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Erikson's Stages of Development and Adverse Childhood Experiences is also a Youtube Video. If you haven't please click the link below and subscribe for exclusive content different than the podcast. Adverse Childhood Experiences (or ACES) can impact our development as children. If we survived narcissistic abuse, childhood trauma, childhood emotional neglect, or any other form of abuse at a specific time in our development, we often get stuck there, and the trauma that impacts our lives will make our reactions to triggering situations similar to that of our reactions at that age. In other words, our social and emotional development becomes stuck and we repeat patterns from childhood.

By understanding Erikson's Stages of Development and how adverse childhood experiences that occurred during these specific stages impacted us, we can begin to take inventory of our own emotional and social development, where and when trauma may have kept us stuck, and start doing healing work around these age periods through journaling, meditation, and inner child work to help us release that trauma and develop emotionally and socially into the healthy adults God made us to be by healing trauma at its true source.

Resources:

Erik Erikson's Stages of Psychosocial Development by Kendra Cherry in Very Well Mind is an article that describes Erikson's Stages of Development and the significance of each. It describes what healthy development in each stage looks like as well as potential consequences of adverse experiences that can impact development in each stage from infancy to old age. 

The Top Five Regrets of the Dying is a book I mention in the video/podcast in the last of Erikson's Stages of Development as a great book for considering what matters in life. This book was written by a woman who cared for hundreds of terminally ill patients, learned their deepest desires and regrets, and compiled a list of the repeated themes of what these individuals wish they had and had not done. It provides great insights on how to live a full, happy life without regrets. 

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The Impact of Narcissistic Abuse on Our Relationship With God is the last episode in the Series on Narcissistic Abuse. When we are raised by people with narcissistic traits, in a rigid religious environment, or we are abused or neglected long term in other ways, we believe the qualities that our caretakers have are also what God is like. Our caretakers are often projecting misconceptions onto God that they were taught as well, and they pass them down to us. As children, we have no other frame of reference for what God is like, who God is, or who we are in Christ. As a result, we are often left confused with mixed messages. We come to see God as  rigid, withholding, harsh, judgmental, angry, stingy, or cold. 

These misconceptions can cause us harm, making us feel fear, unworthiness, resentment, anger, and even despair in our relationship with God. This causes many to stop believing. It's life changing to separate our misconceptions about God from who God really is based on truth: scripture, healthy psychology, and objective reality. This also helps us heal misconceptions about ourselves. By healing our distortions and projections, we can enjoy a loving, secure, safe, and peaceful relationship with God (perhaps for the first time), run toward God instead of away from Him, and live the life He intended us to live.

Breakdown of Episode
0:00 Introduction to the Episode
3:34 Introduction to the Topic
6:12 How Caretakers Treat Us Impacts What We Think About God
28:39 Distorted Views of God and How We Project These Onto God
44:58 How to Separate Our Projections Onto God With Who He Really Is
56:22 Specific Ways to Heal Our Distortions About God 

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The Impact of Narcissistic Abuse on Our Relationship With Others is part of the Series on Narcissistic Abuse. It discusses how being raised in adverse childhood conditions or by narcissistic types can impact our mental health and programming and make us codependent. This episode then describes what codependency is, the traits of codependency, how this impacts relationships, and how it is possible to heal from codependency. 

 Someone with codependent traits is more likely to attract relationships with narcissists and unhealthy individuals. Additionally, survivors of narcissistic abuse can also project unhealed past abuse onto healthy relationships. However, by learning the red flags of abusive relationships, healing codependent traits, and taking more honest self-evaluation, we can heal from narcissistic abuse and pursue and cultivate the healthy, loving relationships God intended us to have.

Breakdown of Episode
 0:00 Introduction to the Episode and Topic
4:52 The Impacts of Narcissistic Abuse in Childhood
24:09 Codependency
30:12 How Codependency Can Increase the Chances of Attracting Narcissists
43:08 How We Can Project Our Past Into Loving Relationships
59:40 Ways to Heal

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What You Need to Know About Narcissistic Abuse Part II contains two parts and is the second part of a larger Series on Narcissistic Abuse. Parts I and II are episodes 6 and 7, and they include a "crash course" in narcissistic abuse. Part II, Episode 7 includes what the impacts are of narcissistic abuse on the survivor; impacts in specific kinds of relationships; and ways to heal, educate yourself, and get your life back. This episode further breaks down the connection between alcoholism and narcissism, how this can create codependency, how group dynamics and organizations can be narcissistic, how to deal with different levels of narcissists, and practices to heal from narcissistic abuse. Episode 6, Part I, which precedes this episode explains the nature of narcissists and narcissistic abuse and warning signs of narcissistic abuse. 

