Trigger Proof Transmissions

(And 2 Excuses I made that kept me in an unhealthy dynamic)
Even though we SAY we want healthy and secure relationships, the truth is part of us doesn't. 
If healing is going to happen and a change is going to take place, then we have to be willing to get uncomfortable, starting with a conversation. 
In Todays' transmission I share the path to breaking the cycle so that you don't end up turning your own household into a place where you don't feel safe, and children are raised in an environment where they are anxious, depressed, and acting out as a result of the unhealthy dynamics that are actually from inherited family trauma. 
I'll discuss 2 excuses I made that kept me stuck in my Trauma bond for far too long, unable to break free until way after the expiration date, so that you can break free long before it gets to that unhealthy place.
As always, your comments, feedback, and shares make a difference.  What came up for you in this transmission?
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
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Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

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(And the Excuses we make that keeps us in these unhealthy dynamics)
There's a blind spot in relationship dynamics that's seldom talked about: Trauma Bonds.
When we are unconsciously at the effect of our Trauma Bonds, we choose partners that reflect something incomplete we are trying to resolve.
If we don't heal the root cause, we'll find ourselves stuck in these dynamics, waiting for someone to rescue us, not realizing that although we aren't to blame, we are completely responsible for perpetuating the problem. 
When you get this right, you're able to leave a situation you once labelled as "toxic" and you're able to create secure love that feels safe. 
In today's transmission I share 2 excuses I made that kept me stuck in a Trauma Bond and exactly what I had to do to break free and heal.
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

hink of your current conflict in a relationship you're in.

Could be an ex or it could be anything going on in your life RIGHT NOW.

If you've got the courage to even look, you'll be playing one of these roles. Let's face it, we just want to blame others.

When we take our participants through this exercise, it's astounding how much resistance people face when looking.

The trick to this exercise is a universal mind-f*ck:

YOU ARE PLAYING ALL 3 ROLES AND YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW IT.

It's at this stage of our event where people feel like throwing up.

It's confronting.

But if you SAY you want to have healthy relationships that aren't toxic, then it's IMPOSSIBLE to have one unless you have the courage to look.

To face the truth.

And to take ownership (not blame).

We are in a period of history where it seems that conflict is at an all time high globally with this pandemic.

If we don't, as a collective, take ownership and resolve the conflict INSIDE of us first, we are doomed to destroy one another.

Families will crumble.

Relationships break down.

And all this conflict going on around you doesn't play well on your health and your state of your Nervous System.

When you master the dance with your own Dark Passenger, then conflict dissolves outside of you, relationships heal, families reunite as a byproduct of the conflict inside of us being dismantled.

You CAN learn to master this.

Our future depends on it.

Want to learn more?

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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

This controversial discussion shares how we can create an identity from victimhood which paralyzes us from healing and creating secure relationships, and why it can be so difficult to overcome.
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

This recording of a Clubhouse Chat with Dr. Russell Kennedy helps bridge the gap between unresolved emotions like anger and Anxiety, and what we can do about it.
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

When you understand the language of the Nervous System, you will do away with the notion that there's something wrong with you OR you're broken.

You were born into a system that has been pathologizing your feelings and emotions (or lack of them).

This experience, most commonly described as hopelessness, stuckness, even clinical depression, is NOT a disorder.

It means your Nervous System is working JUST FINE.

It's in self-protective mode.

Talk therapies or even meditation isn't going to get you unfrozen.

It begins with a deep understanding of how your Nervous System WORKS and learning the tools in SHOWING, not TELLING through talk therapy, how to move up the ladder to safety.

When you don't understand what's happening to you internally, given the current information you have been told growing up, you'll deem yourself defective, broken, screwed up, and worst of all, it will tell you that have a "chemical imbalance" and you'll feel so hopeless that you'll believe them.

You're not broken.

Your Nervous System is dysregulated and you haven't yet learned the skills of becoming TRIGGERPROOF.

Luckily, like any other skill, you can learn it if you're willing to have a growth mindset about it.

Want to learn more?

Join my Facebook Group (now with more than 4,000 members) to help you understand yourself better, control your emotions, and know what's keeping you stressed during these times:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof

Join my upcoming community events
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

WHO IS RESPONSIBLE FOR MAKING YOU FEEL SAFE?

Many of us create vision boards and set goals but very few put in a "healthy & regulated nervous system" on our list of goals.

It's too bad because what good are achieving all those goals and intentions without a healthy & regulated nervous system?

In order for us to feel fulfilled, present, calm, and connected within relationships, we MUST FIRST learn the language of the nervous system.

When you do, you can self-assess where you're at and take steps to move up the ladder from being triggered to creating safety.

Without taking this responsibility and understanding the language of your body, we are forever looking outside of us for safety and security which breeds co-dependency and anxiety.

If you can be honest, over the last 6 months, what state has your nervous system been in?

Want to learn more?
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

TRIGGER WARNING.

If you're stuck in a Narcissistic/Co-dependent Cycle

and you identify with one (or both) of these "roles"

And you are tired of playing the victim

And you're ready to finally heal

To take Responsibility

To own your part in the dance

To transform your relationship

and to FINALLY GET

the relationship that is your BIRTHRIGHT...

Secure Attachments...

I show you how in my 90 minute training.

Normally $97

just drop an emoji in the comments..

About how you feel right now....

And DM me saying

I NEED THIS TRAINING

And I'll send you the promo code

to give it to you as a gift.

Sending love...

Your guide on the side..

Nima
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

SELF ABANDONMENT 101

Co-dependency, Toxic Relationships, and Trauma bonds...

This is all unconscious patterning.

We've been conditioned from a very young age

to feel that our being-ness only is worthy of love

so long as we fulfill certain criteria and achievement.

While on one hand, this is done with all the right intentions,

and helps drive us to succeed.

On the other hand it creates a feeling of anxiety,

an "unsafe" feeling in the body...

A constant yearning to try to prove our worth...

As deep inside we crave being seen

and understood

and appreciated for exactly who we are.

If we don't sort this out,

relationships become inauthentic

and we end up feeling hollow...

completely reliant on how others perceive us.

WE ABANDON OURSELVES IN SERVICE OF

EXTERNAL VALIDATION AND APPROVAL.

We then become needy and insecure,

and that type of energy keeps us stuck

in business and life.

What's in the way of us reconnecting to ourselves

is our INTOLERANCE to feeling our feelings.

We start to become afraid of fear itself.

When you finally stop distracting,

and start taking responsibility and taking the steps,

You then gain access to the "Crowning Achievement"

of humanity:

Secure healthy attachments in family dynamics, with healthy boundaries....

Romantic Relationships that are based on mutuality, and INTERdependence instead of Co-dependence...

A feeling of safety in the body,

Breaking the cycle of trauma in family systems,

And lowered sense of anxiety as your level of confidence

and resilient flow with the challenges of life emerge.

You then look around and there could be a disaster going on around you-- but you are like a rock throughout the challenge.

But not until you turn self-abandonment around.

This is a clip of a 90 minute training on how to Regulate

your Nervous System to create stable healthy relationships.

Send me a DM saying "I want the training" and I'll give you a promo code

to make it free.

Grab a tissue, this will deeply impact you and will help you make sense of your relationship challenges.
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.