Trigger Proof Transmissions

There's a hidden invisible fence blocking us from being able to receive love in relationships that feel safe.
This invisible fence is our inability to be able to work through and process Emotional Flashbacks.
There are 5 main reasons why we have no clue what to do with our emotions, and we don't have the understanding of how to feel our feelings in a way that helps us direct the energy towards something useful.
Not learning this skill can cause us to keep spinning our wheels repeating endless patterns, having the same arguments, attracting the same types of partners.
On todays transmission I share the 5 reasons why we don't know how to handle our emotional flashbacks and what we can do to heal.
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If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

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Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

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I was too embarrassed to look and notice that I was stuck in a Relationship I didn’t know how to free myself from, which took me through a series of events that led to my arrest.

I share the journey here.

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We all get into relationships to give us a sense of love and connection.

But what happens when things go awry, and that connection turns into something unhealthy that causes us to lose ourselves?

The answer is that things can get pretty ugly and fast.

Trauma bonds are tricky because we lose all access to our rational minds and are run by old unconscious programs we can feel powerless against.

When you master the 5 pillars,

You get your life force back

You find autonomy

You love yourself

You are filled with understanding

You get your Mojo back

You become magnetic

When you try to "fix" the problem with band-aid solutions-- like venting your story incessantly, you end up spinning your wheels exhausting yoruself on a dopamine roller coaster.

Find out what needs to happen in order for us to break free...
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If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

Of all the relationship advice I ever was given, 

there was one concept that trumped them all:

The concept of “safety.”.  

The foundational context of every relationship 

that feels inspiring, fulfilling and rewarding isn’t HOT SEX

(that’s what I used to think it was all about). 

We all want relationships that are secure attachments. 

Nobody goes into these dynamics wanting things to turn into a toxic mess.

Without this one concept of safety, though…

Insecurity runs the show.

Push/pull dynamics of “come close to me— get away from me…”

“don’t leave me— leave me the F alone” tend to be exhausting…

stressing you out, distracting your vibe, and ruining your mojo. 

When we don’t address the root cause of this, we forever run around in circles. 

What’s the root cause:

INTERNAL SAFETY.   SAFETY FROM WITHIN. 

When we don’t create that internalized sense of safety, we are constantly 

OUTSOURCING our internal regulatory functions….

Which means constant mood and emotional dysregulation.  

And when we haven’t found that internal state of regulation— 

NO RELATIONSHIP WILL EVER SUFFICE. 

But when you DO master the art of internal safety…

as safety that isn’t dependent on others…

We turn co-dependency into power.

We stop attracting the Narcissistic / Codependent cycles…

We can finally move forward from a painful breakup… and find secure love again…

Because we found it within ourselves. 

This is why I love our community containers… 

Because it’s filled with folks like you who have been caught

looking for approval and validation OUTSIDE themselves, 

and are ready to master the 5 pillars it takes to create that safety WITHIN….

This is for those who recognize that no one is coming to save us…

But when we look to create safety WITHIN first…

we BECOME the love we are seeking outside of ourselves. 

That’s when the magic happens…

If you’ve been lurking and watching….

afraid to take any action because of trust or safety issues…

This is your invitation to lean into jumping in with a link below…

and find SAFETY WITHIN. 

See you at the next perfect time.

Your guide on the side,

Nima

"Can we heal from this? Can we salvage the marriage?"

On today's transmission I answer an email that came in that was so relevant I wanted to share what it takes to heal from Toxic Abusive Patterns and create secure relationships.

If we skip these steps-- we are bound to repeat the cycle of abuse.

Today I share why the cycle happens and what to do about it.
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

We all want to feel trust in a relationship.  We really can't feel safe without it.
But if you've ever gone through a break-up, you know there's residual pain we carry with us.  It accumulates with each relationship breakdown until eventually we can find ourselves in a point where we don't want to even bother with them anymore, and say "screw this I don't want to do this again."
Even though this avoidance might feel safer, there's still a part of us that deeply desires being in a safe and secure relationship.
On this transmission I share how to navigate this conversation of finding and building Trust again.
Also touching upon Emotional Regulation-- How to know whether we have moved through our emotions or are we actually suppressing it?
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

“Should I stay or go” has been the biggest question we get from our emails and DM’s.

Couples who are stuck in co-dependency, stuck in story….

