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Summary: In today's episodes of The Tragedy Academy, Jay invites the host of the podcast I Am Just Gaying, Hernando Del Castillo. Hernando brings us along to his journey of reflection, awareness, and metamorphosis. We learn of the societal pressure he experienced as a gay Columbian man and the hurdles he jumped through to become his whole authentic self finally.

Key Points:

? Coming to a point in life where you become unfiltered

? Dealing with unsupportive family and friends

????? Begins raised by single mother with two kids

? Coming out as a comedian

? Opening yourself up to learning

???? Losing friends and approaching broken friendships

? Letting people be who they are

Episode Highlights: 

[03:14] Hernando shares the moment when his mindset shifted, and he knew that he needed to make a change in himself. He had gone through a breakup that landed him in a psych ward for six days, and it was during his stay that he realized he had to pursue his dream of being a comedian finally. Hernando expresses to putting this off for years because of fear.

[05:59] Hernando confesses to feeling as if he was dying inside while working as a director in hospitality. He details how he had an identity crisis after ten years in the industry. Hernando describes feeling unhappy, confused and, miserable on the inside after all the hard work he had put in. Deep down, he knew he wasn't living his truth.

[13:58] Hernando reveals the pushback he was met with when he told his friends and family he wanted to pursue stand-up comedy. Considering that most of his family in Columbia are accomplished doctors and lawyers, yet Hernando still made 5x their salary in hospitality, they still did not approve of his choice. It was through this experience that Hernando recognized that he needed to let go and follow his dreams.

[22:22] Hernando was raised by a single mother with two kids in Hialeah, Florida. He expresses a love-hate relationship towards the place he grew up, describing it as the most ratchet and amazing city in the world. He describes the juxtaposition between growing up poor and finally have money and the difference you see in people. Overall, he admits to always loving the 305.

[26:15] Hernando details his experience in coming out to his mom as a comedian. He shares his mother's frustration and her persisting he get a college education. Although that was never his goal, he caved and earned a bachelor's in Education solely to please his mother. Hernando gives his perspective on education and feels it is not necessary to accomplish your dreams.

[30:01] Hernando emphasizes the importance of always having a thirst for knowledge, no matter what the topic is. Learning is the only way you can grow as a person, and the information can come from anywhere; books, podcasts, seminars, trying new things, and most importantly, meeting new people.

[40:40] Hernando shares the pain he felt when he lost his friend of 25 years, not from death but ego. He accepts that although it pains him to let him go, he will never want to return to that friendship. Hernando conveys that people come and go, and at this juncture, this person has served their purpose in his life, and it's time to allow new people to come in.

[46:30] Hernando gives credit to his growth to being open-minded. His only goal now is to introduce his new self to people, and if they do not like it, then the onus is on them.

[56:34] Hernando shares the life lessons he has learned from The Four Agreements. He and Jay voice the importance of letting people be who they are and stop trying to change them, no matter if their authentic self is good or bad.

[01:00:17] Hernando teaches us about the different categories in the gay community, with some of the titles being twink, daddy, bear, and otter. He expresses that gay people can often be clicky, so their dating profile ...

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This week's episode is part 2 of 2 that features a conversation between host Jay and special guest Gary DeFranco. Gary is the executive producer of The Ultimate Fighter and the creative behind Max Glow MMA and the developing concept of Not Uranus. He and Jay talk about creative ventures, COVID-19, Diversity, and much more!

Key Points:

? Diversity

? Mental Health

? TUF, the pandemic, and training

???? MAX Glow MMA

? Not Uranus

?? Worklife balance

???? Collaboration & Innovation

??? Creative expression with graffiti

To start the conversation, Jay asks Gary a question at the front of everyone’s minds these days: what did he do during the shutdowns of the COVID-19 pandemic? 

Overall, Gary worked hard to maximize his time during the season and watched as his associates found ways to strike a new sense of life balance. Some innovation arose out of the unique pressures, as did a clearer understanding of the limitations of technology. All the while, keeping production value and personal wellbeing priorities drove how Gary and his collaborators adapted.  

