Trigger Proof Transmissions

Sub-text:  I had to ask myself these so I could heal from my Trauma Bond

Firstname,

We all are wanting to create homes where it feels like a sanctuary to be there.

Where relationships feel nourishing. 

It wasn’t until my last one ended, and I was all alone at the age of 43,

living with my dog, looking in the mirror…

I felt called to finally face the darkness within myself I was avoiding.

My relationships were always based on my fear of being alone.

And the person I chose to stay with— and felt energetically stuck to—

like I KNEW it wasn’t healthy— but I just COULDN’T leave. 

 I was too scared.

Then it hit me. 

I was there at Christmas time— all alone— afraid of dying alone, 

never having experienced love that was mutual

and nourishing— being in a home with someone I felt calm with.  

It was always tense. There was this inherent anxiety in seeing her.

We get into relationships for love.  

Why does it feel like a prison?

Fast forward to today. 

180 degrees difference.  

I’m not saying it was easy, but there were a few questions I started with,

that if you can relate to what I just shared— 

that helped me get out of my victim story and 

CREATE my own path. 

That’s essentially what it will take.  

The courage to be willing to look iNSIDE.

Ready?

!) Where do I want to be by this time next year?

(hit reply and let me know the answer if you want.  I read all my emails)

2) What has caused me to be disconnected from love and deserving for MYSELF?

In other words, “What parts of me have me showing up feeling like I don’t deserve mutual safe love?”

I was always suspecting that my anger and hurts from how I felt about my parents 

were at play within my relationships.  That my childhood wounding had something to do with it.

I just thought I had dealt with it already. 

 “Forgive and Forget”.

“It’s all in the past."

 You’ll notice when you take an honest look like I did, 

that our unresolved woundings from the past aren’t something we can forget.

These wounds are stored IN THE BODY.

If you’ve ever wondered why talk therapy hasn’t been getting to the root cause,

just realize your suspicions have been correct.

Unless the body is involved, we are on a hamster wheel living in Groundhog Day.

I discovered, when I finally had the courage to find the right guidance,

to be willing to have all my stories be confronted in a loving way,

to have the right feedback…

I finally was able to heal my attachment wounds playing out in my relationships,

and I now have a relationship that feels like a sanctuary.

I’m able to lead my family.

And when arguments and ruptures happen,

it’s not the end of the world.

There’s a confidence to repair, 

because I took the time to place a high value 

on the most important education I never received but craved:

How to have a secure relationship. 

My invitation is for you to ask yourself these questions, 

and hit reply and let me know what you come up with.

I’m always here to support and challenge you into fully loving all parts of you,

so you can create relationships that reflect that love back to you,

And children and families are raised in homes as a “fortress for well-being” 

instead of a toxic mess they want to run far away from.

What’s more important than that?

See you at the next perfect time.
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
https://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming "Breathwork and Badassery" Live Event (Every month)
Regulate Your stress, deepen your connection to your inner child, process your stuck emotions and improve your capacity
https://go.drnima.com/bbvw?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.
https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcast

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcast

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof

Are you on Telegram? Click link below to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.
https://t.me/joinchat/TPQjyH2MCBKHonIR

There’s been a massive shift in the collective

since the pandemic.  

We have been isolating ourselves.  

Often when stuck in challenging emotional states,

unable to make sense of our unresolved wounds,

we tend to want to isolate and hibernate.

If you’ve ever craved deep connections with relationships,

but also noticed a deep sense of fear of connecting and tendency to isolate—

then that makes perfect sense why.  

From a Neurological perspective, 

if you’ve never had the experience of primary caregivers

who could hold space for and help you move through difficult emotions

and anxiousness,

then you’ll find a comfortable cocoon with isolating.

The problem is— this dissociation IS a trauma response,

also known as the Dorsal Vagal Pathway,

which simply means that the Nervous system uses a protective

pathway that just causes us to shut down from feeling and emotion.

This kept us safe in childhood from emotional pain.

But unfortunately what kept us safe from emotional pain in childhood—

is what blocks us from love in adulthood.

This is why we get to a place wondering why our relationships don’t really work.

Because deep down we are disconnected from OURSELVES.  

So we try to heal by watching videos, reading books, 

and thinking this is going to shift our Nervous System State

back up into safety.

It just can’t work that way.  Not by a long shot.

The way out of that “swamp” is done through the very thing we are avoiding:

CONNECTION.  