Pamela’s relationship was no different. They were on the rocks— after multiple affairs—
and counselling and talk therapy wasn’t helping.

The pandemic really stirred shit up and they couldn’t ignore it anymore.

On the recommendation from a friend, she booked an Intimacy Audit Call and spoke
with Kim to see if she could find some clarity as to what the next steps could be.

A few months later, she finally made the difficult decision to leave,
finally separated from her husband in a way that had him understand,

AND HE EVEN HELPED HER MOVE. 

This was done in a way that minimized collateral damage on their 3 kids.

Long story short, 6 months later after she did the inner work in our community…

I was so pleased (yet not surprised) when I got word that HE STEPPED UP
AND TOOK RESPONSIBILITY FOR HEALING HIS OWN ATTACHMENT WOUNDS.

The discomfort of getting real with himself turned out to be better than the risk of losing her.

Instead of bowing down to her co-dependecy, Pamela chose HERSELF, for the sake
of herself, her partners growth (she was enabling his stagnation), and FOR THE KIDS.

They’re now back together in a whole new relationship.

This 12 minute video has her sharing her journey in an interview I did with her almost a year after
we last saw her— demonstrating that the skills and tools LANDED IN HER BODY,
and the internal shift within her wasn’t just a flash in the pan.

Pamela recreated herself.

Watching this video— if you can relate, and you’re ready to completely transform your relationships,
your parenting, your love life, your leadership, ALL FROM SHIFTING THE RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF,
and you are ready to break the cycle of intergenerational trauma….

And you’re committed, you’ve already invested in therapy and have been noticing it’s only been limited in your awareness...

Follow the link to apply,
and you could be the next Pamela and David story.

Are you not worth it to find out?
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

How many books have you read on healing relationship dynamics?

If you have, I’m curious if you’ve ever noticed any dramatic results
— especially when we are dealing with Trauma Bonds.

Trauma Bonds are easy to pick out.  Think Johnny Depp and Amber Heard.

Highly addictive.
Volatile.

You KNOW they’re not good for you, but you just can’t seem to get out.

Lesley reached out to me in a “zombie-like” state after 6 years of KNOWING
she was with someone who kept lying and cheating on her,
like she had EVIDENCE of it….

but he kept denying it.

The problem wasn’t him.

She knew he was who he was.

She couldn’t figure out why she was so addicted to him.

She kept saying it was like “crack-cocaine”.

When we worked together last year, her outcome she set out for in the beginning
was to break free from what she KNEW wasn’t healthy for her (but couldn’t find the courage to do so).

Let me tell you, it was a frustrating ordeal.

Even for me.

I really care for my clients and students.

Sometimes a bit too much…

And after one time when she was talking about trying to figure out what she could do to try to get his attention,
when her attention would have been better served focussing on ANYTHING other than him,

I was about to tell her that it seemed like she wasn’t wanting to let go and that she would be better off
working with someone else.

The day before our next call— I stopped and tuned into myself
and did an “Overview” on Lesley.

It’s a tool I created that helps get to the core of why we are stuck in the first place.

Lesleys situation triggered me, and in those situations when I get triggered by a student,
I always know there’s a reflection in them I’m not looking carefully enough at.

Turns out I was triggered by her because I MYSELF was stuck in a situation in my Trauma Bond
and was too scared to cut loose and break free.

I saw the little boy inside myself that was afraid to be alone.
that felt he had to get validation from the outside world to feel loved.
A little boy who didn’t love myself.

The next day on our session, I told Lesley what feelings her situation brought up in me.

She was moved to tears and it hit her.

She didn’t love herself either.
She had lost a partner, and instead of grieving his loss, she went into “caretaker” mode.

She looked after everyone’s emotions but her own.

On that call, she released 6 years of grief.
She told me it felt like an exorcism.

She realized that her bond to this dude in the Trauma Bond had very little to do with the dude himself.

As she dismantled her emotions, her sadness and grief she’d been long surpassing, something magical happened.

On our following week’s group call, she had something powerful to share that might be relevant to you
if you find yourself in a situation where you have no idea why you can’t get out.

The truth is, you’re not alone,
and healing happens on the other side of finding the right guide and community to help you GET TO THE ROOT CAUSE.

It’s NEVER ABOUT WHAT IT’S ABOUT.