In Gary’s case, creativity also heavily shaped his pandemic experience. He worked on several ideas alongside friends, most notably his concept for a show entitled Not Uranus. The show, mainly geared toward kids in and around their early teens, grew out of an experience in Gary’s Cleveland upbringing and dealt with such things as graffiti, outside perspectives and judgment, and Diversity. As they discuss the show and its themes, Gary and Jay talk about Gary’s childhood, mindful moments, opportunities for creativity, different forms creativity takes, Jay’s idea of “rungs of happiness,” and struggle. 

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Jay and Gary both come from backgrounds involving struggle. From shopping through defective grocery and clothing items to stockpiling ramen, they’ve spent decades figuring out how to weather their struggle and use it to their advantage. Jay’s conviction is that struggle begets empathy, allowing people to understand the human experience better. It also fosters ingenuity, enhances the sense of doing things for the love of them, and shapes Jay’s thoughts about life being a circle of stifling and revisiting gifts meant to be shared with the world.

Concluding their conversation surrounding the themes of Not Uranus, Gary and Jay conclude that we need all aliens welcome. People, Gary asserts, need to talk to each other. And while working for others’ comfort - represented for Gary by his friends’ mothers serving him spaghetti all the time rather than food from their own cultures - can rob people of the benefits of Diversity. The problem of limited perspectives has rippling effects on society. One particular note to producers like Gary is the need to roll out content carefully, not just for young audiences but for elders who are unused to technological advancements and the nuances their use creates.

Continuing under the theme of technology, Gary, and Jay touch on the political and manipulative elements of technological use, emphasize the need for time off and talk through kinds of jobs and the development of camera etiquette. Both offer thoughts on how personal and technical connections in the workplace will change as the pandemic season wanes, weighing relational factors and real estate pressures. The population of workers that service physical worksites, such as cooks and cleaners, is challenging; At the same time, there’s no way to work out a solution immediately; an overhaul of the employment landscape is still in process.

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Summary: 

Today’s episode is part 1 of 2 that features a conversation between host Jay and special guest Gary DeFranco. Gary is the executive producer of The Ultimate Fighter and the creative behind Max Glow MMA and the developing concept of Not Uranus. He and Jay talk about creative ventures, COVID-19, Diversity, and much more!

Key Points:

? Diversity

? Mental Health

? TUF, the pandemic, and training

???? MAX Glow MMA

? Not Uranus

?? Worklife balance

???? Collaboration & Innovation

??? Creative expression with graffiti

To start the conversation, Jay asks Gary a question at the front of everyone’s minds these days: what did he do during the shutdowns of the COVID-19 pandemic? 

Overall, Gary worked hard to maximize his time during the season and watched as his associates found ways to strike a new sense of life balance. Some innovation arose out of the unique pressures, as did a clearer understanding of the limitations of technology. All the while, keeping production value and personal wellbeing priorities drove how Gary and his collaborators adapted.  

In Gary’s case, creativity also heavily shaped his pandemic experience. He worked on several ideas alongside friends, most notably his concept for a show entitled Not Uranus. The show, mainly geared toward kids in and around their early teens, grew out of an experience in Gary’s Cleveland upbringing and dealt with such things as graffiti, outside perspectives and judgment, and Diversity. As they discuss the show and its themes, Gary and Jay talk about Gary’s childhood, mindful moments, opportunities for creativity, different forms creativity takes, Jay’s idea of “rungs of happiness,” and struggle. 

Marketing manipulation

Jay and Gary both come from backgrounds involving struggle. From shopping through defective grocery and clothing items to stockpiling ramen, they’ve spent decades figuring out how to weather their struggle and use it to their advantage. Jay’s conviction is that struggle begets empathy, allowing people to understand the human experience better. It also fosters ingenuity, enhances the sense of doing things for the love of them, and shapes Jay’s thoughts about life being a circle of stifling and revisiting gifts meant to be shared with the world.