We block love from ourselves, and in order to experience love FOR ourselves,

we MUST show up and be contained in a space of love and connection. 

In Somatic healing work, we call this a “Ventral Tether”— someone or a group of people

who are themselves on the path of raising up their inner “frequency” into a state of authentic 

connection with themselves— and an create a Safe Container for you to be witnessed.

When you do, your shame dissolves.

You realize that the experience you’re having is PERFECTLY normal, and doesn’t mean

there’s something wrong with you. 

Your life force energy comes back online, and your heart opens to the world.

The biggest obstacle is making your healing THE priority.

No one can do this for us, 

And yet we CAN’T do it alone.

The work is to find a guide who’s walking the path of breaking this intergenerational cycle—

and DECIDE that even though this cycle didn’t start with you,

it can end with you— so that you can one day be the “ventral (safe)” Tether for others and help 

alleviate their suffering without having to abandon yourself to do it because you’ve finally been guided

to find safety within yourself.

If this resonates with you, send me a message and tell me why— and tell me if you’re 

ready to finally learn how to be that “Ventral Tether” for YOURSELF. 

Your guide on the side,

Nima

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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
https://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming "Breathwork and Badassery" Live Event (Every month)
Regulate Your stress, deepen your connection to your inner child, process your stuck emotions and improve your capacity
https://go.drnima.com/bbvw?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.
https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcast

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcast

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof

Are you on Telegram? Click link below to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.
https://t.me/joinchat/TPQjyH2MCBKHonIR

Just had an interesting back and forth with a woman who was keen on working with me.  

Here’s her story:

My story dates back to my early childhood years where I grew up in a dysfunctional emotionally and physically abusive household. Typical Mediterranean strict father with lots of emotional issues. My abandonment issues stem from the lacking of emotional parenting I had access to. My father left us off and on during my entire childhood. My mother always working to survive and get ahead as am immigrant was not accessible but she too was not the most emotional being either. My mother spent most of her life fighting with my father and taking all the abuse to survive. I was witness to physical abuse towards her, my sister and sometimes me. While my parents were always there for us and provided good values it was in a very toxic and manipulative environment. We never knew when my father would get upset or leave us for days or months. We walked on eggshells all the time. I was ignored because I was the good kid in the family the responsible one and the one who had the least demands and caused the least trouble. Ironically I look at myself today compared to my two sisters and I am the least cared for today by my partner. The least taken care of financially and emotionally and by far the least secure in life. I do everything for myself and no one to depend on. No one has ever stepped up to the plate for me and wanted to give his all. Even in my marriage there were conditions… prenup, detachment and constant holding back love to manipulate. I am 52 years old and I feel broken. I am always thinking why am I not good enough for the people I love? Why do I keep entering the same patterns? Why can’t I walk away from those who can’t give me what I want? Why am I so emotionally dependent? Why can’t I be like everyone else? I see all kinds of woman with devoted partners … and even if they are unhappy today at some point that man chose that woman happily to enter in that free commitment? Why don’t I deserve that? Why won’t someone choose me and do whatever it takes to have me? And more importantly why don’t I make good choices and insist to be treated properly? I’ve gone from one bad relationship to another. Engaged once… married once…in an extramarital affair whom I thought he had left his wife but never did.. and now today in a relationship with a man I adore most but just can’t get there for me. I did to stop this pattern. Either I am selecting all the wrong people or I am doing something wrong myself and right now I can only fix myself.”

This all sounds great doesn’t it.

Who wouldn’t want to heal and receive the devoted love of a man who’s in his masculine energy wanting to make her a priority?

Our back and forth interaction revealed the exact reason why her relationships are the way they are.

I saw it clearly.

And After speaking to several women in this community who are stuck in the same situation..

I thought it was important to share a massive this massive blind spot revealed so that you can open the door to solving it, and have masculine men wanting to CLAIM you.
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
https://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming "Breathwork and Badassery" Live Event (Every month)
Regulate Your stress, deepen your connection to your inner child, process your stuck emotions and improve your capacity
https://go.drnima.com/bbvw?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.
https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcast

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcast

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof

Are you on Telegram? Click link below to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.
https://t.me/joinchat/TPQjyH2MCBKHonIR

Just had this question:

“I have these mood swings that when I am feeling down,

I feel I need to shut down and stay away from humans until I can regulate. It could take me a good couple of hours to days to feel like myself again.

My ex-husband complained about this and my current partner complained about the same thing and he never met my ex.

Why is this a problem to anyone when I feel I need to shut down.

