Trauma Recovery Anonymous

Understand that the adults in any child's upbringing are the first line of defense in teaching children that their feelings and emotions are not mental disorders, but rather they are their God-given instincts, their gut feelings to be trusted in the face of any danger.

It's the adults in a child's life who know how to respond to anxiety and depression in healthier ways. They hold a safe place to practice all the different responses.

Help children to understand that Freeze & Fawn were very healthy for younger children, but as we grow up, we have to use the other 4 responses, like: 

Flight - Fight - Faith  - Acceptance.

As we teach children to trust their feelings, to embrace the concept of  God, to understand how to recognize our responses, they will learn how to cope better.

As the adults we have a responsibility to teach children to be independent.

Maybe parents should have a workshop around the kitchen table, teachers and guardians to have workshops in the classroom.

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Working with children; allaying their fears that they are broken by doing the work with them; is both rewarding for them and for you.

For many parents, we can feel like we are losing touch with our children, when in fact our children in their despair of not being good enough, can be wary of telling others of how they feel for fear of being smothered.

What they subconsciously want and need to is to learn how to deal with life on life's terms.

What better way, than to teach them to live and thrive  with Life on God's terms.

Take this action, use this book, teach your children healthy ways to deal with life and you will be amazed before you are halfway through.

You'll have mended bridges you though couldn't be fixed; your relationship with them will blossom; you'll get to that heavenly place where your children can feel safe expressing themselves with you.

It will feel like a miracle, yet it will be a miracle you accomplished together.

You can do this!

You are the first line of defense

It's not too late

Your child is not mentally ill; they just don't understand how to deal with their feelings; but teach them, show them, let them see that  you have been challenged by the same feelings when you were younger also; that you learned how to cope and suggest they copy your coping skills, or that as a family or group, you all  act out our  those responses together, make it a fun exercise.

This is a gift you give to your children, to your charges; that will come back to you tenfold.

A thought must be taken for all mental health professionals, the hard, arduous task they have when it comes to diagnosing mental disorders.

There is a passage in the Bible that expresses the dire situation they face. It talks about the harvest being great and not enough farmers.

'It's very much the same with mental health professionals and the number of people coming for help.'

There are so many to be treated that mental health professionals need to make rash diagnoses in as little as 15 minutes. And from a recent study by the mental health industry. [The National Library of Medicine ], we see that 39% of people diagnosed were misdiagnosed.

And when it comes to 290 million children between the ages of 10-19 being diagnosed with mental disorders, this is a whopping 120 million children misdiagnosed.

This in itself is a crime against humanity, destroying the future of the human race and a sin against God.

The Bible clearly speaks about the Wrath of God. If we harm one hair on the head of a child of God, how our sin is visited on our children and descendants for 7 generations. I believe teachers and parents should step into the breach of raising young children and teach them that anxiety and depression are healthy, God-given instincts to be trusted in the face of any danger, real or imaginary, so that mental health professionals are making fewer misdiagnoses of young children.

We have to work together to protect God's children and the future of the human race.'

To place this responsibility on mental health professionals is a dereliction of duty by parents and teachers.

They are the first and second line of defense, and it's up to them to teach children that their feelings and emotions are not mental disorders; they are gut feelings in action to take the appropriate action

Flight

Fight

Freeze

Fawn

Faith

Acceptance

The Bible stated that if we harm one hair on the head of a child of God, a misdiagnosis would be such an infraction; we face the wrath of God, an eternity in hell, and the sins of the father/mother visited on their descendants for 7 generations

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Curing Anxiety & Depression in the now, simply means to focus all our attention and intentions on what is happening in the here and now, in this hour right now, in the present.

Anxiety & Panic get their power over us when we focus on the unknown future.

Depression and Despair get their power over us when we focus on the past.

When we learn to focus all our intention and attention on the present moment in time, right now, here in this one hour, without bringing the fear of the unknown future or the despair of our past into this space, we can know peace of mind.'

