Trigger Proof Transmissions

Working in the field of healing Trauma Bonds,
having a pretty strong (and controversial) opinion about what it takes to HEAL
when many therapies and modalities simply help people just COPE…

The topic of taking ownership and responsibility for how we show up in relationships
is a very heated, and often misunderstood point I share,
especially when it comes to emotional and physical abuse. 

When Jason attended his first Breathwork and Badassery event,
he was a Chiropractor who was feeling stuck in his career,
feeling disconnected from his purpose. 

He didn’t share much with me about what was going on in his personal life,
but as it turns out, he was 6 months into a marriage where he was being abused,
both emotionally and physically. 

What he discovered in his first Breathwork event led him down a rabbit hole
where he finally decided to address what had been swept underneath the rug for decades in his life.

In the video he shares the distinction between taking OWNERSHIP for healing from the abuse,
and taking BLAME. 

This fundamental distinction is often what most people get completely wrong in the field of healing Trauma.

Not getting this distinction right keeps us stuck in a loop of victimhood, going from one abuser to another,
constantly feeling victimized, not trusting ourselves or others…

But when you hear what Jason discovered— you’ll truly GET what it takes to heal from this pattern,
and finally break the cycle.

Today Jason has connected deeply with his purpose and living life on his own terms from a place
where he felt stuck in Co-dependency. 

I’ve grown to love Jason as a colleague and fellow #Cyclebreaker and am pleased to share this
video with you.

Let me know what comes up for you when you watch it.

And if you relate to Jason’s story— when you’re ready to finally break the same patterns,
jump into one of our next upcoming events with the link provided…just to get a taste of how our
community operates…  And give yourself permission to be guided into a Breathwork journey,
or The Signature “Overview Experience” where jason likened it to “30 years of therapy in one day”.

Or, if you’ve been following long enough and you feel called to re-create yourself on the 2nd half of life’s journey
in a way that, like Jason— is dedicated to a calling that’s BEYOND what your past trauma patterns have dictated…

and you’re ready to become a #Cyclebreaker with my guidance,

apply for an “Intimacy Audit” session where we identify some blind spots that are holding you back,
and help you game plan your next steps moving forward.

See you at the next perfect time.

Your guide on the side,

Nima
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
https://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming "Breathwork and Badassery" Live Event (Every month)
Regulate Your stress, deepen your connection to your inner child, process your stuck emotions and improve your capacity
https://go.drnima.com/bbvw?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.
https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcast

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcast

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof

Are you on Telegram? Click link below to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.
https://t.me/joinchat/TPQjyH2MCBKHonIR

What is it that you’re not stepping into action for?

Where are you dragging your feet?

What is sitting there unwritten, unresolved, un-expressed within you?

Chances are, 

you’re stopped by “perfection anxiety”— better known as PERFECTIONISM.

If you’ve ever identified yourself as a “perfectionist,”— pay close attention.

What was the consequence to you as a child of “not getting it right?”

I can recall a specific traumatic example of my dad trying to help me with my math homework

when I was 10 years old. 

I just couldn’t get the answer right.

I GENUINELY couldn’t solve it.

I noticed how upset that made him… almost as if he took it personally.

I felt stupid. 

That memory was held in my body, and every time I would bring back home grades that weren’t satisfactory,

I would be met with the same sense of shame and unlovability. 

It’s taken some deep inner work to realize that he was loving me in the best way he knew how, 

and that his high standards of excellence have been quite supportive of my bigger picture,

but with every good comes a bad, and the dark side of this external pressure

is anxiety, which spills into our sense of self worth.

Without getting to the root cause (which isn’t a cognitive process— it’s in the body)

we won't ask for what we feel we deserve (because we don’t feel we deserve much)

we don’t step outside our comfort zone,

we stay stuck in the same levels in our work, in our relationships….

All due to the fear of feeling those horrible feelings from those unresolved events—

that “failure” and “not good enough” energy we are trying to avoid…

but are very much alive within us.

When Eliezer first hopped on a call with me to discuss the impact of his perfectionism in his life,

he felt stuck because he didn’t challenge himself to take any of his Scripture tests in his Synagogue. 

His faith and spiritual growth was important to him, but for 20 years

his perfection anxiety prevented him from taking the necessary tests to advance him.

Our work was focussed on integrating his shadows of “not enough” and surrendering to the failure

and disappointment his younger self experienced.