Breakdown of Episode
0:00 Introduction to the Series, Episode, and Topic
2:06 What Are the General Impacts of Narcissistic Abuse on the Survivor?
25:07 Impacts of Specific Types of Relationships With Narcissists
59:38 Healing, Educating Yourself, Getting Your Life Back

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Episode Description:
What You Need to Know About Narcissistic Abuse Part I contains two parts and is the first part of a larger Series on Narcissistic Abuse. Parts I and II are episodes 6 and 7, and they include a "crash course" in narcissistic abuse. Part I, Episode 6 includes what narcissistic abuse is, why it happens, and warning signs of narcissistic abuse. This episode further breaks down what makes a narcissist, the difference between Narcissistic Personality Disorder and high narcissistic traits, and why narcissists generally don't have any interest in healing. Episode 7, Part II continues from Episode 6, Part I discussing the impacts of this abuse and ways to recover from narcissistic abuse. 

Breakdown of Episode
0:00 Introduction to the Series, Episode, and Topic
4:20 Breakdown of Episode
5:30 What Is Narcissistic Abuse and Why Does it Happen?
37:12 Basic Warning Signs of Narcissistic Abuse

Bulleted List of Resources

• Effects of Narcissistic Abuse by Arlin Cuncic in Very Well Mind includes what narcissistic abuse is and the impacts of narc abuse. This article is also used at the beginning of Episode 7 that discusses the impacts of narc abuse. 
• How a Child Can Become a Narcissist by Elinor Greenberg, PhD in Psychology Today discusses various scenarios and situations that create a narcissistic, describing what makes narcissists to creating their wiring childhood. 
• What Are the Nine Traits of a Narcissist? By John P. Cunha, DO, FACOEP in E Medicine Health describes the warning signs of narcissistic behavior in this article with the nine most common behaviors of narcissists.
• I'm a Professor of Human Behavior and I Have Some News for You About the 'Narcissists' in Your Life by Melody Wilding in Busi

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Mindfulness: Emotional Recovery That Sticks introduces you to the concept of mindfulness, the benefits of mindfulness, and how mindfulness can help heal trauma. Mindfulness is simply coming back to the present moment and into our bodies, but the practice is so much more. This episode covers specific exercises and mindsets you can use to practice mindfulness, and how you can practice Christian mindfulness with the presence of God to help you come back to the present moment, since trauma can so often take us away from it. The episode shows the science behind how mindfulness can help you heal trauma, gives you ways you can practice mindfulness in your daily life, and clarifies how to slowly add this practice to your life to safely use it as a method for healing trauma, abuse, and difficult emotions. 

Breakdown of Episode
 0:00 Introduction to the Topic
3:21 Breakdown of Episode
5:45 What Is Mindfulness?
12:05 The General Benefits of Mindfulness: How It Can Help You
19:49 What is Christian Mindfulness?
35:50 How Mindfulness Helps Heal Trauma
45:04 Some of the Best Resources on Mindfulness 

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• What Is Mindfulness by Elizabeth Scott, PhD at Very Well Mind defines mindfulness, how it's practiced, different types of mindfulness, conditions that mindfulness can help, and cautions to consider when starting a mindfulness practice. (If any link doesn't work, Google the title and website). 
• Benefits of Mindfulness by Kendra Cherry discusses the benefits of mindfulness on mental illness, emotions, and physical health, as well as various areas of life, while also including some cautions on the practice. 
• Christian Mindfulness Resources is a great website that includes resources on mindfulness from a Christian perspective. Do you own research. There are many like this. 
• 7 Christian Mindfulness Exercises to See God in Daily Life by Sarah from Calming Grace gives seven concrete ways to practice mindfulness from a Christian perspective. 

