Trigger Proof Transmissions

have you ever felt like “checking out?”

This experience of “checking out” is a protective mechanism in the nervous system,
when we have no clue how to process our feelings. 

The truth is that you got into a relationship for the purpose of sharing love.
BUT!
Here’s what we aren’t aware of: 

WE HAVE UNCONSCIOUS PARTS THAT PUSH LOVE AWAY. 

This inner conflict wreaks havoc on our relationships.  
Without the tools, strategies and guidance— we move on to another relationship…

only to find ourselves repeating that cycle again and again… 

That’s what happened with Jenna and Caleb. 

Jenna was checked out of her marriage. 
Caleb was in a shame spiral from a mental health crisis, 

and their relationship was completely at the end of their rope.

In separate beds… disconnected from each other— and not feeling aligned in their purpose. 

When they both spoke to me on their Intimacy Audit call, where we help unpack the root cause of the issue, 
it was obvious that he was so deep in his despair that she felt completely invisible. 

They did something uncomfortable:  
They both decided to take ownership of learning how to master their Nervous Systems….

When they did, a magical thing happened. 

They became aligned partners. 
They dropped their victim stories and began to understand one another. 

She healed her relationship with her father (who she hadn’t spoken to in 8 years)
and Caleb began to gain the clarity, confidence, and courage to feel safer in his skin, 
after being crippled with anxiety and panic (which was all unresolved shame he hadn’t dealt with). 

On a recent event, Jenna felt inspired to share what her experience was like, and she highlighted how 
important RECEIVING GUIDANCE is.  

Not a rescuer.
Not a hero to save her.

She knew the work was hers to do— 
but to have skilled GUIDES helping navigate the storms.  

A lighthouse pointing you towards safety in a turbulent storm. 

I look back on my journey of going from Toxic Trauma Bond to a secure attachment within a year, 
and there’s NO WAY I would have gotten there without guides to point me in the right direction.
That’s why it’s so meaningful for me to help guide those who are committed to the path of being a Cyclebreaker. 

Without the right guidance, we can’t really trust our thoughts (as they really come from trauma patterns). 
Without the right guidance, we become co-dependent on our therapists and can’t stand on our own two feet. 

With the right guides, we feel the confidence to know that it was US that is responsible 
it was US that saved ourselves, not anyone else.  
A new reality of leadership emerges from our victim stories. 

A few months later, Jenna’s mother was so blown away by her growth that she decided it was time for her to be a Cyclebreaker too.

A rising tide lifts all boats.  
Your healing will impact your entire family system. 

If you can resonate with Jenna’s share, and you’ve been lurking in the community and want to experience what it feels like 
to have a skilled guide leading you back home to yourself, click the links below and join us at our next upcoming event…

Be intentional. 
Ask questions. 
Take the risk of engaging. 

We can’t do it alone,
and yet no one can do it for us.

Your guide on the side,
Nima
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
https://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming "Breathwork and Badassery" Live Event (Every month)
Regulate Your stress, deepen your connection to your inner child, process your stuck emotions and improve your capacity
https://go.drnima.com/bbvw?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.
https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcast

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcast

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof

Are you on Telegram? Click link below to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.
https://t.me/joinchat/TPQjyH2MCBKHonIR

Have you ever noticed a pattern in your life?

A pattern with choosing the same type of people in relationships.

A pattern of not being able to say “no” and exhausting yourself. 

A pattern of pushing people away when they get too close.

Whatever the pattern may be, I’ve learned to start paying attention to them.

When we do— there’s a gold-mine of opportunity for healing. 

In my 20 years as Chiropractor working with people with Chronic health issues,

I kept noticing patterns in my patient’s symptoms that tied to certain personality traits.

It was such an intuitive connecting of the dots, that I almost felt 

like I would be considered a complete QUACK for bringing it up with people. 

It wasn’t until I started reading Gabor Mate’s work that I felt like my intuition was being validated.

I noticed here’s an uncanny link between Chronic Illness, Pain and unresolved Trauma.  

The weirdest pattern I would see over and over again— which led me to scratch my head asking this question: 

“Why do all my chronic illness/pain patients seem like they’re in co-dependent relationships as well?”

Little did I know that years later, I would be teaching people how to become their own medicine…

Not only learning how to heal from these chronic conditions by becoming their OWN medicine…

but also in a weird way seeing the impact of their own inner work spilling into their intimate relationships. 

When Randi reached out to me, she was in the “Damsel in Distress” Archetype again and again in relationships…

which ultimately led to feeling abandoned again and again…

Little did she know when she began her healing work in our Cyclebreakers Community that 

her inner work would end up creating a possibility of healing for her daughter as well…

A transformation in her health, 

A transformation in her family dynamic….

leading to meeting a secure partner for the first time in her life.  