Within weeks, he did what he wasn’t able to do in 20 years— 

and has since advanced to greater heights in his life,

not by being perfect, 

but by walking side by side with the parts of himself that felt like a failure, 

giving them all the love they never felt. 

Sounds pretty crazy and “woo” at times,

but consider the possibility that we are all children in adult bodies, 

waiting for someone to give the love we didn’t receive growing up.

Consider the possibility that no one is coming to rescue us from perfection anxiety. 

Consider the possibility that that person can be no one else but you.

Your guide on the side,

Nima
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
https://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming "Breathwork and Badassery" Live Event (Every month)
Regulate Your stress, deepen your connection to your inner child, process your stuck emotions and improve your capacity
https://go.drnima.com/bbvw?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.
https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcast

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcast

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof

Are you on Telegram? Click link below to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.
https://t.me/joinchat/TPQjyH2MCBKHonIR

HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU’RE HEALING?

(I’ll tell you how by the end).

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The reason why you’re receiving this message is 

you found your way on my email list because you were curious about evolving yourself. 

An attachment-style quiz, an article, or perhaps it was

a video that  prompted you to find a way of receiving my transmissions.

For whatever reason— I’m glad to be connecting with you.  

And please feel free to unsubscribe if you’re not getting any value or you ended up 

here by accident— I won’t be offended at all. 

There’s a massive distinction I feel is important you understand if we are going to talk about TRANSFORMATION. 

In the world of healing and growth (which I’ve been obsessed with for the past 40 years)

there is a LOT of INFORMATION out there to consume. 

Unfortunately, most people who say they are interested in shifting their insecure relationships,

in creating secure attachments, healing from Co-Dependency and relationship anxiety, 

you’ll notice they all have one thing in common: 

Frustration with the fact that nothing much is actually CHANGING. 

This causes us to fear that we’ll always be stuck in the same boat repeating the same patterns,

or suspect that all the books and videos are just scammers.  

HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU’RE HEALING?

HOW CAN YOU DISTINGUISH “COPING” FROM ACTUAL HEALING AND PROGRESSING?

Most would say “feeling better”— and I’m not debating that that’s definitely a good sign of a transformation.

Getting to a place where we see the cup as “half-full” with more of an optimistic perspective is definitely

one of the signs of a Nervous System moving from “Protection” to “safety”. 

I’m inviting you to look much deeper into your body…  at your REACTIONS. 

True healing comes when we are no longer reacting the same way we always have…

from a “knee-jerk” fight (poke), flight (run), freeze (hide), and fawn (fix)— 

which are all unconscious patterns we adopted in childhood to keep us safe….

When these attachment distress reactions cause enough pain for us to do the REAL deep inner work….

1) That’s when you notice— as a “fighter”— you become less reactive and more agreeable. 

Things that would piss you off — you are more understanding about. 

2) As a “runner”— normally the discomfort causes you to want to run— on the other side of the inner work,

you’re able to sit with the discomfort and move that energy through your body and “talk it through” to a resolution.

3) As a “freezer”— when you check out and go “deer in headlights” at the first sign of conflict— 

on the other side of the inner work, you’re able to stay in your body, self regulate— and respond and reconnect and repair. 

No more checking out and ghosting for days.  

4) And as a “fixer”— instead of placating and abandoning yourself just for the sake of “keeping the peace”—

on the other side of the inner work, you’re able to set boundaries, say, no, make requests and ask for what you truly want.

Firstname, NONE of these transformations in the way you respond to conflict can happen by reading books and watching videos.

I’m willing to go so far as to say that talk therapy doesn’t change the reaction, either. 

This is the man constraint with MOST of the “work” people talk about when they say they are “working on themselves”.  

It’s simply awareness based— without getting the actual body involved. 

That’s just awareness.  Awareness is a first step— but it’s not going to change us from reacting like jerks or checking out.

The TRUE inner work that involves getting into the body on a Nervous system level is the ONLY way you can hear what

our students/clients have been saying…  which is “people are noticing a difference in me.” 

When you go deeper than just books and videos and show up in a container that teaches you how to rewire old patterns…

People start to notice a shift— and you’re the only one that knows what it is.  

You react differently.

You have a sense of calm that oozes through you.

The light comes back in your eyes,

and you become MAGNETIC— as your self worth expands. 

