Transformational Leadership: From the Insight Out

Let's be honest, sometimes procrastinating feels good! In the moment, pushing something off until later is a great feeling, but the feeling that comes later is often one of stress and anxiety. In this episode, Steve and Pete talk about the underlying causes of procrastination and practical solutions to apply in your life.


Transformation Tip: A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step

Procrastination becomes nature and a force of habit

Causes of procrastination

• Fear of failure 
• Low self-esteem 
• Immediate gratification
• Distraction 

Instead of looking at what you want to change, look at who you want to be 

Transformation Application: If the fear of failure is pushing you into procrastination, look at the fear and think about the benefits of facing it and how it might impact you in a positive way. 

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Old mindsets can keep us stagnant and stressed. In this episode, Steve and Pete discuss four ways to evolve old mindsets to bring maturity, growth, and success to your current endeavors.

Transformation Tip: “The measure of intelligence is the ability to change” - Albert Einstein 

Staying stuck in old mindsets will stunt your growth 

We tend to be unwilling to change because we know we have to put work into it 

If we look at our past as a launching pad it can be less intimidating because we are not starting over, but continuing the journey into something new

Ways to evolve your old mindsets:

• End it
• Upgrade it 
• Scale it 
• Pivot 

Transformation Application: Take a look at your life -  is there something you have been doing or thinking that simply is not working for you anymore? Look at the four options we went over and try one!

 

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It’s the season of giving! If you take a minute to stop and look around, you will see many opportunities to be generous and meet the needs of those around you. In the final episode of season 2, Steve and Pete provide tips and encouragement for looking outside of yourself and being a blessing this holiday season. 

Transformation Tip: “The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away.” - Pablo Picasso 

Engagement steps: 

• Blessing 
  • If you know your value, you add value.
  • By feeding into others’ needs, your needs ultimately get met.
• Connection
  • Must build trust 
  • The key to building trust is being authentic 
    • How can I be there for others?
• Meeting someone's felt needs 
  • Their felt need is from their perspective
  • If you don't meet the need in short term then you won't be able to meet the long-term needs

Different types of needs:

• Relational 
• Motivational 
• Material 
• Spiritual 

Transformation Application: Go meet a felt need

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Conflict in today's culture leads to polarization, hatred, and hurt. Learning how to navigate conflict instead of running from it will help you to grow and improve your relational, intellectual, and emotional depth. In this episode learn practical tips to help you work through issues of conflict in your own life. 

Transformation Tip: “An eye for an eye ends up making the whole world blind” - Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi

Learn how to navigate conflict instead of running from it. How do we grow through issues of conflict?

What you miss out on when you don't deal with conflict:

• Relational depth 
• Intellectual depth 
• Emotional Depth 

Do to others as you would have them do to you.

Rather than judge and accuse someone, start by asking for clarity and context:

• “Am I hearing you correctly when you say..”
• “This is how I experienced what you said..”

Transformation application: Is there someone you are avoiding? Apply some tips from this episode and try and confront them. In the future try to do this early and often! 

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Receiving feedback is not something most people enjoy, but it is a necessary skill to learn. Embracing feedback can help you grow and develop into the best version of yourself. This episode provides practical tips to help you receive feedback in a mature and positive way. 

Transformation Tip: “Criticism may not be agreeable, but it is necessary. It fulfills the same function as pain in the human body and it calls attention to an unhealthy state of things.” - Winston Churchill 

Receiving feedback Principles:

• This isn’t easy - we are sensitive 
• Remember the concept of blind spots 
• Need to have a growth mindset
  • Look at criticism as a teaching moment that will ultimately help you upgrade yourself
  • Allow yourself to come out of your comfort zone 
• Always remember that the person giving you this feedback usually has your best interest at heart 

Tips for receiving feedback 

• Thank the person who is giving your feedback 
• Don't be afraid to ask for clarification or an example 
• Respond, don’t react 
• Even if you disagree, work to find a way to filter out the truth
• Ask that person for practical ways that you can address the feedback they have given you 

Transformation application: On a scale of 1-10 how well do you embrace feedback? If you rate yourself at 6 or lower, ask yourself why you find it hard to receive feedback.