I need to be alone, how is that hurting anyone?

Or how else can I work over this?

I am not at my best self when I am in these states and I don’t want to create negative or shameful memories with people while I am at it.

Also it is not anybody’s burden to make me feel better.

I feel worse when I feel I am stressing someone out.”

On this call I unpack this entire question.

Without learning these 5 shifts—

I was doomed to keep repeating the cycle—

And that’s why I’m so keen on teaching these to this community.
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
https://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming "Breathwork and Badassery" Live Event (Every month)
Regulate Your stress, deepen your connection to your inner child, process your stuck emotions and improve your capacity
https://go.drnima.com/bbvw?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.
https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcast

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcast

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof

Are you on Telegram? Click link below to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.
https://t.me/joinchat/TPQjyH2MCBKHonIR

Find out here ___

tell me if you can relate to this.

I was 43 years old when I realized I had it all wrong.

Growing up with the values instilled in me,
I thought I had to prove my worth in the world with success.

In 2010 when I climbed that mountain and reached what I would have considered “successful,”
winning awards in my local community for Business Excellence,
breaking financial records I would have considered impossible only years prior…

That “peak” was the beginning of my downward spiral in my marriage
that ended up in divorce, leading to a series of failed relationships
one after another with almost the EXACT same pattern.

A great honeymoon phase— then I would feel trapped and want to escape,
looking for the next shiny new object.

I suspected there might be something “wrong” with me.
I suspected my bitterness from the divorce process left me in “fear of commitment”.

After feeling like I was missing something, I picked up the book “attached”
and discovered I had an “avoidant” attachment style.

Unlike MOST people who discover their attachment styles and say “oh well! that explains it!"
I went all-in with learning how to shift myself into a more secure state.

I had accomplished a lot in my life.  A healthy and secure relationship had always eluded me.

So I stopped distracting myself with ANYTHING ELSE and I tackled the work to avoid
facing my biggest fear:

Going into my 50’s and 60’s and 70’s as a f*ckboy who never could lead a feminine woman
OUTSIDE of the bedroom—INSIDE of a secure relationship.

I did what it took, traveled whatever distance, and payed whatever price
to refine my relationship skills and become better at this most important thing called love.

I did what I didn’t think I had the capacity or inclination to do:
Meet my person and become a dad.

Today, I’m inspired to teach what I needed the most:  The Path from Insecure attachments
to secure attachment where the relationship is polarized— maintaining erotic friction—
even after having a toddler.

I’m here to tell you it’s possible.

Understanding your attachment style is a good start. 
BUT IT’S NOT ENOUGH.
The task of healing from our Insecure attachments don’t come from watching videos and reading books alone.

The Trauma Bonds that keep us stuck in cycles run too deep.

We must break the cycle at it’s root and heal our unresolved attachment trauma,
take responsibility for how we react to our emotional flashbacks,
master emotional literacy,
heal from our trauma bonds,

and when you do — the entire world around you shifts.

You upgrade your relationships,
and begin to feel cherished (if you’re a woman)
you feel respected (if you’re a man)
and you no longer tolerate breadcrumbs. 

The home becomes a sanctuary and safe space for kids to feel nurtured and understood.

This path can feel treacherous without a guide showing you the pitfalls and obstacles to watch out for.

The biggest obstacle is the sense of “am I really worthy of this anyway?”

I’m here to tell you that you ARE.
It’s your birthright.

When you’re ready to claim your worth and heal from what’s been stopping you,
and learn the skills to turn your triggers into deeper self love
and conflict into deeper intimacy
so that you can feel confident in ANY relationship
and have the courage to walk away when it’s NOT aligned,

send me a DM and tell me why this is so important to you right now.

I’m listening.

See you at the next perfect time.

Your guide on the side,
Nima
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
https://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming "Breathwork and Badassery" Live Event (Every month)
Regulate Your stress, deepen your connection to your inner child, process your stuck emotions and improve your capacity
https://go.drnima.com/bbvw?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.
https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcast

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcast

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof

Are you on Telegram? Click link below to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.
https://t.me/joinchat/TPQjyH2MCBKHonIR

I know this message might sound a little morbid, 

but this is the kind of stuff I really enjoy thinking of.

Most of us are walking on this planet quite unconsciously.  

Waking up, stuck in our heads over what isn’t working,

how we aren’t getting what we want,

how shitty our jobs or relationships are,

lamenting over our frustrations, 

and COMPLETELY unaware that we do actually have the power to change.