Concluding their conversation surrounding the themes of Not Uranus, Gary and Jay conclude that we need all aliens welcome. People, Gary asserts, need to talk to each other. And while working for others’ comfort - represented for Gary by his friends’ mothers serving him spaghetti all the time rather than food from their own cultures - can rob people of the benefits of Diversity. The problem of limited perspectives has rippling effects on society. One particular note to producers like Gary is the need to roll out content carefully, not just for young audiences but for elders who are unused to technological advancements and the nuances their use creates.

Continuing under the theme of technology, Gary, and Jay touch on the political and manipulative elements of technological use, emphasize the need for time off and talk through kinds of jobs and the development of camera etiquette. Both offer thoughts on how personal and technical connections in the workplace will change as the pandemic season wanes, weighing relational factors and real estate pressures. The population of workers that service physical worksites, such as cooks and cleaners, is challenging; At the same time, there’s no way to work out a solution immediately; an overhaul of the employment landscape is still in process.

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In today’s episodes of The Tragedy Academy, Jay welcomes Freda Jing, or as she has coined herself, a Hexagon threat. Freda courageously takes us on her journey of overcoming seven years of clinical depression and how she could heal from that through discovering self-acceptance.

Key Points:

? Conquering seven years of depression

? Getting diagnosed

?? Finding self-acceptance

? The broken education system

? Body Dysmorphia

????? Rejection from universities

? Pharmaceuticals

Episode Highlights:

[02:33] Freda reveals the difficult road that was ahead of her when diagnosed with depression. She explains how her symptoms associated with her mental state were left undiagnosed until age 16, being dismissed and not taken seriously throughout her childhood. 

[05:09] Freda shares her mental health issues were intertwined with expectations from her and her family; she felt like she could not live up to it. Although the people surrounding her were kind and wanted to help, Freda confesses to being closed off and not accepting the help. It wasn’t until she discovered self-acceptance when she started to heal.

[09:34] Wanting to reach people’s expectations, Freda damaged herself even more. When it came time to apply for universities, the act of getting rejected triggered a desire for suicide. It wasn’t until she got rejected from institutions repeatedly that she realized that it doesn’t matter what other people think; they have their agenda.

[13:14] Jay and Freda agree that the education system is flawed and meant to keep a person in a manufactured role. They agree that the current system is antiquated, and by the time a student heads off to college, everything they have learned up until that point was strictly for someone else. The school system ultimately 6-separates people by blue- and white-collar roles.

[22:18] Jay and Freda discuss the issue of body dysmorphia that’s pushed onto us by society. They agree that terms like “fat” or “ugly” do not exist and divide society. We keep these concepts circled in the community because we continue to lie to ourselves about them. 

[28:12] Freda shares the need for negativity in our lives to appreciate the positivity later.

[29:24] Freda shares a TED Talk she listened to from a Neuroscientist that had a stroke, and part of her brain that made decisions for the future was no longer working. She states how she felt because, for the first time, she was able to live in the present.

[31:50] Freda recognizes that putting importance on university acceptance drove her to a mental hospital. She put so much weight into getting accepted, so it tore her down every time she got rejected. Now that she’s in her 5th year of getting rejected does not affect her because loved ones surround her.

[36:11] Jay and Freda agree that pharmaceuticals are a double edge sword. Although there are side effects of taking medication, it still has its place in the world. Ultimately, what helps with the process of healing is combining eastern and western medicine practices.

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In this installment of The Tragedy Academy, Jay welcomes long-time friend Jennifer Menendez. Jennifer wears her heart on her sleeve and lets us in on the journey of her mother's cancer diagnosis. She illustrates to us the incredible life lessons learned through the lens of a grieving daughter.

