Too Old For This Sh*t

Natasha Koo & Jachym Jerie are a couple and relationship coaches that have gone through the wringer together from long distance, to open, to semi open to polyamorous to closed again, today we discuss its good, bad and ugly and what it takes to make a relationship work.

We cover: 

- Moving from transactional relationships to being of service to your partner but from a place of synergy, so not to drain yourself.

- Being able to receive without nagging. 

- Their path as a couple from mistrust, bickering, passive aggressive, snarky remarks to being in a respectful and loving relationship.

- Seeing your man from useless to someone you respect.

- How to stop parenting our romantic partner.

- How we see our partner, is not who they are aka being present with your partner and not living in the archives of all their perceived wrongdoings.

- They don’t believe compromises/sacrifices make for a healthy and happy relationship.

- Being responsible for our own emotions, whatever we feel is internally created.

- The blaming and projecting game. 

- It’s not just about being honest with someone, it’s about being honest with yourself.

Find Natasha Koo & Jachym Jerie  Podcast: awakenedwife.com

Communication Quiz: www.yourexceptionalrelationship.com/understand

Music by Peter Walsingham

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References in this episode: https://thework.com/ by Byron Katie where you can download her worksheets

**Today with stand-up comic and accountant Shamiso Mushambi we talk about the juxtaposition of achieving our goals and its cost on our wellbeing if not kept in check.



We cover:

• How she got into stand-up comedy.


• Taking control of our lives and narratives.


• Type casting in movies/ series. How Miranda Bailey in Grey's Anatomy means different things to different viewers.


• Imposter syndrome.


• How her plans for 2020 panned out.


• High functioning survival mode when depressed and suicidal.


• Detaching from our feelings and what it does to us.


• Self-care is not optional if you want to live, and not just getting by.


• Finding our reason to live, both internal and external.


• Young people being convinced that all anxiety needs to be medicated. There needs to be a scale.




*Content note: this episode contains topics such as depression and suicidal ideation. Mention of pedophilia (no details or what happenned, but it is mentioned), discretion is advised*



**Recorded in December 2020



Find Shamiso Mushambi on social @Shamisomushambi @comedypops

Music by Peter Walsingham

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For mental health crisis helplines:

UK:

https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/ 

IAPT: https://www.england.nhs.uk/mental-health/adults/iapt/ 

Europe:

https://www.mhe-sme.org/library/helplines/ 

USA: 

American Foundation of Suicide Prevention

Suicide and Depression Awareness for Student

NAMI Resources on Suicide Prevention

NAMI Resources on Suicide Risk

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1-800-273- 8255

Crisis Textline - Text HOME to 741741



In today’s episode I talk with Alex Mill on all things sex & love from squirting to not being able to fall asleep next to your boyfriend.



Alex is a Mindful Intimacy Catalyst who mixes science, spirituality and sexuality to clean up the mess created by the very dark energies in the film industry.



We go over:

• Transcendental sexual experiences.


• Differences between cumming (jouir in French) and orgasm.


• Misconception around the expectations around a tight pussy.


• Masturbating.


• Removing expectations on our bodies.


• Changes in libido, where it went and how to get it back.



*Content note: this episode contains graphic sexual depiction, discretion is advised*



Find Alex Mill: https://www.masterofstory.net/

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Public speaking isn’t just for TED Talks, so many of us have pivoted online and have to present what we do and sell to bigger and unknown audiences.

Today with Brenden Kumarasamy from MasterTalk we cover:

• How to become a good public speaker.


• How do you know if you have something interesting to say.


• Stop focusing on finding your Why, instead focus on doing something. That’s what will lead to your Why.


• Explore the questions no one else cares about.




Find Brenden on YT @MasterTalk


Music by Peter Walsingham

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On the cusp of the pandemic, Jordan - Founder of Listen Lucy, had just invested for her business to scale from speaking engagements into a speaking agency but 2020 decided otherwise and with events coming to a halt, her business collapsed.

Today we talk about how we both sank on the 2020 boat and what helped us bounce back. Both with very different surroundings and support systems.



*Content note: this episode discusses anxiety and suicide prevention, discretion is advised*



We go over:

• How to deal with a crisis.


• When your livelihood is taken away from you, how to cope so you can move on to your next chapter?


• In order to be the best parent for your kids, you sometimes need to prioritise yourself.


• To quote Jordan: “That’s the thing with mental illness. As your life changes, so does the illness, and you have to adapt.” If a coping mechanism doesn't work anymore, drop it and replace it with something else, don’t stunt your process.


• When you’re feeling depressed or anxious, how do we convey how we’re feeling without freaking people out or making them feel powerless?


• When mental health issues are part of who we are, we shouldn’t apologise for that.


• We all have mental health.


• When pulling away from your partner because you’re ashamed of showing them your mental health, that can be a breach of trust.


• Why spreading the message and exposing herself like this, is so important for Jordan.


• The 5 warning signs your friend may not be doing well and needs you to check in [WHAP which stands for Withdrawal - Hopelessness - Agitation - Poor self care &/or Personality change].


• The Upper limit problem.





Find Jordan: www.ListenLucy.org  


Music by Peter Walsingham

✨ Don’t be a stranger:

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• ❤️ If this episode made you think, laugh, or roll your eyes (in a good way), you can support the show here. It helps keep the mics on.
• The podcast host I swear by: Captivate
• 💌 Old school and want to just say hi? Contact me here

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For mental health crisis helplines:



UK:

https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/ 



Europe:

https://www.mhe-sme.org/library/helplines/ 



USA: 



National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1-800-273- 8255



Crisis Textline - Text HOME to 741741



Book referenced: The Big Leap

*Recorded in November 2020

Today with Asa Baav, Founder of Tailormatched, a matchmaker focused on sexual compatibility.

We cover:

• What is good sex?


• Do we all really want to moan during sex or do we feel obliged to?


• How to communicate sexual desires and preferences with our partner.


• How to discover our pleasure with our partner.


• Communication check-ins.


• The array of sexual preferences of her members.


• How to land your kinkiest sexual desires on your partner and how to react if you’re not prepared to receive that news.


• How does an expat/settler approach dating if unsure where you want to grow old, do you need to be upfront about that from the get go?


• If you’re an expat, do you want someone similar or do you want someone with roots?


• We end on some success stories from her matchmaking agency.



Find Asa: https://tailormatched.com/



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