 741-741 (The Crisis Text Line) or The NAMI Helpline or The Trevor Project or reach out to us for more resources.

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This half-solo, half-q&a starts with some thoughts on mental health books and career updates, then moves into unpacking journal prompts from our new manifestation journal in the name of self love. Happy (almost) Valentine’s Day! Answer the prompts for yourself while listening, in your own journal, at therapy, or on a call with your bestie. 

Today, we cover:

0:00-10:56 Surrender Experiment Unpacking

10:57-15:57 M’s Career Shifts

15:58-17:22 Journal Talk

17:23-20:03 Vlog Talk

20:04-21:23 Self Love Prompts

21:24-27:41 Prompt 1

27:42-31:03 Prompt 2

31:04-37:34 Prompt 3

37:35-42:59 Prompt 4

Prompts:

1 What does it feel like in my body to think highly of myself?

2 When I’m overwhelmed, what practices make me feel centered, grounded, and stable?

3 If I were to increase my confidence, how would my life be different?

4 What does my self care routine look like?

SHOP “CO-CREATE” TMV’S MANIFESTATION JOURNAL: 

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A journal discount code, extra unpackings, journal prompts, vlogging (+more!) all happening with our familia over on Patreon. Come hang out — https://www.patreon.com/thoughtsmayvary

Don’t forget to DM us on IG or submit a question on thoughtsmayvary.com to have your question or theme unpacked on a future episode! 

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Gaby: https://www.instagram.com/gabyulloa_

DISCLAIMER: We are not licensed professionals. If you are seeking licensed and professional mental health support, please reach out to 741-741 (The Crisis Text Line) or The NAMI Helpline or The Trevor Project or reach out to us for more resources.

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Happy February! To kick off this month, we wanted to unpack some of your questions after “Thought 48: Unpacking Healthy Relationships After Trauma”. In this classic Q&A with m+g, we move through questions like speed dating as we decided to switch things up from our tangential normality and instead, answer as many preguntas as we could. Also, we announce our next TMV product! In this Thought, we say it comes out today, the 6th. It indeed does not. TMV’s first journal is coming this Wednesday, Feb 8th! Consider it variance. 

Today, we cover:

4:05-7:22 How do I stop psyching myself out and let relationships happen?

7:23 - 11:21  Manifestation Journal Announcement!!!

11:22-14:20 How to rebuild self confidence in being hot while being in a relationship even tho he makes me feel gorg?

14:21-15:58 How to cope when you have different love languages? How to handle your partner not being good at your love language?

15:59-19:00 Have any thoughts on making it work with a really emotionally unintelligent partner?

19:01-21:14 Do you think it’s possible to work through cheating in a relationship?

21:15-23:21 I’m 22 years old, never been in a relationship, how to not feel behind in the relationship department?

23:22-28:13 How to get over irrational jealousy in a healthy relationship?

28:14-29:26 Engaged to a man who treats me perfectly but I feel like we’ve lost passion

29:27-21:08 How to deal with an otherwise 100% feminist boyfriend still just being a man? AKA feels like he’s the enemy and will never understand the female experience

31:09-36:18 How the fuck to you trust men?

36:19-40:33 Should you kiss on a first date and after how many dates should you have sex?

SHOP TMV’S MANIFESTATION JOURNAL STARTING WEDNESDAY, FEB 8TH: 

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A journal discount code, more unpackings, relationship journal prompts (+ so many moon prompts), maybe even some vlogging (+more!) all happening with our familia over on Patreon. Come hang out — https://www.patreon.com/thoughtsmayvary

Don’t forget to DM us on IG or submit a question on thoughtsmayvary.com to have your question or theme unpacked on a future episode! 

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DISCLAIMER: We are not licensed professionals. If you are seeking licensed and professional mental health support, please reach out to 741-741 (The Crisis Text Line) or The NAMI Helpline or The Trevor Project or reach out to us for more resources.

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Today is a good day. Micaela Cunningham of the National Alliance of Mental Illness (NAMI) San Diego branch is joining us to chat all about our two favorite things: sobriety and spirituality. Micaela is a familiar face around TMV land and for her Thought debut she shared her wealth of knowledge as our resident mental health professional and head witch in charge. Micaela spoke about her sobriety journey and harm reduction philosophy, the positive side to distraction in recovery, narcan accessibility, how to support our loved ones dealing with substance use disorder, communication tips, moving from religious trauma to spirituality empowerment, and so much more. 

Today, we cover:

0:00-7:09 Introduction

7:10-10:25 Micaela’s Take on G’s Chart 

10:26-13:19 Micaela’s Self Awareness Unpacking 

13:20-20:27 How Recovery Led to Advocacy 

20:28-32:21 SUD Philosophy + Harm Reduction

32:22-36:29 How To Best Support Yourself + Your Loved Ones

36:30-41:36 Spirituality’s Role In Healing

41:37-52:26 Thoughts & Prayers

MORE OF MICAELA: 

https://www.instagram.com/itsmickey_777/

https://www.instagram.com/itscunning/

Mentioned:

Cognitive Dissonance by Micaela for Local Optimist: https://www.localoptimist.com/blog/stories/XvIw7xIAACMAs6y3

Narcan Nate: https://www.instagram.com/narcan_nate/

Al-Anon: https://al-anon.org/

Harm Reduction: https://harmreduction.org/about-us/principles-of-harm-reduction/

California residents can enroll in a free Harm Reduction course: https://nhrclearninglab.thinkific.com/bundles/three-course-bundle?coupon=california100

Tarot, Astrology, & Spirituality further unpackings + resources all over on Patreon!

