Trevor is a mentor for young men and a men’s coach.  He specializes in embodied practice and believes with conviction that when we learn to make ourselves available to be truly felt and seen by other men, great personal unfolding can happen.

After an 18 year career as a holistic fitness coach for individuals, companies and athletic teams, Trevor met a personal fork in the road as he became a husband, father and gym owner.   Many threads of manhood converged and on one level things were “just as they should be”...on another they were tearing at the seams.  After several years of relative inner crisis and struggle Trevor found men’s circle work, developed skills, tools, perspectives and relationships as the balm to his own soul ache and need for meaning.

It’s these same threads that Trevor uses to help men, young and old, to reweave their personal stories together in circles and as clients.  Trevor is the Oahu Director for Boys to Men Mentoring Hawaii and the Director for the Sacred Sonz Youth Program.  He also has served as a Pillar facilitator for the Sacred Sons Movement.  He works virtually with men of all ages from around the world as they hit their personal thresholds and find meaning in their own chaos and beauty.

It is clear to Trevor that he would absolutely not be who he is now without the firm wisdom of his partner Elisa and his beautiful daughters, step kids and the others who have held him over the years.  From New Jersey originally, he lives happily on the island of Oahu, Hawaii.

In this episode we discuss:

CONNECT WITH TREVOR:

WEB: www.trevorspring.com

Instagram: @wild_and_wise

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Dan Harrison is a proud father to his 2 year old daughter and is also an ex Financial Advisor turned course creator and online business mentor who specializes in authentic selling, relationship-based marketing and transformational leadership.

Before building and selling his digital financial planning practice and then becoming a 6-figure course creator he was a financial advisor for 13 years. He worked with some of the largest asset managers in Canada and has sold and earned millions of dollars as a CFP® (Certified Financial Planner) and trained hundreds of financial advisors in sales, marketing and leadership.

In this episode we dive into:

CONNECT WITH DAN:

Website: https://www.danharrisonconsulting.com/

Instagram: @intuitiveentrepreneur

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Show Notes:

3:30 What does fatherhood look like?

4:50 Transition to becoming a dad

9:25 Did money mindset change?

14:20 How does Dan navigate different areas of life?

21 Where to start with financial stress?

33 How Dan works with people

42:30 Reframing goals and removing the timeline

48:40 Conditioning around money

54 How has Dan become a present father?

57 Fundamental missing financial piece

1:03 What does it mean to be a present father?

How can we better show up and support the women in our lives?

A huge reason for this podcast is to support the men, who are supporting the women. Support the fathers, who are supporting the mothers.

Monday 8th March was international womens day and in this episode I touched on what we can do to support the women in our lives in a more meaningful way.

I put a call out to women on and the overwhelming feedback on what they're wanting was two things:

- Deep presence and listening/being willing to learn from the women in their lives.

We can always do better in this arena, and so the work continues.

On this instalment of the Men & Birth Series I chat with Fin Mckenna about supporting his wife through the birth of his two daughters and his transition into fatherhood. This conversation was really eye opening and Fin shares how both experiences were very different and how he navigated them.

CONNECT WITH FIN:

Instagram: @the_grounded_masculine

Website: https://thegroundedmasculine.com.au/

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Tully O'Connor: https://www.instagram.com/tullyoconnor/

Show notes

3:30 - what did the first birth look like?

7:30 - How was pregnancy

11 - Were you ready for birth?

19:20 Self Preparation

24:45 -Relationship dynamic

30min Filling his cup up

36:50 Second Pregnancy

51:30 Transition from 1 to 2 kids

56:45 Parting words

Nick Perry is a Holistic Lifestyle Coach, Corrective Exercise Specialist and Men’s Work Facilitator who is passionate and driven by authentic relating and inspired living. Nick’s education in Holistic Lifestyle Coaching draws from personal mentoring and learning from some of the world’s leading healers, facilitators and physical therapists.

For the last decade he has immersed himself in study and experimentation, acquiring qualifications across a broad range of modalities. Over the last few years his reach in the world has spread far, as he shares his knowledge, experience and personal story through podcasts, workshops and teachings in Pleasure School and his recently launched mentorship program - The Rhythm Health Mentorship.

Known for his deep presence, relatability and down-to-earth nature, Nick’s goal when working with clients is to leave them feeling empowered and aligned in themselves - physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

In this conversation we dive into:

CONNECT WITH NICK:

Website: www.rhythhealth.com.au

Instagram: @rhythmhealth

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Show notes:

Selfcare is a form of self respect and it's imperative if we want to play the long game.

Resilience is an admirable and important quality but if we aren't ensuring appropriate recovery and nourishment time, that blind resilience can become a really ineffective strategy in the long run.

A paradigm shift is required and selfcare for men, within the broader context of the goals and vision they have for themselves and their family, needs to be prioritised. 

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In this conversation Erik shares his experience supporting his partner through the Home Birth of their two children. 

He also touches on how manages being a present father while also running a multinational wellness company.

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Ross Blake is a Men’s Leadership Coach and Movement Teacher, father and husband. He has around two decades of experience in coaching traversing relational physics, sexuality and sexual mastery, life coaching and archetypal psychology, strength and conditioning, nutrition and physiology.

His core philosophy is that embodied physicality layered with broad self-awareness is the key to going deep and stepping forward in our lives. It is the language of the body that has the capacity to express the truth behind our intellectualised and constructed stories, and it is our physicality that grounds our human experience. Our bodies have the ability to really show us where we are, and where we are NOT in our lives.

Ross is a father of three sons, who have been (and continue to be) the ultimate crucible and the clearest mirrors in his life.

In this conversation we cover:

CONNECT WITH ROSS ON INSTAGRAM

@_roskoblake_

@chimp_movement

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Present Father Project: https://www.instagram.com/presentfatherproject/

Tully O'Connor: https://www.instagram.com/tullyoconnor/

Time stamps:

4:06 Whats fatherhood like in this present moment?

6:20 How do you cultivate restoration?

13 Reframing how we put ourselves in our lives

17 Having a tribe

20:40 Transition to fatherhood

26:20 Experiences with grief

33:40 Overcoming challenges

40:20 Learning to receive

43:00 What work do you do?

51 Basic breath/movement practice

1:03:10 Showing instead of telling

1:07:55 Call to arms warrior energy

1:11 Intimacy in fatherhood

1:18 Porn

1:20 What makes a present father?

It's imperative that we redefine what it means to provide. 

And it's imperative that this be informed by what we know about childrens' development and also what is required for our partners to be nourished and thriving.

It will be unique set up for every family and I don't believe in being prescriptive with this stuff. Trust your gut. 

Obviously providing in terms of finances is important (how cool that this can be a team sport these days), but to only focus on this is a bit one dimensional.

What are we providing in terms of our ability to create safety and relaxation in the home? What are we providing in terms of the healthy physical, mental and emotional development of our children?

What are we providing in terms rituals and tradition?

The answer to these questions will determine the legacy we are leaving.

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Men and Birth Series

This was an awesome conversation with Tom Linwood about his transition into fatherhood and the birth of his daughter Blu. Overcoming so big challenges since conception, Tom shares some valuable insight into how he supported Montana and Blue through the pregnancy, very intuitive birthing experience and post part. 

CONNECT WITH TOM: @tom_linwood

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Present Father Project: @presentfatherproject

https://www.instagram.com/presentfatherproject/

Tully O'Connor: @tullyoconnor

https://www.instagram.com/tullyoconnor/