If you’re ready to experience the true difference between INFORMATION and TRANSFORMATION, 

you’re invited to jump in and join me lead a container of 100 people over 3 days into an emersion into the most 

frustrating parts of our lives due to unresolved reactivity: 

Love

Sex

Money.

We’ll be delving into your reactivity in these areas and going into the body and creating a “pause” between stimulus and response,

so you can create new outcomes. 

When we ignore this— we keep the awareness at a cognitive level— and we are trapped by our old patterns and identity 

and our future becomes pre-determined for us.

When we finally learn this— we choose a new path, with new possibilities. 

Relationships heal and shift.

Sex life gets spicier and more intimate.

And our money story shifts from constant concern to prosperity and freedom. 

if you’re finally ready to rewire, and take your healing from “not enough” to “completely unrecognizable"

here’s the link.  JUMP IN. 

Nima

P.S.  there’s a $100 coupon over the next 24 hours if you hit reply DM me for it.

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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
https://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming "Breathwork and Badassery" Live Event (Every month)
Regulate Your stress, deepen your connection to your inner child, process your stuck emotions and improve your capacity
https://go.drnima.com/bbvw?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.
https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcast

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcast

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof

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It appears there’s a blind spot that might be impacting your ability to have healthy relationships.

I don’t mean to make assumptions about you— especially if we haven’t personally met before.
It’s just that this seems to be constraining 100% of every person who’s ever joined one of our trainings. 

It seems that everyone is dealing with the exact same “upstream” issue:

AN UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP TO THEIR EMOTIONS. 

We have an entire industry of Personal Growth and Therapy/ Psychological Therapeutics/ Psychology 
dedicated to INVALIDATING EMOTIONS.

If you’ve ever caught yourself saying “why do I feel this way?”

“I shouldn’t be thinking/feeling this!”

“Why can’t I just get over it?”

Then congrats— you have a Wiring pattern that resists emotions. 

For good reason, too.

If we grew up with parents who didn’t do their healing work, 
who couldn’t regulate and contain their frustration, shame, guilt, and feelings of “failure”…

then they will project that unhealed relationship to themselves onto us.

And then we pass that onto our kids— who then learn to judge, abandon, 
blame and shame themselves just like we learned how to do.

This is the underlying root cause of most Anxiety issues you’re facing.

It’s an unwillingness to FEEL. 

And it sounds easier than it is.  

To rewire this pattern takes practice and it’s a committed skill. 

But if we don’t— we then have an unhealthy/toxic relationship to ourselves—

and we get into relationships with others who have the exact same relationship with themselves….

combining to make a toxic dynamic we can’t seem to get out of. 

And it’s all in our wiring. 

If we don’t address this— 
we go through endless therapies and seminars trying to learn how to “clear emotions”
instead of learning how to properly Alchemize and Metabolize them, 
through feeling them— 

And our health suffers,
we get anxiety 
and healthy relationships with others becomes an impossibility. 

This is the focus of Rewire: Trauma/Sex/Money.

To shift our most critical relationship — with our own emotions, 
so that our relationship to others shifts.

When you do— you’re able to show up in relationships COMPLETELY differently: 
You are able to speak up.  
You are able to take the risk of asking for what you want.

A snowball effect occurs:  You become open to receive love. 
Enjoyment of fulfilling sex flourishes, because you’re able to be open to receiving it.

Guess what happens to your income?
You no longer push away prosperity.  

By focussing on this primary relationship— and tying it to other areas, 
you get to experience a dramatic shift.

This is what we are doing at Rewire: 

Day 1:  Shift your inner narrative about love (so you can feel worthy of receiving it.)
Day 2: Shift your inner narrative about sex (so you can have it in a healthy relationship and not need to use fantasy)
Day 3: Shif your inner narrative about money (so you can feel deserving and receptive to prosperity and abundance).

Jump in here— and join us March 10-12 (11-13 in Australia/NZ).  
3 Intensely transformative days. 
Not to be missed if you want life to look different in a short period of time. 

Send me a DM if you’re wanting to come— but feel unsure. 

I’m happy to chat more to help get you clarity. 

See you at the next perfect time. 

with love,
Nima

I don’t mean to be rude when I say this. 
It’s meant more as a wake up call when I’m speaking to my clients, 
who’ve been searching for answers to the most pressing questions:

- Why don’t my relationships work?
- Why am I attracted to the same types of partners who treat me like crap?
- Why can’t I commit?
- Why do I want to run every time they get close?
- Why do I constantly second guess myself?