In this video, Randi shares the specific shifts she needed to make, 

all for the purpose of letting her story inspire you.

If you’ve been stuck in Co-dependency, feeling unworthy and abandoned…

wanting an answer that actually WORKED, 

check out her story here. 

You’ll learn the exact steps you will need to make the shift in your own reality,

if you’re willing to do the work. 

Your guide on the side, 

Nima

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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
https://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming "Breathwork and Badassery" Live Event (Every month)
Regulate Your stress, deepen your connection to your inner child, process your stuck emotions and improve your capacity
https://go.drnima.com/bbvw?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.
https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcast

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcast

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof

Are you on Telegram? Click link below to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.
https://t.me/joinchat/TPQjyH2MCBKHonIR

There are two types of people in Insecure relationship dynamics.

Which one are you?

1) The one who takes on the victim role— “It’s all their fault. I’m blameless and the other person needs to change.”

2) The one who takes all the blame:  “It’s all my fault, I’m messed up and hopeless.”

From my experience— Both of these extremes come from an incomplete awareness.

In our current climate in culture and society, victimization is becoming weaponized
as a means of reclaiming power from years (if not generations) of disempowerment.

This is great to give voice to the marginalized…

and like everything, it has exposed its “shadow” side,
where in taking on the victim role, we keep giving away our power.

Caleb and Jenna’s relationship was on the brink of blowing up.
Jenna was checked out… completely feeling hopeless,

and It was Caleb that was recognizing he needed to change….

When he filled out the application and set up the call, he was so disorganized,
he almost missed the call.  When I got him on the zoom call, I asked for his wife to show up,
because I had some questions for her as well.

On that call, they both committed to healing THEIR PART in the dance…
They committed not to taking blame— but to taking OWNERSHIP for
their unresolved past that they brought into the relationship…

and to heal.

Not necessarily for the sake of reconciliation or saving the marriage.

They both understood that on the other side of healing, they could very well decide
they were no longer a fit for one another.

Throwing the words blame, shame, and fault out the window, they jumped all in,
and side by side, they went inwards.

No marital counselling required:  They learned how to communicate with one another
after taking full responsibility for self-regulation, and mastered the co-regulation frameworks.

In a nutshell, their relationship thrived so much, that Jenna, who thought she was fine because she
already has done some spiritual work in the past— healed her relationship with her estranged father,
and facilitated the transformation of the relationship of her parents as her mother began her
healing work with us recently this year and resolved her relationship with her ex-husband (Jenna’s dad)
back to a working, friendly connection of appreciation for the time they did share.

This is why I do what I do:
I stand for healed families.

If you notice your mental health and physical health symptoms tied to attachment/relationship breakdowns,
just know that you’re not alone.

We don’t learn the skills of how to relate to one another and create harmony out of conflict.
It’s a skill never taught in school.

And yet it’s the one skill that makes all the difference in our life experiences.

If you’re on the fence about staying or going… please watch Jenna’s quick share and know that
you’re one decision away from a totally different reality, if you’re willing to learn.

See you at the next perfect time.
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

are you aware that you have a particular “flavor” when it comes to your Trauma Responses?

Well, you do. (We all do).

These trauma responses kept us safe in childhood.
Safe from threat.
Safe from being hurt.

We adapted beautifully by coming up with these responses. 

That’s why you’re here today, and you’re able to read these words.

So congrats.

Mad respect.

(you know there’s a flip side to this, right?)

There’s one problem however—

these survival mechanisms in childhood are the cause of what society loves to call
"toxic relationships" in adulthood.

When you figure out your predominating Trauma Response and you do the deeper inner work on them,

these episodes of anxiety-ridden triggered reactivity turn into inspired, mature responses
that are able to dismantle any volatility and turn it into a safe container where secure relationships can thrive.

The question is…
Are you willing to understand what your “flavor” of trauma response is— how it got there, and to learn
how to shift it?

If you are, then watch this 15 minute clip from a recent “Breathwork and Badassery” training where I teach
our #Cyclebreakers community exactly how to dismantle it after I show them exactly what to look for.

Not learning this skill was THE LIMITING FACTOR that prevented me from having relationships that felt secure.

I’m curious what you get out of the video.

Click here to watch it and then let me know what you discover and feel free to hit “reply” and tell me.

I’m genuinely curious how this training landed for you.

Best,

Nima
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

Have you ever SWORN
that you’d NEVER turn out to be like your parents
when you had kids….

and then were mortified to one day notice,
that you were starting to follow in the same footsteps?