Key Points: 

? Breast cancer diagnosis

????? Stepping away from the victim mentality

?? Helping others

? The Yellow rose

? Writing as an escape

?? Survivor of abuse

? Finding help

????? Advice for young women

Episode Highlights:

[02:03] In January of 2010, Jennifer's mother was diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer and not wanting to be a burden on anyone; she waited until the tumor was protruding from her chest to treat it. After the birth of Jennifer's twin babies, her mother went into remission.

[06:53] When Jen's mom's cancer returned, this time as a stage 4 diagnosis, Jennifer took it upon herself to research radiation and learned that it does not affect the brain. Jennifer described what a fighter her mom was, to the point that she taught until 2014, having over 20 tumors in her brain.

[10:57] Jennifer attempts to explain how to step away from the victim mentally, though she explains that it's not that easy. Jennifer and Jay make a point of taking care of yourself to take care of others. Unfortunately for mom, she was too worried about becoming a burden on anyone to seek help earlier.

[19:27] In the later stages of her mom's cancer, she constantly asked about the yellow rose. Later, while going through all of her old mementos, she found 11 years' worth of her mother's writing, and in it was the talk of a yellow rose that turned red. Now Jennifer's life's goal is to ghostwrite a book on behalf of her mom based on the yellow rose.

[26:16] Jennifer lets us in on the escapism through writing. She discloses sexual, emotional, and physical abuse, and although her mother put up with so much to protect her daughter, that pain was too much, so writing was used as a way to cope.

[28:23] Coming from an abusive household, Jennifer reveals that this led her to abusive relationships. She assumed that abuse is how people showed their love. When she gathered the courage to confide in a friend, the friend met her with disdain and suggested suicide as an escape, not knowing Jennifer had already attempted that.

 [36:04] Jennifer reveals that her mother was the guiding light to finding professional help. But before that happened, they were each other's shoulder's on which to cry. Together, they recognized their toxic environment and sought to escape together. Shortly after, they both attended the same university, which led to a Disneyworld trip, and turned into Jennifer was accepted into the Disneyworld college program.

 [41:48] Jennifer offers advice for women who are in an abusive setting. She expresses how it is nothing to be ashamed of, and there's nothing wrong with finding professional help. The only important thing is that you surround yourself with a positive environment and seek help.

[46:43] Connect with Jennifer

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On this episode of The Tragedy Academy, Jay welcomes documentary filmmaker Andrew Nethery. His new documentary, Bury Us! A Punk Rock Uprising is a film about the Basque punk rock scene. Andrew discusses the harrowing parts of the film shedding light on a sliver of what Basque people have endured since the 70s.

Key Points:

? Bury Us! A Punk Rock Uprising

? Where is Basque, and what does it mean?

? Moments that stuck out in the documentary

? The lousy side of freedom of speech

? Fans of comedy

Episode Highlights: 

[00:41] Introduction to Andrew Nethery  

[01:58] Andrew presents to us his documentary, Punk Rock Uprising, and describes it as a sonic journey through the Basque punk scene and their turbulent past along with the history that defines the genre.

[03:03] Andrew describes the people who represent Basque. He relates to it as a nation without a state; most Basque countries are in the northeast of Spain, with one of their most famous cities being Pamplona. Andrew details the long history of repressions under the Franco dictatorship and touches on its lasting effects.

[13:00] Andrew and Jay agree that Punk usually gets a bad rep when in reality, they are the ones who are fighting for a legitimate cause they in which they believe. 

[13:53] Andrew is given the challenging task of choosing a moment in the documentary that stuck out to him; he explains the censorship in Spain and how the pronounced polarization is, and how it mimics what America is starting to experience. Andrew mentions that he created the film as a cautionary tale for America.

[17:37] Andrew spells out the bad side of freedom of speech. He goes into the arrests of comedians, rappers, and even Twitter users. The rapper had a lyric about killing the king and was forced to leave the country or be arrested. Nonetheless, he commends the interviewees for speaking out in the documentary.

[22:04] Punk Rock Uprising premiered in Barcelona at the Basque Film Festival. Andrew later won an award for best director at DOC LA in 2020.