This is usually followed by “advice please!”.

It might be a bitter pill to swallow, but I it’s important for everyone to know:

NO ONE IS COMING TO SAVE US.

There isn’t a therapy, a counsellor, a preacher, a book, a video, or a guru
that’s going to solve the fundamental challenges of life in the arena where
we all seem to fight about: 

Love. Sex. Money.

But if you’re willing to look at WHY our conditioning through culture/religion 
and family systems have SHAPED us, 

only THEN can we solve these fundamental dilemmas that plague our reality.

I had to look under the hood at my own wiring for love:

Message I received:  “I’m not loveable unless I’m successful”

That had me become transactional when it came to relationships, 
full of ego, pride, and greed as a means of validating myself, 
allowing me to consent to less than ideal relationships— overlooking MASSIVE
red flags, leading up to an abusive relationship where I was both a perpetrator, 
and a victim in the Drama Triangle. 

I then looked under the hood at my wiring for Sex:  

“Sex makes you bad”.

I was conditioned to believe sex is bad, only for marriage, 
causing a split in my psyche and try to be “pure” when a part of me
became highly addicted to the validation derived from “closing” with a new partner.
That led me to stay in a 3 year on again/off again relationship with a sex worker 
I was NEVER going to marry and stay with her for a year longer than I should have,
to try to protect myself from a smear campaign if I left. 

I then had to look at my own wiring for Money:

“Money will be taken away. It won’t last. Whatever you build will be taken away.”

This was my experience with my family system in childhood.  
My parents dropped everything they had— home, career, all of it 
when the Islamic Revolution happened in Iran. 
We left with almost nothing, 
and I witnessed two young parents in their mid 20’s 
starting over in a new Country.  
This cycle of me building up my finances only to have it all collapse
has repeated itself in my life 4 times. 

ALL UNTIL I SAID “ENOUGH” and decided to shift my wiring. 

I realized no personal development in the world 
if I didn’t go DEEP enough
was going to shift the conditioning unless I was willing to get very 
raw and real and look at the patterns and,
using a BODY BASED Neurological approach…

to REWIRE these patterns. 

The results have been outstanding.

I’ve healed my relationship with my parents.
I’ve healed my relationship with men.
I’ve integrated my inner masculine and feminine parts. 

And— Been able to feel safe in my skin,
truly feel a sense of self love emerge…

And see it now play out in my life…
with a beautiful family, 
a community of other #cyclebreakers who are walking the path beside me
(and the number is growing every day)…

Having conscious sex in a monogamous relationship (I didn’t trust myself before)
And prosperity is flowing like a river, 
all on the other side of me expressing my creative gifts….

All because I shifted my conditioning.

That’s why it’s such an honor for me to guide 100 other souls in the container 
on March 10-12 (in North America)— 11-13 in Oz… 

If you’re brave enough to look under the hood, 
and do do something NO ONE can do for you (which is to heal and rescue yourself)…

Then jump in now— and join us. 

If you’re ready to have a Quantum leap in the 3 most triggering and problematic areas of life:
Love, Sex, and Money….

and you’re mature enough to be part of the conversation of healing the root cause of the root cause…

It would be an honor to guide you to rescue and rewire yourself. 

Because no one else will :)
Register here:
https://drnima.com/programs/rewire/?sl=youtube

If you’ve ever felt frustration on your healing journey, 
there’s a good reason.

It’s because your expectations are likely in fantasy land.

The perfectionistic parts that are deathly afraid of “failure”
love to show up on your journey towards healing your attachment wiring, 

and when you fall into old patterns—

- texting an ex you’re trying to let go of,
- shopping to wash your blues away,
- relapsing with substances
- using pornography when you committed to stopping…

The path to healing is messy AF. 
Using language like “backsliding” and “relapse”
completely invalidates the way 
Neuroplasticity (which is a rewiring of the Nervous System)
actually works. 

It’s cyclical. 

Think of it this way: 

Every time you “backslide”— think of it as you’re spiralling UPWARDS, 
bringing a new awareness with you— 
with lessons learned— as your most recent “relapse” has new information
that you can take with you for your next phase of the journey.

This is the path that ALL healing takes. 
It’s not linear. 