If you’re resonating with this short 5 minute video and want to see if healing is possible for you,
follow the link below and apply to be in our container that’s most suited for you and your situation.

If you’re ready to experience true freedom,
a new reality where you are able to look in a mirror and feel light instead of frozen and frustrated…

give us your background story, and on that call we will determine:

Where you want to be in the next few months,
where you are now,
and we’ll help you determine EXACTLY what’s in the way.

A book is helpful,
but it won’t help break free from a trauma bond.
Only YOU can,
with the right guidance.

You deserve that.

Your guide on the side,

Dr. Nima
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

When we are feeling stuck in our lives…
We don’t really know what it feels like to feel a sense of freedom.

We all want to be able to understand ourselves,
and WHY we show up the way we do
feel safe with ourselves,
learn how to TRULY let go of the past
and learn how to react differently to our loved ones
and change our relationship within our family dynamics.

The problem is, when we are at the effect of our Trauma Bonds,
our emotional flashbacks keep us locked in a prison
stuck in the past,
frozen from being able to create a future of our design.

This little video shows 4 interviews from people JUST LIKE YOU
who did something different….

who changed the familiar “dance,"
who learned how to re-condition the patterns that were stuck in the body
deep in the unconscious…

and jumped in and learned skills that were never taught as a child.
As a result, every relationship in their lives transformed,
as a function of the shift in the relationship with themselves.

See if you can see yourself in any of their shares.

If you’ve ever felt like you lost your voice, and lost your confidence in relationships…
you’ll want to check this out.

What came up for you in these shares?

Nima
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

I didn’t know this about Trauma… 

But it explained EVERYTHING. 

Why I was so anxious.

Why I was so self-critical.

Why I was such a perfectionist.

Why I cared so much about what other people think.

Why I didn’t know who I was beyond this false self I put up 

to hide from my own insignificance.

Since we teach what we most need to learn, 

I wanted to get to the bottom of why I was falling into the same

Co-Dependent patterns in relationships,

despite being intelligent and successful…

Trauma, and my “Unintegrated Shadows” were the culprit.

So I got to work.

Studied Poly Vagal Theory.

Attachment Theory.

Shadow Work.

I even retired from Chiropractic to get my Somatic Experiencing Practitioner Certification.

(Back to school for another 3 years at the tender age of 45!!!)

What I discovered was ASTOUNDING.

It’s the reason why many of our students love their therapists and counsellors but complain

“it didn’t work for me”.

To heal we must go deeper than the stories we keep telling week after week, year after year,

and go hardcore towards the conditioning in our Nervous Systems that are HARD WIRED…

That get tripped up every time we get activated or triggered in conflict.

We must learn the new skill of repair if we want to create secure attachments, 

calm and flow in the mind, 

and safety in the body.

This clip is a 20 minute clip from the training portion of a recent “Breathwork and Badassery Event”

where I share the insidious ways that we absorb trauma, but never really realized it.

See, most of us think Trauma is when we get physically/sexually abused by our parents and siblings, and family members.

In this video you’ll see many other examples you might not have even known.

I sure as hell didn’t know this about Trauma, 

but when I discovered what it REALLY was,

it opened the door for me to FINALLY heal.

Today, I credit my healthy and secure relationship to the inner work I’ve done, 

and the fact that I’m breaking the cycle of Codependency and volatile relationships 

for my son to be raised in a home where he feels safe, seen, and understood.

So he can REST in our love, and not feel like he constantly has to work for it.

That’s what it means to be a Cyclebreaker.

Check out the 20 minute portion of the training, and grab a pen, and send me a DM

if anything resonates.

And when you feel called to take on the work of breaking the cycle so that relationships 

can flow, resilience and courage emerge, and your nervous system feels calm and free….

Join us at our next event and discover a massive opening for yourself when you 

are able to connect with parts of yourself you’ve abandoned long ago, 

in service of getting outside approval. 

That’s the impact of Trauma.  

It’s inside you. 

It’s in all of us.

And it gets passed down if we don’t address it.  

When you finally do, the trajectory of life totally changes. 

It sure did for me. 

If you’re ready to discover what it feels like to not be so burdened by your old identity of who you think you are…

Jump in the portal to truly feel what it’s like to feel love towards yourself. 

The quality of our health and lives depends on it.

See you at the next perfect time.

Your guide on the side,

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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.