[24:41] Andrew shares his 20ft Slim Jim experience; he and another colleague carried around a massive Slim Jim around New York and into the subways. The Instagram page, Subway Creatures, inspired him.

[35:01] Andrew and Jay discuss their love for comedy. They touch on The Chappelle Show, where he took years off from stand-up, and agree that comedians remain misunderstood as a whole. They struggle to get their art out, and then they work to defend their positions.

[40:14] Where to find and see if it's coming to a city near you.

[46:02] Outro

Website: BuryUsFilm.com

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Andrew Nethery Film & Commercial Director

Andrew was awarded Best Director by the Los Angeles Film Festival in 2020 for his debut feature film. His commercial work has earned a host of awards and honors: Cannes Lions Golds, Silver, and Bronze; ANDY Gold; Clio Bronze, ADC Bronze, ONE Show Finalist.

He brings 15 years of professional experience in the film and media industry as a veteran filmmaker, commercial director, creative director, cultural strategist, writer, producer, editor, the many-hat wearer. His diverse background of hands-on creative and production experience makes him a holistically competent and empathetic team leader, having worked at every stage of production, creative ideation, and even strategy. 

Sometimes called scrappy, he is a natural problem solver with experience producing the high-quality film, television, commercial, interactive, editorial, and branded content from $10K-$5MM. Further tested during 2020, executing high-concept creative during pandemic lockdowns. Comfortable producing and directing 1 - 50 person c ...

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On this installment of The Tragedy Academy, Jay is joined by two good friends, Andre and his makeup artist wife, Niki. Together, they break down the barrier of race, stereotypes, and social conditioning and bring about a fresh, realistic perspective.

Key Points:

????  The Marriage Club ????

???????  The perception of the black family

?. The ten steps on How to make a marriage work

?????  Black women’s hair, presenting self in white culture

?  Intent and universal law

???  Social conditioning

Episode Highlights: 

[00:01:00] Introduction to Andre and Niki

[00:07:19] Niki educates us on The Marriage Club, a Facebook group, but primarily a support group, that gives insights and experiences into other people’s marriage for those who have questions or want a different perspective.

[00:12:15] Niki offers perspective on growing up in a black family and how in society they are typecasted as broken without fathers when she experienced quite the opposite.

[00:15:34] Andre recites the ten steps on How to Make a Marriage work and includes an 11th step to the process, Unity.

[00:19:19] Niki walks us through her transitions from being a tomboy in grade school to evolving into a girly girl in high school and college. She expresses the empowerment she felt like a woman and the massive confident booster she experienced.

[00:29:49] Jay shares an anecdote of him at a black hair salon where a hairstylist was prepping a wig for a client.

[00:32:19] Andre expresses his love for the variety of people there are in the world. From hair to skin color and everything in between. Niki shares an anecdote of having to constantly look presentable in school but especially when it comes to hairstyles at a job interview.

[00:40:56] Jay shares his opinion on why the black community expresses themselves more authentically than their white counterparts. Primarily because they do not experience comradery and appeasement, they are often shamed and feel jealous.

[00:47:05] Andre shows empathy towards a man that displayed racist behavior; he understands that this person was raised in a certain way and in a country that encourages this behavior.

[00:53:57] Andre, Niki, and Jay agree that languages are different in every culture. Some may have a word for one thing while the other doesn’t. The most important thing to remember is that we are a melting pot and offer an array of customs and traditions.

[01:02:17] Jay brings up the ever-apparent concept of social conditioning. He and Niki agree that what happens in childhood affects you into adulthood. But in the end, you have to thank yourself for making it this far and working on yourself every day because one thing you can’t control is time.

[01:06:56] Jay brings up the idea that most people think humanity has no value without money. In reality, the more you give away, the more you get, so there is more harm in hoarding it than being generous. But the actual value lies in yourselves and introducing yourself to new experiences.