I discovered that we had it all backwards, 

and that’s why what we teach our students and clients has been making the greatest impact for them.

My invitation is for you to try this on:

Begin with the end in mind.

Sounds depressing, but work with me here:

You’re going to die— a lot sooner than you think.

This isn’t a dress rehearsal.

It’s your last shot.

And most of us don’t live beyond 73 years old.

That doesn’t mean 40’s and 50’s are your middle ages.

It means that if you are in you’re 30’s you’re actually middle aged.

(Sorry for the truth-bomb there)

So it’s important to pause and consider this now:

When you take your last breath…

What do you want to have accomplished?

What would you love to have created?

Who do you want around you?

What do you want them to say about you?

These were questions I asked myself after my last relationship ended.

This is a CRITICAL question to ask RIGHT NOW if you’re having difficulty in breaking a Trauma Bond.

Because it’s in THESE QUESTIONS where we get to reverse engineer

the new identity we will be wanting to create for the limited days we have left.

Who do you want to be?

What do you want to do?

What do you want to have?

If these questions confuse you or you feel stumped— there’s a good reason for that:  Unresolved Trauma.

Unresolved Trauma energetically prevents us from connecting to this “knowing”.  

This is the place to begin for most of us.

It was for me.

When we heal— we then feel safer in our skin and connected to our inner guidance,

which is the most critical component of creating our lives the way we desire, 

instead of going through the motions from a place of “duty.”

Where do YOU want to be?

In all of the trainings we do with our students and clients— this is the fundamental place for us to begin…

Because quite frankly— it sets the tone for every single conversation we can make from that point forward,

and helps us guide ourselves into where we get to put our focus and attention.

This is the path — to begin with the end in mind,

and to receive guidance in creating a life of our design, NOT ONE BY DUTY.

Are you ready?

Nima

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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
https://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming "Breathwork and Badassery" Live Event (Every month)
Regulate Your stress, deepen your connection to your inner child, process your stuck emotions and improve your capacity
https://go.drnima.com/bbvw?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.
https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcast

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcast

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof

Are you on Telegram? Click link below to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.
https://t.me/joinchat/TPQjyH2MCBKHonIR

"This pain is killing me.”

I can’t tell you how many times I used to hear these words in my days as a Chiropractor. 

I would cringe inside for my patients, 

because although I didn’t have the Poly Vagal Neuroscience training I have now,

as I’ve deepened my understanding of how to self-regulate the Nervous system…  

but even back then I knew people were delaying their recovery simply by the words they were choosing.

Language contains energy.  

So does the manner and state of “being" we are in when we use it.

If you don’t believe me, think back on all the times you felt misunderstood in a conversation,

simply because someone accused you of saying something “in a tone” 

where you didn’t mean it at all.

One simple word in a sentence, delivered in a subtle way can cause hurt

when it wasn’t even intended.

That’s how sensitive our nervous systems are to language.

One of the greatest oversights on the planet right now happen to be in the field of mental “health”.  

Ironically, in the field of mental health, labels like “anxiety” and “depression” which most of us have 

experienced situationally at any given moment, depending on what we are going through, 

are seen as “disorders” when they truly are NOT. 

If you’re trying to heal from a Trauma Bond, going through the phases of love-bombing, devaluing, 

and discarding— which is a classic pattern, your nervous system goes into hyper-vigilance and 

hyper-protection.  

This “alarm” state is NOT an illness. It’s an adaptation.  Having a dude with a white coat label it “anxiety” feels good 

especially if you’re afraid you’re having a heart attack, but at the same time it assumes there is something wrong with you.

If you’ve just lost your job, you’ve just caught your partner cheating, or your abandonment wound has been activated,

then you SHOULD feel a “Sympathetic" fight or flight response.  One of the greatest shifts happened in my life

was when I stopped using the language “anxiety” and “panic attacks” and began to see my system as wisely intelligent 

and protective:  “I’m in alarm. My body’s defences have been triggered and I’m protecting myself.”

 This is one of the first lines of defense we teach our #Cyclebreakers in their journey towards self regulation. 

If we are encountering a perceived threat that is too much, foo fast, or too soon— or not enough for a prolonged period of time,

then it’s perfectly adaptive and protective to “check out” and go into what’s called “Dorsal Vagal Shutdown.” 