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Feedback is an extremely important relational tool. Developing the skill of giving healthy feedback can help you to build trust and respect with the people around you. This episode provides practical feedback tips that you can use in your workplace, at home, or in any environment! 

Transformation tip: “Candor is the key to collaborating effectively. Lack of candor leads to a dysfunctional environment.” -  Edwin Catmull

Giving healthy feedback: 

• Be kind - candor with kindness
• Check your motive 
• Sandwich method 
  • Bread - start with a positive comment/compliment 
  • Middle - give the constructive criticism feedback 
  • Bread - finish with another positive comment 
• Constructive criticism is not constructive if it is only negative 
• When you’re giving feedback just get it out there  - be clear, be specific, be brief
• Consider the person you’re addressing - do they receive feedback well? 
• Consider timing and setting

3 traits that are prone to be received as extra critical 

• If you are an analytical person and need concrete proof 
• Natural problem solver 
• Command 

Transformation Application: Check yourself before giving feedback - are you trying to help? Or just venting?

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The world is full of so many incredible, unique, and beautiful cultures. Our ability to learn, connect and appreciate each one and their differences will help us to gain fresh perspectives on people and the world around us. 

Transformation Tip: “Strengths lie in differences, not in similarities.” - Stephen Covey 

Being culturally aware doesn’t mean we have to agree with everyone, but we need to be open and accepting of all people and our differences

Tips for cultural awareness 

• Think beyond race and ethnicity
  • Who are they on the inside?
  • Ask open-ended questions with respect in order to educate yourself
• Don't assume you know everything when coming into a culture 
  • Manners matter
• Take time to exchange stories 
• Remember every human being wants to be valued and seen 
  • Make honor and respect your culture 

Transformation Application: In the next weeks find someone from a different culture than you and ask them how they celebrate the holidays! 

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There is a big difference between listening and hearing. Learning how to be fully present in conversations will strengthen your connections and relationships. One of the best ways to show honor and respect to another person is to truly listen to what they are saying. In this episode, gain practical tools to help you become a better listener. 

Transformation Tip: “Most people do not listen with the intent to understand, they listen with the intent to reply.” - Stephen Covey

There is a big difference between listening and hearing. 

Ways to focus on listening: 

• Put your phone away! 
• Be fully present 
• Let people finish their sentences before jumping in with your thoughts 
• Pay attention to the other person’s body language 
• Empathize 
• Give encouraging verbal cues
• Clarify and paraphrase what you’ve heard 
• Ask good questions

People become much more open to hearing what you have to say when they know that you have listened to what they have to say 

Transformation Application: PUT YOUR PHONE AWAY! Be fully present when listening to people. 

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In this special Transformation Talk episode, Pete talks with Craig Muster, an essential life coach, and business consultant, about how sharing unfiltered and honest stories can create deep and meaningful connections and relationships.

Transformation Tip: 'Where there is perfection there is no story to tell.' —  Ben Okri 

Learn to listen to other people's stories and pay attention to how you tell your own stories.

When we tell our stories with filters and perfectionism, we don't allow ourselves to be vulnerable and we keep ourselves from truly connecting with others.

When you try and "appear" a certain way, you cannot truly connect with people's hearts.

When you hear someone else's story it gives you permission to think differently about your own story.

Performance will never give you what connection can. Connection satisfies your soul.

Transformation Application: Have two courageous conversations this week. In a discussion, ask a question, and then simply listen (not just hear). Listen to the heart, not just the facts.


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Are you socially aware? A key element of emotional intelligence is social awareness. In this episode, learn practical tools to help you become a better listener, express empathy, and read body language in social settings.

Transformation Tip: “You can observe a lot by just watching.”

Tools of social awareness: 

• Good listening 
  • Truly understand the person you’re listening to 
  • Switch your attention to listening not just responding 
  • It doesn’t mean you have to agree with them 
• Listen with your eyes 
• Everyone has a backstory 
  • Everyone is dealing with struggles 
  • Don’t be so quick to judge the present without understanding the past 
  • FORM (exercise to get to know someone)
    • F - Family 
    • O - occupation 
    • R - recreation 
    • M - message 
  • Empathy 
• Body language 
  • Expresses more than words do 
  • Pay attention to body language 
  • Learn to read the room 

Transformation Application: In your conversations this week, work on eye contact and staying engaged with people. 

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