Blach History Month is a time to take a deeper look into ourselves. what are we and what can we do to make this world a better place for the next generation.  why is it that we treat each other better than other race treats us. we are all one. we need to love each other.

Self-love should be our most import responsibility.  It is through self love will we see the things around us that is holding us down. Are we doing too much for other and not taking care of ourself.  Is our mental help suffering?

People no matter how close you are to them will disappoint you. It is for us to be prepare that it happens. It is part of life, but it should not be. We need to be responsible for ourselves. We are in control of ourselves. 

This upcoming holiday. It is one of the most dangerous times of the year for victim and survivors. Over 97,700 died from overdose mostly accidently. Opioids are a factor in 7 out of every 10 or 72% of those overdose deaths. Many commits suicide this time of the year than any other time.  By making positive choices, we will make it through the rest of the holiday and after.

We should congratulate ourselves then use the positive we learn to help us through the end of the year. Better days are come. Take deep breath. Count to ten.

So lets think, if we have family, mother, father, sister, brother, children, etc.  All they need is to know we love them and will spend time with them. Love and time is worth more than gold. I recall the old days when we would give handmade gifts. Calling a person who is lonely once a week is worth more than trying to fine money to give that person a onetime twenty-dollar gift. This is a time for self-love so we will survive this joyful but dangerous time a year.

Surviving the holiday can be a challenge.  we need to figure out what to do  to keep ourself in a positive mode. Lets enjoy the holiday by first give ourselves some self-love. 

pay attention to the tings and people that can cause a trigger. 

Is it not going to parties?

Is it not being around certain people or going to certain places 

Is it not eating certain food

Do you know what to do when one creeps up on you

always money cannot buy love and happiness

This week part four is based on doing a self-evaluation using The Work Preference Inventory. It is taken from the Journal of Personality and Social psychology.  In doing this evaluation I found myself looking at myself in ways I have not before. I am making better choices. I found things I need to work on and things I am very proud of myself about.  Please join me in taking this. You will be surprised. If you have not done part 1-3. Please go back to my last three episode and do it. You will be happy you did it.

Come join me for in doing part three of a self-evaluation. This week I took thirteen questions from the Desirability of Control scale. It was developed to measure individual differences in the level of motivation to control the event in one life. It is always good to evaluate ourself.

In doing this self evaluation we need to think about ourself only.  As victims and survivors we sometime forget how powerful we are. We must always remember we are in control of ourselves. We are the only one that can make decision as to the choices we make. It could be as simple as laughing at a joke orat difficult as choosing to something we do not want to do but does it because other are doing it or say we should do it.

Always remember you are loved.

 Doing this self-evaluation has helped me to be more positive about me. I have finding things i need to work on for me and things to let go. 

Being a survivor, domestic violence is always something i raise my voice about. October is domestic violence awareness month lets all raise our voices and support. 

According to the NNEDV "Domestic violence thrives when we are silent. 1 in 7 women, children and men are affected by domestic violence. It impacts people of all races, ages, sexual orientations, religions, genders, socioeconomic backgrounds, and education levels. Yet over half of domestic violence cases go unreported while survivors suffer in silence and remain stuck in the cycle of abuse. The results can be deadly: according to NNEDV, nationwide, an average of 3 women are killed by a current or former intimate partner every day." 

As Victims and survivors, we often think the worst of ourselves. Over the next four weeks, I will ask you to join me in doing a self-Evaluation.  This week I will do the "Fear of Negative Evaluation Scale. (This was taken from the Journal of Consulting Clinical Psychology) 

Come join me next week. I will be doing the "Need Assessment Questionnaire"  It contain statements that may describe the type of things we may like to do.