If you can’ t relate to what I just said…

Congrats, you’re likely keen on breaking cycles of Trauma..

But if you COULD relate—
please don’t feel ashamed of that.

Intergenerational trauma is so insidious,
you won't even realize it’s affecting you.

You don’t know it’s there—
UNTIL you get activated by your kids….

For example—
If they don’t listen to you one day….
and you lose it —

because it takes you all the way back to childhood
where you didn’t feel seen and heard by your parents.

It’s in the little things that are stuck as deep neural grooves
in our reactions.

They get passed down, causing a reaction in the systems of our child.
The problem is—

When a child experiences something overwhelming,
they don’t start by hating their parents.

They learn to hate themselves.

This separation from self— for the sake of belonging, feeling loved,
and having mommy and daddy’s approval forms the
blueprint for all our relationship attachments in adult life.

Our work is to break the cycle, so our kids don’t grow up
not knowing who they are.

Not having a healthy sense of self.

A unicorn parent is someone who has a sense of completion with their own
past wounding— so they’re available to meet the emotional needs of their
child(ren).

Without mastering Nervous System Regulation, understanding our own
emotions— having decent Emotional Intelligence and literacy,
our kids end up having the same dysfunctional relationship with their emotions as we do,

and then when they develop anxious neuroses and depressive conditions,
we send them to psychologists which can  further invalidate their experience,
all because we haven’t yet healed what the child is brining up for us.

It’s never about the child in front of us.

It’s about the kid inside of us.

The Unicorn Parent of today is a CycleBreaker— one who takes full
responsibility to heal what didn’t start with them…
but it can end with them.

If you’ve noticed your children have been struggling,
and you feel you’re at your wits end,

and are keen on learning how to become the "Unicorn Parent” that’s
a rare breed these days— a parent that can actually HELP the child
regulate, feel seen, heard, and understood so they can thrive and feel
safe and secure— and KNOW WHO THEY ARE….

I’m curious to know more about you.

Follow the link below for an “Intimacy Audit” call and
let us know what’s been stopping you,
and what you’d love to accomplish.

Breaking Cycles of Trauma is the greatest gift you can give your child.

A Unicorn Parent is a Self-Loving parent— which will rub off on everyone in your family system.

Standing for healed families….
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

When we are going through a difficult time— It’s nice to feel seen and heard and understood by someone…
Especially when as a child you didn’t receive that container of “attunement.”

Often when we hit snags in relationships or something conflicting or confronting has happened,
it helps tremendously to talk to someone— and get it out. 

There’s a blind spot in the traditional “mental health” model that people can’t see:

VENTING ENDLESSLY WITHOUT A SPECIFIC, TARGETED OUTCOME OF TRANSFORMATION
IS NOT HELPFUL TO US IN THE LONG RUN.

We hear this constantly with our students and clients. 

Almost all of them are under the care of counsellors and psychologists.

All amazing humans trained in the “Behavioural” model.   
One problem:
The behavioural model doesn’t really “work" though.

Let me give you an example: 

You want to upgrade yourself at work, but are paralyzed by feelings of failure.
You go to a psychologist who does Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT).

In those sessions, they take your belief “I’m a failure,” and
we make a list of the reasons why it’s not true.

You’ll see that you were the captain of the football or cheerleading team that went to state finals.
You’ll see that you had many accolades and completed many projects at school. 

Maybe even had a degree.

And by summing up all the successes— you can then COGNITIVELY conclude that
indeed, you’re NOT a failure.

But the problem is— that you still FEEL that way.
The “failure” part of you still lives strongly in your shadow— yet to be integrated.

Unless you merge with that shadow part of you, join it with compassion,
THEN LEAD it into a new reality…

You’ll be trying to think your way out of feeling problems.

In this short 8 minute clip from a recent Live Event, Breathwork and Badassery,
I had someone share something in the group who had been going to a therapist for 37 years…
and she NEVER learned what she learned in that one session about her Nervous System.

She realized that her therapy appointments were venting sessions where no real skillsets were learned.
She realized that her relationship with her therapist was just a transference of co-dependency —

using the practitioner as a surrogate parent instead of a guide.

That’s why if we want to heal— and create relationships that are fulfilling—
it’s  critical for us to become STUDENTS of our own Nervous Systems and learn how to
stop OUTSOURCING our regulatory function to a therapist or counsellor...

and instead of looking for validation and unconditional support— start looking
for a community and container where you’ll learn skills, strategies, tools, and not only receive support…

BUT BE OPEN TO BEING CHALLENGED AS WELL.

