In today's episode, I'm talking with two dad's who have gone through the experience of TFMR due to their partner's health. Avi from Western Canada and Jack from the UK join me, and my visiting co-host, Consultant Neonatologist, Nick Embleton, discussing what it has been like for them trying to support their wives while also grieving at the same time.

This is the second in our series talking to father's about their grief and experiences. Episode 45 is the first in this series with my co-host Nick, speaking to four dad's from the UK. We also have Episode 31 with Rasmus, who gives a raw and heartfelt account of his experience.

We hope you enjoy listening. Get in touch and let us know what you think. 

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This episode is supported by Antenatal Results and Choices. For more information on how they support women and couples click here or call them on 0207 713 7486.

Alannah Ross, from We Seek Care, joins me in today's episode talking about returning to work after having a TFMR. Alannah had an abortion nine years ago and found she struggled both physically, mentally and emotionally afterwards.

Feeling unsupported in her own recovery, she set about setting up We Seek Care, a platform focussed on aftercare. Originally, Alannah thought Seek would support individual women and partners, but she soon found she had businesses knocking on her door. We discuss what women need from their employers after a TFMR, how to approach your manager and what you can do if you feel you can't speak with your employer.

Alannah offers a free 15min phone call to help you work out what you may need and how you can speak with your employer. Seek offers aftercare plans and 1:1 coaching that you can access, even if your employer doesn't have a pregnancy loss policy in place. 

We hope you enjoy listening. Get in touch and let us know what you think. 

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This episode is supported by Antenatal Results and Choices. For more information on how they support women and couples click here or call them on 0207 713 7486.

Welcome to today's episode: TFMR for a T21 (Down Syndrome) diagnosis with Emma Parsons. 

Emma had her TFMR in 2009. After having her 20 week anatomy scan,  she was informed there was a high chance her son, Isaac, had T21. This was later confirmed by further genetic testing. Emma talks to us about her decision making process, how she felt quite lonely, the effect on her mental health and how her grief has evolved over time.

She is very open and honest, and we know that many mums out there who have been dealt this particular TFMR card will resonate with much of what Emma has to say about her experience.

We hope you enjoy listening. Get in touch and let us know what you think. 

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This episode is supported by Antenatal Results and Choices. For more information on how they support women and couples click here or call them on 0207 713 7486.

Welcome to today's episode: TFMR Fathers.

I'm so grateful that four dads were willing to come and speak with us. I also had an awesome guest co-host this episode, consultant neonatologist Nick Embleton.

Our four dads are:
Alex, Ethan, Sam and John

All are base here in the UK and all went through termination due to foetal anomaly. They were all amazingly open and honest about their experiences, how they were impacted, what support they received and what they felt was needed, not just for them, but for their partners as well.

I hope you enjoy listening. Get in touch and let us know what you think. 

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Email is [email protected]

This episode is supported by Antenatal Results and Choices. For more information on how they support women and couples click here or call them on 0207 713 7486.

Hello, and welcome to today's episode.

I’m joined by Julianne Boutaleb of Parenthood in Mind. Julianne is a Chartered perinatal psychologist, with over 20 years in the NHS and private practise.

We’re discussing trying to conceive after TFMR – but also stopping TTC after TFMR.

This is a really good follow on episode from our Sex and Intimacy after TFMR that was released a few weeks ago.

Julianne mentions a few places to get extra support from, including:

Tommy Pregnancy Hub
Maternal OCD Org.
and of course you can find more information at Parenthood in Mind.

I hope you enjoy listening. Get in touch and let us know what you think. 

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Email is [email protected]

This episode is supported by Antenatal Results and Choices. For more information on how they support women and couples click here or call them on 0207 713 7486.

Hello and welcome!

In today's episode I'm speaking with Suzie Heaney. Suzie is a midwife and holds a Phd from Queen's University Belfast. She carried out research (called The Bluebell Study) looking into the healthcare needs of women and families going through TFMR (specifically termination for fetal anomaly) in Northern Ireland and Ireland. 

We know that the laws surrounding terminations/abortions have changed in both of these countries recently, to allow access to essential healthcare. But how have these changes impacted women going through terminations for fetal anomalies?  Suzie is also ARC's coordinator in NI.