The trick is to get busy right where you are. So, if you are stuck in your room, tell the voices in your head to 'feck off', to leave you alone for the next hour, and then jump into action.

Tidy your room.   Open a window & let some fresh air in.  Pick up your clothes off the floor. Make your bed. Change your clothes. Tidy your desk or dressing table.

know the voices in your head will be screaming at you to stop, ignore them, or tell them to 'feck off' again and again.

You can do this; you are the only person who can.

Have a hot shower with soap and water.

If thoughts of the past or the unknown future try to sneak their way back in, and they will, tell them to 'feck off' too.

This is about you staying present in the present.

In the beginning you might find all you can do, is to keep this new way of living to one hour at a time, that is perfectly ok.

I learned to claim 8 hours of peaceful sleep at nighttime by casting out the voices and my demons, telling them to leave the building and not to return until the morning.

Understand that a dream will not turn into a nightmare until you choose to invite the demons in.

So be conscious of your thoughts and feelings, and better to learn to meditate on prayer, to block out negative thoughts and feelings.

Try this for this one hour in front of you, now what do you have to lose?

Imagine this working, and by focusing on this one hour without any thought of the unknown future or the done with past, you can have peace of mind today, even if it's one hour at a time.

From being anxious and full of depression, surely being at peace for an hour, that would be a miracle.

I believe anxiety and depression are not mental disorders, but our God-given instincts to be trusted in every situation, and what we are dealing with is a broken spirit, a hole in our soul. 

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I was delighted to have on my podcast, Amy Vincze, a fellow advocate of EFT; who went on to create her own evolved sense of EFT.

If only ordinary people knew of the healing power of EFT, more and more people would use this all the more.

I love the way Amy, like so many of us, found that the subject was the Cause and not the Effect.

As we see with most mental disorders, the treatment is the focus being put on the Effect; whether that is the mood that  person is in, or the nightmares and flashbacks; whereas we need to be focusing on the root cause.

Working with a professional or a coach is always more effective than going it alone. Sometimes we can't see the woods for the trees and it can help to have other people, help you with the appropriate language to effect the best healing response. 

Many times we can be too hard on ourselves, and it can help to get a different perspective.it really can help to get a different outlook than will help you to be more compassionate for oneself.

Amy created her own evolved EFT practice, also known as Tapping; where Amy has created a phone  app, accessible to the world: Soar with Tapping.

Amy believes there is an emotional components to healing, as there is a physical, mental and spiritual components.

Know that there each coach, like Amy have specific practices to deal with all sorts of mood disorders; phobias and addictive and dysfunctional behaviors.

So if you are a young person, who finds due to anxiety or depression, you are hiding in your room, fearful to leave your safe place, and then you download this app, make use of the free resources to know that Amy is someone you can connect with, someone you can trust.

Working with Amy, you can go from Victim to Survivor to Victor. 

Wouldn't that be a lovely gift to give to yourself.

Take a chance on Amy, I promise you wont be disappointed.

@amyvincze

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Darlene, a retired US Navy commander,  and the creator of

'The Returning Warrior Workshop'.

Darlene was aware of how little support service men and their families and partners got prior to, during, and after deployment, and this didn't sit well with her.

The purpose of the workshop was to help those returning and their families reintergrate, and Darlene was certain that the r servicemen had to be a major part of that solution.

We got facilitators from all around the world to come together to create a solution.

One must understand, this war isn't where the whole country goes to war; these are all separate battles and conflicts, where individuals go and meet their team to fight, and this isolation and going it alone has a very self-destructive, mental, and emotional impact.

This can lead to combatants feeling more comfortable in the conflict situations than back home with their families, and so Darlene knew this was probably the biggest obstacle to overcome.

Darlene came up with a wonderful concept, to create a simple thank you to both the servicemen and their spouses, something that no one had thought to do, but when you hear of it, it is a brilliant idea.

Darlene wanted people to know that going to war or having your loved one go to war, wasn't a normal day; it was a huge sacrifice and possibly life-threatening, and so allow oneself to feel whatever comes up for the individual.

to my audiences, where you are right now, is where you are meant to be. I understand that might sound harsh, but it's the rising from the ashes that empowers you to become a beacon of hope for others.