Think of your relationship to love. 
Healing and rewiring your anxious/avoidant attachment won’t be linear. 
If you’re willing to be guided and learn the tools, 
you can use every setback as information to help move you into a more secure state.

Think of your relationship to sex: 
As you heal it— you will have to lean into the possibility of screwing it up.
If you’re willing to be guided and learn the tools, 
you can use every setback as information to help you move into a more secure state.

Think of your relationship to money:
Healing and rewiring your scarcity fears will be messy, 
filled with uncertainty and discomfort.
If you’re willing to be guided and learn the tools, 
you can use every setback as information to help you expand your container for prosperity.

That’s what we are doing at Rewire on March 10-12 (11th-13 if you’re in Oz/NZ). 

THERE ARE 10 TICKETS LEFT!

Tell me if you’re in to leaning in to learn THE process from someone who’s spent the last 30 years
researching and practicing what effectively works to heal mind and body….

Me— yours truly….

And I’m dedicated to showing those who are Nerds for healing the actual Neuroscience
of expanding the container for DESERVING. 

If we don’t, we fall victim to our conditioning and repeat what we’ve always had.

When we do— we create our own reality.

Tell me if you’re in.

If you have questions and need help finding clarity, I’m here to help too, 
send me a DM and let me know.

See you at the next perfect time.
Nima

I thought for sure I would be called out or cancelled for this.

BUT THE EXACT OPPOSITE HAPPENED.

In this Era where #metoo highlighted the classic traits of “Toxic Masculinity”:

Namely:  Controlling, Agressive, Predatory behavior that comes from the
unhealed wounds and rampant Masculine shadows in society…

All of which are well documented and you’ll see a million articles and videos about…

I took a huge chance and shared a list of 20 of the most common ways the feminine (women)
unconsciously drop the ball in intimate partnerships. 

It was a Transmission shot in the back seat of my car as we were waiting for our AirBnb to be cleaned in Tofino, BC.

The response to this day has been heart opening.

Women still message me saying how painful it was to hear, but it was the EXACT MEDICINE needed to wake
up and raise the standards.

What was most inspiring to me was how literally 100% of women really GOT how as a man, I was really looking out for them.

I thought for sure the third and 4th wave feminists would call me out for “mansplaining”. 

But I got tearful messages of gratitude for the transmission instead.

It has been my most shared and tagged piece of content— despite being one of the shittiest in production quality.

Goes to show you— if the content is coming from the heart and it speaks to what people are struggling with,
even if it’s on a laptop in the back seat of your car— it can still spark a transformation.

When I ask the Cyclebreakers in our community who are now in healthy secure relationships, showing up
with mature feminine energy— what was their wake up call to prioritize doing the work…

Many said that this video was the match that lit the fire inside.

I hope it makes a difference for you.

Let me know what you think.
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
https://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming "Breathwork and Badassery" Live Event (Every month)
Regulate Your stress, deepen your connection to your inner child, process your stuck emotions and improve your capacity
https://go.drnima.com/bbvw?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.
https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcast

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcast

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof

Are you on Telegram? Click link below to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.
https://t.me/joinchat/TPQjyH2MCBKHonIR

If you can identify with being Avoidant attached-- you have a deep desire for connection-- but are deathly afraid of it.
Historically connection meant that you'd have to take responsibility for other people's emotions.  There's a paralyzing fear of losing oneself, and not being understood. 
It just sometimes feels safer being on an island.
After being alone for 4 years, Ryan wanted to find the root of why he was wanting to be on an island and wanted to learn what the root of it all was.  
Today, life is different and he was willing to share the 3 main transitions he went through to get there.
Jump on if you want to learn how to create relationships that don't feel like you're being suffocated.
Send me a DM if you have any questions or this interview resonates with you.
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
https://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming "Breathwork and Badassery" Live Event (Every month)
Regulate Your stress, deepen your connection to your inner child, process your stuck emotions and improve your capacity
https://go.drnima.com/bbvw?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.
https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcast

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcast

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof

Are you on Telegram? Click link below to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.
https://t.me/joinchat/TPQjyH2MCBKHonIR

This was a question that was asked by a community member in our trigger proof community...

On today's transmission I delve into why this question itself is dangerous and doesn't lead to favorable outcomes-- and where to aim instead.

Not getting this concept right in my own life eventually led to my own arrest which woke me up to heal my sexual shadows.