This is when we are so steeped in grief or shame that it just feels safer to not feel anything.  This freeze response…

Like a collapsed immobility with fear can be mislabelled as “Depression” which is a way to classify it so that doctors 

can get payed by insurance companies, but other than that benefit, it serves the recipient of that diagnosis no healing benefit.

Not unless it’s used to get to the root cause— and to educate the person on how to move back up to safety.

We don’t learn how to become active operators of our Nervous System.  We don’t know what to do with our emotions,

we aren’t good at feeling them, labelling them (I’m sad, I feel guilty, I feel ashamed, hurt, and angry), and sharing them— 

and we haven’t usually experienced what it’s like to feel held in them safely and witnessed…

And so it makes sense that when these emotions come up, we stuff them away, and get a diagnosis, and a pill. 

This is what our world has come to. 

And we’re getting sicker because of it.  And it’s now affecting our children.  

Thanks to our technological advances and our dopamine dealing smart phones,

Anxiety and Depression in children has reached epidemic proportions (as it SHOULD be given the environment)

 and making our normal emotions and reactions to it wrong isn’t helping.

I’m here to offer you an entirely new perspective:  

You don’t have “Depression”.   You’re under-expressed. 

You don’t have “Anxiety”:  You’re under-expressed. 

The good news is, you don’t ever have to invalidate your normal response to your toxic environment and unresolved traumas anymore. 

You CAN heal.  You CAN learn how to become your own medicine. 

When you do, you no longer invalidate your child-like parts that are brilliantly working to try to keep you safe. 

You become more self affirming, understanding, and compassionate with them. 

And suddenly your reality, your sense of self worth, sense of deserving and relationships all transform to reflect

the new language you are using to speak to yourself:  

With kindness and compassion and empathy.  

When this happens, your entire experience of life transforms. 

Shifting our relationship to trauma and our past involves changing the way we speak to ourselves. 

Isn’t it time you moved past the feeling like there’s something "wrong with you" and you need to be “fixed”? 

Isn’t it time you actually learned how to move those stuck emotions THROUGH you and learn how to alchemize the pain you’ve been avoiding into FREEDOM?

If you’re ready to shift that fundamental relationship— join us at our next upcoming event (link below) and experience 

the difference of what it’s like learning how to actually heal— shifting the shaming and invalidating labels into pure understanding and compassion. 

The greatest gift is that you can then make sure not to pass on that same invalidating and shaming of emotions to the next generation. 

Your guide on the side,
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
https://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming "Breathwork and Badassery" Live Event (Every month)
Regulate Your stress, deepen your connection to your inner child, process your stuck emotions and improve your capacity
https://go.drnima.com/bbvw?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity...

It was a painful realization for me. 

I couldn’t stand being in between my parents and my first wife.

I hated feeling like I was stuck in the middle.  
My wife at the time felt like I didn’t have her back.

My parents felt frustrated about certain traits about her,
and didn’t hesitate to let me know whenever an issue came up.

I was unprepared for this.  

The anxiety of it caused me to say “F*CK THIS” and like the avoidant I was,
I ended the marriage.

My parents opinion of me, their critical voice never left the back of my mind.

It was maddening. 
I tried to block it out.

I tried to rebel against it by choosing partners I KNEW they wouldn’t approve of.

The sad truth is— even if you’re doing something as a means of saying “f*ck you” to your parents,

THEY ARE STILL IN CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE.

This silent, "invisible fence” was at the root cause of my mental health challenges (anxiety)
and my relationship challenges. 

I was living life unconsciously fighting AGAINST their “introjected” voices in my head. 

It took a massive wake up call for me to realize why none of the healing modalities, 
no personal development courses, no therapies could ever break this cycle, 

UNLESS I WAS WILLING TO DO THE NECESSARY WORK TO INDIVIDUATE FROM MY FAMILY SYSTEM.

It was hard.

I had to learn how to get out of my head and get into my body.
I had to learn how to integrate my shadow parts and master the art of Nervous System regulation….

I had to become a Cyclebreaker.

When I did, something shifted.

I met Diana, and no longer chose someone based on who I “thought” would be approved of. 
I started making choices based on my own vision, and was 100% ok with others who disagreed with my path.

Slowly, everything in my life began to shift, 
and ironically so did my relationship with my family. 

Little did I know that “Individuation” was the missing link and key component that 100% of us are responsible for achieving,
if we want to create a life of meaning, purpose, and connection.

That’s why its so meaningful for me to guide others to break free from their unconscious bonds to that trauma that kept them stuck,
has them repeating co-dependency patterns, 
constant people pleasing, 
choosing people that don’t choose them….
insecure attachment patterns...