[01:11:06] Connect with Niki and Andre

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In today’s episode of The Tragedy Academy, Jay welcomes Lucas Hill, personal trainer, and seeker of insight and wisdom. Lucas takes us on a wild journey of revelation, enlightenment, and self-discovery, all consequences of his illuminating experience of 5-MeO-DMT.

?Key Points:

? Losing childlike wonder

? Pandemic fear

? Opening the mind

? 5-MeO-DMT the process

? The experience

?? Finding worth within yourself

?Episode Highlights:

[01:11] Lucas describes his experience during the pandemic as insightful. He realized that he was living in a cycle, pre-pandemic, which was hard to break. Lucas took this time to slow down and tap into his intuition.

[04:24] Lucas offers insight that since we never have the chance to listen to our higher self, we never let those moments of intuition come into play – forcing us to lost focus on the miracle of life and lose our childlike wonder.

[05:20] Lucas points out how the pandemic has manifested a lot of fear. Specifically, their ultimate goal is to distribute anxiety and instill that we are not enough or worthy with politics and social media.

[10:25] Lucas expresses the significance of opening your mind. He states that we tend to search for things in life, and what we need always happens to find us, alluding to an article he read on 5-MeO-DMT then serendipitously getting a message from a friend offering him this substance.   

[16:29] Leading up to his DMT experience, Lucas meets with the shaman, who he describes as a “30-year-old regular dude.” He had quit his corporate job to become a shaman because of his own experience with this plant medicine. Since Lucas likes to explore the boundaries of his consciousness, this sounded especially interesting.

[21:21] Lucas walks us through the meticulous prep process before being administered the medicine. The first step is to eat a clean and healthy diet beforehand, followed by a ritual needed to clear any lingering negative energy and get the body ready for its journey.

[31:36] Since Lucas had experience with psychedelics in the past, the shaman felt comfortable giving a larger dose. Lucas describes his initial reaction as feeling heavy and instantly having the negative energy pulled out of him, like a magnet. From this moment on, he knew he had zero control and was just the observer. When it was all set and done, all he felt was an overwhelming sense of love.

[36:50] Lucas admits that the most challenging part of post-experience deals with western society, specifically how he grew up. He raises the point that the hardest thing for him was letting go.

[43:11] Lucas and Jay agree that finding worth within yourself is imperative to anything else. Often we seek validation from outside sources, often only pleasing others – if you are deriving self-worth from outside, you will never feel fulfilled inside.

[50:25] Connect with Lucas

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?Ep 85: Theoni Bekiari - "I am here."

? Summary:

In today's episodes of The Tragedy Academy, Jay welcomes Greek actress Theoni Bekiari. Theoni was born in Greece but now resides in Los Angeles to pursue acting. She majored in Dramatology in Greece and is getting ready to graduate from the acting academy in July. Theoni opens up to us about coming out as pansexual and the hurdles she overcame to accept who she was, all achieved by love.

? Key Points: 

? Making art during a pandemic

? Connecting with people during the pandemic

???? YouTube channel Blend It

???? Pansexuality

? Fear of change

????? Male and ????? female gender roles

? Stay Uncomfortable

? Playing a character, you do not understand

? World traditions 

? Episode Highlights:

[03:28] Theoni walks us through life before and after the pandemic hit. Just two months prior, Theoni has started attending an acting academy, so when everything shut down, she felt a sudden feeling of helplessness. Though it did not take long for her to get into the momentum of creating art, making multiple short films with her classmates all online!

[07:01] Theoni stands by love and how it can answer anything when used in the approach. Love is how she remained sane throughout the pandemic; she expressed it through text, facetime, and even made a short film titled I Am Here. 

[10:00] Theoni's YouTube Channel that she co-hosts is called Blend It is a show focusing on blending different cultures and learning just about anything they have to offer, especially food!

[11:44] Having been born in Greece, Theoni was not well versed in the array of sexual orientations. She knew that she liked both genders but did not connect with being bisexual. Once moving to LA, she discovered Pansexuality and immediately knew this is where she belonged. However, Theoni admits to having reservations about it in the beginning.