(4 minute read)

QUESTION IN MY DM’S:

I'm a 38 year old woman, and I got divorced last year after being separated for several years.
My ex-husband was my first s€xual partner.
The s€x was better prior to getting married,
but after our first year of marriage it was infrequent and sometimes unsatisfying, and I felt confused and rejected.

I recognize that I may have some trauma around s€xual rejection.
I've been dating a new man for the past 5 months,
and I'm nervous that I'm feeling connected as friends,
but I'm not sure if we have physical chemistry.

I can tell that wants a relationship, but we haven’t gone any farther than just kissing.
We already have a solid friendship.
I want a passionate and satisfying physical connection,
but I don't know how to get there or how much time I should give it to develop.

How can I tell if my past trauma and fears are getting in the way or if we just don't have chemistry?

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My response:
Oof, this is a great question.

Right off the bat, as an Attachment Trauma specialist and guide,
my first question that popped into my head when I read this was “What was your parents' relationship like?”

Here’s why:
According to Kenneth Adams, Phd, in the book “Silently Seduced,” whether we know it or not, seeing breakdowns and issues in our parents’ relationships tends to trickle down to us and affect our own emotional and s€xual wiring.

It’s an insidious and covert form of trauma.

The lack of intimacy more often than notgets transferred down to the children,often confusing children as they begin to feel obligated
to emotionally support their parents.

This wiring leads to an unconscious desire to “complete”
what was incomplete in childhood,
compulsively repeating the exact same dynamic with intimate partners, not understanding why or how this keeps happening.

This is one example of many things that can cause a conditioned pattern where we keep repeating the same cycles:

• Infidelity (why we keep attracting people who cheat)
• Abandonment (why we keep attracting people who leave us)
• Cheating (why we can’t stop s€xting, flirting,
  or having promiscuous s€x even when we are in a relationship)
• Playing mind games/Womanizing/Inability to commit (can’t seem to get it out of our system no matter how old we are getting)

I was finding the same thing: No matter who the partner,
I simply didn’t understand why s€xual fulfillment within a committed intimate partnership seemed IMPOSSIBLE to me
and I was suspecting there must be something wrong with me.

News flash: There’s NOTHING wrong with you if you can relate.

It turns out, depending on your “S€x story,”
which includes, trauma history, cultural and religious norms,
family expectations and experiences—all bundled up running on auto-pilot in your body–
we are destined to keep repeating it…
UNLESS– we step up and decide to “Rewire” it.

That’s why I created a 3 day event called “Rewire: Trauma, s€x, and Money” for Neuroscience Nerds that actually want to make the shift and who place a high value on healthy relationships

with S€x and money.

In the hundreds of students and clients in our programs, these were the most heavily associated with pain and dissatisfaction in partnerships, and there weren’t too many people bold enough to talk about it.

I certainly wasn’t. After helping all these folks find freedom and fulfillment in their relationships to THEMSELVES–

their s€x and money stories began to shift towards SATISFACTION– and now I’m ready to peel back the curtain and show anyone who’s sincere in their search for secure,healthy relationships, connected and fulfilling,
conscious S€x in an emotionally safe environment.
Oddly enough, our trauma stories also affect our relationship to money.

In Day 1 we unpack your entire trauma story to see what’s under the hood and begin the process of shifting it towards outcomes that are inspiring. We have a special guest for VIP attendees -- Human Behavior Expert Dr. John Demartini will be talking about the
"Neuroscience of DESERVING" as well as a free post-event Integration, a digital recording of the entire event, as well as my Intimacy Accelerator 25 hour home study Course (2K in value) for FREE for all VIP's.

In Day 2 we unpack your entire s€xual identity and go right to the root of where it actually comes from (not learning this leads to repeated patterns of dissatisfaction-- fantasizing about people OTHER than who you're with.

In Day 3 we dig deep into money trauma and find out why we unconsciously feel like we don’t deserve, or we repel prosperity (hint– it’s all in your conditioning).

You raise a very good question which can’t be given to you from an outside source.
In other words– the answer to your question (as with anyone else who’s asking “should I stay or go?”) is that it’s impossible to actually KNOW the answer unless we unpack what this is really about. It’s got little to do with the person you’re seeing and EVERYTHING to do with the conditioning that has us continuing to attract the same dynamic over and over again.

The REAL question is….

Are you finally ready to rewire these patterns?
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