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God Will Heal Your Trauma and Emotional Abuse is a Youtube video I did a few years ago with the same name. I encouraged people that they can heal, God will heal them, and God's radical love is the source of all healing, including any trauma or difficult emotional issues you may be facing. This episode discusses attitudes that can re-traumatize you, how to avoid these, and how being deeply rooted Christ's radical love and grace keeps you safe and heals you, along with doing the right kind of healing work. This episode offers a word of encouragement and a reminder of why we do the healing work, that God's love it radical and his grace is scandalous, and that God will heal your trauma and emotional abuse. 

Breakdown of Episode
1:17 Introduction
6:16 How Well-Meaning Religious Communities Can Re-traumatize Folks 
10:34 Core Feelings of Unworthiness and Setting the Record Straight on These 
15:35 Being Deeply Rooted in Christ's Radical Love and Grace
28:05 Two Philosophies That Can Re-traumatize You and Why These Are Not the Truth
39:00 Why God Takes Us Down and Deeper When We're Healing Before He Takes Us Back Up

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Scriptures:

Mark 15 Parables of the lost coin, lost sheep, and prodigal son.

Psalm 119 God's protection for those He loves.

Other Resources:

• The Ragamuffin Gospel by Brennan Manning, a Franciscan priest, is a book about God's radical grace and love for us, and how he preferred the company of outliers.
• What's So Amazing About Grace by Philip Yancey is a book about God's radical grace and how it works in our lives.
• The Story of the Chinese Bamboo Women's Network Blog, is about how long it took the Chinese bamboo to grow, and how this time and the depth in which is was planted was part of the plan to allow it to grow into a mighty bamboo.
• God Will Heal Your Trauma and Emotional Abuse is the original Youtube video I recorded a few years ago. I expanded on this talk for the podcast to give you a word of encouragement and keep you

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New Video: What's the Difference Between PTSD and C-PTSD? 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IcjQ1JXSFW8&t=2s

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Many people think that the science of learning can only be applied to school learning, but there is extensive research that certain strategies greatly enhance learning more than others and that trauma can be healed and the brain rewired. By combining these two tried and true concepts, this episode takes you through specific learning strategies that will help you get more out of your healing work, and it includes specific practices applying the methods that are best for learning.

How the Science of Learning Can Maximize Healing of Trauma and Difficult Emotions shows you how you can harness the science of learning to improve your chances of healing difficult emotions and trauma. This episode teaches you what the science of learning is, what the best research-based methods are for increasing what you get out of healing practices, and how you can transfer these practices to your healing work. If you apply these strategies, you can increase retention of what you learn about healing, apply it to your life, and sustain healing long-term to live the life God meant you to live. 

Breakdown of Episode:
1:18 Introduction
8:05 What is the Science of Learning?
17:35 What Are the Best Methods of Learning That Stick With You?
40:27 How Can You Use the Science of Learning to Evaluate Your Own Learning in the Recovery Process?
45:37 Three Concrete Practices That Will Maximize Results in Your Recovery Practice

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Taking Every Opportunity to Grow and Learn:  Willingness, Non-Resistance and Acceptance to Heal Trauma is a two-episode series that examines the impacts of trauma, what resistance is, and why unhealed trauma survivors resist the reality of trauma instead of accepting it. It further explores the healing power of non-resistance to what is, and how this leads to healing and peace. 

 While there aren't always clear answers, this series explores why God allows difficult and traumatic experiences to happen, how resistance plays a part in these realities, and why we resist instead of accept them. It further examines how willingness, non-resistance, and acceptance toward what is improves our situation and allows us to heal our trauma, grow in these experiences, and find peace and meaning we might not find otherwise. Non-resistance leads us to a place of surrender in our walk with Christ. 

Then, I share concrete practices that will show you how to apply willingness, non-resistance, and acceptance in your own life to heal trauma and ease your experience, even in the face of traumas and harsh realities. 

 2:17 What is Surrender, Willingness, Vulnerability, Non-Resistance, Trust, and Obedience?
14:30 Concrete Practices of Willingness, Acceptance, and Non-Resistance
34:21 Exercises to on Willingness, Acceptance, and Non-Resistance

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