Can you imagine listening to Darlene? You feel empowered and challenged to step up and try to change your life and circumstances, and in only a short time, others come to you to ask you how you achieved your growth, and you share that with them, and suddenly, numerous lost souls are coming to you for direction. What would that feel like for you?

Darlene shares about her own trauma and grief, and despite it all, she always seems to want to help others with their pains and troubles.

We are blessed to have people like Darlene on this earth of ours.

Darlene suggests we should all look at light therapy, which wasn't the focus of our conversation, but appears to have been a bonus to us all.

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I am delighted to have Cameron Mc Clean on my podcast today.  who bridges the two worlds of spirituality and psychology to share a range of healthy mechanisms and strategies to empower the individual to take control of their own well-being.

His work as a psychic medium helps people connect with their inner child 

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We had a great conversation reminiscing about our childhoods, our parents wanting the best for us, driving us forward, and yet it wasn't a perfect fit.

But we had to travel that path to get to where we are today. I think that was the beauty of our conversation. realising we all face challenges and change, and in the moment, for many of us, we can feel despair and depression for being knocked out of our comfort zone, but then we find our true place by taking that forced chance, and looking back, we see how we rose from our own ashes like a phoenix.

Cameron suggests it's ok to fail, we can only learn from our failures, so please don't think you are broken or less than, it's only by our challenges that we get the opportunity to be independent.

If you ever get the chance, volunteer to be of service; it's a great way of finding your way.

Be open to trying new things. We have one life on this earth, and we are to be of assistance to other human beings, and so be open to finding our path.

Also, be open to spiritual awakenings. You might dream about someone lost to you, and that dream is your lost loved one visiting you.

Finally, trust your God-given instincts; they were given to you to keep you safe.

We can't hate ourselves into a life you love. 

@cameronpsychicmedium

Jeremy shares his story, his journey from hopelessness to finding his purpose. He shares the lows and highs of looking for acceptance and approval from outside on himself.

He talks about where he is today and how he strives to help others find peace of mind today.

Today, Jeremy is a documentary journalist, yet he remembers being a geek and a nerd.

Once, Jeremy needed validation from outside of himself, whereas today, he is quite comfortable with who he is.

"Do unto others as you would like it done unto you."

This is the moral and ethical concept that Jeremy takes from his catholic upbringing. We are all just trying to figure it out together, so if we can focus on what unites us as human beings.

Never give up, keep going, do your best, no one can do it for you, it's always up to the individual, the opportunity to be the best we can be, and Jeremy would be interested in documenting your story if it resonates with him.

Jeremy finishes with some practices to embrace that will change your life.  It's all about making the decision to be true to the person you are meant to be today.

We were all put on this earth to make a difference, and no matter how small an effort you make, even a smile or a gratuity of some kind, can be the difference in encouraging others not to give up on life.

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@jeremynorrie

Meditation is the most effective tool available to perfect healing.

Focus our awareness and intention on what needs to be healed by focusing inwards.

Awareness is probably the most important aspect of successful healing.

Dean, came from a lifetime of busy chaos, and hitting 50, everything changed. Dean experienced his spiritual awakening. He understood we needed to experience the hardships of life so that we can appreciate the good.

We are led to believe that we can get what we want to make us happy from outside of ourselves, when in fact, it has always been an inside job. To heal inside of us, we must invert and search inside of us for what is wrong.

For many of us, we need to go deeper than most, to heal the hole in our souls.

Surrender the one distortion that is Free Will ;the mistake we make is we are separated from our understanding of the creator; that we think we are in control.

Awareness, Love, Wisdom, Unity, & Stillness.

These are the inherent values of the Creator that we should all be striving to achieve, to emulate.

When we go into meditation and go into our subconscious mind, we enter into the guru's cave, where there is no harm or hurt.