Suzie shares the results of her research, both for parents and for healthcare professional. You can email Suzie at [email protected] for more information about her study, or future work in this area. You can also contact her about ARC's support in NI.

I hope you enjoy listening. Get in touch and let us know what you think. 

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Email is [email protected]

This episode is supported by Antenatal Results and Choices. For more information on how they support women and couples click here or call them on 0207 713 7486.

In today's episode, I'm speaking with Karen Burgess from Petal's Baby Loss Counselling Charity and Sally Kelly, a specialist midwife in bereavement care, about returning to sex and/or intimacy after a TFMR.

It's such an important topic...and we just don't talk about it - me included!

We talk about how to connect with each other again - because the trauma and grief explodes the relationship in many ways, for many people. Communication is key, being honest with each other, which can feel very very difficult when you are already at your most vulnerable. 

Thank you to Karen and Sally for tackling this subject with me, and thank you to all you listeners who sent in a comment or question for this episode.

I hope you enjoy listening. Get in touch and let us know what you think. 
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Email is [email protected]

This episode is supported by Antenatal Results and Choices. For more information on how they support women and couples click here or call them on 0207 713 7486.

Hello, and welcome to the start of season 7!

Today I'm speaking with Tracy Gilmore-Nimoy. Tracy is a psychotherapist based in California, USA. She had her own 3rd trimester TFMR three years ago. The difficult labour ended up seeing Tracy haemorrhage, the resulting physical trauma of interventions to save her life has meant she's been left with Asherman's Syndrome (scarring of the uterus).

Tracy has unfortunately had a further miscarriage from a spontaneous pregnancy, and then a further miscarriage after trying IVF.

She shares a bit about her experiences and how she's dealing and coping with secondary infertility.

You can find her on Instagram @TGNtherapy and her website can be found here.

I hope you enjoy listening. Get in touch and let us know what you think. 
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Email is [email protected]

This episode is supported by Antenatal Results and Choices. For more information on how they support women and couples click here or call them on 0207 713 7486.

Hello and welcome to our last episode of 2022.

I'm speaking with Suzie Jay Goldsmith, photographer, mentor, author and mum. Suzie had two TFMRs , and after her second one, she decided to write a book exploring how creativity can help us navigate our grieving process and ease trauma. The Rallying Cry is part autobiography, part research and part workbook.

Christmas is a difficult time of year for anyone who's grieving. Really, this episode could be listened to for any time there's a big cultural celebration that brings families, friends and communities together, as it's at these times that we are made keenly aware of who isn't here.

TFMR is baby loss and a traumatic loss. Often, especially in the early stages of our grief, trauma is present in the form of high-anxiety and/or PTSD. Research shows that creativity in any form helps to regulate our central nervous system. As does acts of kindness, practising gratitude (not to be confused with 'positive thinking') and being in nature.

This episode is packed full of ideas on how to help ease your pain, from ideas for acts of kindness to including your baby in your Christmas traditions; to incorporating creativity and setting boundaries to give yourself the space you need.

You can find the link to Aching Arms (mentioned in the episode) here.

And if you're interested in learning more about Suzie's iPhone Magic course, find it here.

I really enjoyed this chat with Suzie, I hope you enjoy listening. Get in touch and let us know what you think. 
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Email is [email protected]

This episode is supported by Antenatal Results and Choices. For more information on how they support women and couples click here or call them on 0207 713 7486.

In today's episode I'm talking with two women, Rachel and Georgia, about their TFMRs for maternal health reasons.

Rachel had a TFMR due to preeclampsia and HELLP syndrome and Georgia experienced an 'eccentric' pregnancy and Asherman's Syndrome which put her at serious risk of uterine abruption.

This year, we featured TFMR for maternal health reasons during baby loss awareness. I learnt from speaking to many of you that it can feel that your experience isn’t valued in the same way, or that you aren't included within the TFMR community in the same way. 

Let me say right now, you belong here. 

We all have individual experiences, and no path is easy, they are just different. My hope with this podcast is that we can shed light on these different paths within the TFMR community and show each other empathy, compassion and support.

Get in touch and let us know what you think. 
Social media: Instagram and Facebook @TimeToTalkTFMR and Twitter @TalkTFMR

Email is [email protected]

This episode is supported by Antenatal Results and Choices. For more information on how they support women and couples click here or call them on 0207 713 7486.