If we don’t have our perceptions and victim stories challenged

we’ll go decades into our stories— and not feel like we are getting anywhere, spinning our wheels,
having the same relationships over and over again— co-dependent on a therapist.

When you find the right guide,
you don’t need to “cope” anymore..
You HEAL…

And you’ll KNOW you’re healing because people will see a shift in you.
Your usual trauma reactions of “Fight/poke”  “Flight/Run”  “Freeze/hide”, “Fawn/submit”
begin to shift to a different response….

Something more regulated…
more measured…
more powerful…

And you’ll be the only one who knows why.

It makes a difference to invest in training for LEADERSHIP— connecting to YOUR OWN INNER VOICE...
otherwise we'll be followers for the rest of our lives,
waiting for someone to rescue us.

If you’re ready to experience the difference between coping and healing….
You’re wondering why “it” doesn’t work and you’re ready to DO the ACTUAL work….

check out a link below that best suits exactly where you are RIGHT NOW.

See you at the next perfect time….

Your guide on the side,
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

If you’ve ever watched a Superhero movie,
you’ll notice a common theme in every single one:

The Hero ends up becoming the perceived villain at some point.

Somewhere down the line,
they fail to meet the pedestal-like expectations placed upon them.

You’ll notice the same thing has happened to you as well.

In relationships whenever you try to rescue someone…

From their sadness and grief,
from their addiction,
from their financial mess…

INEVITABLY, that hero/rescuer complex
gets exhausting,
and we burn out, leaving a trail of resentment behind.

The same thing happens with our healing journey
when we are seeking professionals to help us.

I used to want to be that hero. 

Back in 2015, I created the Overview Method and used it to help
rescue people from their unwanted emotional state,
and boy did it work. 

I went from being completely invisible and unknown
to having a global following willing to travel the world from 5 different countries
to learn how to apply the Method in their lives to help others….

THAT’S how impactful it was.

The problem was, that at the time, I hadn’t addressed my attachment traumas,
and neither did my methodology.

It was mostly cognitive (top-down) and wasn’t focussed on the somatic (bottom-up)
approach to addressing childhood wounding.

As a result of not addressing it, I was helping others as a means of feeling relevant,
to help compensate for my lack of significance, and lack of feeling seen and heard as a child.

When we operate from our rescuer/hero mask,
we grow resentful as people then don’t hold THEMSELVES accountable and lean on their “hero” too much.

And when that happens, you aren’t working with a professional who’s helping you…

You’re creating CO-DEPENDENCY.

You’ll be surprised how many people have merely transferred their Co-dependency from their partners
to their therapists or counsellors.

To truly heal, we must change the conversation,
and find GUIDES who are ACTIVELY engaged in their own Trauma Healing work.

When we find the right guide,
you are brought back home to YOURSELF.

You connect with your inner navigation system.
The Voice within.

A true teacher doesn’t heal you— but merely teaches you skills and tools to be able to
access your Inner Voice.
A true teacher has just as much to learn from you as you do from them.
That way, when you don’t have them on a pedestal as your hero,
they don’t need to ever become the villain in your life.

You get to find the Hero within.

This is a clip from our recent “Breathwork and Badassery” event when someone asked
me about how to find the right support in our healing journey.  This clip is my response.
Watch it and let me know what comes up for you.

If you’ve been feeling stuck in your relationship dynamic, feeling like you’re ready to level-up
and find the confidence, clarity and courage to become the master of magnetism,
highly skilled at relationship dynamics, and become the active operator of your nervous system,
so you can feel safe in your skin, secure in your relationships, and on purpose with what you do,

and you’ve been following me and are curious what it’s like to be guided by
someone who’s dedicated his entire life to teaching people how to break cycles of intergenerational trauma
and heal family dynamics so that kids can be raised with secure attachments in the home, knowing
who they truly are with full self-expression,
jump in with the link below and join us at our upcoming event.

See you at the next perfect time…

Your guide on the side,
Dr. Nima
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

As it turns out, I was completely wrong about what Trauma is.

And not knowing the truth about it kept me stuck there,
trying to think my way out of my relationship challenges.

This one oversight keeps people from healing. 

In my 20 years of helping people heal, I’ve noticed there are 2 types of people who are stuck:

1) Those who are incessantly sharing their victim story, gaining validation and a sense of supply from wanting everyone to know how bad they had it….

and 2) Those who minimize the impact of what happened to them and refuse to outwardly acknowledge
how they were victimized (but their physiology is totally living their victim story).

Either extreme can’t work.

This is one of the foundations of the Training I love to share. 

Working in the healing field— first as a Chiropractor, now as an Interpersonal Trauma Specialist— kinda makes you connect some important dots.

There’s HEALING… then there’s COPING.