Understand The Creator has given each of us the same tool to save us from our demons and peril; that tool is awareness; there is no one outside of us that can heal the disconnection from source, that's all us, individually.

Meditation is the best way to evoke awareness, by sitting in silence, watching your breathing, then switch to feeling what is wrong, then let that go; return to your breath until another subjective feeling comes up to release; and continue to repeat this practice.

This becomes a daily practice to keep your mind, heart, and soul clear.

Active trauma memories can block us from embracing awareness because of the thoughts and feelings associated with the event.

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Kate Rizzo is a wonderful human being who carries an unusual understanding of how to deal with Grief and Loss. Kate and her soulmate hubby did their best to raise three beautiful sons, and believed she was living the dream.

Her beautiful son Nicholas suffered from social anxiety and was even nominated as prom king that year, but didn't want to go, not feeling good enough, that he was chosen for his mum and not for him.

He was very good at football but suffered many injuries, which led to a dependence on medication for the pain.

Kate noticed 'The Light was Going Out'  in him

Kate and her hubby were caught between tough love and enabling; a horrible place for any human being; especially a parent.

Nicholas agreed to go to rehab; on one side, for those who cared it appeared as though it was a chance for redemption; but unseen; for Nicholas, it was the end in action.

Eventually, their beautiful child gave up and took his own life.

If only we could encourage our loved ones how to step out of their feelings and take some form of action.

If we can teach our children, our siblings, that it's ok to be weak, that on some days you can have a bad day, we will be doing them a great service. we have to remove the idea than a man cannot show weakness, or that it is okay to ask for help.

Kate shares how writing poetry became her healing journey. Everyone was helped by her taking action to heal; her hubby and their two surviving children were helped by her writings.

Grief really mirrors pregnancy for Kate. It was growing inside of her; no one was aware of this building in her, but it started coming out in many different moments, sometimes good and sometimes bad, which led to her writing poetry to express how she felt.

Kate went from victim to survivor, to victor, to a Helper, and she wanted for others to get through loss in a healthier way, so she used her poetry to help others too.

She saw the similarities for her between grief growing inside of her and pregnancy, and this better understand the grieving process for her

In time she knew she had to find someway 'to deliver' the grief from her sense of self, and so she visualized her grief to be the form of a baby gorilla by her side.

This visualization helped her to detach from the grief in the times when she needed to focus on her work and family.

Kate learned to say 'Yes to life', no matter how hurt she felt or how down she would feel, just say yes to everything.

Kate shares an AA suggestion, that if you are suffering with esteem-able conditions, do esteem-able things.

I pray that each of you can be helped by what Kate has shared here today and it is my hope that in the both she and her soulmate will come on as future guests, i believe it will help other parents to hear how dads cope with loss and grief too

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My guest today argues that willpower isn't enough.

Max explains that we each have a certain amount of willpower to last our whole day, and if we are using too much throughout the day, on the wrong things, by the time we get to early evening, we have little to no energy, and we beat ourselves up.

Max and I had a discussion of two sets of voices in our minds in conflict in our heads, trying to control and manipulate us.

Max suggests not being able to accept us exactly as we are causes depression and anxiety; it's a terrible form of self-sabotage.

Max was saying that as soon as we start to compare ourselves with others, depression and despair set in.

The introduction of the internet has led to us competing with the world's population, and we can feel terribly less than.

Max would live if each of us could stop using labels on ourselves and others.

A label doesn't make us better than or less than; what matters is allowing us to be a normal, boring human being.

Max expands on his personal work on the suggestion that our bodies keep us focused on the conscious mind, to keep us focused on what is on our mind. Unfortunately, that is part of the problem. If we can find a way to strive to be in the subconscious mind, we will handle life better. One of the benefits of meditation and dream prayer, we can cultivate confidence in our practice through visualization.

We can create and cultivate the  psychosomatic state  simply by thinking deeply about it.

We are great at focusing on depression, anxiety, and worry; we are experts at this

. Wouldn't it make sense to decide that for the next 15 minutes, worry about being successful, wealthy, and in love?

#maxweigand

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