👆🏽 all of that doesn’t mean that there is ANYTHING wrong with you.

It just means you haven’t yet “individuated” and you’re at the effect of GENERATIONS of cultural and family system influence. 

If this note is speaking to you… and you’re curious about what the process of individuation looks like, 
jump into our next upcoming event (link below) and see what the work is really about.

It won’t happen overnight, so there’s an opportunity for you to learn how to make this an everyday awareness and practice.

But if you are tired of being so EXTERNALLY focussed that you have been disconnected from yourself and you’re ready to invest in being guided 
back home to yourself— fill out the application to see if we’re the right fit to work together. Let us know what’s been stopping you and what 
your’e committed to creating in the next few months.

First hurdle is deciding that our lives are actually WORTH breaking these patterns for.
For me it was a no brainer. 
I didn’t want to live the 2nd half of my life constrained by the same patterns that held me back.

It was the greatest decision and the best investment I could ever make….

My own healing.

Now I get to lead a community of cyclebreakers to do the same.

I’m curious— if you were to break free from the Matrix of your old patterns in life and relationships…

What would YOU WANT TO CREATE?

Let me know.
I’m curious.

Your guide on the side,
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
https://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming "Breathwork and Badassery" Live Event (Every month)
Regulate Your stress, deepen your connection to your inner child, process your stuck emotions and improve your capacity
https://go.drnima.com/bbvw?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.
https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcast

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcast

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof

Are you on Telegram? Click link below to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.
https://t.me/joinchat/TPQjyH2MCBKHonIR

Have you ever noticed a pattern in your life?

A pattern with choosing the same type of people in relationships.
A pattern of not being able to say “no” and exhausting yourself. 
A pattern of pushing people away when they get too close.

Whatever the pattern may be, I’ve learned to start paying attention to them.

When we do— there’s a gold-mine of opportunity for healing. 

In my 20 years as Chiropractor working with people with Chronic health issues,
I kept noticing patterns in my patient’s symptoms that tied to certain personality traits.

It was such an intuitive connecting of the dots, that I almost felt 
like I would be considered a complete QUACK for bringing it up with people. 

It wasn’t until I started reading Gabor Mate’s work that I felt like my intuition was being validated.

I noticed here’s an uncanny link between Chronic Illness, Pain and unresolved Trauma.  

The weirdest pattern I would see over and over again— which led me to scratch my head asking this question: 

“Why do all my chronic illness/pain patients seem like they’re in co-dependent relationships as well?”

Little did I know that years later, I would be teaching people how to become their own medicine…

Not only learning how to heal from these chronic conditions by becoming their OWN medicine…

but also in a weird way seeing the impact of their own inner work spilling into their intimate relationships. 

When Randi reached out to me, she was in the “Damsel in Distress” Archetype again and again in relationships…
which ultimately led to feeling abandoned again and again…

Little did she know when she began her healing work in our Cyclebreakers Community that 
her inner work would end up creating a possibility of healing for her daughter as well…

A transformation in her health, 
A transformation in her family dynamic….

leading to meeting a secure partner for the first time in her life.  

In this video, Randi shares the specific shifts she needed to make, 
all for the purpose of letting her story inspire you.

FAIR WARNING: 
When you watch Randi’s share, please understand these results weren’t handed to her
simply by enrolling into our #Cyclebreakers Offers. 

She showed up.
She was committed.

She had a big enough “why:”

“I don’t want my daughters repeating the same trauma patterns.”

She could literally see them following in her footsteps.

Even the most well-meaning parents can’t help but pass down our fawning/pleasing and 
co-dependent patterns. 

If you resonate with what I’m sharing here, watch the video in the link below.

Then, if you’re truly committed, coachable, resourceful, and ripe and ready to shift 
these patterns that didn’t begin with you,

Either join us at our next upcoming event (link below) or go all-in and fill out an application
to see if we are the right fit to help guide you into getting the same results as Randi.

She decided her life was too important not to prioritize.

Isn’t it time you did the same thing?

Your guide on the side, 
Nima
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
https://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming "Breathwork and Badassery" Live Event (Every month)
Regulate Your stress, deepen your connection to your inner child, process your stuck emotions and improve your capacity
https://go.drnima.com/bbvw?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.
https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcast

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcast

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof

Are you on Telegram? Click link below to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.
https://t.me/joinchat/TPQjyH2MCBKHonIR