Welcome Alia Eyres!

In this episode, we sit down with Alia Eyres, the former CEO of Mother's Choice, to talk about navigating major life transitions. Alia shares the key indicators that signaled it was time for a change, the pivotal moment that led her to take the leap, and the emotions she faced stepping into a new chapter. She also offers insight into how she processed her last season to transition well and gives practical advice for those considering a big change.

Transformation Application (Pick one of these steps to focus on this week):

1. Be alone - solitude

2. Be selective - choose objective counsel

3. Do not force the next thing - be open and flexible - close one chapter before starting the next one. 

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Transformation Tip: “There are people less qualified than you, doing the things you want to do, simply because they chose to believe in themselves” Marshall Goldsmith

Concept(s)

1. The nature of disruption presents a window of opportunity where change happens.
2. This opportunity can be for the good or for the bad! 
3. If the window opportunity closes, it’s harder to make the change. 

Key aspects of embracing positive disruption:

• Openness to new ideas
• Experimentation: F.A.S.T
• Communication and collaboration:
• Growth mindset

Practical

• Embrace discomfort
• Identify strength
• Challenge the old systems, structures, and processes
• Clean house
• Reassessment
• Be forward-thinking
• Step up

Transformation Application:

Take a couple of hours away from distraction and ask yourself:

Q: What part of my normal life is being disrupted right now?

Q: What changes do I need to make that I’ve resisted?

Q: Who can I talk with to help process and consider alternatives?

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Transformation Tip: “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference" - The Serenity Prayer

Concept(s)

• Understand the spectrums of emotional and mental response to disruption]
• Identify the feelings you might have
• Identify your negative narratives
• Identify negative behaviors 

Transformation Application: Identify the disruption that’s troubling you, Tell someone the next two actions you will take.

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Transformation Tip: “Every best-laid plan never goes to plan” - Gen. Stanley McCrystal

Concept of Disruption:

1. The nature of it
2. How to handle it
3. The Upside of it

Transformation Application: Any disruptions in your life? Any that you see coming? Take a moment to check how it might be affecting you mentally and emotionally. Get a reading on your vitals.  Write it down (journal).

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Transformation Tip: “The aim of argument and discussion, should not be victory, but progress.” – Joseph Joubert

Concept(s)

• We all face times of conflict
• Although crises can be seen as catastrophic, they also provide opportunities for growth
• Recognize that conflict may appear even on a healthy team 
• Working through conflict successfully will strengthen your leadership and team
• Beware of being conflict-averse 

Practical

• Confrontation works best if you have developed your CONNECTION skills.
• Avoid viewing conflict as dangerous, as this results in a defensive approach which often escalates the situation
• Be quick to confront, without being reactive. Seek to avoid conflict through clear and timely communication
• Strike 3 process (Mistake - Warning - Act)

A Framework for Healthy Confrontation:

1) Go in peace

2) Speak value to the individual

3) Seek clarity and context

4) Explain your perspective

5) Take responsibility

6) Seek an agreeable solution

Transformation Application: Are there any conflicts that you have been avoiding?

Set an appointment to have that conversation.  Use the 6 steps (or 3 strikes)

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Transformation Tip: ‘The two words 'information' and 'communication' are often used interchangeably, but they signify quite different things. Information is giving out; communication is getting through.” -Sydney J. Harris

HOW CAN I CONNECT BETTER WITH MY TEAM?

The five C’s:

1. Connect 
2. Context 
3. Concise
4. Concentrate
5. Celebrate

Transformation Application: Think about about 2-3 people in your circle and celebrate them - recognize the value, worth and significance of individuals

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Transformation Tip: culture is caught, not taught - Steve Chua

What does a Toxic Culture look like? How does it happen?

• Me, my wants/needs priority
• Disrespecting others
• Lack of Integrity
• Lack of excellence

What does a healthy Culture look like? 

• Servant leadership - empowering others
• Valuing others
• Integrity
• Excellence

How is culture formed?

• Atmosphere
• Environment
• Culture

Transformation Application: Write out personal & organizational values that are important, group them, and prioritize them.

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Transformation Tip: “A leader is one who knows the way, goes the way, and shows the way." —John C. Maxwell

Characteristics of a Thriving Leader: 

• The leader’s sense of their identity
• Knowing their value and purpose
• Creativity
• Freedom
• Joy
• Passion
• Innovation 

Characteristics of a Striving Leader:

• An insecure identity resulting in a culture of fear
• Needs validation
• Insecurity and fear
• Need to prove yourself 
• Addictive behavior 
• Unhealthy reactions

Transformation Application: As we reviewed these different characteristics, what words struck home with you? Too many? Just pick one.

What resources can you engage to start to address them?  Coaching, podcasts, books on the topic, our podcasts from previous seasons.

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Transformation Tip: “You Can't Change The Fruit Without Changing The Root”

Four areas that need to be addressed to see healthy Organizations prosper:

1. Leader
2. Leadership team
3. Organization
4. Marketplace, Competition

Transformation Application: Do you have a leader who is having a positive impact on you? Take time to intentionally thank that person and encourage them.

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Transformation Tip: "We can learn to take a risk and embrace change; the alternative is stagnation." - Virginia Satir

Journey of Change:

• Trigger
• Discomfort
• Avoid
• Embrace
• Practice
• Mastery

Transformation Application: Do you feel triggered because of some changes?  Write down - what is the discomfort you’re feeling? If you’re avoiding something - why are you avoiding it?  Be honest. Tell yourself that you have to face it and embrace it.

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