It’s been my observation that the world is starting to get it’s fill of “coping” strategies and wants to know the difference between “coping” and “healing”.

That’s why I love sharing it— and I have a No bullshit attitude about it.

This clip you’re about to see is a 10 minute clip from one of my recent live events where I break down the way to find that healthy balance
between being victimized, yet NOT LETTING THAT BECOME YOUR IDENTITY.

It’s all about acknowledging what was Traumatic to the Nervous System of a child.

When you see how the system responds to such insidious events you wouldn’t have thought were traumatic,
you’ll be shocked.

It won’t be comfortable.

But the conversation is necessary.

I’d be curious to see what came up for you after you watch the clip from my most recent live event and see how this plays out in your life.

Watch it— and make sure you share it with someone who needs to see it.

And when you’re actually ready to go from watching videos to actually learning how to resolve these insidious traumas we all face,
I look forward to sharing more and answering your questions at the next live event.
When we don’t learn this, we pass the trauma along to our children.

When we do— we break the cycle.

As you’ll see from the video, It definitely didn’t start with you—
But it CAN end with you.

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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

Not understanding Trauma is hurting you.
And if you’re a parent, chances are,
without even being aware,
the unconscious and subtle nature of how trauma passes like a virus
is causing us to pass it down intergenerationally to our children.

That’s why in every single one of my trainings and offerings,
it’s my mission to teach what I had no clue about
so that people could break the cycle that didn’t begin with them.

The truth?

Trauma isn’t about specifically “what happened” to us.

We can go through really scary and painful things,
but if we are surrounded by people who understand Trauma,
and exactly what to do with it,

we can return back to safety.

It’s when we are raised by care-givers who are so at the effect of their OWN Trauma
that they DON’T UNDERSTAND AND KNOW:

how to hold space for us,
how to help us process and validate our emotions,
how to lead us instead of threaten us with discipline to get us to behave….
how to help us feel seen and heard and understood
how to have our preferences, values, and reality validated….

All that👆🏽 causes us to
grow up conditioned and trained to feel we must work and perform to be loveable,
feel unworthy of love just for being ourselves,
feel we must put on a mask and play a role in order to get our needs met

NO WONDER WHY WE RE-PLAY AND RE-ENACT THESE DYNAMICS IN RELATIONSHIPS.

No therapy and endless amount of talking and telling our childhood stories and venting each week will resolve this.

Every single one of our students in our #cyclebreakers community says the same thing:

“Talk therapy has been helpful, but I haven’t made any progress. I’m still reacting the same, and getting into the same arguments.”
Or “No matter what courses or therapy I do, I’m still choosing the same partners and getting into the same relationship dynamics.  WHY?”

It’s because we’re not addressing it at its ROOT, and becoming ACTIVE operators of our Nervous Systems that are stuck
with stored Survival Stress.

When we don’t get to the root, we are spinning our wheels feeling like it’s Groundhog day.
Feeling like a failure,
Sabotaging any chance of progress and growth,

as we are constantly pulled back into the familiar as an attempt to resolve it once and for all.

But we simply CAN’T resolve it unless we Get the MANUAL for learning how to make our Nervous Systems our ALLY,
not our enemy.

This clip is from a recent Overview Event where I train the Community about the Insidious Nature of Trauma and the ONLY way
we can ever address it if we have any hope of resolving it:  THROUGH THE BODY.

I share the “why” and the “what” before we as a community deep dive into the HOW.

When we master this, our co-dependent relationship dynamics shift
to reflect the change in our relationship to ourselves and our Shadow/Younger parts we abandoned in those moments of Trauma.

Not understanding all of this caused me to repeat my co-dependency cycles in my relationships,
and once I learned this, I was able to become a safe container for a secure relationship to thrive.

Within a few months, I “called in” Diana and I was able to do something I never was able to do before:

Trust myself to get married again.
And most importantly:  Have a family and raise a son, who’s now almost 2 years old in a secure and stable home,
not having to take on the Trauma that has been unresolved within me.

If this resonates with you, and you’re wanting to end the vicious cycle so you can feel safe in your skin,
love what you see in the mirror,
feel connected to your heart and intuition,
connect to purpose, and most importantly….

to learn how to PAY IT FORWARD….

click the link below and join us at our next upcoming event,
and apply for an “Intimacy Audit” session so you can learn how to become a cyclebreaker.

Your health, your confidence and your connection with life depends on it.

See you at the next perfect time.
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

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Everyone wants to have relationships that feel safe and secure, free of worry and threat of being hurt...
Very few take the time to look inward at two skills we overlook in learning that will make our relationships "Trigger-Proof".
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.