[17:13] Theoni and Jay discuss the concept of fear and change. They both agree that it is natural to be fearful of change; in fact, Theoni states that it is a primary human survival mechanism. Now in the internet age, we are exposed to various people, which can serve as a bridge to understand each other.

[20:44] No one is perfect, and Theoni is the same. People will make mistakes, and if you ever find yourself misgendering someone, Theoni states that the best way to approach it is simply by apologize and make it known that you come from a good place.

[25:20] Jay and Theoni get into male and female gender roles. What is "acceptable" to wear and behave? Theoni offers the example of skirts and how in many ancient civilizations, men wore skirts, even in a battle where Greek men would flash the enemy as a means to distract them.

[31:50] Theoni and Jay emphasize the importance of staying uncomfortable. To evolve as a person, you must lean into the unknown rather than remain stagnant in your beliefs.  

[35:51] Theoni shares with us how she approaches playing a character with whom she does not understand or shares morals. Circling back to love, Theoni shows compassion to those who choose hate since they are the ones who have to live a life of contempt.

[40:22] Jay and Theoni get into world tradition and its unique aspects.

[43:36] Connect with Theoni

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Short Film: I Am Here

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In today’s episodes of The Tragedy Academy, Jay welcomes singer, songwriter, and soon-to-be actress Amy Lerie. Amy shares with us her story that began with tradition and conformity, but that ended with fulfillment and purpose, all because she decided to follow her dreams.

Key Points:

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] Amy Lerie was born and raised in France but now resides in London. She chose London to pursue her music career because; 1 – it’s almost like a 2nd French city and 2 – all of her music is in English, so that she would need an English audience.

[03:52] Amy shares with us the life path she was initially following before pursuing music. Coming from a traditional family, Amy went to school to become a teacher, which in France is a 40–45 year commitment, but after three years, she realized that this life did not make her happy. In 2014 she took a leap of faith and left the ministry of education to move to London.

[11:00] Jay emphasizes how important it is to be your most authentic self. Amy shares an anecdote where people tried to compare music to teaching, saying they were similar because they were both in front of an audience.

[13:22] Amy describes the pivotal moment when she realizes that teaching is not what she wants to do. She recounts feeling numb and dissociative, similar to having a mini existential crisis. Luckily, she had a circle of friends who understood what she was feeling.

[18:11] In her time during the pandemic, Amy shares with us the good and the bad. On the one hand, she describes this time as brutal; people around her tried to convince her to reconsider following a life of music, which made her feel guilty about her decision. On the other hand, she was surrounded by people who supported her.

[23:10] Amy walks us through where she gained her empathy. She recounts her dad as a good man; he built a family from nothing and did it without being loud or selfish and always looking out for others. From this, Amy credits her empathy.

[27:51] Amy describes herself as being bubbly, the energetic one. Though she tells a story of a time, her mom said to her, “I think you need to calm down,” which broke her.

[33:02] Amy shares with us the importance of living in the Present moment. She gained this perspective through a podcast with J Shitty. He states that you do not understand what you’re doing in the present moment, but you’ll look back and know what this moment was leading towards in ten years.

[36:18] Amy goes into her latest release, Higher. Her aim for this song was to adopt a country sound, which she could do thanks to an artist she met in Nashville.

[39:38] What’s next? Amy gives us a quick rundown of what she has planned for the future, which included auditions, pursuing musical theatre performances, doing a full album, and touring.

[41:01] Inspiration, Inspiration, Inspiration. Amy and Jay discuss how the pandemic will make or break you. For some, it birthed the confidence to pursue their dreams, while it forced them to quit for others. For Amy, she used this time as inspiration for her art.

[43:31] Jay and Amy share their love for meditating. They both agree on its necessity and how it allows you to reset and clean up before getting your day started.

[51:01] Connect with Amy

[52:41] Outro

Connect with Amy:

- Website: AmyLerieMusic.com

- Instagram

- Spotify

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