Don’t forget to DM us on IG or submit a question on thoughtsmayvary.com to have your question or theme unpacked on a future episode! 

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DISCLAIMER: We are not licensed professionals. If you are seeking licensed and professional mental health support, please reach out to 741-741 (The Crisis Text Line) or The NAMI Helpline or The Trevor Project or reach out to us for more resources.

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Today we are joined by Ryan Kingman, Meadow’s mentor(!), who graced us all with weird wellness practices and myriad lessons from a brand founder. A brand building legend, Kingman spoke to us about identifying your brand values, authentic leadership practices, how to know when it’s time to pivot if you always follow “the why”, and so much more. And… he would know. Kingman has played many roles, including — Element’s Director of Global Marketing, Stance Socks’ Co-Founder + Chief Marketing Officer, Igloo’s VP of Partnership/Collaboration Division, and is a consultant, strategic developer, + partner at Studio Remains. We also got into his latest venture, Temple of Weirdness & Wellness, and some of the lasting coping strategies that have impacted him (hint, think: cold plunges, breathwork, meditation, stoicism, and plant medicine, to name a few). 

Today, we cover:

0:00-5:15 Ice Bath Introduction

5:16-7:43 Kingman’s Unpacking 

7:44-12:20 M’s First Kingman Meeting + Lessons Learned

12:21-19:44 Cultivating Teams

19:45-23:30 The Money Follows The Movement

23:31-36:47 Getting Into Kingman’s Why

36:48-46:37 Coping Mechanisms / Weirdness + Wellness

46:38-53:17 Closing Thoughts

MORE OF KINGMAN: 

https://www.instagram.com/kingman/

and stay tuned for Temple of Weirdness & Wellness’ podcast, coming out soon!

Mentioned:

Stutz Documentary on Netflix 

Wim Hof — https://www.wimhofmethod.com/

The War of Art — https://www.esowonbookstore.com/book/9781936891023

Huberman Lab ‘Optimize Your Focus’ — https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ze2pc6NwsHQ

Don’t forget to DM us on IG or submit a question on thoughtsmayvary.com to have your question or theme unpacked on a future episode! 

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DISCLAIMER: We are not licensed professionals. If you are seeking licensed and professional mental health support, please reach out to 741-741 (The Crisis Text Line) or The NAMI Helpline or The Trevor Project or reach out to us for more resources.

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Today’s unpacking is a reminder that healing isn’t linear. We can be in one of the best places we’ve been in (emotionally, mentally, interpersonally, etc) *and* still have a lot of work left to do. We also get into a conversation about what it means to compartmentalize your identity in community spaces and allowing people access to you. 

Today, we cover:

0:00-7:26 Introduction

7:27-22:57 Gaby’s Unpacking 

8:45-18:37 ED/Bodies Conversation (Content Warning)

23:05-33:29 Meadow’s Unpacking 

33:43-42:46 Identity Compartmentalization & Emotional Access 

42:47-48:57 Meadow’s engaged!

Mentioned:

Patreon for Journal Prompts — https://www.patreon.com/thoughtsmayvary

Ecuador Live ASMR — https://www.youtube.com/@EcuadorLive?themeRefresh=1

Woke Scientist — https://www.instagram.com/wokescientist/

Don’t forget to DM us on IG or submit a question on thoughtsmayvary.com to have your question or theme unpacked on a future episode! 

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🫠 Follow along, we're funny on the internet sometimes

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Gaby: https://www.instagram.com/gabyulloa_

Patreon 🦋 https://www.patreon.com/thoughtsmayvary 🦋

 

DISCLAIMER: We are not licensed professionals. If you are seeking licensed and professional mental health support, please reach out to 741-741 (The Crisis Text Line) or The NAMI Helpline or The Trevor Project or reach out to us for more resources.

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Since our Unpacking Healthy Sex After Trauma episode was such a hit (and since G is six months into her loving relationship + M is now engaged), we decided to dive into unpacking healthy relationships after trauma. From how to communicate your previous trauma to a new partner to things you can say in a disagreement to fight productively, we are once again learning the hard way so that you don’t have to. We share how we met our partners and answer your questions about relationships. 

Today, we cover:

How to fight productively with your partner

Things you can say in a disagreement

A heart opening exercise to practice at home

How having needs is our right and communicating them is our responsibility

How to learn to easily take accountability + apologize

Identifying when you have standards + when you have blocks 

Don’t forget to DM us on IG or submit a question on thoughtsmayvary.com to have your question or theme unpacked on a future episode! 

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Meadow: https://www.instagram.com/itsmeadowlark

Gaby: https://www.instagram.com/gabyulloa_

Patreon 🦋 https://www.patreon.com/thoughtsmayvary 🦋

 

DISCLAIMER: We are not licensed professionals. If you are seeking licensed and professional mental health support, please reach out to 741-741 (The Crisis Text Line) or The NAMI Helpline or The Trevor Project or reach out to us for more resources.

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Our first studio session! Join us for this Ask Us Anything where we answer your questions about heartbreak, seasonal depression, showing love to friends, with tangents and digressions in between. Today, we answered:

Coping with heartbreak + being single (dating never been this hard for me) advice? 

How do you tell your friends you love them - what do you do to show/say it? 

Ways to heal from toxic people who trigger you but are no longer in your life?

How to handle seasonal depression?

What do you think should be taught in sex ed today?

Am I meant to live somewhere else or am I just fleeing from my problems? 

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Gaby: https://www.instagram.com/gabyulloa_

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DISCLAIMER: We are not licensed professionals. If you are seeking licensed and professional mental health support, please reach out to 741-741 (The Crisis Text Line) or The NAMI Helpline or The Trevor Project or reach out to us for more resources.

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